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My mom and I have not had a good relationship my whole life. I've always lived with my grandparents exept for sometimes my mom wated me to stay with her and I did but it never lasted long. Now she lives in the basement at my grandparents house but stays at her boyfriends apartment a lot of the time. I thought we have been getting along for the last few months but lately she has been getting really mad really easy. I don't see her hardly ever anymore and when I do see her she thinks of a way to make me seem like I did something wrong and I'm such a bad kid and I'm honestly not, my grandma always tells me how good I am for being a 16 year old girl. We fight everyday that we see eachother and its always about 5 minutes after saysing hi to eachother. Every time we get done fighting I end up crying when she leaves. She is getting her own house soon with her boyfriend but its going to be about 30 minutes away from my school and all my friends. (My 1/2 sister lives 45 mins away and she wants to be closer to her) She said I could stay at my school just tell them I live with my grandparents. I've told her I don't want to drive to school for 30 mins everyday especally with gas prices risin. And I don't want to be that far away from my friends. I've tried talking her into moving closer but she wont so there is no use in bringing that up. I'm trying to convince her to let me live with my grandparents during the school year so I can get to school but she still says no. I can never defend myself against her because she will find a way to turn it around and make me feel even worse. Another thing is that I feel she can never accept me for who I am. Im about 200 lbs and she is constantly trying to get me to lose weight but I'm happy the way I am. I'm looking for advice on how to get our relationship to be good. (link)
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Well, depending if she's been there for most of your life. If she's been there for alot of your life then it can work eventually, if she's willing to. From what you've said she doesn't seem very willing. I mean tell her exactly what you typed. As long as your healthy and 200 lbs tell her that when she's trying to get you to lose weight it's not going to change your mind and you're staying the way you are because your happy. As far as you relationship don't just tell her that you don't want to move away from school and friend explain your attatchment and how hard it would be to switch high schools especially when you have 1 or 2 years left.
Let me know if there is anything else i can do.
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I'm a girl and I always put on makeup. I wear contacts and a little later after i put them in, they start irritating me. I take them out and there's brown specks on it and its hard to get it out of the lenses. I think its make-up.
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Well what i do is I put my contacts in after I put on the makeup, make sure the makeup is dry though because you put them back in. If they're dirty make sure that your hands are clean and then take your contact solution and put you contact on your hand and slowly go over it in your hand and the spots should be removed...just do it gently.. or it may just be time to replace them.
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im 15.f. i have this friend thatt is not close friend but we do trust each other alot...but were not like realli long time known friend we met this year..and became reali good friends.. she has a b.f and and his name is (D) so then this guy named (D) was talkign to me andhe goe simgoing to break up with my g.f tomorrow..and when i found out that (D) is the same guy my friend is dating i was in shock ..i called right away after talking to him and told her everything she stared crying and said shell call me back and i was liek ok...
but now they broke up ad me and him are talking and he keeps asking me to goona date and like what ever and it old him shes my realli good friend and that i cant do tat to her and he goes wil wait an dimlike will wait a long time...and he oes like not long long but enough time..and now i dont no what to do....and please dont say tell her abot it and ask heror something like that because that not the possibilitu i have right now..yea i do liek him and ye ai like my friend to but it wwasnt beacuse of me they broke up ....
so please i dont no what to do......help!!!
i will rate u thanx =) (link)
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It depends on how good of friends you are with her. Like do you guys hang out outside school? talk? tell eachother everything? Try talking to her and tell her what happened....I will tell you right now though that most people this happens to if you go with the guy you will most likely lose your friend...you friend may be different though so try talking to her and see what she says. But if you really think it's worth it with the guy go for it but just remember that you need to be careful that he's not going to just use you and then dump you...
