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Q: I have this friend (we'll call her Bella) and i absoluetly love her to death. Like, we have been best friends FOREVER. No lie. So now we are 13, and like, guys are really starting to come into her life. She also seems to attract guys who are players and only want her for her ass. Then they will dump her after they get what they want, and she will hate them. Three weeks later, shes like all over them again. It makes me mad, because shes just like giving herself away. I know i should just let her handle it, but her sister turned out a total slut and troublemaker and she started how Bella is starting. I just dont want her to like go down the wrong path, because i like love her to death! We are fuhreaking like sisters.
Sorry its so long =/
Any suggestions on how I can get her to be a little more reserved and not as "easy"?

This is a really bad situation, and it happens a lot.

It's really upsetting to see your friends heading somewhere you know is wrong and they don't realize it. But, the only thing you can do is talk to her about your concern. Tell her that it really hurts you to see her get used and she deserves better than what she's putting herself out there for.

Likely she may take it the wrong way or think that what she's doing is no big deal. And it will take more than a concerned friend to make her see how much she's letting herself get hurt for now and possibly forever.

The important thing is that you let her know how you felt and that if she continues down this way, don't let her drag you down with her. You know it's not the way to go, so don't let her convince you that what she's doing is ok, because it isn't. Like I said, a lot of people go through this, and they end up changing you in ways you never thought would happen. I think that is what's happening with your friend.

If you need anymore help, don't hesistate to ask

-TheTeenGirl

Q: Age: 15, gender: female

ok, so.... I've been dating my bf, sam for almost 3 months, but I'm not sure if I wannabe with him anymore. I broke up with him once already a month ago but got back together with him after a few days bacause i felt really bad and i kind missed him. The reasons I broke up with him in the 1st place have only gotten worse though, he tends to be controlling and he's jealous of any other guy i hang out with. Not nly that, but I'm starting to have feelings for my friend Patryk. You see, Patryk has a gf right now, but they're on a rocky part of thir relationship like me and sam. He's even talking about breaking it off with her to me. He's a really great guy though and I'd love to be with him, but I'm not sure if i should break up with my boyfriend to try and be with him. Especially because my bf has a suicidal history and last time i broke up with him he went all suicidal on me and everything and I just don;t wanna have to worry about that. Am I crazy to try and take this risk or should i just stay with my current bf and deal with it? ...cuz he does have some really great moments.

Definetly don't deal with this current boyfriend anymore.

Anyone who ever tries to control you, or is way too jealous just because you interact with the opposite sex, get out of that relationship. But I think you need to notify your parents about this situation and how this guy gets when you try to move on without him. You need support when it comes to this, so get help and use it.

Right now that is what you should worry about. Getting out.

-TheTeenGirl

Q: okay well this is kinda weird but like everytime i shave . wel down there. its never like completely shaved & its embarassing. & it like hurts to shave there most of the time. its mainly at the top :\ is there like a special way or what? i really need help. ill rate high

Shaving that area won't be completely bare like your legs. They'll always grow back a tiny bit and feel rough.

It's common to feel a little akward and a bit painful when it comes to shaving this area too. You have to be pretty careful because if you try shaving it after the hair has grown for a while, you have to shave there over and over until all of it is gone. And if you shave too soon, you can get really bad razor burns.

It's also really hard to find out which way to shave on this area. For the top, you should try taking it from side to side instead of up and down. When you shave all of the hair up and down, it's practicly combing the hair instead of removing it. As for going down a little more, I prefer going from bottom to top. I'm not exactly sure if theres a right or wrong way, but every girl does it differently. If you find the way you are doing it unbearable, try a new direction on the areas.

Also, this is very important. A dull razor will never remove all of the hairs. So be sure to use a fresh razor when you shave this area. And after you are done, apply a medicated lotion on it and that will help it feeling softer and smoother and if razor burns occur, it won't become as itchy.

