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Q: If you have sex at 15 does that mean you wont have kids when your older?? does it ruin the chance of having kids?? because i been hearing rumors that you wont be able to have kids or you will have complications having kids ..and espically having sex at 15 does that ruin any of your eggs?

I don't believe that it ruins your eggs but there are risks. Such as catching an STD which can cause problems you could pass them on to offspring. There are others that can affect childbirth also.

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Q: ok so i had sex for the first time and bled i no thats normal now how long before it stops hurting ? like will it hurt if i have sex a second time?

Female

It is going to hurt probably the next few times you have sex. Just until your body actually gets used to, but it will get easier and it will hurt less and less until finally no pain at all.

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Q: So I have been dating this guy for 5 months and his best friend lyed to me and said that my boyfriend was going to dump me and i ened up crying the whole night. Then i asked my boyfriend and he said it was crazy. when i asked why is friend said that he said he was just being him.. and he is always doing stuff like that What should I do??
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It sounds to me like his best friend is just jealous of the attention your boyfriend gives you and maybe the relationship. He was probably used to it just being the two of them hanging out all the time then you two got together. He may feel like the third wheel and want something to go wrong so he can have his friend back. You might want to try and discuss this with your boyfriend and his friend just to show him that you aren't trying to take his place. You are both just going to have to compromise and get along, because if you don't its going to cause major problems in the future.

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Q: I've been with this guy for a couple of weeks. He's had sex about 4 to 6 time before, maybe a year ago...he claims he was just horny and looking for action. He's so good to me and I like him oh so much! But I'm scares he's trying to get in my pants since he's known to he a player. But he's so sweet. One of my bestest guy friends was like he's tricking you to get into your pants. I'm not sure...what are some signs he's trying to get into my pants?

One can be if he is constantly trying to get you to have sex with him or he is always talking about it or making jokes about sex. If he doesn't do any of this but then when you do discuss it and maybe want to he pushes you to do it he may just be interested in sex.

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Q: 13/f

Ok I have a crush on this boy. He talks to me sometimes. We only have one class together though. He asks to borrow stuff and so on but I mean he jokes around with me and he has a nickname for me like a little thing he made up today. He says I'm his "buddy" haha I love it. He talks to a few other girls but I just want something to happen like every other girl. Any help would be appreciated. He used to come leave his friends and come up and talk to me while we are walking to class but now me and my friends walk another way and they don't know I like him. I really don't feel like I want to tell them right now anyways. Please help thanks.

It sounds like he is interested in you, you know he flirts talks to you and such. If you really want to talk to him and get to know him just walk up to him and start talking. Most guys like it when a girl will be brave and begin the conversation. It sounds as though you are doing well with it so just keep doing what you are doing.

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Q: a week ago i had protected sex (but precum got in my vagina) and now i'm having a ton of cravings, can't stop eating, always tired, peeing every 2 seconds.

I just finished my period (the one that i had sex with) like 3 days ago so i can't be PMSing. Can signs of pregnancy show up this early? only a week after intercourse?

It is very uncommon for them to show up this early but it has happened a few times. It does sound like the signs of pregnancy but it also could be other things such as stress etc. Take a pregnancy test within the next few weeks just to be sure and be more careful the next time you have sex.

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Q: 13/f 8th grade

Ok I have a crush on this guy. I've only talked to him like once or twice. I want him to notice me more or have him talk to me. Ok I am unpopular and he is popular. I know that doesn't matter much but you know, its harder that way. So anyways I hardly talk to anyone except friends. Well I do talk to other people but only when they talk to me. But I am working on that. But its like they label you for life as the shy quiet girl who hardly talks. I mean I don't even know if there is hope for me with a guy. I have had only one boyfriend and thats it. Should I even try for the guy? And just have a crush on him and just try and focus on something else? Or should I do something else? Also its pretty hard to talk to him since I have only 2 classes with him and one is History and the other is PE. So please help me out. I feel like I'm not worth anyones time because guys would never want to go out with me. I don't think I'm that ugly but I'm not gorgeous. And I'm not super skinny. So please help me. Thanks.

