Mackenzie's advice column

♥[?]♥ Alrite I have blonde hair and it is so boring. I want to dye it....I have tan skin and light brown eyes...do you think that i should get it dyed browner or wut? I need help

I think highlights would be your best bet. Usually when you dye your hair it will never be the same again : in color, feel and appearance. Try some blonde highlights; that'd be cute. If you'd like something more fiesty, try red highlights. It just depends on the style and look you're going for. However, if you do decide to dye it brown, I suggest a light caramel brown, that way, when it comes time to redye it, it won't look as bad as a dark brown would. I have dark brown hair with caramel/golden highlights. My Mom did it for me, and we used to Herbal Essence do-it-yourself kit, and it looks great. I'm sure whatever you decide to do will look fantastic. Goodluck! =D

♥[?]♥ My boyfriend and I have been going out for 5 months and are going to celebrate our half year anniversary on August 28. The problem is I have no idea what to get him! I think he's getting me a promise ring, which is sweet beyond believe but I don't have anything to match it! When I bring it up though he just says "the only thing I want is you". Adorable, but not very helpful. I would be greatful for any suggestions, and I don't have a lot of money. Thanks a bunch! Em'lee

btw: he's a big music fan, is learning how to play guitar, and loves wild, death-defying stuff; if that helps any.

Aww! That's so sweet! Well it'd be cute if you got him a poster of his favorite music artist. Or a book of tabs for his guitar. What about cologne? And how about a watch? Watches are great gifts. Even a cute jacket would be appropriate. I'm not sure of how great a cook you are, but if you set up a candle lit dinner with a meal you prepared yourself, such as: lasagna, stuffed chicken breast and salads with like a sundae for desert! I'm sure he'd be impressed! Or if that would be too dificult, you could always cut up some turkey sandwiches with chips and cookies and sit on a blanket at the park for a picnic. Then you guys could take a stroll at night and feed the duckies?? I don't know.. perhaps you already have ideas on what to do, but there's a few more to throw atcha. I'm sure he'll love whatever you have in store for him! I'm sorrie I can't be of more help. I hope things go well! Keep me updated! Congratulations on your half year! =D

♥[?]♥ Ok how do i put my column into my AIM profile? Plz help me cause i want to put it in there so my buddies can also ask for advice!

Thanks so much!

Link it. Copy the link to your site and paste it in your AIM profile -- it's a sinch!

♥[?]♥ when should i look into a boyfriend? i'm 11 now, and i think i'm way too young. whenever i have sex, it will be when i'm married. i will not ever use a condom, because it's against the catholic religion, which i am. so i'll have two kids at the most (maybe). and i will definately be having one child. when should i have a bf? i don't want to go throuhg a break up...should it be when i am old enough to get married, just in casE?

You seem very mature for your age; that's becoming harder and harder to find these days. =D Because of this, I think only YOU know when you're capable of holding a relationship. It's just a personal preference usually. Although, most kids start to get into relationships around 13 or 14. But at 14, if you don't feel you're ready or don't see it necessary to be involved with someone, that's fine. You're your own person, and you need to do your own things. Never worrie about what someone else may think or say; all you need to be concerned with is your own well being. And just because you may be involved in a relationship DOES NOT mean you two have to have sex. If he thinks sex is expected, and you're against it at the time, you need to definitely tell him, and be firm about it!! If he fails to understand your reasoning, then that is a hint that the relationship needs to come to an end. Also, yeah.. no one likes break ups. Heartache sucks, and it's very unpleasent for all. However, most people learn by trial and error. You can't shy away from relationships because you fear getting your heartbroken by some jerk, because that would be passing up many many many valuable learning experiences. Again, only YOU know when you're ready. Goodluck, and take care! =D

♥[?]♥ I really am inlove with this boy that my family and i have known since in was 2 years old. we are so in love that i think i want him to be my first. i know about safe sex and all and i am 15 but i am planning on spending my life with this guy. we have everything in common and he is so hansom and sweet, not a jock at all. we really want to be with eachother. but i wonder, does it reall hurt that bad the first time, and how do i get him in the mood for sex?