-TheTeenGirl

Q: me&my boyfriend broke up like 3 months ago, and i really liked him a lot and it took me forever to get over him. i finally moved on and now i like this kid and we are good friends. i dunno if i should tell him that i like him caz last time i did the guy was just like ok and he didn't care. i kinda think the guy i like likes me back but if he doesnt i dont wanna lose ouur friendship. i think he knows that i kinda like him he tells me on the phone that he knows who i like but he just laughs and doesnt tell me. we are "married" but thats as farr as its gotten. oh yah and we are both 13

thanks

If you really do want this guy to know that you like him, let him know if you can work up the courage to say so. Remember that not all guys will react to that the exact same way. So in other words, this guy might tell you he likes you back.

If you can't really find the nerve to say it, then you'll have to beat around the bush with it. Keep the friendship going and push it bit by bit. Play marriages are also a pretty good sign that he likes you. So, don't let a guy in the past keep you from admitting something that most girls can never admit to a guy!

-TheTeenGirl

Q: i have to meet my boyfriend's parents tomorrow. and tips on how to make a good impression?

Be respectful. No matter what kind of parents they seem to be, treating them with respect is a great way to show his parents that their son is dating a mature young respectful lady.

Dress appropriatly. Not any shirts with profanity, or a political statement. Wear something casual, but in a little fancy way. Look nice, this is a first impression.

Shake their hand if they go to shake yours, look at them with a smile and tell them it's nice to meet them. They don't want a girl whose shy and will hardly even wave, make them think you've been waiting to meet them and you are happy.

And all together importantly, be yourself and don't push your limits with this impression. In other words, don't try so hard! Relax and have a nice time, start some conversation. If they ask about you, just tell them a little about yourself.

-TheTeenGirl

Q: Well in 13 and a girl.A lot of things have happened to me.I just got glasses that i hate.
And last year i got in this fight with tuckermen (a guy im sapposed to like)well not anymore.Me and him have gotten closer.Like friends ya know like chill in the class room and stuff.But i cnat like him and ive asked a question like this before and it was great advice but i was looking for something more.Dont wel please dont say well ask him out because i cant i cant!!!!!I would ahve to say me and tuckermen are kinda good friends.I cryed like a few fridays ago and he cared and i like that he cared.That day he asked if i was ok and every like 5 minuetes or less would look over at me in class.I dont know if you would call that a flirt or not.But in like normal class he looks over once in a wile and sometime will smile or jot his head back down really fast.Donno if thats flirting or not.I dont want to liek him but ive tryed telling myself that and its not working.But me liking him is not ganna go anywhere only a crush.I dont know if he likes me or not .
how can i tell if a guy likes me or not.

I remember answering your question.

I really don't know why you are so obsessed with telling yourself that you can't like him, but I think you really do like him a lot. He shows a lot of concern for you now, and people may change a lot and it surprises you. So this may be a surprising change in Tuckermen.

I think that when he looks at you, and asks you if you are ok are very good signs of him having a crush on you.

I know that you care a lot whether this guy likes you or not, but why do you? You say that it won't be anymore than just a crush and yet you are dying to know whether or not he likes you. I don't think it will be the end of the world if you give him a chance at being a boyfriend to you. And if he's not the right guy, then thats ok too.

I'm not going to make you ask him out, but if you truly want something to happen, then have your friend ask this guy how he feels about you. And don't feel ashamed if you really DO want something to happen between you both. It's normal. Don't let other people tell you otherwise.

-TheTeenGirl

Q: I'm still in love with my exboyfriend. I haven't talked to him much since we broke up in August but he's always been on my mind. Well I asked him to be on my team for an academic game and he agreed so we were going to meet somewhere ( me him and my other partner ) and I was thinking about telling him I still loved him but I fear rejection A LOT. Its almost impossible for me to ask someone out...no matter how much I love them. What should I do? PLEASE HELP

If he was the one who ended the relationship, I'd say you are better off not seeing him until you start getting over him. But when you do see him at this Academic game, you should wait for him to show a few signs if he likes you or not again. I don't think you'll feel good being dumped and then finding yourself throwing yourself at him!

If you ended the relationship, you start showing your flirty and cute side and then later you can probably go get something to eat or go to a park and then you may be able to try getting the courage to let him know that you still love him. Also, try asking important questions first, like if he is seeing someone currently. And if he is, then don't go after him.

