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Q: first things first...
I am 16/f and the guy is 16 and my guy best friend...
Ok, well I really really love this guy, and I told him...and well things got all wierd but then one of my friends said don't talk to him for a while 'the lets take a break death-sentence' anyways so i did and well we havnt talkeds since about the 19th dec. and yea. yesterday he sent me an email that read something like "why aren't you on msn anymore!? thats all i have to say!" and well I answered it. now we havbt talked since that, should i wait for him to email me or should i email/call him?

If you just wait, he may think you are trying to avoid him and stop trying to talk to you. You should definitly give him a call or e-mail him and let him know how you feel. Tell him you still want to be friends but you just felt like things were awkward after you told him you loved him, and that you don't want things to be like that. If you don't talk to him about it, things will never get fixed.

Q: i have been on the pill for almost 2 years now and i always get my period on the 3rd to last pill in the pack but this time i got it on the 5th to last pill in the pack and that has never happened befor so i dont understand why it is happening now? can you tell me why? and is it bad?

It doesn't neccesarily mean something is wrong, and stressing about it will only make it worse. You should consult the doctor that gave you teh pills, and let him/her know that you are experiencing some differences in your period that you haven't had before. Most likely there is nothing wrong and it is just because of things that might be changing in your life. There are a lot of reasons it could have changed, but you won't be able to find out for sure what is wrong without consulting your doctor.

Q: Just a random question, but everyone wishes at 11:11. Why is this? Why was this started? Thanks much!

11:11 is the only time that is the exact same numbers backward and forward... 1 1 1 1 backwards is 1 1 1 1. I used to think it didn't make any sense cuz 2:22 or 4:44, all those numbers do the same, but technically is is 02:22 or 04:44... I am not sure who started it or when it was started ... But that is why. Hope I helped.

Q: I am so stressed out and depressed right now. My grades keep dropping and I try so hard to keep them up but some times it's so hard.

I went to the ER a few weeks ago because of my depression and my parents were so mad! I did counseling, so when I told a counselor about my suicidal thoughts that's when they directed me to the ER.

Now, I am afraid to go back to counseling, because if they send me back to the ER my parents will be pissed, also because of the huge medical bill we got from going to the ER last time. I'd hate to waste my parents' time and money over my mental health.

It's so hard to be happy right now, even when I try to. My friends tend to think nothing about it, and leave me alone. And at some occasions, even ignore me.

I feel so overwhelmed and stress, probably mainly because of school, my job, and christmas.

Please help me out, give me advice how to overcome and/or deal with this. =[

Thanks.

Your parents should not feel burdend by your mental health problems. If something is wrong you need to see someone. If you see a doctor or a psycologists, they may be able to give you medicine to help and if not they should be able to help you in another way... But you need to be honest with your parents... You need to tell them if you think you have depression.. and it may be more than that... At one point my family thought I was going through depression and we found out it was much more than that. I have OCD and ADD, which has nothing to do with depression and they put me on medicine to help me, and it worked. Good luck. And don't worry, it will all work out.

Q: hey well i have known this guy all my life. we were really good friends untill we got defferint classes. i prob havent talked to him in about 2 year. Are school is small only about 100 in high & middle 2gether.Both of are parents work at the school so i see him alot. How do i get him to notice me and how do i know if he likes me.

p.s. he use to like me

Talk to him. You never know what he is thinking unless you ask him. Just pick a time you know you are going to see him, and just tell him that you would like to start hanging out with him again, and one day when you are hanging out, just ask him if he still likes you. If he does, good... If he says no, then say okay, continue being his friend, and move on with your love life.

Q: ok well this year at school,i have a new friend(a girl like me). and i mean we are so much alike and all but i cant tell if thats a good thing or a bad thing.plus i had two other friends who i hung out with all 6th and 7th grade,and now that i have this new friends its like we arent friends anymore, and our little click is broken up..i dont know if i should tell my new friend or if i should just let her keep on dragging me away from my other friends. she makes me go to the gym with her alone and stuff, and i cant figure out wat to do...can anyone help?

First of all, people change. You may not be hanging out with your other friends as much just because you drifted apart, whether because of your new friend or not. But if you really think you are spending too much time with your new friend, then you SHOULD talk to her. Just let her know how you feel and see how she feels about it.

