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"We make war so that we may live in peace." -aristotle"If you judge someone right away, you will not be able to learn to love them."
I'm Hayley, I'll try to help you as best I can. I'm 18, and a senior in high school. I like art, music, and clothing. I'm a vegetarian abd have been consistent with it for four years. I have two dogs a westie named misty and a Maltese/poodle mix named mally. I know a lot about dogs because any time
my dogs get a scratch, I research and call the vet haha.
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I am 14 years old, and I have never made out before. I always just wanted to wait until the moment is right. You`re probably thinking I`m really ugly or something, but I`m actually really pretty (not to sound conceited). Anyway, whenever a guy would lean in to make out with me before, I would always push him away or turn my head. Well, now I have a boyfriend and I really want to make out with him. So my question is, how? Does anyone have any tips to give me on how to make out?
Thank you VERY much!
Theres not many tips, for making out, it just happens, when you least expect it.
I guess ome tips are just, dont be afraid. Just go w/ it. Putting your hands in his hair, is pretty hot. When it happens, you'll know what to do.
ok well my boyfriend jsut got a cell phone for christmas. He called me the first 2 days he had it and we talked forever but now he doesnt call,text, or even im me. I see him online and i say hi but he never replys or anything.
i tried talking to him but of course he said ok ill start calling you more but he hasnt called me at all.
Can someone please tell me what to do or what to say to him.
thanks x3
Usually, that means hes lost interest in you=[ do it back to him. see what happwens, good luck=]
I don't know what category this would go in, so forgive me if it's in the wrong category.
Let's call my friend Jane.
And let's call her boyfriend John.
Okay, well, Jane and John, who were in 11th grade at the time, decided to have sex one day and Jane ended up pregnant. It just so happens, I liked John a lot, but I knew that Jane loved him with all her heart. Now Jane is talking about how hard it is being a mother of a 5-month-old and stuff. It's sort of making me jealous.
I'm just afraid that I'm going to go have sex with some guy I don't even like to have a baby and see what it's like.
So, my question is, Is there any way I can see how hard it is being a teen mother without actually having to go through the pregnancy? Like, not like one of those psycho baby doll things people do in middle school, but like, staying with someone who has a newborn baby or something to convince me I don't want a baby? Or should I just have a baby and get it over with?
Thanks in advance!
Ask to babysit your friends baby =] she'll have a day off, & you get 2 experience it
So there is this guy named Randell and he is REALLY into me. HE calls me atleast 5 times a day just to let me know I'm the only one he's thinking about. He leaves really sweet messages on my phone about how he likes me. But the thing is I don't like him like that AT ALL. And I feel really bad because I even lied and told him I had a bf (I know i was wrong) So I don't know what to do or what to tell him. Tommorrow night I'm going to a very big party and he's going to be there. So I will have a chance to talk to him in person about "the situation."
If you don't wanna hurt his feelings, sayy..'Are friendship means too much to me, if we ever dated, it'd ruin it." if he trys to sa it won't..say, yu've seen it happen& just insist it would.
all my life I have been judged by so many people. Im a nice person. I dont like being mean to people unless their mean to ME... I alway thought I looked pretty when I looked in a mirror, but sadly, nobody agrees with me. Everyone thinks im ugly! This ass named CJ is spending the night at our house and its only because he's on vacation from California and we have known him since kindergarden.... I was a stupid retarded little girl in Elementry school... I didnt know any better. I was always chasing guys for fun.... and now that we are in High School, I thought I had changed so much from then, but CJ said I havnt changed at all, and just now, I was upstairs watching tv, and Colton started a fight with me about how a chopper was a motercycle and not a helecopter (it can be both) but they his little friend joined in the fight and THEN the little bitch told me to shut up because I was annoying! it all started when the little booger wanted to play my brother's PS2, and I was watching tv, and these little twerps wouldnt stop making fun of me, and THEN my brother's little friend told said "Brittany told me your a dork" (he said it to me before, but when I asked Brittany, she said it wasnt true because she dosnt tell her brother ANYTHING) and im starting to think that everything everyone is saying is true.... I dont know why everyone is so mean..... I have dreams, but there crushed under the feet of my stupid brother, and CJ, and my sister Hollan, and EVERYONE! Hollan wont stop taking my stuff that little brat! Im a triplet, and my sisters have always been telling me "Thats why WE have boyfriends" and I havent gone out much, but my first bf was a fony... He asked his friend to ask my SISTER, Cher out..... but he accidently asked ME out instead, and I said YES! WHat was I thinking???? Well im really in a bad mood right now because today was also the day my dad made me do the dishes and he's not even getting the two little boys into trouble! its just me! Just because Im the older kid, dosnt mean that he shouldnt care about ME.