-TheTeenGirl

Q: ok sorry this might be long ill rate all 5's for your time.

i like this guy and he said he likes me back but he doesnt trust girls cause he's been hurt in the past. My one friend who is friends with him too talked to him about it and tried to get it threw his head that i wouldnt hurt him like that and i've tried also. i just dont know what to do anymore i like him so0o0o0o much and ill wait for him. but i dont know sometimes i think im wasting my time cause he'll never date me.

any advice on what to do?
thanks !

It's going to take this guy a lot to realize that you have to reach out and trust someone even though you've been let down before. It happens to everyone. And that lets us know some signs of whether this next person can be trusted.

I think right now you and your friend should leave him alone and let him decide whether or not he's going to trust right now. Nobody else will be able to convince him otherwise. This is something he must do. Plus, don't try to make him promises that you won't hurt him, you don't even know whether or not you will be ok with this guy once you start going together. Give him time and I'm sure he'll come around soon.

-TheTeenGirl

Q: well there's this guy and i really like him, i have since november. the problem is, is that he has a girlfriend. they have been together since october. and my friend just moved back to my school ( i used to be friends with her at my old school and now shes back) and she knows that i like him, and she flirts with him and i think she likes him and hes a flirty guy and he does with a lot of girls including me, but i dont like it when she tells me that he flirts with her and stuff.. and if she were my friend and knew i liked him why would she say that? and .. i really like him and for the guys out there.. what are some ways to distract him from his girlfriend.. get his attention..bc im sick of waiting for them to break up, bc it doesnt look like its going to happen anytime soon even though my other friends say they will because they have been together for so long. please help.. i rate high

I think you are being really selfish.

You want to break up a relationship so that you can get what you want. No, it doesn't matter that this girl has feelings for him too, and that he actually likes her too. You should get him and thats that. And I think that you are totally self-centered.

So you say that your friend is flirting with him too. Don't you think that if you can flirt with him even thought he has girlfriend that she can too? You and your friend are in the wrong, and I truly believe that you have no right getting mad at your friend as if he's yours. He has a girlfriend and you are being really rude about it.

So stop whining about this guy and start putting yourself in this girlfriend's shoes, you wouldn't like it if some girl were trying to be with your boyfriend at all.

-TheTeenGirl

Q: okay so, I like this guy. And I believee that he knows that I like him, but I'm not sure. Well anyway we're usually real sweet to each other, but today, we didn't talk to each other at all. Like in Math, we sit next to each other. And we kept looking at each other but we wouldn't talk. He would keep looking over at me and stuff. And to me, he sounded sad whenever he talked out loud to the class or something, but he didn't sound sad to some other people. Well anwyay, when I didn't know what the date was, I asked the kid in front of me. And usually I ask the kid that I like. So when I asked Chad (kid in front) what the date was, the boy I like (g) looked over at me and sorta shook his head (i dont know i saw him out of the corner of my eye) and like looked back down at his paper. So then we didn't talk at all and we usually give each other high fives whenever we see each other and everything. And I asked him if he wanted to hang out on Friday yesterday but everything was fine after i asked him, so I don't think that's why.

So I guess what I'm wondering is...

1) Tomorrow, I'm planning on walking with him to our first period class and asking him if we can talk about some stuff. Is this a good idea?
2) Why am I like ultra depressed about this?

I think it's ok to talk to him if thats what you are asking. Just talk to him instead of saying, "we need to talk" just start a conversation.

You are probably a little sad because you didn't feel the connection you both usually have that day. But don't make it bigger than it is. It's one day that didn't go the exact same way and thats normal. I think you should take everything slower and if you can't seem to talk to him the way you used to, you can always try asking him if everything is alright and you notice that he seems down. Maybe he'll open up to you if you show him your concern.

-TheTeenGirl

Q: me and my boyfriend get along great we hav alot of similar interests but we only really talk about his stuff when were chatting on the computer... i embaress myself around him like randomly start talking to myself...dnt ask me why... i just got nervous. anyways i dont want him to lose interest in me he told me today on msn that he wanted a girl that could "explain" herself, and not be shy around him. im afraid that if stop being shy that i will do something stupid and scare him off. does anyone have any ideas how to keep a converstation going without any awkward silences or weird moments... or what i should talk to him about....

thank-you.. i really apreaciate it
xoox
ill rate 5

If you and this guy started dating recently, then everything is suppose to start out akward and silent.

