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how do i talk to him
me and my boyfriend get along great we hav alot of similar interests but we only really talk about his stuff when were chatting on the computer... i embaress myself around him like randomly start talking to myself...dnt ask me why... i just got nervous. anyways i dont want him to lose interest in me he told me today on msn that he wanted a girl that could "explain" herself, and not be shy around him. im afraid that if stop being shy that i will do something stupid and scare him off. does anyone have any ideas how to keep a converstation going without any awkward silences or weird moments... or what i should talk to him about....
thank-you.. i really apreaciate it
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What's the point if you're not being yourself? If the relationship goes somewhere, you're going to end up living that whole time not being yourself! Be yourself, I'm sure he'll like it. He already said he will. If not, he's not worth your time and he's missing out on something good.
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you should just try and be yourself, if you're normally shy then you should open up more! guys like girls who are confident n smile alot n are loud and fun. you'll feel better about yourself if you have a better attitude. that sounds a little harsh i guess but you get what im saying! haha good luck hun
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Sounds like your boyfriend wants to know the real you or move on to find a girl who has the courage to risk making a fool of herself in front of him.
If you do scare him off it will be because you said too much, too soon, or much more likely, you two aren't as compatible as you think.
If you stay together eventually all that is to be known, will be known about the both of you to each other; so why wait to find out whether or not he will love you for who you are?
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Talk. Speak your mind. If there are any awkward silences, make him deal with them, not you. Right now he’s told you not to be shy towards him. While it’s not always true, in a case like this I think, “The best defense is a good offense”.
Be yourself. Be relaxed enough to be able to joke around with him and tell him to “explain” himself to you more and if there are any awkward silences just ask him something like, “don’t be so shy with me, you’re creating awkward silences.
The main thing is to be relaxed and have fun, if it ends up that he is too uptight and gets so flustered when you do something foolish that he ends your relationship with him, so be it. If not today, that will be the case eventually, so why wait to find out later? I mean, if you continue to be shy with him, he’ll be on his way anyways, he’s hinted that to you already with, “he told me today on msn that he wanted a girl that could "explain" herself, and not be shy around him”.
If you feel the need to hide your true self from him, than how can you think it will work out? The longer you wait, the more he’ll either fear you have some crazy dark secrets, or the more he’ll get bored with your shyness, etc.
It’s alright to be shy at the start of a relationship, I can understand you don’t want to come on too strongly, especially in case the feeling isn’t mutual/ just not there yet for your boyfriend, but at this point he wants to know you, trust him to decide whether or not he thinks you’re too foolish for him. Who knows, maybe he’ll find your silly/weird habits fun or cute.
He’s knocking on your door, either let him in or let him go and if you do invite him in, let him leave if he wants, whether he’s allowed to stay or not is up to you.
Hope things work out for you.
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Honestly, I ALWAYS make an idiot of myself... I just figure that if the guy's worth keeping, then he'll accept me, oddities and all!
At least that's the outlook I've always had... Really, if he can't accept your weirdness now, it's going to resurface in the future, so it's better to let him see it earlier on :)
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If you and this guy started dating recently, then everything is suppose to start out akward and silent.
I think your problem is your confidence around people who you really care of what they think of you. Kicking back and being yourself is something you have to start getting used to, if you are goofy, act goofy. The best way to feel comfortable in a relationship is to let yourself be you. When you are tense and nervous, and trying to act like somebody who isn't you, thats what makes you tense. You are afraid that you'll say something you would say.
You have to start saying, "Ok, I am [your name], and I am me around everyone"
Another reason causing your tensity is the fact that you don't know this guy in a deep way. You don't know every little thing about him. That starts happening when you are both dating for a long time. So it also takes time to start breaking in the habit of seeing him everyday as your boyfriend. He says that he wants a girl that expresses herself. Well, don't be afraid to. Tell him what you think about him. Like what he wears, or his personality. Express what you like about him. It takes time.
-TheTeenGirl
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