Q: To Start I have brown hair that goes about 3 or 4 inches past my shoulders that is naturally a little wavy and sometimes sort of poofy but I straighten it so isn't.

Ok I have 2 questions:

The first one is that I am going to a small party with about 10 people. I'm wearing jeans and flipflops but I do not know how to do my hair. I want to go for sort of a flirty kind of look. Oh and I have blue eyes would a gray shirt with white pokla dots look ok?

And also I want to get my hair cut but not to short because when I its to short it gets all poofy. I was thinking maybe some long layers?

Any suggestions are appriecated!

For one, any clothes can look good on anyone as long as you wear them right, and do your hair right. If your hair is ""poofy"" then you should do it straight like you said you always do. After straightening it, you can either leave it down(which I think always looks nice on anyone), or you can pull it in a ponytail. Another suggestion is maybe to pull it in a messy bun(If you know what that is.)It looks messy but its cute.
http://www.hairboutique.com/tips/tip016.htm
^^Buns are always good because they look cute, and they keep your hair out of your face.

Q: okay i have a really weird project due thursday. & i have no idea what to do. our teahcer gave us no guidelines. what we have to do is pick 3 "gifts" we have. i picked giving adivce, rollerblading, & gymnastics. we cant change them. well now we have to gift them. the thing is i have no idea what that means & she wont tell us! i think it might be like giving someone your gift. so how do i give someone rollerblading, gymnastics, or advice? well the advice i can do but the other things?? no way. pleaseeee help me!

Teaching. She probably wants you to teach someone. The giving advice thing you can do easily...The others may be hard but you can always try. Find someone that doesn't know how to rollerblade, or do gymnastics, and try to teach them. You don't HAVE to succeed. The point is you halped them....

Q: Hi i'm a female in high school and I got a lil wetting problem. No, not the kind that you're thinking but I have to pee really bad and I make it but I always let a lil drop out on my underwear and it's kinda gross since I wear really thin and silky ones so when I pull my pants back up it feels..wet. And don't say drink too much water because I'm trying to look good for the prom so I'm trying to drink 8 glasses of water a day to help my skin. Advise?

It happens. Girls just have that problem. Before I got pregnant, my panties always had little drops of what I THOUGHT to be pee, and it grossed me out to. But i found out it is just ""irregular discharge" which I noticed happens usually right before I have to go to the bathroom. I don't think there is anything to stop it, but I usually just get REALLY thin pads, with ""good absorbancy"" and then I can wear one pad all day, and it doesn't bother me because they are not big, but they keep me dry. Hope this helps.

Q: well my very first love and i broke up about a month ago. We still talk. He already has a new girlfriend. Wich hurts me terribly. But for the whole time we werent together, i told myself i wanted to be with him, and i need him to be complete. But then i looked back and i realized things werent all that great with him, ( thats why we broke up it was a mutual thing).But when i first met him i think thats when i fell in love and i couldnt fall out of love. So now i told myself to be honest with myself, that i love him but dont really want to be with him. So im trying to suport his relationship. But i feel like im still in denile. Like i really do want to be with him but am just trying to make myself feel better bye saying i dont. Im so cunfused. Help?

It's hard to get over a love...Especially the first one. But you just need to give it time. Don't stop being his friend, and you should definitly support him in his new relationship. Eventually you will find someone else too, and you guys will all be friends and it will be like nothing ever happend with you and this guy, and you will be JUST FRIENDS. Just give it a little time...

Q: i need help keeping my self-esteem up cuz im not really good at anything although im into alot of hobbies. i cry for no reason and no one will ever love me. I need hope and help.

I used to be the same way. It's hard, I know. I used to think I wasn't good at anything, and that I would never be in a good relationship. But it all works out in its own wierd way. It takes a little bit of time but you can't give up. There is always something you are good at, you just may not know exactly what it is. And there is always someone that loves you...

