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Should I stay or go?
Age: 15, gender: female
ok, so.... I've been dating my bf, sam for almost 3 months, but I'm not sure if I wannabe with him anymore. I broke up with him once already a month ago but got back together with him after a few days bacause i felt really bad and i kind missed him. The reasons I broke up with him in the 1st place have only gotten worse though, he tends to be controlling and he's jealous of any other guy i hang out with. Not nly that, but I'm starting to have feelings for my friend Patryk. You see, Patryk has a gf right now, but they're on a rocky part of thir relationship like me and sam. He's even talking about breaking it off with her to me. He's a really great guy though and I'd love to be with him, but I'm not sure if i should break up with my boyfriend to try and be with him. Especially because my bf has a suicidal history and last time i broke up with him he went all suicidal on me and everything and I just don;t wanna have to worry about that. Am I crazy to try and take this risk or should i just stay with my current bf and deal with it? ...cuz he does have some really great moments.
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Babe, this is gonna sound really harsh, but you have to get out of that relationship. I mean, WHOA...suicidal? That's not good. and if he is this bad at this young, imagine if you don't break it off and what will happen a few years down the road. When and if you DO break up with him, make sure you still stay friends with him, but don't use the "i still want to be friends line" think of a better line than that. You obviously mean a lot to him, but that is a really scary situation to be in. And i wouldn't jump from one relationship to the next, because that will really be obvious to Sam and his reactions will be worse. give him time as well as yourself. And make sure Patryk is fully out of his relationship before you go for it, because he might not be ready either. Good luck...we wish you the best. :)
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Definetly don't deal with this current boyfriend anymore.
Anyone who ever tries to control you, or is way too jealous just because you interact with the opposite sex, get out of that relationship. But I think you need to notify your parents about this situation and how this guy gets when you try to move on without him. You need support when it comes to this, so get help and use it.
Right now that is what you should worry about. Getting out.
-TheTeenGirl
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First of all you are really right to want to break up with him. You shouldn't have to deal with someone being that controlling. But don't break up with him because of patryk. Do it because it is what is better for you. And because he has suicidal tendencies I would have an adult there with you when you break up with him. Just to be safe. You need to make sure that an adult and maybe a friend you can trust knows what is going on. But never stay with someone just because they are suicidal and you are worried about what they will do. You can not control anything a person says or does. Everyone chooses their own actions and their actions does not make it your responsibility. If you stay with your bf things might only get worse for you. And you are too young to let a boy control you in the way that he is. I really hope this helps you and good luck.
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