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Friends with babies
I don't know what category this would go in, so forgive me if it's in the wrong category.
Let's call my friend Jane.
And let's call her boyfriend John.
Okay, well, Jane and John, who were in 11th grade at the time, decided to have sex one day and Jane ended up pregnant. It just so happens, I liked John a lot, but I knew that Jane loved him with all her heart. Now Jane is talking about how hard it is being a mother of a 5-month-old and stuff. It's sort of making me jealous.
I'm just afraid that I'm going to go have sex with some guy I don't even like to have a baby and see what it's like.
So, my question is, Is there any way I can see how hard it is being a teen mother without actually having to go through the pregnancy? Like, not like one of those psycho baby doll things people do in middle school, but like, staying with someone who has a newborn baby or something to convince me I don't want a baby? Or should I just have a baby and get it over with?
Thanks in advance!
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Firstly, whatever you do, do not have a baby. Whether you discover it is difficult or not, you cannot give a baby back.
You clearly trust Jane very much so just believe her when she says how hard it is. Her baby relies on her for everything and she has to provide, whether the baby requires bathing when shes exhausted, feeding at 2am or its nappy changing during a meal. She cannot get any time to herself.
Also, she may have had plans which she cannot now pursue because of her child. Do you want the same thing to happen to you?
Why don't you ask Jane if she could show you how to care for her baby and then she could take days away from the baby, while you cared for him/her and you could see what it would be like, but you would not have to have a child. Then you would undertand where she is coming from, but also be able to help her out.
Laura
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Ask to babysit your friends baby =] she'll have a day off, & you get 2 experience it
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it just so happens i have a friend who was 15 when she had her baby. the baby is 4 months old so we are kinda in the same pool right now girl! my friend who is now a mother is my absolute best friend. her baby is in a way my baby too because i help her out alot. you should do thatfor your friend too. hang out with her alot and offer to feed and change the baby maybe even babysit and stuff. i know i got those baby blues too i thought i would look cute pregnant! but i realised that i want to be happily married wheni have my child with the one and only i will love. if you have a baby now you must realize you would be growing up extrmemly fast and losing your childhood. its not to just have sex with some guy your worth a million more than that. if you respect yourself others will highly respect you too.
best wishes darling
<3
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As one who has been there, done that I can tell you it isn't fun at all. I think the adviser before me had a wonderful idea. Why not keep it a whole weekend.
You won't be able to go out with your friends. That's an eye opener. They won't visit you either because who wants to hang out with a kid around. Oh, its all cute and stuff at first but that won't last very long.
Not to mention every penny you earn will go for baby
stuff and not a dime to spend on yourself.
Then there is diapers...enough said.
You have to try to fit in taking a shower when the baby is asleep.
I have no regrets because I am anti social for the most part. If you like going out though you will not enjoy yourself at all.
Believe me when I tell you there is time for motherhood later. Have fun right now and help your friend out now and then so she can too. :)
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ya i agree try baby sitting but one day might not be enough trust me my cuz had a baby i mean there cute and all at first but then like they drive you crazy and you wont have any time for school or anything
soo try to see if you can babysit for more than one day, atleast go through the night with one baby, that'll will drive you crazy since the baby will be up like every hour..
well hope i helped
~kelly nicole
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yeah babysit for jane's baby and you'll know what she's talking about i have a single mother aunt one day i spent the night at her house to help her with the baby and it was really anoying baby woke up like every 2 hours :S and wont stop crying..also the most important thing to me about being a teen mother ..is that you have to drop off school its so dificult and then how will you pay for all the baby stuff? another thing its that most of the teen mothers broke up with the baby's father because they where inmature at the time they had their baby and its sooooooooooo difficult for teen moms to get a partner for life :S not all the guys want to have a girlfriend with a baby :s also everything most be done during the right time teen moms don't get to enjoy most of the good parts of being young =) ..you are your only responsability ,, go to parties , get a career , enjoy with friends, hang out . when your young you have the world for yourself i know it sounds stupid but you can do things that when your 30 with kids you won't do ..enjoy your youth =)
Diane
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Offer to babysit Jane's baby for a day while she goes out for some me time.
24 hours of a baby will be enough, trust me.
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