Q: okay well this is sort of complicated and it might be long so im sorry about that...but okay so this guy that im in love with moved a few months ago to a different state kinda far away from me and but we stayed together but then he broke up with me saying that it was too hard for both of us,even though we still love each other.So that was about hmm in august this happened..and so he told me back october that he was coming to visit for thanksgiving because his sister goes to college here and the rest of his family is still up here and he wanted to know if i wanted to hang out with him..and i said of course i would! and so november came and he said he would call me when he arrived and he did,and he asked me if i wanted to hang out the next night and i said sure and i called him back but he never picked up (he was only in town for 4 days by the way oh and it also happened to be my birthday weekend) so time passed and i never got a clal back form him whiel he was in town and by the 4th day i knew he left and i cried the whole weekend i was devestated i was a mess on my birthday.When he arrived back home he leave me a message on myspace saying happy birthday and no explaination didnt even call me and i had to tell him how i felt and i asked him to explain and he said because he lost his phone on a train which i thought was legit because he looses things alot but like after that he was pretending like everything was okay like he never came up here so i complained how he never said sorry and thats all i wanted and how i missed him soo much and he never apologize im been depressed since thanksgiving...and so i thought since he wouldnt pick up his cell phone and i dont like calling his house i left him a message on myspace after we havent talked for about a week i said i missed him and hes says why? im nothing special when he usually says he misses me too oh by the way before the messages when i complained about it hes like ive been depressed too you were the main reason i came up there and how he wants to get away and stuff and hes like its obvious you dont want to talk to me anymore (because i was complaining about it) and i said thats not it and i sent him 3 messages saying im sorry and that when he wants to talk to me again to talk to me and its been a week and a half and we havent been talking i miss him soo much and since christmas is monday i want to be okay with him again..i dont even know if im the problem or something else is bothering him he wont tell me i feel stupid complaining but i mean it was my birthday he never called me and didnt say sorry i was soo hurt...so my question is should i try talking to him again or wait till he talks to me? and your thoughts about everything it sucks because i cant even last a week without talking to him..i miss him alot...thank you for taking the time to read this,i hope you can help me out

Just give it time, and in the mean time, move on. Act like it doesn't bother you. Guys are just wierd like that. They tend to want things until they have it, and then they don't want it anymore. If you just wait it out, he will come back to you. And if he doesn't, move on...Find someone new. I know it is hard to just move on, but I also know that what they say about long distance relationships is true. I have had a few myself and they never worked out. I would get upset too and then I would move on. Now I am very happy with the guy I am with right now...We are going to have a baby and hopefully live happily ever after. You don't HAVE to have a man in your life to survive, but if you can find the right one, it is always nice...And if he is the right one, it will work out.

Q: i have a problem with my cat. she will use her box but only when im at home or when im in my room where her box is at. any other time she will pee on everything and anything. i dont know how to get her to stop peeing on everything. should i buy another litter box to put downstairs? i need some help!!

Cat's need to be trained to go in their litter box. If you have a 2 story house and the cat can go both places it may be a good idea to put one on both stories. Eventually they will learn, but when they do something bad, you have to let them know they did something bad or they will never learn. If she pees on something, take her to it, show it to her and tap her on the nose. (Not hard to hurt her, just soft to tell her not to do it again.)

Q:

I am in a HUGE fight with my very best friend who is very complicated to get along with. Fights with her are harder to survive then World War! This was all about a boy but now we are just fighting because the boy thing all turned into "I hate u we were never friends" and stuff. I said sorry so many times and ofcourse she has no interest in being my friend again what so ever! I want to just forget her but then I think about how much fun we have together and I then dont want to lose my best friend! What should I do?

Try talking to her about it. Tell her how you feel about it and that you don't want to lose her as a friend. If she can't get over the fight, she is not a true friend. If she really is your best friend, she will want to stay friends with you too. You should never let a little arguement (especially about guys) get in the way of your friendship. Friendship is one of the most important things in life.

Q: 15/f
so I have been shaving my "south pole" area for a while but lately when I do it, it hurts during the actual proccess. Now I dont know if I am doing it right so if anyone has any tips that would really be appreciated!

Sometimes that happens. You might not be using enough shaving cream, or enough water. Another thing you can try is using hair conditioner as shaving cream. It really works...I promise. I use conditioner because it doesn't hurt as much to shave and it makes the area softer afterwards. (You can also use it for shaving your legs or armpits...) Another thing is you might be shaving too often. I used to shave as soon as a little stubble came and it always hurt, but then I started just shaving every 2 weeks or so and it wasn't so bad anymore. Hope this helped.

