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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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yeah im 16/f
thers a kid who sits next to me in Precal class named brett. and I have a dance coming up where an upperclassmen girl choose one girl from every grade, and the girl has to bring a date. its formal.

anyways ,i kinda like brett in a way..

well like 3 weeks ago, he asked me

"are you going to the dance"

Me: "yea"
Brett:"who invited you?"
Me :"kelsey."
Brett:"oh i used to be friends with her. how do u know her"
and yeah so he kinda sorta sounded interested in away..

then like a week ago.i was looking at the school magazine and
He pointed out :"hey i know that guy."
me:" oh yeah. his sisters nice"
Him: "yeah. i heard shes going to the dance with kent the guy from my football team."
Me: "oh"
Him:' doyou know him"
Me: "yeah./ the tall kid."

Idk. He sounds kinda interested in a way...maybe not. maybe i should ask him.

what do yall think?

To be honest, it sounds like he's just making small talk. But if you like him, ask him before somebody else does.

Binging is when you over eat. Eather from boredom and not realizing it.

Haha, well then I do it all the time.

Ok is it really nessesary to use facials, clensers, pore strips, etc for your face?

I'm just thinking about the ancient times back then when those things weren't even invented yet everyone had great skin and I think, "Hey if they just washed their face with water instead of wasting money on products and get great skin, maybe me too!"

All those facial stuff, doesn't work for my skin. It makes my skin dry and it might stop my oily skin for a minute but when I go outside it's even oiler!

So will it be okay to just wash your face like the days when you were little and didn't need all those stuff, no dermintoligist, and still get great skin?

Or does those stuff just don't work for me because I'm 13 and that's a little too young to use those products?

I'm trying so hard to save my money from those but you'll never know what works and what's a scam.

Like those pore strips thingies: I know they rip out the dirt and stuff but doesn't that mean it wrecks your skin too or stretches it?

If the products don't work for you, don't use them. But sometimes it is necessary to use them because some people just have skin that needs help & it'll only get worse if they don't use cleansers to help it.

Bascially, they're necessary, just not for you.

I have several best friends in my life, all of which are beautiful, caring, nice girls. But lately, they've been driving me INSANE. You see, they all have boyfriends, but their boyfriends are complete jerks to them! They convince them to lie to their parents, they take advantage of them when their drunk, they ditch them for their guy friends, they treat them like a piece of dirt, etc. And each one of my friends hates it when their boyfriends do those things, but they still think their boyfriend is the greatest thing in the world. I wish I could make them realize that they deserve sooo much better. I'm tired of them settling for an asshole of a boyfriend just because they NEED a guy to feel good about themselves. It's just not right and I just can't believe they would act so stupidly. How do I deal?

Talk to them about it, or let them learn this lesson on their own. I know you care about your friends & don't wanna see them hurt, but sometimes you gotta let them learn for themselves.

like i dont have a good relation ship with any guy right now because i just moved. well ever since i moved i wanted to have sex with my ex. i dont even like him that much any more. but everytime i see him that "feeling" comes back. I am very christain i just dont no why i am havin these thoughts?
any help?

It's normal. Everyone gets urges. You're only human, so don't worry.

post them here por favor.

Like eating a ton & then throwing up? Or just not eating at all, and then eating a ton?

I'm not sure what you mean, but if you wanna stop, then you need to see a doctor. Eating disorders are not good.

My friend started dating around 2 to 3 months now and it has irriated many people such as she starts acting weird not much like herself she tries to impress him more but hes seems not to care, she starts to stop eating so he won't think shes fat, she would rather hang out with him then with us. Friday a whole fight broke out because of something that happened while my friend went out of town, her boyfriend asked out 3 girls and told them he would break up with his gf just for them. We confronted him and her, he said he wouldn't do such a thing in his life and she believed him. He seems to be interested in other girls he comes up to me plays with my hair and comes up and tickles and hugs girls ALOT even when his gf is around he will hug all the girls but her. My friend stayed in while after school a few of us had a break i saw my friends bf kiss another girl on the head. I told my friend and she refuses to believe things. Then on friday i run up to him and call him a manwhore because he can't keep himself with one girl because he cheated numourous times with her. She dumped him that evening and confronted him and used the foulest language. They made up later the next day saying they were only friends to people but secretly they got back together and now they don't care if the world knows it. How can i get her to stop dating him and have him stop breaking girls hearts and ruining their lives? PS this girl is younger then I and thinks that shes cooler then me because i don't have a boyfriend right now. and he really doesn't love her he told me that.