My family is soooooooo horibble... Me and my brother and sisters fight all the time, sometimes my mom even crys about it. But my sisters are bad people... They sneak out and stuff like that, and it makes me mad because they think their nold enough to have sex and all that (but I dont know if they have done it yet) but their the kind of people that think they get every boy they want... and the truth is.... they do... they get all the boys, and Im stuck inside.... Just today, I came outside and Hollan's all like "Go the fuck away! No one wants you here" and I just came out there to hang out with her friend Ali....
Everyone treats me like SHIT! I even bought my sister HOllan a $40 jacket at American Eagle Outfitters.... AND SHE'S STILL AN ASS!!!!!
(im not trying to brag) but Im a nice person! I dont like to be mean! I dont like to make people cry! But no matter how nice I am to people, they are always mean to me! THey call me names like dork, nerd, geek, and my sister even calles me a prude! It really makes me mad...
I remember I got in a huge fist fight with my sister Hollan on the front Lawn, and Monae and Ali and ANika were all watching and they didnt bother to do anything! I have been picked on my whole life and im too nice to do anything about it! I mean I usually dont fight back because I know I'll lose.... I always lose.....
I dont know what to think of myself now.....
You need a huge dosing of confidence. I call my brothers annoying & stuff all the time. Ask your sisters why their so mean to you & what you ever did. or you could show hem yur not prude, don't do aything bad, just live a little. Any lttle flaw you have fix it. Show them your just as good as them...or better.
hey, well im 13/f and im only 4`11. i weigh about 97-98. my whole entire family is short and about half of my family is very skinny. the doctor said that im only going to be about 5`3 at the most. im only about a low A cup and my butt is barely even there. i heard that the more body fat you have the bigger your boobs and butt will get. is that true? im starting to get chubby and since im so short im worrying that i might become obsese. im getting a lot of extra fat in my stomach area and my thighs. im also starting to get love handles. i dont want to try to get thinner because i dont want to loose the chance of getting bigger boobs and a bigger butt. the women in my family are very big busted. usually a c-d cup. what should i do?
I'm the opposite of you, basically[110, 5'3 & a 38C] id rather be you then me, honestly. i wear tshirts one size too big. Anyways, if your mom or relatives are that size you will be eventually too. don't worry.=]
Holy crap. I went to the doctor's yesterday, and they said I weigh 155 pounds! And I'm only 13 and like 5'4. I checked the BMI thingie and I thought before that I was like 130, but like.. woah. I'm like 1 point over normal so now im overweight! ahh! how can I get back in shape? I already do basketball on thursdays and saturdays. and aside from things in school thats pretty much it. how can i get back in shape?????????? i really do not want to get fat.. if im not already not! or real heavy (though i probably am.) im not into doing those things that stupid kids do like be anorexic or bulemic, so thats out of question. but like.. its winter. i cant exactly do all the things i can do in the summer. plus, i have like no backyard (forrest) and alot of homework on weekdays. i think its because i may eat too much. because sometimes i may eat because im bored. but its not like i'll eat chips, because my mom cooks alot of african foods that are good. we dont really go out much but sometimes i guess i eat too much of a good thing. which is why i also bite my nails. should i get gum? but whenever i get it i always finish it in like 1 day. because i kinda feel that i have to be chewing something sometimes.. and i dont want to eat food just because.. when im not really that hungry, or bite off my nails. i dont even notice when i bite them.. but then later i see my nails arent that great and i have bitten them.. but its randomly. any help here? i reaaaally dont wanna get obese in the future!!!! and im a girl.
