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I've just moved to a new school
i met this guy who i am now best friends with.
he asked me out but i turned him down, coz i don't like him in that way.
he understands completely, and we are still best friends.
I recently went to the movies with him, and he didn't tell me that there were two other guys there.
One of the guys i know, and i get along pretty well with him.
But the other guy i knew was in my science class, and I don't know him at all, apart from his name.
When we all gather around a desk to do an experiment or something, he always stands opposite me and looks at me and smiles.
I completely and utterly am in love with him!
So anyway, after the movie was over, we all went to the arcade.
I was just sitting on the bench while the other two guys played on the games, but this guy i like came and sat next to me.
We didn't say anything for awhile, but then he said, "Oh I think I'm in your science class." and I said "Yeah you are".
From then on we basically didn't stop talking!
We left the arcade and walked around the mall, and we were still talking.
Then it was time for me to go home.
My parents agreed to meet me at the front of the movies, but then the guy i like said that he would walk me home.
I looked at him and went "what?" and the other two guys looked at him and started laughing their heads off, and he looked a bit embarassed (awwww! haha) but we all agreed that i should stick to the plan that me and my parents agreed on at the start.
So we went up to to the movies, and my parents came and got me.

The next day, Monday, I saw him in science.
I smiled at him and he smiled back.
We started talking again, and he started talking about this girl he went to the mall with the other day, a girl called *sarah* (not me) and he was also talking about this other girl called *bianca* (also not me haha) and, well, i started to get a bit jealous. (thats not their real names by the way)
But it's just the way he looks at me, it's like he wants to know me, and I want to know him.
I just don't know how I can ask him for his email, or something like that, without seeming too desperate.
I have his friend's email???
please help!

Here are some methods you could try:

Ask if he wants to hang out again, tell him you had alot of fun the first time.

If he says yes, ask for his cell phone number so you can let him know what time/what you want to do!

OR.
You could be straight forward and say "Hey, can I call you sometime?" and go from there.

.. and you can always get his number/email adress from friends, but that might creep him out a bit O.O

Flirt a bunch with him though. If you have to have partners in science, ask him to be your partner!

Good Luck

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do you know where i could get any really good hair straighters that dont damage your hair. Ones like Chi and Sedu?

I know CHI's are sold at Ulta.
But I'm not sure if you have an Ulta in your area. Sally Beauty Supplies or other high class salons in your area should have some.

I checked online about SeDus, you have to either order them of the internet or go to a special salon to purchase one, theres usually only one or two salons in the state that sell the SeDu's.

www.sedubeauty.com

Good Luck

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ok so
im suppose to be getting my period soon
and i have a party to go to on friday
and my friend has a hot tub
and im not one of those people who like tampons
i just never wear them
and when i try to put them in they hurt
either im doing ti wrong but i dont think thats it
or do i have like a problem?
or is it just that my "down there" isnt used to it at all
help?!

I was terrified of tampons for the longest time.
It took me about half a year to work up the courage to trying them. Sure, it may hurt a little bit the first time, but trust me, the pain goes away VERY quickly.

Also, the more you try to put them in, the more little tricks you learn to making the tampon slide in easier.

Just relax, breathe steadily, angle the tampon up and slighty towards your butt, and slowly push the tampon in until your fingers touch your vagina. Then push in the applicator and wa-la!

Good luck

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I've tried to stop drinking soda but going without the caffeine gives me headache. I've cut down on it so now its only once in a while but does anyone know a way to cut it out completely and replace it with something else???

Hey there;

I have this problem too, I can go up to 3-4 cans a day, even one before school because I thought I wouldn't be able to stay awake in class without it.

Here are a couple different methods to stopping the addition:
1) Ask your parents to STOP buying soda, this way thers no oppurtunity for you to drink any.

2) Day by day drink one less soda and one more bottle of water, this way you are getting more water into your system to flush out the toxins in soda. (It takes about 6 waters to make up for one can of soda)

3) Capris Sun, I grab those everytime I want a soda. They're fun to drink and easy to take with you.

Also:
-Water is more fun to drink thru a straw. Think about it, most people actually enjoy drinking water thru a straw, this may help you drink more water. Sounds crazy but its true.

