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My friend is "easy"
I have this friend (we'll call her Bella) and i absoluetly love her to death. Like, we have been best friends FOREVER. No lie. So now we are 13, and like, guys are really starting to come into her life. She also seems to attract guys who are players and only want her for her ass. Then they will dump her after they get what they want, and she will hate them. Three weeks later, shes like all over them again. It makes me mad, because shes just like giving herself away. I know i should just let her handle it, but her sister turned out a total slut and troublemaker and she started how Bella is starting. I just dont want her to like go down the wrong path, because i like love her to death! We are fuhreaking like sisters.
Sorry its so long =/
Any suggestions on how I can get her to be a little more reserved and not as "easy"?
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This is a really bad situation, and it happens a lot.
It's really upsetting to see your friends heading somewhere you know is wrong and they don't realize it. But, the only thing you can do is talk to her about your concern. Tell her that it really hurts you to see her get used and she deserves better than what she's putting herself out there for.
Likely she may take it the wrong way or think that what she's doing is no big deal. And it will take more than a concerned friend to make her see how much she's letting herself get hurt for now and possibly forever.
The important thing is that you let her know how you felt and that if she continues down this way, don't let her drag you down with her. You know it's not the way to go, so don't let her convince you that what she's doing is ok, because it isn't. Like I said, a lot of people go through this, and they end up changing you in ways you never thought would happen. I think that is what's happening with your friend.
If you need anymore help, don't hesistate to ask
-TheTeenGirl
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The best advice I can give you is to be the best friend to her that you say you are. When she starts to like a guy and plans on going out with him, you should probably check to see if that guy is a player, or if he wants something besides a relationship with "Bella". Don't let her go out with guys that you know will hurt her, just tell her that you care about her and are there for her. You want to protect her and that's the reason that you don't want her with all these players. Also ask her," Do you really want to end up like your sister?" That will get her thinking about what she's doing, and that will probably get her to start making better decisions. So basically, just make sure the guys she wants to go out with are OK so you can prevent her from getting hurt before she starts going out with them, and tell her how you really feel, let her know that you don't want her to end up a slut.
That's the best advice I can give you, I hope it helped. If it didn't I'm sorry. <3*
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