Even in eighth grade the feeling that you can't be with a guy because of you who you are is drastic. Labeling starts young these days. But just because he's popular and your not doesn't mean you can't like him maybe even date him. You just have to learn how to open up to more people, you know get to know the group of people he hangs out with, therefore giving yourself more opportunity with him and getting noticed by him. Once he notices you and sees what a sweet girl you are I'm sure he will come around.

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Q: so i'm getting mine done for my 14th birthday. cute i know. okay so can anyone tell me how bad it hurts in comparison to getting your cartilage on your ear pierced, cuz i got that done and it wasn't bad at all.

When I got my bellybutton pierced it didn't hurt at all and all of the people that I know say that cartilage hurts a lot more than your navel.

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Q: ok so first off i'm an 18 year old guy. i've been in a relationship with my dream girl for now 7 1/2 months. she's 17. she's the first girlfriend that i've ever had. before me she dated a guy for 7 months, they broke up about a year and a 1/2 ago, but that was pretty much it for her. we're both deeply in love with each other. before her i was depressed and miserable but she changed all that and since we've been together i'm happier than i ever could've imagined. i know that she's really happy with me too. so basically we can't get enough of each other. something that has really been getting to me lately is the issue of sex. in 7 1/2 months we haven't done anything sexual at all, no blowjobs, no handjobs or anything like that. i kind of thought that was a good thing for the first couple months because we were able to make something great together without sex or anything but lately it's been getting to me. i'm really sexually attracted to her and it's just driving me crazy. i know that she's strongly attracted to me too, she's said so and i'm exactly her type. we've both sent each other alot of nude pictures and there was no big deal about it. i feel completely comfortable sending them to her and she feels the same. we do touch each other alot, not sexually however. for example, sometimes we'll just lay on her bed for 4 hours snuggling up with each other really tight just talking about how much we love each other and stuff. we have this thing where we tickle each other alot. we tickle bare skin like the stomach, back, and she likes tickling my "man boobs". she also likes giving me wedgies. she's jokingly admitted that the whole wedgy thing is just an excuse to touch my ass. lately all that touching stuff has intensified. i get the feeling that i really need to do something. i know that alot of the time sex is bad for young couples but its been 7 1/2 months and we've made such a solid foundation already without it. i don't really want to go into like real sex until maybe prom night, which is in 2 months. i want our first time to be special and romantic. i do want to do some of the other stuff though. i want to go down on her so badly because i feel like she deserves it and i want to make her feel good. i don't even want a blowjob or anything else all that badly because i just want to make her feel good. she has told me that her ex went down on her while they were dating but she never had sex with him, she's still a virgin like me. it's embarassing to say but i know how to do all of the stuff because i looked it up online. there are alot of times when we have the opportunity to do stuff, both our parents work alot. i really don't know how to even get into that situation. people have said to just kind of "explore" while we're making out and go from there. i'm kind of an awkward kid and i'm somewhat unconfident and very scared of failure even though i've gotten all the info i need from websites and friends, both male and female. so if anyone could help me out i would much appreciate it. i know i probably sound weird but i'm just really confused about the whole thing.

16 yr-old female.

You sound like a really sweet guy who really cares about his girlfriend and that is key when thinking about exploring sexual actions.

I completely understand how you feel about this. When you care about someone you worry about pleasing them and making it good for them. In the end you just have to make sure that you think of their feelings and don't make yourself uncomfortable. Don't push past either of your boundaries.

You two seem like you really care about each other and that you are ready for sex. But its perfectly understandable to be nervous before your first time, everyone is. If you really love someone though, things will go smoothly and will end up great. As for how to do it, as your making out let your hands explore her body. Take control but be sensitive, she will let you know if she disapproves. Things will come easier after you make it over the first hump.You are a mature 18 year-old boy and I'm sure you will make the right decision.