I think your problem is your confidence around people who you really care of what they think of you. Kicking back and being yourself is something you have to start getting used to, if you are goofy, act goofy. The best way to feel comfortable in a relationship is to let yourself be you. When you are tense and nervous, and trying to act like somebody who isn't you, thats what makes you tense. You are afraid that you'll say something you would say.

You have to start saying, "Ok, I am [your name], and I am me around everyone"

Another reason causing your tensity is the fact that you don't know this guy in a deep way. You don't know every little thing about him. That starts happening when you are both dating for a long time. So it also takes time to start breaking in the habit of seeing him everyday as your boyfriend. He says that he wants a girl that expresses herself. Well, don't be afraid to. Tell him what you think about him. Like what he wears, or his personality. Express what you like about him. It takes time.

-TheTeenGirl

Q: me and my boyfriend broke up a month ago. and i just got a new boyfriend a few days ago and i like him a lot. but my ex boyfriend called me lastnight and told me how much he wanted me back and missed me and i just dont know what to do. he treated me bad but i still love him and care about him and dont know if i should be with my current boyfriend. being held by him just doesnt feel the same but i know if i go back to my old boyfriend that nothing will change. can somebody please lemme know what to do?

I think what you need to do is ditch them both.

I think you moved out of a bad relationship and jumped in a new one too fast. You know for sure that nothing will change, and thats good that you know. All you need to do is stay away from him and soon you'll realize that you will heal from all of this.

You need time to relax by yourself or be with a friend. A girl's night out, no guys to worry about. You have to take everything slow to heal from this relationship. And you made a very common mistake by getting a new boyfriend. You probably thought that you'd get over your ex faster or forget about him. And it's ok to try it, but the important thing is that you realize that it's not getting any better.

I know when he calls you feel tempted to just take him back, but you have to remember that you'll be in the same episode as you are now later on. Let this current guy know that you aren't ready to start dating again. Seek support and advice from your friends as well to help you.

-TheTeenGirl

Q: I need some advice! There is this guy i like: He's two years younger then me and we work togehter. We work almost every weekend together and i don't think he has a girlfriend. I've never really liked a younger guy, so i don't know what to expect and if he liked me back. Here are a few signs i have gotten:
-he looks at me a lot, for a long time as if he were lost, and when i ask what he will say something random like "i didn't know you were working today"

-he smiles at me a lot but doesn't talk to me as much as he does the other girls. When he does talk to me its about the most random things

-he will sometimes joke around with me, by telling me that im not working hard enough or something like that.

-the other day he grabbed by stomach from behind and scared the hell out of me, he laughed and walked away. I didn't know what that ment?

-Sometimes his parents will come through my cash(were cashiers at a supermarket) and his mom will always adress me by name and is always smiling (although she is a friendly woman)

-and when my parents go through his cash he gets really nervous and never really looks at my parents.

I don't know if any of these signs can really tell if he likes me or not, but some honest advice would be greatly appreciated, Thanks in advance

Nobody knows all of the signs of whether someone likes you or not. But, those seem to be a few good signs of him maybe liking you. Especially if you find that he's doing only these things to you and not anyone else.

What I think you should do is wait until something happens. Until the signs are a little bigger and noticable to the people around you. When someone makes a comment about him liking you, thats a bigger sign. For now, just work and have fun just working with him. See if you can get a conversation going and try seeing if theres a way to hint around for you both to hang out outside of work.

Theres not a lot of difference to expect in dating younger guys. It's like dating anyone else older.

-TheTeenGirl

Q: okay, im 15/f and ive never had a boyfriend and ive never even made out or done anything with a guy. and its not that im a loser or anything im actually pretty popular in school but all my friends are out like hooking up with guys all the time and ive never done anything. and people laugh at me too for it. its just like all the guys i know see me as a friend but not a girfriend so i never get any guys. help. how do i meet more guys? and how can i get this guy ive been crushing on a for a while to like me?

I think you should be worrying about something else before you start asking these questions.

You care way too much about what everyone thinks of you, and thats just a bad result with relationships!

You say "It's not like I'm a loser" So every girl who isn't experienced in that area by the time they reach 15 makes them a loser? No way, thats completly wrong.

