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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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im not doing to good in school
and one of my teachers told me about staying back
and im really worried im going too
is there anyways to prevent it?

Get your ass in gear & start doing your shit before they fail you?

i have a couple songs that i like but i dont know the name. can someone please help me?
the first one goes like this:
"ohh... look what you've done... you've made a fool of everyone... " and i dont know the rest of the song, sorry!
the second song goes like this:
"i'm not crazy im just a little unwell, i know right know you cant tell. but stay a while and baby then u'll see, a different side of me. i'm not crazy i'm just a little... (something) i know right now you don't care but stay a while and baby then you'll see" or something like that. anyone know???
the lastly i was wondering if anyone knew some other songs kinda like the first one... maybe about something like somebody who turned a bunch of people against someone?? thanks so much!!

The first one is "Look At What You've Done" by Jet.

And I don't know the second one.

im tired of living in this place called hell, tired of listenin 2 people say ima fail. feeling nothing but depresion getting deeper, walking on a death mountain feel it getting steeper. if they push me 2 the edge then im gon trip, fall over n die but they wont give a shit. all i hear is ppl screaming in my ear, tryna back up but they keep gettin near.

tired of staying up n crying all night, tired of listening 2 these people fight. tired of rushing 2 my room after skool, tired of hearin people call me a fool.

im sick n tired of people sayin this n that, tired of people sayin "i got ya back" tired of people makin promises that they dnt keep, tired of wakin up cryin in my sleep. im tired of yellin 24/7, i need 2 get saved so i can go 2 heaven. people ask me where am i goin? i reply="hell if i dnt change my ways", im bout 2 pack my bags n go my seperate ways. sick of that woman telling me that she loves me when she know she lying,said she hated holli but when she left she started crying. tired of these tricks n crabs jumping around like they somebody, tired of seein these crackheads take ova my sista body. she not answerin her fone now she gon missin,wanted by the po again she shouldve listened. im not worried-i dnt care any more, tired of hittin n screamin now im sore.

cant wait til i leave this place called hell, just waitin til its my turn 2 chill in jail.

Is this a poem because it seriously rhymes to death.

And learn how to spell & use grammar. You don't go to school for nothing.

16/5, what are some ways to masterbate other then fingering yourself?

Use the shower or something.

my friends are being critical to me like, "thats so unhealthy your gonna be fatter" thats just an example. also, they only seem to care about their lives and problems. also today i found out that at least two of my friends that i tell everything to are keeping a secret from me, and it hurts. my friends also joke around and make fun of me, but its embarrassing me. on myspace bullitains one of my friends took a survey and the question was "what was the worst thing you ever smelled." she put " (my) farts". i was embarrassed. also my friends were making fun of me in front of this popular girl saying how i don't curse, and all together they were like "ill give you $15 if you say fuck." i didnt, but it was embarrassing . i seem ok on the outside, but im hurt on the inside. nobody seems to care about my feelings. i dont wanna confront my friends, or ditch them.....help

Well, if you don't wanna confront or ditch them, then you might as well take their shit.

i like this guy im19+ hes the type that all girls want- but hes picked me- he has kids of his own though i have one but he still lives with his babys mama- they dont love each other or even sleep together and they both have sex with other people- but is that crossing the line-- i dont beleive that two people can love one another - im not trying for a realationship- more like friends with bebefits- but is it crossing the line

No. It's your life, so do what you want & live w. no regrets.

What is dry sex?? i dont understand what it is? it is really bad? or something innocent the name makes it sound like its close to sex

It's sex with your clothes on. It's actually better than real sex though because this way you won't get pregnant.

I need advice on straightening/relaxing my eyelahes. They are so curled up and short, mascara makes them look stubby.

Please don't tell me I'm lucky to have them, this isn't the long, lush type of curl I have. This is the too tightly wound curl that won't cooperate.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks!

Why the hell would you want to straighten your eyelashes?