Well if you are sure you're "planning on spending my [your] life with this guy", I don't see why you are in such a hurry to have sex. I think if you two wait a while, say until marriage, you will both cherish it a whole lot more. Your first time should be full of love and no regrets. Just think about it -- it's a big step, but your call. I wish you the best!

♥[?]♥ I have a question that i hope someone can help me with. Is it right to change for a guy? I use to have this one boyfriend that was a punk and I was jusst a normal 13 year old girl. all of his friends were punks to and at that time I was overwhieght and diddn't care about what I looked. Well then all of a sudden my boyfriend just dummped me w/no explanation. And a little while later I started getting into the punk music and cloths and i lost 20 pounds. Now I'm obsessed w/punk music and cloths but i don't know if it's b/c i want him to see what he missed out on or if it's really what i want. About 6 months have passed since my break up w/him. Since our breakup was just b4 the summer no body not even my friends have seen me, so I can't wait till school starts so i can see everyone's reaction esspecially his. But do n-e-of you think this is righ? Pleae someone help me.

Always
Nat

It's not okay to change for a guy. Now, if you ENJOY what you are, then more power to ya. If you ever feel like you need to change, do it for YOURSELF, and NO ONE else! If you find that your ex now seems more attracted to you, I wouldn't give him the time of day! You're still pretty much the same person -- of course you can change little things like hair, clothes, and even some personality traits, but you can never fully hide the real you. This guy seems like a real loser caught up in a whirlwind of teenage trends. You can do much better! Enjoy your summer and keep your head up! =D

♥[?]♥ What does Imao mean? I know what idk means but what does this mean? I try to answer questions but these abrevations get in the way of me understanding sometimes. Could someone tell me? Thanks in advance!
advice~gurl

"Laughing My Ass Off" -- LMAO

♥[?]♥ My boyfriend is a punk and i am like a cheerleader and im like a prep and stuff i dont know if i shold break up with him because later on in life i mean we might not work because he is a punk and he told me to choose him or cheerleading i am half hawaiian so like i have been doing hceerleading since i was 5 and surfing since i was 2

please help

Choose him or cheerleading??? haha, easy choice! CHEERLEADING!! Relationships are about making each other's life better. Now why on earth would he make you choose him or cheerleading???? He seems VERY immature!! That's just the stupidest thing I've ever heard. Relationships should be 50/50, and while it's very important that the two of you spend time together, you MUST have your own separate lives. I suggest you hang on to cheerleading. He obviously can't care too much for you if he making you choose between him and a passion of yours. The right guy will respect you for who you are; and he obviously doesn't do that. Goodluck, I wish you the very best! =D

♥[?]♥ What does idk stand for?

"I Don't Know" --IDK

♥[?]♥ well see theres this girl and i like her alot and i think she likes me but im not sure because one day she'll be all great with me and we'll laugh and have a good time together but then the next its like she doesnt want anything to do with me.. what should i do?? does she like me??

Hmm. I've been there. I suppose it just depends on how you look at it. You could think... hmm.. if somedays I can queston if she likes me... maybe it's a sign things weren't "meant to be" in the first place, in which case you should put her behind you and push forward. That, or you could flat out ask her how she feels. And tell her how you're feeling also. Make sure to be blunt to ensure you got your message across clearly. Goodluck, I wish you the best! Thanks for asking me, and keep me updated!

♥[?]♥ When you bowl a full game , you bowl 30 times , am i right ? ( not counting the second time you bowl if you don't get a strike on your first bowl ) So , a perfect game would be 300 , right ?

Honestly, I have NO idea!! I suppose it makes sense mathematically, but when you think about.. bowling goes by REALLY fast, so 30 seems like an awful lot!!! But that's just what I think; I have no idea. Goodluck! Let me know if you find out, because I know this will turn into one of those things that can't leave my mind and I'll die if I don't figure out!!

