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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.I'm one of the very blessed.
I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.
Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.
Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.
I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.
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I know this is beyond stupid, but I was wondering for anyone who has had their wisdom teeth out how much weight did you lose? Like what did you weigh before and after? I have to get mine out either this summer or next, and I have been really trying to lose weight this summer and I just thought if it gives me a boost with losing some pounds I'll just get it over with haha. My friend said it helped her because she could barely eat/never wanted to. I weigh 136 right now and am 16. Don't tell me this is dumb, I already stated that I know this question is dumb! Thanks!
And I do eat healthy and work out, I just need something to like kick start the losing weight process a little more :P
Well, it's like this: You'll be on a liquid diet for a day or so, then soft foods for a couple of days. Or, however your oral surgeon sets it up. I suppose that may make you lose a pound or so.
I didn't lose any weight after having mine out.
ygs-30/f
heyy peoples... sorry this is long, im kindov and asshole soo its probably not worth your time and its probably super boring soo ya...watever
soo i met this girl about a week before school ended, we met completely by accident, after school because i had missed the bus home and she was there because of something bad happening (dont want to go into that)
we both sat there, in the hall, alone, and talked. she had some emotional problems and i talked her through it. about an hour later, she had to leave so i walked her to her car and we exchanged numbers.
that night i met her at the local "hang out" town square (its like an outdoor mall) and we saw a movie together and really took a liking to eachother.
about every night since then, we talked on the phone for hours about how things were going, etc. i felt like we really had a connection and that i could tell her anything and she could tell me anything.
the next week we hung out every day i guess. it was great. one of the times, we went to a movie and i was rubbing the back of her neck with my fingertips and she started to do it back to me and i felt her kiss my neck (WOAA!!) she then wispered into my ear, meet me over there(while pointing to the stairs)
the next thing i knew, i was making out with the girl of my dreams, she is beautiful, smart, nice, loving,....just AMAZING. i honestly couldnt think of any negative things about her
since then, things were going great, they only got better and better. we were getting closer and closer...being with her was the only thing i wanted to do.
thats kinda what started it all...things were at the point where they really couldnt get better. then she was talking about going on a trip to spain, it was ten days and when she got back, i would be gone for the summer.(my parents are divorced so i have to spend the summer at my dads)
so we went out on our last day together (until summer is over). it was perfect and it ended with about 10 minutes of making out. it was amazing how she wanted it, just as much as i did. it was like i was finally in my place, nothing could make me sad(except for losing her of course) i felt invincible.
to make an even longer story short(er), she leaves to spain, 10 days later she gets back and nothing, she dosent wright, she dosent call...watever.
so here i am texting her, and she is just giving me dead end answers. i would say -heyy!! how was spain and she says -good, thats all. so i asked -is everything ok? do you not want to talk or something? and she says-im hanging out with a friend. thats the end of that
a few days later i texted her again and say, -hiiya, she said,- sorry i couldnt text last time, i was busy, and i said- its cool and she replys -ttyl im watching a movie
now im thinking, what the hell is going on....woww i cant believe she just did that. but me being as patient as i am, i just tryed to ignore it and move on. i didnt want to seem desprate or like a stalker so i kinda left it alone.
since then, she dosent really talk to me, i said hi on myspace and she just ignored it i guess. she never calls anymore....that makes me...sad?
what has happened to this relationship that i thought would last forever? i have no idea what went wrong, she has been back for weeks now, i never talk to her, she never talks to me. its like she is dead.
opinions? god, i miss her soo much.
Ok, well you say she doesn't call you anymore. Have you called her recently?
I mean, if nothing else, a little closure would be nice.
ygs-30/f
Okay, there are some plays in my area that I would like to do. Kind of. Anyway, I want to be an actress and I have no experience like actually on the stage. So even though there is a play that is going on, the Jungal Book, it looks stupid and i don't really want to do it. SHould i anyway, just for the experience. I could only be an animal beacuase i'm not over 18 and i can't be the lead because the lead is a boy. It seems really dumb. But should i do it anyway just so i have somthing other than classes and special skills to put on my resume?
If being on stage is something you are serious about doing, you should take any stage rolls you can get.
Heck, there's a lot of actors out there who started off in commercials they surely didn't want to be in, as well as bit parts in films, before they became the stars they are now.
Sometimes you got to just take what opportunities are available to you before the part you really want comes along.
