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ughhh
hey well i have my boyfriend(thomas) and we go to the same school and all but we like never talk. i feel like were just friends i havent kissed him or anything we've only hold hands once and we have been going out for a month and 8 days and i just dont know wat to do should i give it more time and maybe things will change or should i just break up wiht him and the worst thing is that we are going to christmas break today and i wont c him till three weeks so i dont know wat to do some one help me pls...
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Dear ughhh,
Well I think that breaking up with him would be too rash. Try talking to him ad asking him if it would be too fast if you kissed him or wanted to move to the next base (yes it may seem awkword to talk to him about but it needs to be done), because one of my last boyfriends wouldn't kiss me and it was our 3rd month and i found out he was just scared and didn't want to hurt me or anything to ruin it, so talk to him and see wut is going on in that head of his.
-Beanie
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if you think he is worth it, then you should definately wait! some guys just like to take things slow or are just different. my bf, for example, kissed me on our first date and now we've been together for 3 months so in that area we are affectionate, but we hardley ever hold hands. at first i was like "wait? does he not want to be seen with me? and just wants something when we're alone?" but he has his own way of showing affection when we're together. and he's getting better about holding my hand (he usually does when we go somewhere like the mall). so some guys are just more affectionate than others, it doesn't necessarily mean he's not interested. i'd say wait it out, you might find out it was wayyy worth it! =]
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lol, thats cute, a month & 8 days. haa anyways, my friend went throguh a problem like this. my guess is, that your boyfriend, is probably just like my friends ex boyfriend. hes just probably REALLY shy. which can be really annoying. dont wait for him to talk to you, just go up & talk to him. see if he talks back, & like just go up to him about like school or something. just as a ice breaker, then when christmas break comes, on the last day of school, be like,, ill talk to later [like on aim] or if you dont have aim, call him. with one of your friends. like have one of your friends do it, if ur shy or something. & then say we should hang out. & bamm. things will get better before you know it. (:
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Some guys don't want to appear as too aggressive in a relationship, so they overcompensate by not making any move at all unless you initiate it. Thomas may be one of those guys.
However, he's really being extraordinarily distant. To go out with someone for over a month and still not have kissed is pretty unusual. It wouldn't be so bad if your relationship were progressing in other ways, but if he's not talking to you either, then what have you got?
You need to sit down with him and tell him what you want out of a boyfriend, which will probably include conversation, emotional connection, and at least a little physical intimacy. If he's unable or unwilling to provide it, then end it. No need for hard feelings - it's just not working, and that's all there is to it.
It's your choice insofar as whether to have this conversation before or after the holidays. It would probably be better to do it before, but if you suspect that it will be very painful for either or both of you, then perhaps it can wait.
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well talk to him about it and see wat he tells you ,.......because if you dont talk to him things arent gonna work out and stuff so talk to him and tell him the way u feel about him
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