♥[?]♥ Hey, l'm 13 and I've liked this boy for 13 months..lol.. and we started going out in april and he broke up with me in june. i was heartbroken but i kind of saw it coming..i dont know he kind of just stopped calling as much. then i found out after he broke up with me that it was because he felt bad because..he still liked me..but he still had feelings for his ex. but i still like him A TON!!!! we have kept talking and hanging out after we broke up. i have noticed that hes starting to act like he likes me...also he usually tells people who he likes..he wont tell any of my friends..i wont dare ask him myself because i dont want him to know that i still like him if he doesnt like me..i dont want him to feel uncomfortable. my friend has also noticed that it seems like he likes me. What should I do? haha i dont even know what im asking you..just tell me what you think about this whole thing and what i should do..please?

I think it's a very common thing. I think you need to speak with him, and ask him if he still has feelings for you. Who cares if he still thinks you have feelings for him?? You shouldn't be worried about him finding out, because you need to be able to express yourself to possible boyfriends. Swallow your pride and go for it! Goodluck!

♥[?]♥ ok so i have been doing gymnastics for liek 2 years, i have always wanted to be on the high schools team but i have never competed before so im kinda scared, and the girls on the team are really intimidating and rude!! help me!!

If you've always wanted this, you shuld definitely try out for your high school team. Don't let anyone hold you back from something you want and worked so hard for. It's not fair. Go for it! You'll do great! Let me know how it goes!

♥[?]♥ i know this isn't really important, but im doing a poll for summer school.. im not in summer skool, but were supposed to be doing this to get ready for our upcoming high skool year, and well here's my poll...

Bush?
or
Kerry?

moderators, plz don't rate this low, it's for skool, also please don't delete this Q!!!!

Bush all the way. =D

♥[?]♥ ok, sry if this is real long:
last summer, at the pool i belonged to, there was this guy that i liked. he liked me too i thought bc we would always like give each other stares and stuff but we never actually met. we dont go to the same schools so i didnt see him but once the whole schools year and that was at the freaking vet. so now, ive seen him at the pool again this summer, but i dont think he likes me any more bc he never like looks at me or anything like he used too. i just relized how much i do like him and im really mad that he doesnt like me back (bc im pretty sure he doesnt) does he just not want to show hes """affection""" or does he just not like me and i cant stop thinking about him...I NEED HELP

**and i rate!**

You should try meeting him. Just walk up to him and strike up some conversation; fro example: "Hey! Haven't seen you for a while", or something like that. You can do it; be confident! Goodluck!

♥[?]♥ I need some songs... any song would be good and who its by!!

Michelle Branch -- Breathe
Eamon -- Fuck It
Slipknot -- Wait and Bleed
Roberta Flack -- Killing Me Softly
Whitney Houston -- Where Do Broken Hearts Go
Joss Stone -- Fell In Love With A Boy

♥[?]♥ If your bf or gf got you a limo for a surprise for like 3 months of going out and it was a boxy kind of limo.. would you care?

Of course not. It's the thought that counts. I think it'd be cute!

♥[?]♥ well i have a problem, i think that it is better if i admitt i have a problem. I cut, and i think i know why i cut, i cut to know i am alive and i think its so stupid..but i cant do anything about it. I cut and bleed my problems away. I always wear sweatshirts so people dont really know. But i think it is hurting my friends that know, because one time i cut so deep it was bleeding for like ever. im kind of scared.

Seek help, really. You need to tell your parents if you feel you can't stop on your own. I wish you the best.

♥[?]♥ Ok, I talked to the guy online. Ive hade two coincidences where he seemed to like me. I was sitting there like "Everyone at school hates me..." And then he came up with "Well..I dont hate you." SO you know I was like frozen. So then later I was talking to him on AIM. I said my stepsister was like "Oh, now that I have my own friends, I wont hang out with you. I dont need you." He was like. "Oh.." And I was like "Yea." So then hes like "Well you can hang out with me." Is it just me or does he like me? You kinda have to know him to know the way he said it and they way he is. But, from what you know, what do u think?

I think he was just being polite.

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