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I'm pretty sure this song is just about doing drugs, you know "feed your head". But I've heard many theories.
Can anyone help me out?
One pill makes you larger
And one pill makes you small
And the ones that mother gives you
Don't do anything at all
Go ask Alice
When she's ten feet tall
And if you go chasing rabbits
And you know you're going to fall
Tell 'em a hookah smoking caterpillar
Has given you the call
Recall Alice
When she was just small
When men on the chessboard
Get up and tell you where to go
And you've just had some kind of mushroom
And your mind is moving slow
Go ask Alice
I think she'll know
When logic and proportion
Have fallen sloppy dead
And the White Knight is talking backwards
And the Red Queen's "off with her head!"
Remember what the dormouse said;
"FEED YOUR HEAD
_______________
FEED your head"
I've always interpreted the song as being about hallucinogenics. Mushrooms and LSD.
recently my friend's little sister died..2 years old and got strangled while trying to get out of her crib.. She got caught or something i'm not really sure how..But she asked me why would God ever EVER take a 2 year old girl away?
And i have no idea could any of you guys help me out on answering this question
The Lord works in mysterious ways. Even when things happen in life that hurt us the most are all a part of His plan.
I know that doesn't really help.
Maybe the best answer you can give her is simply, "I don't know."
When I was a kid, God took my cousin, who wasn't yet 2 years old. I asked myself that same question.
"I don't know, but I'll find out some day" is the best way I can answer myself. Why? That's the only answer I'm certain of.
ygs-30/f
i'm not sure if this is the right category, but anyways..i was out with my mom today taking my duck to the vet. as we were leaving i started feeling like i was going to puke. then everything got blurry and i got really dizzy. then my ears started ringing and i fell to the ground. they put ice on my head and neck and i felt better after a little while. what happened to me? did i pass out/faint? this has never happened before. so why now? thanks! (oh, and i dont pass out from blood so it was nothing like that)
Was it a hot day? It could be heat that caused you to faint like that.
None the less, this is a good question to bring up to your doctor. They can tell you what happened, compared to our guesses.
ygs-30/f
My grandparents used to speak to me in a different language and well I grew up with a grandparent that couldn't speak English at all. It's been like 5-6 years since their deaths but I can still understand the language when spoken. I cannot speak it, read it or write it.. but I can understand most of it when people talk. How does this work when there's this huge gap in between? Do I only remember because my grandparents spoke it since my birth and the following years.. did it stick to my memory or? I can't make sense of it really.
No, it's not weird.
I know someone whose parents spoke Spanish. She can't speak, read, or write Spanish, but she understands it when it's spoken to her.
How does that happen? I don't honestly know that.
But I do know it isn't weird.
ygs-30/f
Does pre-cum make you pregnant?
Yes, it can.
Is is unreasonable to be bothered by a stupid sexual mistake your bf made some 4 years ago?
He was honest with me from the start - he was at a party, had been drinking, and got oral sex from a stranger. Didn't know her name and it was so bad he had to masterbate to get himself off in front of her. I think that part gets to me the most. =/
I just can't imagine him doing something like that. He says he's never regretted something so much. But it still gets to me, considering we took everything really slow and here he was sharing something really intimate with a girl he didn't even know, and wouldn't know now. I find I ask a lot of details about it even though the details really haunt me, I feel I *have* to know.
So what do I do about this? Why is it such a big deal to me? I realize teenagers will make a lot of mistakes especially when it comes to sex, but this seems worse than a lot of people (at least they do it with people they know, for example)
Ugh. Help me. Thanks.
21.f
It was a mistake made by a teenage boy caught up in the moment. It happens. A lot worse things than that do happen.
Try to look at it this way- They guy is obviously comfortable with you and trusts you to divulge such an intimate secret to you. If it's something he regrets, it's something he's most likely embarrassed about.
Yet he told you.
Try to live in the now and for the future. The past can't be changed, but it can be learned from. (He's obviously learned from it, right?)
ygs-30/f
Hi... I babysit every weekend, for 3 little kids and one newborn. I know this may sound silly, but how do you take care of a newborn?
Thanks,
---Newborn Baby---
This is not a silly question at all.
Make sure they are clean and fed. The parents should give you a feeding schedule for the newborn- Just stick to that. I don't know how little the baby is to know how much they eat, but be sure to burp them at least a couple of times per feeding.