Friends will be there forever...but boyfriends you for out with for a while and then don't talk to them again...
think about that
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Well i like this boy alot i mean alot and like he knows that i like him and he likes me to but only as a freind. But like i have a class with him and stuff and sometimes he be flirting with me and like im a very shy person andi heard that if u like a guy and he flirts with you, you should flirt with him back but if he dont then thats justt throws them off. But i just cant flirt back with him and i try to talk to him and stuff but i cant because its just to hard. And also i found out there is like two other gurls that like him which is gonna be harder for me. What should i do? How can i talk to hima and how can i flirt back? (link)
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Well....you can either move on and just be "friends" so that notingn ruins the friendship... orrr always ask him how his day is going asking him about how he is is showing him that you care about how he's doing. If he knows about the two other girls that like him ask him about them.. be like "Hey i heard these people like you what do you think?" and base what you do off your answer. Or you can flat out tell him listen I really like you maybe we can go out on a date sometime just to see what happens
hope this helps let me know how it turns out.
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Well i met a guy recently who is really sweet and hilarious. I am into like studying astrology because it is very interesting and sometimes accurate but in this case it seems that i would not usually be attracted to his sign --a cancer, when i am a sagittarius. But despite that i feel this connection with him, like when we talk i dont have to pretend to be someone im not. I mean most guys i have met i end up having some make-out session with and i never get to talk to them. But in the little time i have spent with this guy we mostly talked and he kissed me once. So i hear that he wants to ask me out this weekend, but i don't want to rush into this because in the past i have rushed into relationships and they end really fast. But i also don't wanna tell him that i dont want to go out with him right now. Im not sure what to do but maybe some advice would help =D
hahaha (link)
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I mean the whole astrology thing is cool don't get me wrong, but maybe you should go with your gut feeling instead of what the "stars" are saying. If you guys have things in common and get along great I don't see why it would be such a bad thing to hang out with him over the weekend. If anything that you help you finalize your answer is wheather or not you want to go out with him. Maybe your other relationships ended quickly because the guys just aren't right, and that's ok.
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okay, well i'm not pregnant or anything.. i've just been thinking about stuff, that i wonder about.
1. if there was a guy that acted like a girl, and a girl that acted like a guy.. wouldn't they be able to go out with eachother? which would probably consider them as straight?
2. what does a guy mean by leaving it "dripping wet"?
please & thank you. :] (link)
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Well it depends on what you mean by acted, like the girl acting a little bit girly or he thinks he's a girl, and the girl thinks that she's a guy, than they would probably go out, unless the guy that thinks he's a girl thinks that he's a lesbian, then they wouldn't, it's a little confusing but that's the jist.
And the guy means exactly as it says, dripping wet like for a girl or a guy something wet coming out of the vigina or penis from being as we say it "Excited" or as most people know it as horny.
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Hey. Well, I'm thirteen/female. My problem is that when I get to like someone, I fall for them hard. Which I guess wouldn't be a bad thing, but like I can't stop thinking about them. I know like that's a sign of loving someone, but I feel it for everyone. I guess you could say I love flirting, but if there's one bad thing I'm not it's deffinatly a slut. I was wondering if there is anything I could do to fall a little less hard for people. Thanks anyways, even if you can't answer my question, thanks for reading. ♥. (link)
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I'm going to be completely honest, trust me when I say this you really aren't falling too hard, you may not want to hear this.
But in the "moment" and times when you are flirting it may seem like you are falling hard and what not but when you honestly think about it and break it down, you really don't have that much feeling for that person,
so basically what i'm saying is keep crushing and try not to get cuaght up in it that much and take things in at little doses and really think about that if you were to strip everything away would he really be there for you?