You'd burn your damn face off, and you'd practically deserve it for wanting to do something so dumb.

okay so there's this friend of mine and she just found out who i like----she's known the guy a lot longer than i have and she's used to be good friends with him, and now that she knows she always says stuff to me "playfully" like "oh he likes me better" and its kinda getting really irratating cause i like this guy even though its a weird match...(which she has also said to me "oh you guys would be a weird match),,,, and im completely confused cause she really likes this other guy so,,,,,,,

it just confuses me--- or am i just overthinkin it??
cause she does this kinda stuff to me a lot with making me feel shitty

Tell her to stop, because she knows how you feel.

Or you could slam her head into a locker. That's usually what I would do.

OK... so I liked this guy(Tim) for about two months. Then I finally fessed up to him and he said that he felt the same way. He asked me to be his gf about two days later. But no one was happy for me! My friends said that he wasn't worthy of me and that he wasn't nearly good enough. But I really really liked him so I still went out with him. But now, he's just like scared of me! He won't talk to me except for on email, he will barely even look at me. (Not that I've noticed. A few of my friends have caught him staring at me.) I really really like Tim but I want him to be a little closer to me and stop acting like I'm something to be scared of. =(

Ask him why he acts that way. He probably acts like that because he probably knows what your friends think of him.

But seriously, fuck what your friends think. If you like him, that's all the matters.

Ok well on friday night i was hangingout with some of my guy friends and my bf wasnt answering his phone because he was at a party and i was really upset. So my one friend called him and left hima nasty voice mail. Well later that night i was texting him and he sed he couldnt talk for some reason. So i got really pissed at him because he should be able to answer his phone and tell me that he cant talk right now. later that night i found out that he was cheating on me and i was really upet i cried all weekend. I called him on saturday to talk to him about it to see if it was true. he didnt pick up his phone. he was supposed to meet me at the movies but never showed. All my friends told me something was up but i didnt think so at first but his friend told me he was with a girl on friday and that hurt me like really bad. I have been in bad relationships before and i dont know wat to do i really love him and i dont want to let him go. please help me!!
I want to tlak to him about it to see if is true but hes not answering his phone because hes mad at me because this kid kissed me but i pushed away and left. What should i do??
thanks
~katelyn~

Try & IM him, and if he doesn't respond tell him that when he's ready to grow up, to call you.

And if he really is cheating on you, then leave him. He doesn't really love you, so why the fuck should you love him.

I posted a question about sex and being molested on friday. Many people who gave me advice told me that I should see some kind of psychologist or therapist.

Last year, my parents split and my school councelor suggested a therapist for me to go to.

I went to this lady and she only saw me once, we set up a meeting for another date, and I left. I came back the next week and she wasn't in her office, she wouldn't answer her phone, and I never got any kind of call back from her so I just quit going.

Now the problem is that not only do I not have a school councelor but now my dad is not willing to pay for a therapist and he thinks I don't need any help.

How do I convince my dad to take me to another one?

Tell him how it's effecting you. If he loves you, he'll get you help.

Drop a guilt bomb on him. That usually works for me.

15/f. when a boy asks you out in person, what are you supposed to say? you can't just say YES. that would be weird. what else can i say?

Yeah you can.

hiii [: i just signed up for
a gym and im just wondering what
equipment i could use to get rid
of my gut. ive been using the treadmill
and eliptical the past two times ive
been there. any suggestions would
be greatly apprecaited =]

Ask a trainer for a machine that targets abs.

i want to have sex with my boyfriend. but he is a couple years older then me and definitely way more experienced then i am. i am afraid that if i have sex with him then thats all our relationship will be about. and i dont want that. so should i just wait to have sex with him?

Tell him your concerns. He's your boyfriend, and if he loves you, he'll understand where you're coming from. Tell him you don't want the relationship to be about sex.

If you're questioning sex, or doubting it, then you shouldn't go through with it. Wait until you're completely ready. And also, when you do have sex, always use protection. Preferably a condom & birth control.

how do you know when you "popped your cherry"

and should i be embarassed that i bled on his fingers?

:(

Usually, you don't feel hymen being broken. And you shouldn't be embarassed because he'll know he broke your cherry, so it shouldn't be much to worry about. =)

I work for a solicitor in a town in Australia. This morning my boss came out to me and another work mate and told us that we may have to start looking for new jobs in the next few weeks.

He told us that he's going to have to close the business because he will be declared bankrupt if he can't do anything about it before the 16th of April!