p.s. thankyou thankyou for helping!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Ha I know how you feel. I weighed 130, & was 5'2. So, what I did, was drink 12 glasses of water. & no snacks. I weigh 110 now. If you get hungry inbetween meals, eat icecubes, if you want flavor add some lemon.=] Does afrian food have alot of calories? im not african american so i cant help you there.
get sugar free gum.
When i open my iTunes it asks me if i want to upgrade to iTunes 7.0...should i do that? And if i do then will i loose all my music from it?
yes or it won't download music
& no you will not.
Okay, so my boyfriend bought me a pink iPod nano for christmas [4gb] I have a few questions. You can answer one or all, whatever. But if you have an answer, please let me know. Cause the instructions that come with it SUCKS!!
1- I plugged my iPod in, before I installed iTunes. It says "Do Not Disconnect" What will happen if I do??
2- How do I make it on my iTunes account where I don't have to put in my credit card number. Also, if I get ready to put it in, Can I add it?
Thanks. Any help would be greatly appreciated. :]
OMG THE INSTRUCTIONS DO SUCK. i got pink too, yay us =]
1. I did that too, nothing happened for me as far as i know.
2. I drag my music into iTunes. But I think it will.
Ok so my friend(15/f died, along with her dad and brother in a car crash. Her mom and older sister are the only ones who survived.
Alot of people on myspace and msn, ect... are writing a bunch of messages about her and to her family type thing. I was wondering if I should post a bullentin saying that everyone should write a message to them about her or w/e and then we should have someone give them to the mother. Is this a good idea or would it just hurt the family more? I just want to show support and what not so yea...what's the best thing to do?
My reallyyy good friend passed away last year. So, I know how you feel. We got those livestrong bands, & put Look on the brightside. [his famous saying] & then we sold them at school. you could give however much money you wanted. It meant alot to the family, that so many people were there for them.
hope that helped
Ok well my friend just got a new chocolate phone (green), and today at lunch she said- do you want to see my new phone, I said- I don't care about your fucking phone, she got mad at me. and I knew she just wanted to show it to me to rub it in my face. She knew I wanted one. She's that kind of a person. ok so now she's pissed off at me because of that, stupid I know. Ok do I appologize or what I would like to do is punch her in the face. (I will to) what should I do.
Okay, even if she was bragging, their is no reason in the world, to come off mean like that. You hurt her feelings. & if you got that chocolate phone, you'd deff. show her, & even maybe she wasn't trying to brag, just to show you what it looked like. & then you say that to her, its not nice. So, I'd deff. apologize to her.
Alright so, I had been going out with my boyfriend for over 2 months. I've been kind of jealous of his ex, because they were like best friends and he told her everything,they would be up late talking, i just know it. and I felt like he still loved her, and believed him when he said he didn't. I never really liked her, she has been cruel to me, and rude, and an abusive friend.
But still, he told her everything...and she still loved him even after breaking up with him.
So I tell him. that I feel like he doesn't talk to me, and my best friend was kind of interfering and talking to him about it too, so then he broke up with me. then I told my other friend, and she called him and told him what a mistake he made, so he apologized to me and asked me to take him back. I rly like him, so I did.
