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the guy i like..
ok sorry this might be long ill rate all 5's for your time.
i like this guy and he said he likes me back but he doesnt trust girls cause he's been hurt in the past. My one friend who is friends with him too talked to him about it and tried to get it threw his head that i wouldnt hurt him like that and i've tried also. i just dont know what to do anymore i like him so0o0o0o much and ill wait for him. but i dont know sometimes i think im wasting my time cause he'll never date me.
any advice on what to do?
thanks !
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Time is the key. Just hang out with him as much as you can but dont bring up the subject dating. Make him feel comfortable with you first, then you can go on to the bigger stuff. If you really like him, and he really likes you, then both of you will wait for eachother. Maybe another reason he is not "falling" completely for you is he might be eyeing another girl. Or, just not ready for girls at all. But, if not, spend as much time with him to make him feel like you would never hurt a fly, or hurt him. Good Luck Chica!
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It really depends on how many times you have tried to speak to him about this. Although it is worth a couple of tries, if you're too persistent, he may be very put off by it all.
Whatever happened to his in the past has obviously really destroyed his faith and trust in women and sometimes that can't be replaced by another woman. It might just take time.
I would suggest that if you think you can get away with talking to him about this one more time, you do it yourself and do not let your friends get involved. If you were to have a relationship with this guy, your friends wouldn't be involved with it so don't get them involved now. If it is you with the feelings, you have to be the one to express them.
Explain to him that you really care about him and have, over time, developed strong feelings for him. Tell him that although you understand he's scared of getting hurt again, you can't just deny the way you feel about him and you hope he understands that. You wouldn't hurt him because you couldn't bear to see him upset and that although he's in a bad place right now, he can't run from the possibility of falling in love or even just dating forever or he won't know what it truly is to be happy. Then tell him that you really want to be given a chance to show him that it is possible to have a happy relationship without it ending in such pain.
Hopefully that will bring him round but I would strongly recommend that if it doesn't, you let the issue go once and for all. Once you have your feelings out and he knows how you feel about him and about the whole situation, there's nothing further you can do or say so give him time.
Good luck
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Be friends with him first and let him get to know you. Some people that have been hurt take a long time to trust again. Once he realises for himself you're not the type to hurt him and sees your true worth, he should come round. He has to do this for himself, as in this situation it would be difficult for him to accept someone else's word that you'll not hurt him, it will be a stronger feeling on his part if he makes the decision and doesn't feel he's been pushed to it. You must be a really nice person to understand this and to say that you will wait for him to come round. Just have patience and give him time. Good luck.
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I think you should just arrange to hang out with him a bit, get to know each other, just as friends and see how things progress. He may soon realise how much you care about him and that you're not like other girls. Give him time, a broken heart takes time to heal but a good friend can help in the process (thats you). Talk to him about his problems and joke with him. As things progress slip in some flirty comments like 'your hair looks sexy today' just something to show your interest but DON'T rush into it to soon. Let him know how much you care about him and take it from there.
Hope it all works out hun
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Even though you have tried to talk to him do it again but don't force him. Tell him that you are not like the other girls and you won't hurt him. Ask him to give you a chance and just to trust you. If he does go out with you your going to have to prove to him that you won't hurt him and that you do really like him. Your going to have to sit down or talk to him on the hone about it don't send your friends to do it. Tell him how much you like him and tell him you will prove to him your not like the other girls. Hope the guy gives you a chance and it doesn't matter how long your thing is were here to help.
♥ jackie
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you should take him to eat or to do something you both like to do..then talk to him about how you really feel. and tell him that you wont hurt him etc. make him realize that you're worth his time. just do things with him to make him open up to you more or make him feel comfortable around him, like what i said before. good luck hun!
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It's going to take this guy a lot to realize that you have to reach out and trust someone even though you've been let down before. It happens to everyone. And that lets us know some signs of whether this next person can be trusted.
I think right now you and your friend should leave him alone and let him decide whether or not he's going to trust right now. Nobody else will be able to convince him otherwise. This is something he must do. Plus, don't try to make him promises that you won't hurt him, you don't even know whether or not you will be ok with this guy once you start going together. Give him time and I'm sure he'll come around soon.
-TheTeenGirl
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