-irene
-good luck any more questions just holla~
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What did you decide to do about your boyfriend keep me posted. (link)
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well i decided to tell him everything and he told me he loved me for telling him and then a week later.... this week he broke up with me for that girl.. he called me yelled over the phone we're breaking up then hung up, he didn't explain anything why he did it or anything but he did it on our 3 month anniversery and it really hurt, and then i called him and I told him everything I was thinking and he told me he apreciated that but he didn't care and he said that he would come back to me once he was done with that girl.... i don;t think i'm gonna go out with him, but i'm trying very hard to move on and today is my first day back at school and it's soo hard because we have 3 classes together,..
thnak you
-irene
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lets say if he doesnt pick up the phone...do i leave him a voicemail and tell him to call me back or say everything over the voicemail? (link)
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i wouldn't say it to his voicemail because then he wont take you seriously if he keeps ignoring your calls dial *67 before you dial his number because it doesn't show who you are or your number then he'll pick up not knowing it was you, and if that doesn't work then just say it to his face, so basically give him a choice of, he can either listen to you on the phone or you can yell it at his face, then he'll start picking up your phone calls,
let me know how it goes
-Beanie
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ok i really like this guy and i think he might like me but i'm too shy to talk to him. wat are some things i could say/do to get his attention more?
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One morning just get up earlier than you normally do and spend some more time chosing what you wear and doing your hair and then just give him a nice smile and say hi, and then the next day maybe ask how he's doing and then the next day see what his plans are fr the weekends and then the next da just talk about different movies and stuff that you like and see if he likes them too and then the next day if everything goes well be like would you like to come over friday night? we can order pizza and rent a couple of movies, and see how that goes it may seem difficult but it gets easier as you go, so relax and just have some fun with it and PLEASE let me know how it goes!
if you have anymore questions just e-mail me at
elementskater0615@yahoo.com
bonne chance
-Beanie
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Hi, I fell for my best guy friend. He completely lead me on for about 2 months, then flat out cold stopped talking to me. (For reasons unknown, he won't tell me) I need ways to get over this feeling, I felt like he liked me, but I guess not because we're barely even friends now. Any help on how to get over someone who lead you on? Mind you, he WAS my best friend, and I'd like to at least stay friends with him somehow. Thank you! (link)
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To be honest the only way you're going to get over him is if you talk to him about it, so basically tell him what you asked me, and make it clear to him, it may be very hard but t will show him that you are brave enough to tell him this and then he might wanna be with you or want to be friends again. So good luck and PLEASE message me back with what happened, and please trust me when i say it's most affective when you tell him in person by yourselves and to his face!
aucun problème
-Beanie
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OKay my friend that ive known since 7th grade is getting his license tomorrow (hes 16/m) and well over the past few year ive like matured physically and ive gotten boobs and stuff.... well hes all excited for us to go driving around and stuff but i have a feeling he wants to do stuff with me... Me and him have never done nythign before but i mean we talk about that stuff...I mean im not gunna lie, i want to do stuff with him but hes the kind of guy that will not make the first move no matter what...So my question is when we are sitting in his car, how should i make the first move, what do i say/do?
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Well first of all if you really want to make the first move then make it, like when he gets to dropping you off somewhere or you stop the car to get out to go to his house or your house, before you get out of the car take your left hand put it on his right sholdure and lean in and kiss him softly on the lips and then lean back a little bit and then let him make the next move, that move may be hard but if you really want to do something with him then you need to let him know that it is ok and that he can kiss you back, and kissing him lets him know that.
bonne chance
-Beanie
et ne pas s'inquiéter à son sujet
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Ok so i have this problem,my ex boyfriend says he doesnt want to know nothing about me anymore and that i should go and f*** another man...he tells this to my friend,he says that all i do is chase him around which is not true because i dont even call him...even though i still like him i dont communicate with him.So i dont know wat to do i believe he was super mean to my friend and he deserves for me to call him and tell him off,or should i just ignore him and let him say all those things about me.Please help thanks
WHEN I CALL HIM DO I ACT MAD AND LIKE TELL HIM OFF OR JUST BE CALM AND NORMAL..AND WHAT CAN I TELL HIM IM REALLY CONFUSED
THANKS (link)
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you don't start off yeloling because you don't want to scare him away be like
" i know what you've been saying an i honestly don't apreciate what your doing and i don't apreciate the lies, i have done nothing to you to deserve that and i don't think you should be treating me like that."
and then tell him that you really aren't following him around and what not, an then if he turns into an ass about it, then raise your voice,
if you have anymore questions go ahead and ask them
and no problem mon ami.
