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Online Love
Few things actually.
1) Do you think it's possible to find true love online?
2) Do you think its a good thing, or a bad thing?
ANYWAYS:
I met this guy (online) and we became really close, he became really passionate about me and I to him. But over the past week those feelings began to fade for me and I told him. I feel really bad, he's amazing and he has a heart of gold but I think he deserves someone he can be with physically. I know he's hurt, and I feel really really bad. What should I do?
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i think online is a easy and fun way to get to know people and once you start talking to them on the phone and trust them more..then maybe meet up with that person with some friends..but having internet relationship isn't that bad of a thing..u can get to know people and see what people like if your the shy type of person or not good with starting convos. in person and it can be fun in your younger years so when you do have a real bf/gf you'll have some ideas of how to act and be.
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Don't feel guilty. Online love is fake, you can feel fake attraction and maybe like but not love. He may be hurt now but in a week he'll be laughing at how lame he was at internet dating. Seriously.
In answer to your questions:
1) Yes. You may meet someone that lives close to you so you meet up and fall in love. But if you live 2,000 light years away there will always be a missing gap.
2) It depends also. Not only will you have a gap but there's the possibility they are not who they say they are ect.
My friend found internet love with a guy who lives in another state but he sometimes comes to where we live and hangs out, he's a cool guy and they are a cute couple.
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online = serious lack of intimacy that you get irl. you can think you know all about a person but know nothing. when you talk irl it provides time/quick conversations in which you can learn a lot of different things.
I do not believe in true love online at all.
eharmony and match.com are just artificial. Nothing beats reality.
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Yes I think it is possible!
It could be a good or bad thing!
Just because your feelings are starting to dissolve doesn't mean that you can't be friends and that you can't be close with him!
Tell him that you feel like its for his best interest that you two see other people in your own towns because you feel as though you can't have a relationship without physical affection!
Tell him that he's been nothing but great to you and that you do realise that he is hurt but this is how things have to be now and he should support that!
Just be nice to him though, right now he's probably feeling like his world has just come down but give it time and he should and will understand that this is the best!
I'm sure neither of you are going to move towns just so be together, you may find out your not really what each other want!
Hope I helped :)
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[1] It can be possible with like a dating site like www.match.com or eharmony.com or something like that because they take your likes/dislikes & match it up to someone close to you, who shares the same interests. So, it is possible.
[2] In my opinion, I think it's a bad thing. You hear all these cases of rape, or murder because of meeting someone you met online in person. I think it's a dangerous thing. I mean, the person you're talking to could really be a 45 year old lonely guy with pictures of child porn all over his walls. You never know exactly who you're talking to, so it could be potentionally dangerous if you tried to meet them in person.
So for sites like MySpace & Facebook & whatever else is out there, only add the people you know such as family, friends, or people from your school. =)
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1) Honestly, no.
2) I personally think it's a bad thing. You never know how a person actually is without meeting them. Anyone can be anything over the internet and it's really hard to trust people this way.
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You don't deserve to feel bad. You're not doing anything wrong and I'm sure that he understands what you're saying even if he may not agree with it. I also think that he appriciates the fact that you want what's best for him. Even though he's upset right now, there's nothing you can do. He needs to respect your decision.
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