Do that by holding them to your shoulder and patting their back, and/or rubbing their back in a circular motion or up and down motion. (I do both, personally.) If no burp happens, give them a little time for their milk to settle, then try again.
If you get no burp midway through the bottle, and they fuss to have the bottle back, don't fret- go ahead and feed them another 1/2 ounce or ounce, then try again.
Other than that, newborns sleep a lot. Make sure they are laid down to sleep in a safe place. Not on the couch, and not around bunched blankets and pillows. Parents will tell you where you can safely lay the baby.
Newborn babies love the human face. When baby is awake and alert, smile and talk to them. You can talk about whatever you want, they don't mind. If you want to smile and talk about how the weather was yesterday, they will be just as pleased as if you smile and talk about how your dog got skunk sprayed and needs a bath something fierce.
The parents should inform you of anything you need to know. If you are unsure of yourself and need to say, "I'm not sure how to do this- can you show me/teach me/tell me?" Do so.
Do not be afraid to ask! As a mom to a 3 month old and a 16 month old, absolutely would I want you asking questions if you have any. They won't think you are silly or an idiot, I promise you that. It's a part of being a responsible, caring sitter.
Good luck! Anything else I can help with, feel free to ask my inbox.
ygs-30/f
Hi all! I'm a 20 year old girl living in my own apartment, and I just (finally) got a beautiful black domestic shorthair kitten yesterday.
She was scared of everything and took until pretty much today to chill out enough to stop hiding under my TV (which was a pain, but still adorable).
She's 11 weeks, house trained, and a very smart girl. She doesn't seem to wanna eat, though. I got her to nibble some wet food yesterday, and it's the one she had at the shelter/house. She doesn't like the dry food I got her either. She's only 11 weeks, you'd think a growing kitten would be hungry. I thought of sprinkling some catnip on the food, but she's never had it. I dunno if it would help or hurt the situation.
But, generally, I was wondering if anyone had any thoughts on a new kitten. Anything I should know? She's my first pet, and I want her to be happy. ^^
Thanks, everyone!
Since you only got her yesterday, she's probably still a little too sketchy to be interested in eating just yet. Sometimes it may be a couple of days.
Give her a little more time to adjust to you and her new surroundings, and if she doesn't come around, your best bet would be to place a call to your vet. (If you don't have one in mind, it's a good idea to try to find one. You will need one for getting shots and check-ups, and for emergencies as well.)
Don't give her milk. Cats are lactose intolerant. Don't feed her tuna that comes in oil. If you choose to give her tuna, make sure it says "in water" on the can. The kind in oil upsets their digestive track, which means nasty, nasty litter box...
Get some toys like the columnist before me suggested. Cats are playful creatures.
Other than that, lots of TLC, and she will be a happy kitty!
ygs-30/f
okay so lets say youre on a medication for acne. it's called sotret. (thats not important)
and it says that you have to take "a 30mg pill twice daily" and your doctor told you the amount you have to take is 60mg per day, as it varies from patient to patient due to different height/weight..the package itself contains 30 mg pills.
okay so you're taking 60 mg per day...does it matter if you take 60 RIGHT away as in...2 30mg pills with water? ..or if you take 30 at daytime..and 30 at night, lets say? i never got to ask my doctor this..but i was hoping someone could answer it...or a wesbsite..anything would be fine. because im worried the medication might not be as effective..or even more dangerous. i've been taking it for 1 3/4 months...and i have to take it for 5 in all.
thank you so much in advance :)
Since the pharmacist knows what they are doing when making out prescriptions, you want to follow those directions.
There is surely good reason that it's for 30mg twice a day, rather than 60 mg once a day.
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im in foster care and my my real mum dies only last week i have councelling and professionsal help but i feel my life is going so wrong i was in hospital over an overdose im not feeling sorry for myself and please dont tell me its going to get better i want advice on how to die ??!
Sorry. Won't get that advice here.
okk, i am indian and i am a teenager, and i am 14 years old. My parents are lyk really strick, now its summer holidays and my friend is having a party today,so i asked them if i could go and they said no! IT always lyk this they dont let me hang out with my friends, and i am a teenager and i want to hang out with my frinds. THey believe that having friends is a bad thing and they are going to ruin my life or something. And they dont even know my frinds they are really nice and stuff. But i tried explaining to them and they said no u have to follow our indian culture and blah blah. and i was lyk how i culture realated to hanging out with my friends. I feel trapped they dont let me see my frinds or even go to the movies with them. So what do i do to let them go a little easy on me? plz help
I couldn't go out when I was 14, either. It wasn't due to cultural reasons, but because I was only 14.