Then I asked him if he rly meant it when he was sorry, because I talked to his ex, the girl I rly don't like and she showed me that he had told her that he was depressed that me and him were together, not apart, and that he only loved me so my friends would stop yelling at him. He of course then assured me he loved me, and that he was sorry, and he rly sounded like he meant it. So I believed him, but my friends, both girls and boys, were telling me to dump him rly fast because they thought everything he said was bullshit. and then of course and hour after he told me he rly loved me he told me he lied. so my friends were right and then goes out with his ex again. while she and him are going out, his best friend, who is a good friend of mine too, tells me he still wants to go out. then his ex breaks up with him again and tells him and me that she is gay, but I don't rly believe that, and then suddenly his best friend is again telling me that he wants to know what he can do to get me back.
eventually he gets around to talking to me, so we're back together again, but my best friends, who had been right about him before, are telling me i made a mistake by taking him back. Nothing has rly changed that much in the way he acts, and I dunno if I trust him. I want to so bad. I love that kid.
Does he RLY love me back? I mean I could ask him, but how would I know I'm getting the truth?
I rly don't think he is a liar, he always seemed like a rly good boy.
He acts like he loves me.
If he is lying now, I don't think it was like that for the whole 2 and 1/2 months. He rly seemed so in love with me.
What happened?
What should I say to him?
Should I stay with him?
This is a TOUGH question to answer. Because, I don't know this boy personally, or anything. But on how you desrbied him, I don't think he has his feelings sorted out. I don't really think hes sure who he likes. How long have you been going out with him now again? If its been like a month, & that chick or anybody else hasn't come up, he probably likes you & only you. But, I think your friends know more about this then I do, obviouslyyy, & if they still think you should ditch him, I'd probably listen to them, other people can usually see things clearer then you can. Even though, you don't want to see it how they see it. What I did, when I had a similar problem to this, I put myself in my friends shoes, & looked at it from their view, I wrote down all the things that I agreed with them on, but then all things I myself agreed on. Which ever had more reasons, I chose that one, it ended up being for me to break up with him, hardest thing I ever did. But, it felt better once it was over.
Ask your friends about it, ask them if they think hes changed, & stuff. If they say, hes better now, then its all good, if they say, they still don't trust him, well then.. you have some decisions to make.
I hope everything works out for the best. (: kbye.
I stumbled across this site by accident. I seriously doubt many of you have the qualifications to give real people proper advice. After reading some of your responses to people's inquiries i was quite astonished as to how teenagers find they are able to give quality advice and information to real people in need with such little life experience. If you ask me you are not in a place to give your "personal opinion" when people truly believe you are giving them the right answer simply because you claim "people think i give really good advice". (eg. i am still at a loss as to how a 17 year old girl thinks she can give advice to someone regarding conceiving a child) I know you try to come across as a "godsend" to poeple who are in some sort of personal crisis and need a fast easy answer but the truth is, in the cases where it really counts, there rarely is one; at least not from you.
In some ways, yep I agree with you. But, the person receiving the advice, should only know its only advice. I think, that its good though for people that need help.. with like suicide or something, its good that they get random peoples advice on their view of it. Everyone on here, mostly, I'm sure tries to do their best with giving their advice.
my mom is always late taking me to work and other places. today i asked her well in advance for a ride to ihop for breakfast to meet some people at 10. we got there at 10:30.
i was 15 minutes late to work today. and she picked me up 10 minutes late.
she doesnt work today, either.
in the car, she told me to stop ignoring her and being rude, but she doesnt understand that SHE'S the one being rude. she didnt apologize once for the 3 times she was late today. she just said she had other stuff to do and that i could take a bus.
what do i do?
Instead of telling your mom that you have to be somewhere at ten, say, like 9:40 or whatever. Then, you'll either be a little early to places, or right on time!
You can also tell her, nicelyy, that you rely on her, & really need her to be on time with things.
I hope I helped.
I'm a 14/f and I dont have a best friend. I mean I have friends.... but they're not that close. Like a lot of people I know, are going to the mall with their best friends, and since i dont have a best friend, i'd only have a chance to go to the mall with my mom... ughh and I soo totally dont want to do that.
Well, my point is that in school, we have about 20 minutes before school to do anything we want. And well I am hanging out with my "friends" and they don't really include me... so if they're having a conversation, and I ask a question, they wont answer me and just ignore me. I always feel so alone. I know you might say "just have you're family be your best friends" but I REALLY dont want to have my family be my best friends. I want someone that's my age, and who I can have sleepovers with, and go to the mall with, and just hang out with... but none of my friends don't like me that much. It's like this world doesn't even know I exist.