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Q: 14\F

Ive been going out with this boy named Eric for about 4-5 months now, and were always going on dates and everything and just this weekend [Saturday] I went over his house alone... well we've been kissing for a while but thats it I mean IM ONLY FOURTEEN and Eric put his hand up my shirt, and I donno if it's normal or not but I sorta freaked cuz its the first time anything besides kissing has happened to me.. and I was like Woah and he like continued so i was like oh umm im sorry but can you stop. So kinda mad I think he did, I let him"feel me up" on the outside of my shirt so he wouldn't get to mad, but then he tried un-buttoning my jeans and thats when I was like WOAH! What are you doing?? and he was like weve been going out for so long now why can't you go further then kissing me it's not like we'll have sex or anything.. and i donno I just didnt feel comfortable but I do like him. And I was like Im sorry.. and hes like You do like me dont you so I said yes! and he was like okay then. and Tried putting his hand up my shirt again then it was like No.. i dont feel comfortable ill just walk home and he got really mad at me. I tried telling him Crawling leads to walking, and Walking turns to running and I dont like running not yet atleast IM ONLY FOURTEEN!!! Well I feel violated right now, but then it's like would I have gone all the way if I let him? Would he have?? and I needed to talk to someone and my best friend Adam--yes it a boy was like WHAT and wanted to kill him but I made him promise not to. And this weekend oim going back over... and I dont want to go any farther then we did this weekend but I donno if Eric will accept that and I know if he doesnt break up with him but shouldnt I atleast do something? Like handjob? like satisfy him?? I dont want to.. but to make him happy I will... I donno what to do i really like him, and I dont know why I cant just let him do what he wants with me, but I cant... I know I cant.
and Im not a slut.. im only 14, I know ive dated him a long time but I thought he was happy with just kissing... now its like how long has he wanted this? Why didnt he tell me before? and Im just scared you know? Maybe I shouldnt go back to his house without a parnet and my and his parents are being super cool with letting me over because they do know! and I promissed my mom Id keep it PG-13...
Anything would be helpfull really.

Okay first of all you never want to go any further than you are comfortable with. If you don't feel like you are ready for any of this then you shouldn't do it. You should never compromise yourself for a boy.

If he is going to be mad and break up with you simply because you have your morals then he isn't worth it. He needs to respect you and your boundries and you need to respect yourself too.

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Q: OK! I'm going to rewrite this for any of you people assuming I only like her for sex -.-
No I do not but heres the qwestion..
I really really really like my girl friend and I know she really likes me.. Small problem -.- When ever we are making out I tend to well.. you know get a Cof Cof* boner Cof Cof* but Annnnyway the point is I know I love it when we make out and I know she likes making out but how do I know if she is well... (horney) Once again! I'm stating that im 14 -.- I dont want to have sex yet -.- So for any girls out the that feel like helping =] HAVE AT IT! :o

First of all I think you and your girlfriend need to discuss how far you would both like to go. Next when you are making out just kind of slowly work your way up or down haha. You can finger her, maybe even play with her boobs, just whatever you feel like doing.
Just make sure you aren't pushing things too far.

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Q: I've been with my bf for almost 2 years, and he makes me sooo happy. I lost my virginity to him, and he's my first love. I knew his previous girlfriend really well and she told me every detail about their relationship. They never had sex but they did other things... if you know what i mean... She was his first love, and i was the one who comforted him when they split up. But now we're together and i still get upset when i think about him with her. I know its natural to be like that with your bfs ex, but i cant help but cry when i think about him being in love with her, and although he says he doesnt still think about her i know he does.

Is anyone else going through this? or do you know any ways i can try to get her out of my head. It doesnt affect our relationship, but when i'm on my own it plays on my mind...

Thank You in Advance xx

I went through this same situation with my boyfriend of 3 years. It is completely normal.

But just try to take this into consideration, 'you always remember your first love and deep down you always love them.' You may not be IN love with them anymore but they will always hold a special place in your heart. It is a very difficult thing to deal with if you have never been in love and your partner has. The best thing to do is to try and understand that at one point he loved her but something came up and things didn't work out. Now he's with you and obviously thats where he wants to be or he wouldn't have spend 2 years with you.

I know its hard but just try and be understanding. I know it hurts but in the end he will respect that you at least try to understand things for him.

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Q: What does it mean to give someone a head or something like that!??!?
Mmkay.. thanks!

Head means the action of giving a blowjob or performing oral sex for a guy.

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Q: i lost my virginity last night, but it hurt and it was reallllly hard for him to fit. he's pretty huge.. so i guess it's understandable.. but is this normal? im afraid that im just too small now. do you think this is perfectly normal? did other people go through the same thing? thanks

Yes it is very normal for it to be a tight fit, so to say, on your first time. Especially when the guy has a big penis it is going to hurt but thats different for everyone. You will be tight your first time because you haven't dont anything to loosen it up, it should get easier with time.