You tried to help her & warn her and she didn't listen. So when she gets hurt, you can basically rub it in her face & tell her you told her so. You can't make her believe you, but she'll figure it out someday when she's older. Or maybe when she just sees what you're talking about happen. Younger girls always think they're cool for some reason. But don't worry. She'll learn her lesson someday.

A few years ago, I met this girl in one of my classes. I talked to her for maybe five minutes a day. Now, she still talks to me all the time and it's getting annoying. Before you call me a jerk, let me finish. Normally, I'm all for having new friends and people to talk to in school, but she is so incredibly annoying, not to mention rude, that it's driving me insane. It's hard to ignore her because she literally tracks me down in the hallway and she found where I sit at lunch. I try to humor her and I'll have a conversation with her, but it pisses me off when I'll be talking to another one of my friends and she'll appear out of nowhere and demand to know what we're talking about. I don't like having her around because all she does is talk and talk about things she's already told me before. It'd be different if I could get a word in edgewise or if she would at least listen to what I had to say every now and then. So my question is, how can I deal with her? I don't want to completely blow her off, because she doesn't have a lot of friends. Is there a nice way I can point out how rude she is without hurting her feelings tooo much? I'd have no problem with her being around if she wasn't so talkative and rude.

Just talk to her about it. Be up front & honest with her. You might her feelings, but she deserves to know that she's annoying & rude.

14/f

ive had my best friend since kindergarden and we've been off and on since then. when were off we just dont talk and arnt friends at all, when were on we are the best together. ive had my other best friend since 5th grade and were inseperable. me and S (5th grade bf) are still together and always will be probably. but with K (other bf since kindergarder) she has other friends from tennis and she seems to love them more than us and she always just leaves us for them and never can hang out. shes done this alot of times over the summer over atleast 5 times. me and s and her were like a trio but now were not. i love k so much and i cry because i miss how she was.. but not she is hanging out with the fake girls in our school acting like one. i dont know if i shouldnt try and get the friendship back togther or what. i mean i dont think i did anything wrong she always leaves us. please help so i cant stop being a baby and crying about sometheing that i probably shouldnt feel horrible about.

You're right. You shouldn't feel horrible about it, but you're letting it get to you for no reason. She's hanging out with the fakes girls, and so what? Everyone changes. Friends change, boyfriends change. People change! Her not hanging out with you guys is her loss, and she'll learn her lesson once they backstab her.

19/F

okay i know that if you have a cold sore and you suck a guy off you can give him herpes. but if you have a sore throut[sp] can you still give him that??

The only way to spread a sore throat is to makeout with someone.

ok im 16/m

and im addicted to myself i love to masterbate
but im at a point in my life that i want someone to help or watch me but i dont know what to do
and i also got pics of me

but what should i do to get people to watch me/help me?

Get a girlfriend.

Another Love Question!
theres this boy and hes amazingly sweet. for a week straight we were texting back and forth and he was saying the nicest things and i was saying stuff back but it wasnt just talk i really ment it. and then he asked me out but my mom said no, and there are some other people who like him so i told him i wouldent be hurt if he dated somone else but he said he dosent want to date anyone else but me! and i told him that i love him and he says he loves me and it was all so perfect. but then some friends were going through my texts and he found out but it didnt bother him i dont think but then they went through them again (now i delete my texts) and i dont know if it bothered him. but i never talk to him in person because its hard for me. and now i saw him in the halls but i didnt really notice so i didnt say hi aand then now he wont answer my texts.
2 questions:
1. how can i make talking to him easier? once im around him im fine but i need help starting it off
2. why do you think hes acting like this?
3. did i scare him off or somthing?
4. he probably likes somone else right? i wouldent mind that but i would like to know
5. what do i text him? like after hey and all that its kind of dead

wow thank you so so much!!!!!!
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Talking to guys can be hard, so I understand exactly what you're going through, basically because I've been there/done that.

[1] Anyways, just try to be more comfortable around him. The more comfortable you are, the easier it'll be. And as hard as it may seem for you to open your mouth & say something. It's actually pretty easy. =) Just say hi.

[2] He might wonder why you let your friends read your texts. Or he might not know if you let them read them or not. Or, maybe he's just embarassed because he didn't want other people to know until he was ready to have them know. He could be the shy type.

[3]I doubt it. He's probably just shy.

[4]Probably not. The only way to actually know if he likes someone else is to ask him. And he even said he didn't wanna be with anyone else but you. That should give you some insight onto how he feels.