So my question is How can I stand out to people and try to make friends? Is there any tricks to making a best friend? What should I do about these so called "friends"? Keep talking to them? Ignore them?
I mean, if I start talking to them, they'll just change their mood into like an annoying mood. Suuuure they'll talk to me, but its about something really stupid like "what was the homework assignment for monday?"
Sometimes, if one of my friends, doesn't have anyone to talk to at the time, they'll come to me and start talking to me, but it's not the talking you think it is... its probably more like bragging. Like one of them likes to dance, and if she doesn't have anybody to talk to, she'll come up to me and say "oh my gosh, I can't remember my tap dance sequence... Oh yeah it goes ____" and then she'll like dance infront of me, and like show off.
I don't know what's wrong with me, it's like i'm a back-up friend to everybody... I feel so alone and my subject said "what happens to a lonely person in life?" well... what happens? Will I turn out to be some person who doesn't have a purpose in life?
How can I fix this? I'm SOOOO CONFUSED!!!!!!!!
HELP ME!
Lol, okkk. Don't worry about being a lonely person, or anything in your life. Chillll. This kinda similar thing happened to me, kinda. Only I like, pushed them away, & like.. I would actually like show off & stuff like that, & they got annoyed, because their alot more down to earth then I am. haha, but thats ok. So, anyways, thats when I decided these people, were obviously not really like me, they were cool & all, but they were interested in different things, & didn't wanna do the things I do. I then, started talking to this one group of girls, who were like my long lost twin sisters, they were crazy, but they new when to be & not when to be, & they were in to like abercrombie, chanel & stuff like that, like how i am.
I started talking them, by just making small chat, even such as.."whats the homework?" or "did you see that movie..." or "have you seen the cute new winter clothes at abercrombie?" and etc. Thats how it started. I then started calling them, alot. dropping little comments to them, about their outfits, or hair or something. [commliments, can really make someones day, & end up making them like you, type thing.] so, before i knew it, we were all having sleepovers, hanging out at the mall, & so on.
You can't expect people to come to you, go to them. (: & you'll have friends in no time. you just gotta look for them.. & ditch the old ones, find people that have similar intersts as you!
I hope I helped, kcyaaa.
My parents are so weird. Every Christmas, they say "we don't have a lot of money to give out to you, we can't even pay our bills." But then they go and spend hundreds of dollars on presents for us and themselves or each other. It's weird. They don't have money to hand out to me and my brother, but money to spend for other unncessary things?
Also, 2 things I asked for this year was a digital camera [$119, because I checked the site for the store they could buy it at], and a PSP which was $200 at the same store. Now, according to my mother, she didn't buy me the PSP because it was $50 more than what the site had listed, and it was "expensive." I have a big gift under the tree. It's HUGE. It looks like a computer or tv is inside of the box. My mom said it's not a tv..but she didn't say it wasn't a computer. I don't get it. My 2 things only cost $169 together. A computer is like $500. So, if they can get me a computer, and 2 other things, why can't they get me the PSP or the digital camera? I told my mom the PSP was no big deal, but the camera was, and she's yet to buy that becaue I can tell by the shape of the other gift, it's not a camera. I told her I wanted the camera more than anything else I asked for, and I hope she gets it. But why would she spend a lot of money on that huge gift, and then complain that my other two presents [that I probably am NOT getting] were expensive? I don't get it.
Is it just me, or are my parents really, really odd?