Q: okay so i've liked this guy named derek for a long time.and so do alot of other girls. i was his first friend an we are still friends as well i mean i have been his bud since 1st grade and all the other girls liked him since 5th grade when he got taller and junk but anyway its weird to have to like him because he is a major flirt to every girl and if you like him everyone that doesnt have a crush on him or anything will think your weird even my best friend sorta knows that i like him but im shy to tell her because well you know
so should i keep quiet and never ever tell derek i like him so know one will judge me or should i just go for it
if i do go for it how???
-kimberly

Well like I always say, it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks, what matters is what you think. If your friends or other people judge you, just because you like someone, they are not true friends. If you like this guy, you should tell him, otherwise you will never know if he likes you or if it would work out. If you really want to tell him, find some time to be alone with him when no one else is there to hear you, and just tell him you need to talk to him. Tell him how you feel and ask if he feels the same. If he doesn't, do not stop being friends with him, and let him know that you do intend to stay friends if he doesn't have those feelings for you. But if he does, go for it. And always remember, no matter what happens, you can ALWAYS stay friends with him. It may seem weird if it doesn't work out with him, but eventually things will go back to normal. And don't forget, it doesn't matter what other people think about you, it only matters what you think about yourself.

Q: 15/f. i have a big crush on this guy named Tim. well we don't have any classes together but we still talk at lunch, on AIM, and on myspace. well i was on his top 8 on myspace for a while. then we both decided to try out for the play so we have been talking a lot about that. like about how we were nervous for the play audition and stuff. then we signed up for auditions next to each other and we hung out before our turns came. ok then after we both auditioned we talked for a long time and practiced our lines for the acting auditions for monday. we picked each other to be partners for the auditions.

so a lot of people think that i like him and someone even told him that she heard a rumor that we were dating. well i wish all of this was true! but then when we were practicing our lines this other girl who was standing there just randomly blurted out "Tim, why don't you just ask Sarah out?" (i'm sarah by the way). and he just said a joke about it and it all ended. but i really thought he liked me until now i'm not sure because i'm out of his top 8 and he hasn't IMed me. do you think he got scared or nervous and backed off?

plus how can i get him to like me without actually telling him? plus i can't tell my friends that i like him or else they will tell him. i'm so confused here..any advice will be greatly appreciated!

Haha. I am almost posotive he did get scared and back off. Although, whether it was because he liked you and didn't want you to know, or it was because he didn't think of you that way and was afraid it might interfere with your friendship, I'm not sure. Guys are just like that. The only thing you can do is try to talk to him about it. I tell girls this alot about guys because it is honestly the only way to figure it out. It seems dumb, and sometimes it might not work, but if you try asking him, whether on the phone, in person, through a note, or even online...Whatever you are more comfortable with, he may give you an answer. And usually if they do not give you a straight answer, it is because they are hiding their feelings, either because they don't want you to know they have feelings for you, or because they don't feel that way about you and don't want to hurt your feelings. Tell him how you feel...And let him know that if he doesn't feel that way you are still willing to be friends. People change all the time, and if you continue being just friends for now, in time, he may come to like you, or you may realize he is a better friend than he would be a boyfriend, and lose your feelings for him and stay friends. It all depends on the way people change. If you need advice on what to say to him, or on what he responded with, you can always email me... (And trust me when I say, I've just about heard it all when it comes to these kinds of guy troubles.)

Q: THIS PART IS TO THE MODERATORS. I KNOW I DELETED AND REPOSTED THIS QUESTION MORE THAN ONCE BUT I REREAD IT AND I SAW THAT THE PREVIOUS ONES DID NOT MAKE SENSE AND I WOULD NOT GET ANSWERS I NEEDED. SO I DELETED AND REPOSTED SO NOW IT MAKES SENSE. THANKS

I am reposting because the way I worded this does not make sense and I want people to give me answers for all questions below. Thanks: Here is the story again: On August 25, 2006 Rebecca was with her mom and her mom said; Rebecca you are very thin, I am concerned, I dont want you to lose weight;. Rebecca then asked her mom; Why do you think I should gain weight?; And her mother said; No I dont think you should gain I just think you should not lose;. However, on August 26, 2006 Rebecca told her friends the story and asked her friends is my mom saying I am to thin; and her friends said; No she is not. All she is saying is that you are very thin and she does not want you to lose any weight and she EVEN TOLD YOU SHE DOES NOT THINK YOU HAVE TO GAIN WEIGHT. MY QUESTION(s): (1) Do you agree/concur with Rebecca friends; (2) Also because this happened on August 2006 and it is now December 2006 should Rebecca still think about it; and (3) And now that it is December 2006 (after all this time) should Rebecca still go by the fact that her mother does not think she has to gain weight? AND WHY DO YOU FEEL THIS WAY WITH YOUR ANSWERS."