-If you replace 3 cans of soda a day with water you can lose/keep off up to 5lbs a week for the first week or so. Then about 1-3lbs for a few weeks after that until you completley get rid of the soda.

Remember, old habits are hard to break.
So take it slow and don't be discouraged.
Good luck

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Hi...I liked this guy for 3 years now.And everyday at school i see him in the hallway and he sees me 2.Iwant to know 2 things.

1.How do i get him to notice me without him knowing?

2.How do i know if he likes me?



Thanx 4 your help!

Flirt, Flirt, Flirt.
Start up by simply smiling and saying "Hey" when you see him. Slowly move it up to a conversation, like "Hey how are you?" then "Hey, I like you're shirt" or something easy like that.

If he's got a screenname or a myspace try talking to him on that, this may be easier then just waltzing up to him and chatting away.

Once you two start to become better friends, then lay down the flirting. Smile when you talk to him, touch his arm, giggle at the funny things he says, look into his eyes.

I suggest the purchase of a deep perfume. I personally love Fantasy by Britney Spears. Alot of guys notice when I wear this, which is great. Guys LOVE when a girl smells good.

Here is a website with tips to flirting if you're clueless to the topic:
http://www.myjellybean.com/flirt/flirt.html

Heres a test to see if he likes you:
Smile at him, if he eagerly smiles back, its a yes!
If its sorta a half, shy smile, maybe he likes you but he's just quiet about it.
If its sorta an ackward who-are-you smile back, then its probably a no.

Good Luck

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well. i straighten my hair every morning. it will look fine. but when i go outside to wait for my bus its gets wavey and frizzy.

what can i do to make it not get frizzy??


Sounds alot like my problem, humidity.
Do you live down south? This may be the cause.

Try De-Frizz shampoo and conditioner by SunSilk.

When you get out of the shower:
(1) Wrap your hair in a COTTON shirt. Some towels are made out of terry cloth, which can promote frizziness.

(2) Apply a straightening moose to hair when it is a little more then damp, be sure to brush in well.

(3) Blow dry straight with a roll brush.

(4) Flat iron hair.

(5) Apply hairspray and comb in well to prevent clumpyness.

When you're waiting for your bus try pulling your hair into a LOSE low pony tail with a scruncii. When you get to school, pull it out and brush quickly.

Good Luck

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I have 3 C's, 2 1 B, and 2 A's. I need help to raise my C's to a higher grade before my parents get a notice.

What are some good study tips?
Also, what is my point average?
Thanks!

I wasn't planning on answering this question because you already had seven answers but when I saw the answers I decided to help out.

Find a place, either a desk or a table, away from TV's, radios, phones, or a window, this way you'll stay focus.

Read the material, re-read, and highlight important information. You can color code things such as vocab. words, key terms, and essential dates and facts with different color highlighters.

If its a math problem, check all problems over with a calculator if possible.

Go over work done in class and re-read the chapter of your class book to help review all information your teacher may have pointed out. Begin studying for each test or quiz at least three nights before the actual quiz date.

You're brain remembers things in 5 to 10 minute intervals. So every 10 or so minutes, take a small break. Walk down stairs, get a drink, listen to ONE song, get a quick snack, nothing big, 5 minutes tops. Then go back to studying, this way your brain can focus on one thing at a time.

Also, if you don't, keep an agenda, I suggest purchasing one to help you remember everything.
Make sure to write down all class assignments, when projects are due, and when a test or quiz may come up.

If you would like to go that far, you may look for a tutor. If you choose to take that path, you're teacher or school supervisor can give you the best choices for a tutor.

Good Luck!

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i just got a pallete expander,(it widens your jaw out) and.... i kinda have a lisp,i cant say some letters,im wondering,will the lisp go away after i get used to it?

Yuck, I had one when I had braces in second grade. I never quite perfected my S`s until a few months after getting the expander put in.

However, my boyfriend just got an expander and he only talked funny for three or four days.

