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idk if i should or shouldnt
well im a bit confused about things..well there is this guy at school that likes me right and he asked me you and i had said yes.....well i do like him too but the day after he asked me out i had to tell him that i wasnt really ready for a realtionship becuase of wat had happend to me in the past and know i realize how nice and carring this guy really is and i regret it....what should i do in this case.. should i talk to him or tell him the way i feel about him?
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There's a limit to how much you can play yo-yo with his feelings. You should only talk to him if you're prepared to accept his invitation to go out with you - otherwise, it's best to leave things alone. He probably doesn't want to hear anything like "It's not you, it's me" or "I'm not ready for commitment." He just wants to hear yes or no, and if the answer's no, he's already heard it and to say it again would be rubbing salt in the wound.
If you DO want to change your mind, then you will need to do a little explaining. Tell him that you are feeling confused and a little scarred from your past relationships (how many details you give him about that is up to you). Be up front and candid that he'll need to be a little patient with you and that it may prove difficult for you to show trust right at first. If he's a decent enough guy, he'll give you a chance. It will then be up to you to give HIM a chance, and remember that he doesn't represent what happened to you in the past, but what can happen in the future.
Good luck!
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The past is the past, learn to forgive. if hees a nice guy, hell, go out with him. if your unsure then dont go out with him. no one knows your past but you so the whole dissicion is your and you'll have to ansere it.
hope it helped
nathan
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