-Beanie
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Ok so i have this problem,my ex boyfriend says he doesnt want to know nothing about me anymore and that i should go and f*** another man...he tells this to my friend,he says that all i do is chase him around which is not true because i dont even call him...even though i still like him i dont communicate with him.So i dont know wat to do i believe he was super mean to my friend and he deserves for me to call him and tell him off,or should i just ignore him and let him say all those things about me.Please help thanks (link)
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I think that you should confront him about it or he probably wont stop and then after you confront him about it if he doesn't listen then ignore him and that'll show him that it doen't bother you, then he will eventually stop because he isn't getting any anger out of you.
-beanie
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is it bad if you have sex and you havent even started your period cycle yet? will it mess with your horemones? (link)
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no it will not mess with your horemones, they will be perfectly fine but make sure that you wear a condom because eggs could still get fertilized if he cums inside of you.
-Beanie
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If a guy asks me, out of no where, if I have a boyfriend... what does it mean? (link)
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It means he was asking you if you have a boyfriend, maybe he was just curious or maybe he's interested, it's a 50 50 thing.
-Beanie
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hmm okay so.
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i really like my boyfriend and all we have been dating for about 1 month or whatever but recently at church he brought his friend who is like his neighbor.my boyfriend and his friend go to a diffrent school then me.
but yeah when i met hid friend he was really hot and funny and nice to me.he was kinda flirting with me and i liked it but i still really like my boyfriend.
when we dont see each other for a while sometimes i start to crush on toher guy but all the while i still really like my boyfriend.
uhg so what do i do? (link)
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it's really on accident when girls flirt with other guys i do it all the time but not like huge flirting because i still really love my boyfriend and i would never do anything to hurt him and i know that it's meaningless and i'll never see the guy again then it's fine, so if you know that you're not going to see him again don't worry and as long as you know that your heart is with your boyfriend and not with who you're flirting with then don't worry you're still trustworthy, just try not to talk to random guys and you'll be fine.
-Beanie
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so i pretty much just have some questions; any help would be awesome. is second base supposed to feel good for the girl? if i'm moving my hands around and go "down there" but don't want to do anything more then just touch and kiss, will he get the wrong idea? should i stay away from there altogether until i want to go farthur? is it better to unhook your bra or go over, and if he can't do it should i?
thanks for the help, i now its alot of questions! (link)
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yes second base is supposed to feel good for the girl if it is the girl receiving the plesure if your talking about giving to the guy it kinda feels a little good itreally kinda depends on the girl for me it's just there but it makes me happy because i know that it is turning him on. um it may give him wrong messages so you might want to stay away from there unless you're ready to use your mouth or hand. and it's just easier to unhook your bra and yeah if he can't do it it would be nice if you helped him a little so he doesn't feel embarassed fumbling around with your bra.
good luck
-Beanie
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14/f.
My boyfriend is 16/m.
Ok; my boyfriend and I have talked it over, and we are ready to have sex. I don't want to go into too many details, because that's not what this question is asking. I was wondering what pre-cautions we could take to not get me pregnate.[sp?] Like, if he gets off, should we change the condom? It's both our first time and I am very nervous. He dosen't seem to be, but I was just wondering.
p.s. Birth control isn't an option. (link)
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Well one thing would be just not to have sex, but that's probably not what you want to hear lol, you could have him pull out when he thinks he's going to cum so when he does cum he cums in the condom and not in you.
-Beanie
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what is some stuff i could do w/ my bf without having sex..just like fun stuff
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Dear fun stuff,
Try just giving him a hand job, yes i know it seems like it wouldn't be anything but if you hit this spot around the crease of the head it will just drive him crazy! it'll make him want to make you stop because it feels too good! good luck
-beanie
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