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Q: i dont want statistics i just want an honest opinion...if you are dry humping or such without much clothing on is it possible for pre-cum to get a girl pregnant?

two of my friends have sex alot without protection and of course he pulls out when he cums buuutt he precums inside of her and she's never gotten pregnant. so i was thinking precum isnt really all that fertile? thanks.

Precum is a very serious matter, even if your friends have been doing it and they haven't gotten pregnant does not mean that it shouldnt be taken seriously. Anytime that you are engaging is sexual actions where there is a chance that the penis will be near the vagina you should wear a condomn. Always be smart about sex.

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Q: Like three days ago i gave my bf a bj and after he wiped the cum off of his hands with a paper towel. I'm not sure how soon after, but after that he fingered me. Is there any chance at all of me being pregnant?

Sperm can live for a while outside of the body so there is a small chance. And i mean a very small chance, I really doubt that you are pregnant but next time please be more careful.

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Q: Well every guy i date wants to have sex with me
but im really scared and want to wait till i find the right guy or im married and they dump me should i just give it up to them?

NO!! Do not give up something as sacred as your virginity to someone who just wants to get in your pants. Especially if you aren't ready. If a guy really cares about you then he will wait, but if he is just going to dump you over it then they aren't worth it in the first place.

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Q: my boyriend cheat on me , is it possible for a cheater (who wont admit that he did) to not do it again or do you think h will keep cheating

I don't necessarily agree with the saying 'once a cheater always a cheater,' but if someone won't admit that they did something wrong then i'm pretty sure they are likely to do it again.

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Q: some people tell me if a guy shaves his pubes he must be gay
well my boyfriend shaves down there
and trust me, hes not gay
so is it just a stupid thing people say?

Simply because a guy shaves his pubic hair doesn not make him gay. He may just be concerned with hygiene and he may just like the way it looks and feels.
Yes it is just a stupid thing for people to say.

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Q: 24/f
so here is the shortest version of the story I can manage. When I was seventeen I met the love of my life. we both knew it the moment we met. we lived 8 hours away from eachother but had a long distance relationship. he is 2 years older so he moved to the east coast to be in a band before I got out of highschool. i was supposed to go when I graduated but as life goes...I moved to the west coast with another man when I was 18. when i was 20 we found eachother again and he still in the band we saw eachother a few times and were still in love. this is like really true love, our hearts and souls are meant to be. he cannot leave his band, they tour 10 months out of the year. anyway we stayed in contact and over the years he would fly out between tour dates and spend a few days with me. two years ago we decided it was very hard to be together long distance so we agreed to see other people because we were both lonely but we both knew we still loved eachother. we planned to get married when I moved from the west coast. he started seeing his ex and I met someone from work. we still stayed in touch and in love. well, I ended up getting pregnant and had a baby with a man i do not love, and still do not love. we lost contact after I had my baby, he was really hurt yet supportive of me keeping the child. I two years later, my son is over a year old and I still live with his father who is not a nice person at all. Recently we started talking again and although we are both in relationships the love is still there. I guess i just need advice on how to move on from here...i am staying with my baby's father for my son, but I love this other man so much. he is constantly touring so its not like we can be together because I cannot move to his home base because it would bring my son 2000 miles away from his dad. I just dont know what to do. I love him and I know we are destined to be together. sorry if my question is not really precise, but any advice would help me greatly. this man is always on my mind and I know now that i am always on his mind. thanks

Things are a whole lot different now that you have your son, you have to do whats best for him. But if the relationship you have with his father is stressed and there is constant bickering then I don't necessarily think thats the best environment for your son. Yes, he needs to be in a healthy and loving environment. I know from experience that a bickering and nonhappy house is not a home. My parents fought constanly when I was smaller but tried to stay together for me, it proved to be the wrong decision and now I have to deal with it.

If you and this man really love each other then you both are going to have to compromise. You need to find a neutral level where your son can be near his father, but maybe not neccessarily live with him but so they can visit, somewhere you and this man can be together without a strain on the relationship. It is going to be difficult for all of you but in the end it may be the best choice.

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