You know what, people who laugh at you now won't be laughing later. The girls who laugh will likely be pregnant in a few years, and the guys who laugh will eventually get a girl pregnant too early on. So you need to tell them to grow up and they should be laughing at themselves. It's not funny, or cool, to have sex young. It's fun until the consequences come at you. Then you pay the price young. If you become pregnant, you pay a huge price. All of your fun with friends are partly gone. Take this advice from someone whose had to watch people they live around them mess up.

Sounds to me like you just want a guy to make out with and brag about your reputation to everyone. Which is low. I understand if you just want to be with a guy and you truly do want to experience these things, but you are going about it for the wrong reasons. You can't force people to like you, but you CAN let them know you exist by talking to them.

-TheTeenGirl

Q: Ok. I'm a Christian, but I do not know the Bible cover to cover like some people do. I have 3 friends, who I love dearly, but they are just totally lost and I really want to save them but I have no clue as of how to do that. Like.. Ok.. here's their stories.

Billy 16-years-old: He's a terrible alcoholic who parties all the time and sometimes gets high but he is surely damned to hell because he has committed sexual immortality several times. He is one of those people who doesnt care about the Bible or God and makes jokes about religion at times. So I do not know how to talk to the guy.

Jessica 15-years-old: She's like my best friend but she's like never been to church. I've invited her before several times, but she always comes up with a reason not to go. And here lately we've lost friendship & she has lost herself to starting to drink because of peer pressure and she's became sexually active, so to say. And she's similiar to Billy, doesnt care.

Brittany 15-years-old: She's bisexual and she parties like every weekend and gets soo drunk & she cusses all the time but everytime I mention church or something of the sort, she cracks a joke & says something like, "Gosh you're such a goodie-goodie". And even though she's never had sex, she's did other stuff with girls and guys, so. I really want to help her & even though she goes to church often, she doesnt act Christian-like at all.

I really care for these people because they are like 3 of my best friends, but I have no clue has to how to help them. They are sooo young and if they were to die tomorrow or even today, they would go straight to hell & I really want to share my eternity with them in Heaven. So anyone with any advice, please help.

I think that your being Christian doesn't have anything to do with your friends.

It all comes down to the way your friends are deciding to live their lives. And they are taking it down the wrong path and as much as you want to influence them and help, the chances are not likely.

I am a Christian also, but I will admit that I'm not huge on being one. I don't read the Bible like I should, and everything. But, I wouldn't go as far as thinking your friends are going to Hell for these things. What you should do is accept that your friends aren't interested in your great path in life. But, usually when your friends start doing things that are too different than what you do, they probably won't be your friends any longer. They'll make new ones that do the same as they.

When you have friends and you want to help, believing they'll go to Hell isn't being a friend to them. It's having no faith in them. Pray for your friends, don't have disrepectful thoughts about them. Like you said, you really care for these people. All you can really do is watch them fail instead of trying to help. I'm not saying you shouldn't be their friend anymore, just be their when they may need you.

-TheTeenGirl

Q: So there's this boy who is 10, my babysitter's son, and he's all nice and stuff. Anyway I'm 14 and it's not that I'm anti social but I rather not talk to him. The boy is creepy...he always watches and talks and laughs and then after just looks at me. It's so annoyin. It's not like I feel to high but I'm scared of him, not in a "i'm going to kill u" more in a way of "he likes me". I don't like young ppl like him and it's really scary. I think he has a crush on me cause he's always lookin at me and then he's being all friendly.

I don't want to sound anti social...but wen he talks to me i jus say yeah or no and shunn away. Wen he looks at me I look away or jus ignore him. What can I do without tellin him?

I don't really know what the problem is with you not wanting to even smile or talk to this boy. He's at a place in his life where everything is funny, and he likes to talk to other people.

You don't want him to feel like you are tired and annouyed of him. It would hurt his feelings. Maybe you aren't a huge fan of small children his age. But, usually when you try talking to them about what they like, they'll go on and on, but it's really cute. You should learn to bond with this child a little bit. Ask him how he likes school. And you were once 10 years old about 4 years ago. You went through a phase with big girly crushes, so try not to forget that you were once a child like he is too.