So it really depends on the person, just try practice your letters at night in front of a mirror if you would like them to go away quicker. :)

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okay im the one who didn't know what to get my guy frined/ guy i like for his bday. so i went with the classic and just burned him two cds. cause i didn't have time to do anything else. do you have any suggestions what to write on his card. something cute & funny?? haha.i'm in desperate need of help. and we don't have many inside jokes. so i just need some sweet idea to write :D that'd be nice. please and thnak you

Happy Birthday _____
I hope your birthday is jammin`.
Just like the CD`s.
(If you like to be cheesy, hah)

Happy 14th _____ ! (Idk if thats his age)
I hope your birthday is as great as you.
(If you want to be cute)

Happy 14th Birthday!
____, I hope your birthday is as amazing as you are. Best wishes on your special day.
(If you want to be classic)

Need anymore help?
Just lemme know, good luck

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I found out that quite a few classmates of mine have tried marijuana or weed. This really shocked me because I didn't think highschoolers did that sort of thing, or that drugs were even available. They told me that the drugs really aren't that bad, that they're actually safer than cigarettes, and that they aren't addictive. Are they right? How many highschoolers do drugs usually? Am I naive to have believed that?

I`m in eighth grade and about 1/3 of the students in my grade are using drugs, have tried them, smoke/ tried smoking, or drink.

It's pretty common these days but I`m not saying its a good thing to do. I've lost ALOT of friends, including the girl that was my very best friend for so so so long. I myself have never tried anything however.

You're somewhat naive to believe that no one does them, however I used to think the same.

Theres no such thing at "good drugs" when it comes to illegal drugs. And yes, they are addictive. You're "friends" sound like they're trying to get you into them, but stay clear.

Most highschoolers have tried and or use them. I'm not saying all do, but most have, unfortunatley.

Hope I helped

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okay so i like this guy and his birthday is coming up this week, and we're pretty good friends. he's turning fourteen and likes soccer & golf, what should i get him or make him? we're not going out..at least not yet so it has to be friendly but special :) kthx for your help

ps. i need to get him something because my birthday's comming up after his and he said he'd get me something.

Sounds athletic; Try a hat filled with his favorite candies, treats, or his favorite CD/DVD. Be sure its a hat with a team logo from say maybe his favorite sports team.

If he's not into hats, you could get his a soccer ball and maybe write some of yall's inside jokes or something on the white diamond things.

OR.
You could always do the classic burning him a CD of all his favorite songs.

Good Luck

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I really wanna look good in my clothes and wear designer stuff but it's expensive and I was wondering where I could get clothes that look like designer. but i don't wanna be called a loser for wearing knock-offs and stuff. please help me find some good shops.

I wear lots of designer clothes (American Rag, YMI, Ralph Lauren) and my secret is, I buy it all from stores like TJ Maxx, Marshalls, Ross, and thrift stores =]

Also, I like to showcase one special designer piece and downplay it with other cute accessories. For example, were a super cute pair of jeans with a shirt and an adorable belt with coordinating earrings and necklaces.

Try stores like Charlotte Russe, RUE 21, Forever 21, 5-7-9, they all have very cute clothes for very affordable prices :)

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im only in 8th grade so i do need help

okay last year when i was in 7th grade i thought this kid brandon was ugly because he had a afro
and now he dosent have one and he looks way better but he dosent no i like him

and i get like 10 dollars a day for lunch money(im no fat) and when i go into third period with brandon i always give him money i dont no why and when i go to sit in my seat he stares at me alot and i stare at him back like the other day he came to sit by me to copy my homework and he kept messing up on a easy word and he was like im not stupid sarah just to let you no and like to me he talks real nice and stares at me
and what should i do PLEASE HELP ME

Flirt back.
Smile at him, if he smiles back its a yes.
Talk to him, walk with him in the halls. Make him laugh, laugh when he says something funny. Touch his arm or his hand when you guys talk and complement him. Don`t over do it though, otherwise you`ll look clingy.

Ask him to hang out sometime, get close.
Soon enough he should ask you out.

Good luck

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how do i stop caring about what people think of me?

Confidence;
In sixth grade, I was horrible. I believed everything people said to me and about me. I felt so ugly compared to everyone.