I personallyy, can't relate to the whole.. "we don't have alot of money thing" because, i do have money. but, my one really good friend, whos a boy.. isn't rich or anything, AT ALL! like they lost their electricity for awhile. but then yet.. in their SHED they have a big tv, an xbox, these like new couches, a bunch of games, never even opened and stuff, but then yet, they can hardly pay electricity, basically, they dont know how to manage their money. maybe thats how your parents are too. just because its in a really big box, doesnt mean its really all that expensive either. usually, smaller gifts seem to be more expensive when you think about it, because like.. ipods, digital cameras, PSP, junk like that, is all tiny. Your parents could also be like my parents in a way though to, like you know how they dont want to get you a PSP, well my mom & dad wont get me an ipod, because they think their stupid & that ill never use it. your parents could think that about the PSP.
I hope I helped, kbye. :)
hey well i have my boyfriend(thomas) and we go to the same school and all but we like never talk. i feel like were just friends i havent kissed him or anything we've only hold hands once and we have been going out for a month and 8 days and i just dont know wat to do should i give it more time and maybe things will change or should i just break up wiht him and the worst thing is that we are going to christmas break today and i wont c him till three weeks so i dont know wat to do some one help me pls...
lol, thats cute, a month & 8 days. haa anyways, my friend went throguh a problem like this. my guess is, that your boyfriend, is probably just like my friends ex boyfriend. hes just probably REALLY shy. which can be really annoying. dont wait for him to talk to you, just go up & talk to him. see if he talks back, & like just go up to him about like school or something. just as a ice breaker, then when christmas break comes, on the last day of school, be like,, ill talk to later [like on aim] or if you dont have aim, call him. with one of your friends. like have one of your friends do it, if ur shy or something. & then say we should hang out. & bamm. things will get better before you know it. (:
I read your answer to a question about a kid asking for advice about comitting suicide.
Your reply:
"Thats stupid, i hate these questions. Stop obbessing over yourself. Your life is not horrible, the only person thats making it horrible, is you. Just don't talk to the people who are mean to you. Make friends with nice people. Theres alot of them, in this world. Talk to your mom or dad about it. They'll help."
You know I really hope you're proud of yourself for being a complete bitch. How would you feel if someone basically said to shut up and get over yourself, over something you felt strongly about? Think twice about what you answer to. If you don't like the question don't freaking answer it. It's that simple. You know nothing about the person, so don't tell them that they're life isn't horrible. The world doesn't revolve around you or your thoughts, and God knows you don't know everything about anything. You're just proving the kids point that people suck. Good job.
nope, because i'm right. theres nothing wrong with the world, & not all people suck. Theres alot of nice people, & its people like that person, that just doesn't even want to realize it. their too busy thinking about how they feel, and whos judging them, & all that. people like that, need to stop worrying about that stuff, & just be happy in who they are. your opinion is obviously different then mine, because you must lack alot of confidence & have a huge negative view on the world. so, stop telling me what to do, & go worry about your patheic life.
Okay so the guyy I like wants to mess around okay...and he like is going to be back online uber soon and he's gonna talk to me...like expected if you know what I mean...WHAT DO I SAY TO HIM?
I don't know how old you are, but if you don't feel comfortable with what hes saying, & you guys are only like 14, or lower or something.. don't do it. Guys at that age, are only expermenting. They'll try to tell you that they love you, or that "your such good friends, that you should try it" i've been through this with guys a million times. don't do it. inless, you really want to. but, in my opinion its a bad idea. Ask him, why? & then say .."its not like you really like me or something?" & go from there. if he says he really likes you, then, say.. then why haven't you asked me out? & then if he says something like, bc i was scared, or something retarded like that.. then slowly get away from him. because he obviously wasnt afriad to mess around with you.
I hope that helped. kbye
okay well, honestly, im seriously thinking aobut killing myself. my life is horrible. i swear half of the world hates me. i have the absolute worst life that anyone could ever live. i dont want to kill myself but its the only way everyone will stop being rude and making fun of me and everyone will be happy if i am dead. i know that i need to talk to someone about it but i just cant. please help me.
Thats stupid, i hate these questions. Stop obbessing over yourself. Your life is not horrible, the only person thats making it horrible, is you. Just don't talk to the people who are mean to you. Make friends with nice people. Theres alot of them, in this world. Talk to your mom or dad about it. They'll help.