[5] After "hey", just ask him what's up & how his day is going. =) Pretty simple.

my bestest friend is probably making out with her bf right now and im a bit jelous because the one boy i really like likes me back but we vcant be together and im kind of like uch right now because her life is going so smoothly and mine is to but its not as intresting but usually she feels this about me and im so happy that shes finally happy how do i get over this jelousy.? because ive seen jelousy tear up friendships but i dont want that to happen beteen me and my friend we are bestest friends till the end
i know im so lucky to even have a best friend but im just kind of like jelous that somones life is "better" then mine i know it sounds retarrded but its tru

Why exactly can't you guys be together? If it's because of parents, then I see why. But don't do what I did. I dated anyways, haha. But you shouldn't be jealous of her. Her life is good, and your life is too. I know it seems like guys make everything seem better, but they actually cause problems.

this summer im going 2 sleepaway camp and my ex-bf is gnna b there w/ all his friends from out of town and i know they are going to ask me abut going out with him like im talking to this guy on the phone and hesone of my ex's friends and hes like "so i heard ya went out w/ ____" and i was like "uch dont remind me" because it was all pretty much lies but if i was in his spot i wouldent want him to say that about me! and these are his friends like he is trying to impress them and everything and so ow do i respond? how do i say it was nice while it was hapening without sounding like i want him back because i dont!

Just say that it was nice while it lasted, but you wouldn't do it again.

my best friend has a bf and they are madly in love which i dont mind but if im on the phone with her and he calls on the other line shell say she needs to go and talk to him and this bothers me and ive talked to her about this but she says she just really likes him and wants to talk to him so should i just hang out with my other friends some more because they dont ditch me because i cant put everything into this relationship if i know she only talks to me when hes not there

If she ditches you a lot for him, then start hanging out with your other friends.

Dear Sir:
I'm writing 2 u regarding the crises I see that the masterbution is a dirty activity that I've erver faced yet in my life as I'm 19 years old boy here residing in Pakistan that the problem is I can't avoid masterbution, if u can provide some advice regarding masterbution & how do I can avoid this heck activity that would make me thankfull of u.

Urs sincerely

Ahmad hAqIqAtJoE

As much as you think it's digusting; it's actually really good for you. It relieves stress & tension, and it's healthy. There is nothing wrong with it. All guys do it, and all girls do it. But, if you'd really like to stop, just occupy your time with something else.

ok im dating this girl and we are doing good
but i meet this other girl that im inlove with and i feel like losing my love for my gf
what should i do?

If you like this other girl, then be with her.

I'm 14 and I'm not old enough to go get a regular job so is there anything else I can do for money like
I know babysitting is one but if there anything else I can do?

thanks ;]

Be a dog walker, do extra chores around the house. Be a tutor, or shovel driveways [if it's snowy where you live] if not, cut grass or plant flowers. =)

Okay, I'm a 14 year old female.
I've been masturbating since the summer.
See, on here, I've asked many questions and I always recieve the same answer, "Nothing is wrong with you, it's healthy." And sure, you say my friends are doing it but want to keep it personal, okay. Well I DON'T want to masturbate. The thing is, I don't know how to stop without getting urges or having the temptation to do it again, because I've tried fighting that and it's not helping. Please, help me. I don't want to be the monster I am anymore.

It's completely healthy & normal to masturbate. You're right, there is nothing wrong with you. I just don't see why you would wanna stop. When it comes to sex when you're older, you'll know what you like & you can guide the guy & it relieves tension & stress. As long as it doesn't disrupt daily life like doing homework, showering or eating, you're okay.

But, just occupy your time with something else, like reading.

15/f

There's this guy that I've liked for 1-2 years or so, not continuosly though. However, there are his friends, who tell me he will never like me, that he prefers [whatever] kind of girl. I'm not really willing to change myself for him, because that's being a fake, and I'm pretty sure not a lot of guys like those kind of girls. At times the guy also hints at me that he likes me. Although there are much more possibilities that make them not-hints.

So there's 2 of his friends, one will be A another friend will be B and my crush will be C. A tells me to go tell C I like him, I'm not entirely sure why he wants me to do so, either that I do have a chance with C or he's doing it for laughs. He also has weird ideas of setting me up with C, that I'm not very fond of, though I'm sure those are mostly for laughs. Then there's B, who's like somewhat closer to C, I guess, who tells me that it would be awkward if I did tell C I like him or C will reject me (I can really see that happening).

I'm really terrified of rejection.

Help please? :<

Just tell him. The worst he can say is that he doesn't like you back. Rejection isn't as bad as you think. It lets you know who you have a chance with.

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