Then I started taking peoples complements to heart. I realized, "Hey maybe I do have good hair"

Everynight, look in the mirror and say three good things about yourself. Try reading magazines to help fix areas you maybe need help in (Clean skin, hair, style) Just stay confident. Ignore stupid stuff people say to you. It`ll be hard for a bit, but will become easier. I`m totally confident today and when I hear stuff about myself, I just think "Jealousy" Just stay confident, thats the best advice anyone on this site can give you in this case.

Good luck

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i want to talk louder..at school im quiet, i feel stupid if i talk loud. but i dont want to be known as "the quiet person". i think i might be shy, but im not really, i think?? i dont know, but i want to know how to talk louder and not feel stupid after for thinkin i said somthing stupid. i dont know..

Ohhh man, this is deff. a question for me.
Ask anyone at my school, I`m loud.
Infact, Big Mouth, is my jersey name on volleyball.

Heres a few tips:

1)Don't be afraid to say something funny/sarcastic when the time is right.
2)Don't butt into other people's conversations though.
3)Smile and say hi to pretty much everyone.
4)Be confident in what you say, practice some funny jokes to tell a crowd if you want.
5)Sing a song, laugh loudly, talk loud.
6)Just enjoy yourself, enjoy other people's company.

The most important thing an outgoing person can be is CONFIDENT. Good luck

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A friend and I are conducting this interterw with a celeb. Any advice and any advice what to ask and how it should go? I never done one before and I have the jitters(nervousness) so any advuce would be great. thanks. :)

Don`t worry, the stars are deff. used to people spazzing when they first meet he/she for the first time, so it won't be a big deal if you can't hold back your emotions, hah.

But be sure to ask all the questions nessicary, but don't go overboard. Try to stay as calm as possible and talk clearly. Make sure you record the data EXACTLY how the celeb. says it.

Just relax, take some slow breaths if you need too, then ask away. Good luck!

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whenever im at school, i always look bad and it weird.. cause whenever im at home or somewhere NOT school, i look MUCH better .. what could it be that makes me look bad?

Oh goodness, I used to be just like that.
But I realized it was simply because I was comparing myself to all the other pretty girls at my school. When I saw the good points in them, I saw more flaws in me. But when I got home, I had no one to compare myself too, so I didn't look so bad.

This may be your problem, just try to stay positive and concentrate on something you really like about your hair that day.

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do you think skinny jeans would look bad on athletic thighs? or are they only made for skinny people because my thighs are kinda big at the top compared to the rest of my thighs, and i was wondering if it would look bad.

Dark wash jeans might be okay.
I know Hollister sells really dark denim skinny jeans.
Urban Outfitters sells black and grey ones too.

Some skinny jeans are super super tight, others have breathing room. I suggest trying different stores, you can't really tell how something is going to look on you until you look in the mirror. Also, be sure to get a second opinion!

Good luck

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there are these two cliches and i dont know which one i should be in. the one i want to be in is the preps and stuff;but i hang out with the other because i dont know how to fit in. should i move with the one i want to be in and see what happes? what if the other gets mad and stuff? help, i hate cliches

I`m a floater, I don`t stick to one group. I have several friends in every class because of that. I recommend being outgoing and sweet to everyone that way if you don`t feel like hanging out with one certain group one day you can hang out with someone else.

Keep people's secrets, don't lie.
Hang out with people that make you feel good,
make sure you can be yourself around them.
No one likes fakes, trust me.

Just have fun, enjoy friends.
Try staying friends with both groups,
have seperate times to hang out with each one.
Good luck

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today i went to school looking very bad. my makeup was all smeared down my face and my hair looked retarded even tho i straitened it.. i didnt relize i looked so bad til i got home and fixed it and i looked a whole lot better. how do i keep this from happening again?

I've noticed thats happened to me alot lateley too;

Apply straightening mousse (I use Pantene Pro-V`s brand) when you hair is damp, blow dry it straight, straighten it, sleep on it, then wake up in the morning and touch it up. I`ve found this helpes amazingly to make it stay straight all day. If you have PE, try not to tie it back.

If you can, try stopping by the bathroom every once in a while between class periods, just wash off any smeared liner and reapply if you have time. Also, if you don't have time keep a mirror in your locker or your purse.

Be sure to apply deoderant (if you don't) before you go to school, also try some perfume to keep your body smelling fresh, the last thing you need is body odor.

Good luck!

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