I don't want to lose my job, I love working here! The girls are great, I like the work, but we are struggling for money every week to pay us!

Is there anyway at all that I could possibly do something to help my boss keep his business going?

I feel so sorry for him, he has no family and his life is dedicated to this place! I just want to help him out.

Any suggestions? Thank you so much!

Try some fundraisers. If people like the place you work at, and they like the service, then they'll do anything they can to try & save it.

I would talk it over with the other employees & try to see what you guys can do to try & save your jobs, & the business for the sake of your boss, and you.

Well, first offf I am on the obese side, and I am looking for a plus sized goth clothing store In the kent county/Grand Rapids Michigan area. I can't seem to find much even as any gothic clothing at all, except hot topic, which there stuff gets worn down easily since they are knockoffs. I can't order online either.

I would try some thrift stores. I know it seems odd, but you might find something there. And also, try Hot Topic some more. The stuff there is pretty good, and though it gets worn down easily, you could always get band tees/hoodies & whatnot. And accessories.

i just can't take my life anymore. i have issues with my family, alot of my close friends treat me like crap and are hypocrites/manipultive jealous attention-seekers, i dont have a boyfriend or anything, nothings really going right.

im just so sick of everything.
no im not suicidal at all.
i just feel like crap.
i can't wait to go to collage and move out of this place.
any suggestions - how do i make myself feel better?

[1] Try to work things out with your family. What exactly are they doing to make issues with you? Are they not allowing you to do something, or are they setting limits you think are unncessary? Or do you think they're out to ruin your life. Most of the time, family does the things they do because they care for you & only want whats best for you. That could be the case, but you're seeing it differently. It's happened to be a ton. But I'd talk things out with them. Maybe you can come up with a solution to the problems you've been having.

[2] If your friends are treating you so horribly, then find new friends. If your friends are doing these things to you, they're not really your friends & they never were to begin with. Find someone who shares your interests, or that you think is cool. And try to stay away from these old friends. They seem like bad news to me.

[3] As for a boyfriend, it's not too important to have one. Guys can often complicate things, or take away from your concentration. Especially when you're young. You spend most of your time thinking about them, and then you lose concentration or focus on what's really important. And you don't need a guy to make you happy, even if that's how it seems. Guys aren't all that great. So don't worry about guys. But maybe find a friend who's a guy who will be good to you. Some of the guys I've met have ended up becoming pretty good friends, and sometimes my boyfriend. Just wait. =) There's someone out there for you, but when you find them, don't lose focus on what's really important [school, confidence, work].

When you feel upset, look on the bright side of things. You've got a place to live, you've got an education, and you've got clothes or things other people don't have. Trust me, you don't really have it as bad as you think. Some kids get abused, or never know who their real parents are. Some kids have to grow up in homes with substance abusers, or people who just don't care. And some kids have a new home every month from foster care. And some kids end up in adoption agencies. There's a lot of poor, and homeless people. There's people who can't see, or hear. People who can't walk, or talk. So trust me, you don't have it as bad as you think. You've actually got it pretty good, but things aren't going that way right now.

Things will get better. I promise you.

Few things actually.

1) Do you think it's possible to find true love online?
2) Do you think its a good thing, or a bad thing?

ANYWAYS:
I met this guy (online) and we became really close, he became really passionate about me and I to him. But over the past week those feelings began to fade for me and I told him. I feel really bad, he's amazing and he has a heart of gold but I think he deserves someone he can be with physically. I know he's hurt, and I feel really really bad. What should I do?

[1] It can be possible with like a dating site like www.match.com or eharmony.com or something like that because they take your likes/dislikes & match it up to someone close to you, who shares the same interests. So, it is possible.

[2] In my opinion, I think it's a bad thing. You hear all these cases of rape, or murder because of meeting someone you met online in person. I think it's a dangerous thing. I mean, the person you're talking to could really be a 45 year old lonely guy with pictures of child porn all over his walls. You never know exactly who you're talking to, so it could be potentionally dangerous if you tried to meet them in person.

So for sites like MySpace & Facebook & whatever else is out there, only add the people you know such as family, friends, or people from your school. =)

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