1.)It is all in the way Rebecca thinks about it. Her friends are not right OR wrong, they are simply stating what they THINK. (Opinion is not fact.)
2.)If Rebecca is still thinking about it now in December (4 months later...), it is because she is upset about it, or has a problem or questioning about it.
And 3.)If Rebecca is conserned about what her mother thinks, she should talk to her mother about it again. People's thoughts change all the time, and her mother might be thinking something completeley different.

The reason I say all this is because it doesn't really matter what other people think about you. The only thing that matters is what you think about yourself. If Rebecca thinks she is too thin and needs to gain weight, she should gain a little weight. If she thinks she is not thin enough and needs to lose weight, she should lose weight. (But she should only gain or lose weight in a healthy way.) It does not matter what her friends or family think, they are only stating their opinions and should love her no matter what she decides. But if it is still really bothering her that her mother that her mother made the statement, she needs to go to her mother and ask her mother how she feels, and why she feels this way about Rebecca. I really hope that helped.

Q: I used to hang out with this boy Chris over the summer. It was really fun and I started to like him. Then after summer, we kind of stopped talking. A few weeks ago, he IMed me and we started talking again and making plans to hang out. Our conversations are so good..theres never an awkward silence. He's really outgoing in real life, too. Like I always see him with girls..but when he sees me all he says is, "Hey!" and even though he says it really nice, he doesnt try to make conversation like we have online..what should ido?

Ever hear the saying "Men, can't live with 'em, can't live without 'em."? This is why they made the expression. Guys don't think the same way girls do. They like attention from girls when it is just them and the girl, but if there is other people around, they act like they don't even know you. It's just the way they are. The only thing you can do is talk to him. The next time he is online, IM him and ask him about it. Tell him how you feel and ask him if he feels the same. That way you will at least have something to go of off and if it works out then it works out...If not, there is always other men in the world. Good luck

Q: I had sex about 16 days or so ago. It was the day after the end of my last period. 4 days later I felt really sick all day and didn't improve until the next day, i felt very nauseaous and like i was going to throw up. It came through in waves and I couldn't really eat during that day. A week after I had sex I started getting very sore breasts; I get that about a week before I'm due to get my period; that's how I know it's coming. Anyway, they've been sore since then and today (17 days later) I now have my period. I'm freaked out because it's only been 17 days, I never get it that soon, I'm regular usually every 28-33 days. It's only my first day today and I'm not experiencing heavy period pain and cramps like I usually do. My stomach is a little sore but that's all. Also, it's kind of heavy for my first day. Do you think that sounds like I could be pregnant? I know a lot of people would say no because i have my period, but some women do bleed during their pregnancy or still have their first or second period after.

Thanks so much to anyone who can help me with this.

I had a my period twice in my first 2 months of pregnancy. I was lucky enough not to get the morning sickness, but I did get the sore breasts. You may want to get a pregnancy test to be posotive, and if your not pregnant, check with your doctor and tell him what happend just to be sure there is nothing wrong. But don't panic...A few years ago before I was pregnant(I am now 7 months), I got my period twice in one month and I got scared that I was pregnant(and I didn't want to be, because the guy I was with, was a jerk and I was planning on leaving him). I totally freaked and when I asked my mom to take me to the doctor, he said it was simply stress. Either way... it will all work out. Good luck.

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I have always wanted to have my own advice column because many of my friends and family have come to me for advice, (especially my younger sisters and thier friends), and I always have something to tell them. I thought it would be nice to give advice to other people that need it as well. One good quality about me when it comes to my advice is that I have expierience both in the teen world and the adult world. I am also a soon to be mother and have some good advice for mothers and soon to be mothers. I have been through a lot for my age and I am more than willing to help ANYONE who needs it, and I hope I can do so.