Sometimes it can be intimidating to talk to children that have a crush on you, but ignoring him just makes it harder on him. It's not like if you start talking to him, he'll fall deeply in love and ask you to marry him! Usually the way you interact with a child his age sort of shapes the young boy he will become. So be friendly and stop trying to run away from a 10 year old.

-TheTeenGirl

Q: Hey,
Well awhile ago I downloaded a new AIM and when I went to Iconator.com to find a new icon it said that I clicked on an AIM hyperlink my client doesn't support, and I was wonder if anyone knew where I can get a new icon and not those gay one from AOL, something for a 14 year old girl. Thanks

By the way when I looked under about AIM it said that the verson I have is Verson: 1.0.4

WILL RATE!!!

The same thing has happened to two other people who had the new one downloaded. Apparently AIM must think that icons aren't in style anymore or they are making you download some client that supports it. They just had to switch back to the old one, and thats what they had to do.

Sorry, I thought this may help.

-TheTeenGirl

Q: We dated for four months. She dumped me two weeks ago. She had found a porn site on my computer. I rarely look at porn. But this site was in my history file which dumb me never emptied. Her mom I know is behind this break up to. However, We havn't spoken for two weeks. She has cancelled her cell phone. But funny thing is, We used to IM alot. Yesterday I was on msn and seen her log in. I said Hi. and we chatted for a couple minutes and then she said she had to go and logged off. She still has me on her msn. Otherwise we couldn't chat. I would do anything to win her back. I'm lost. I did everything for her. I said sorry over and over when she left crying my eyes out. I want to go to her house tomorrow night and sy my goodbyes but i cant I still love her. If i go to her house I want to win her back. What can I say or do even though her mom hates me?

So they are all upset that you looked at porn?

Apparently her mom does not know that guys will look and porn and a lot of them do. So, how can you have a relationship with a girl who doesn't understand that what you did was normal?

I think you need to move on without her. Her mom hates you for no good reason, she and her daughter overeacted. I know you think that you are really in love with her, but four months isn't a whole lot of time together. I'm not saying that getting over her should be easy, but it hasn't been so long. So get yourself away from her while you are still not dating for very long.

-TheTeenGirl

Q: A lo-life, 16 year old, pranked me last night. She said for me to stop talking to her boyfriend and she was asking about my friends. Her boyfriend told me they werent going out anyore and they havnt been for a while and i didnt believe him but his friends aslo told me. I talked to him almost everynight and he told me he likes me lot. I never hung out with him becasue i wasnt sure if he was lying about having a girlfriend. I have all his texts saved into my phone for proof and all of his calls. She wont stop calling me and she even left a message on my phone. I want to let her know that she doesnt knwo who shes dealing with and most of my friends dont liekher anyways therefore their could be problems but i dont want to start drama. What should i do?

The next time she calls you, get her boyfriend and her and you on the phone and make him tell her that it's over to prove that it really is to you. That'll tell you the truth. If he refuses, he must still have something with her.

And if he does tell her, and she's still calling, I'd start telling her that you'll drag the cops into this for harrassment.

-TheTeenGirl

Q: a few days ago i went to the movies with my guy and girl friends. at the time i had a boyfriend, while the movie was going me and my boyfriend started pashing, my mum walked in saw us and by my hair dragged me out of the cinema, when we got home she tells me that i'm not allowed to
out anymore, i start yelling at her she starts yelling at me in the end i ran away 2 one of my friends house.

MY MUM FOUND ME AND NOW IS NOT LETTING ME DO ANYTHING.

can any1 help me please

You made a big mistake by running away. It will take a long time for you mom to trust you again after she already caught you and your boyfriend.

You have to accept that it will be a long time before you can start going out on your own and being trusted again.

It's hard to gain trust back, but it can be done. You have to start doing some work around the house and acting responsibly. If your mom complains a lot to you, let her and let her know that you are truly sorry and that you are willing to make everything up to her. And just because you say sorry, don't expect her to forgive you and let you go back out. You owe her your respect and trust, so let everything be.

Another thing is to not ever run away from home no matter how angry you get at your mom or anyone else in your family. Running away is a serious way to get in trouble and make people worry to death. Also, it's nothing but childish.Act responsible and respect your mom's wishes.

-TheTeenGirl

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