If your parents don't know your friends, have you ever tried to have your friends over for them to meet? Perhaps if your parents got to know your friends, they may be less strict about letting you hang out with them.
I can understand your parents wanting you to follow your Indian culture. However, if you don't live there, you do have to learn to adapt to the culture that you DO live in, also.
There's nothing wrong with following your culture, but it's easier to be able to blend it in with American culture (I don't know if that's where you live- I'm just using it because that's where I live.) It will surely make it easier to get along in your life.
Just try to have patience with them, and try to find a way to have them get to know your friends. Remember they are only doing what they feel is best for you- they aren't strict to be mean.
ygs-30/f
My grandma has just been diagnosed with Alzheimer's 6 months ago, but we think she's had it for much longer. My parents were hiding it from me all this time. I'm really upset with them for that. But anyways...
I'm just scared for her. I just was wondering if anybody could tell me things about Alzheimer's...I know like what it is but I just wanted to know a little more. I'd ask my parents, but they sorta don't want to talk about it. I mean, they didn't even tell me. I figured it out when they mentioned it in casual conversation. So basically asking them is completely out of the question.
Thank you.....
The truth. Well, here's the truth from what I've experienced.
Well, my grandma was never diagnosed with Alzheimer's, but I'm not alone in thinking she may have had it.
She had Parkinson's Disease, which deteriorates brain cells. As she got into the late stages, she started having Alzheimer's symptoms. I don't know if it actually was Alzheimer's, or if it was just that Parkinson's was paying it's toll on her.
Both diseases are devastating.
I stayed with my grandparents to help care for grandma until I got married. Over that period of time, she went from where she knew exactly who I was, to where she hardly called me by my name (she would call me Belinda. My name is Brandi.), to where she didn't know who I was at all.
That hurts. I won't lie. It's heartbreaking. But I went through it with the truth up front- I did lots of research, and I also remembered that no matter what, it's not her, it's the disease. She can't help it that she doesn't remember who I am. If it weren't for this, she would never forget me.
You see, I was her only granddaughter out of 9 grandkids until I was a senior in high school. Grandma and I were always very close. However, even though she got to where she didn't know who I was, we were still very close. I don't know if it's a bond thing, or what. I can't describe it.
She got to where she had spells where she was quite sharp tongued. Now, this is the only time in my life that I ever remember grandma having sharp words to say. But, same as forgetting who I was, she couldn't help that. They say that's all apart of late stage Parkinson's (I'm willing to bet the same goes with Alzheimer's). Something scientific to do with loss of brain cells that I don't understand, so I can't explain.
You know what I think? I think that, in all honesty, it would be frustrating to forget the way she forgot. It would make me have sharp words to say, too.
Grandma was depressed. A disease that attacks your brain causes that. Again, scientific explanations should go here, but I can't do that. But again, what I think is that when suffering from anything that impacts your daily life like that, especially when you know it will get worse, would certainly make me depressed.
She got to where she lived in the past. She would talk about her kids as if they were still little and running about the house. She had this drawer full of memorabilia that she always looked through. She would speak of her parents being in the next room as if they were still living. Stuff like that.
Again, scientific stuff... My thinking- If I couldn't remember what happened 5 minutes ago, but could remember every happy moment in my life, I think I'd stick to that happy place, too.
(As I'm sure you can tell, a part of my coping system was to put myself in her shoes, to try to imagine how I would feel if in her place so I could better understand.)
Even when Grandma got into the later stages, we still held great conversations. I do mean great. Mind you, we couldn't talk about recent events, but I would ask her about things from her past- growing up, vacations, raising kids, married life, etc. and she could talk for hours about that. She loved to do that, and I loved to listen.
Any disease like that is hard to cope with. It's hard for them and it's hard for you. When it hurts, don't ever feel bad for hurting. When it makes you sad, don't ever feel bad for feeling sad. Just always remember that no matter what, she's still Grandma underneath it all.
Now, like I said before, my grandma was never diagnosed with Alzheimer's, but she had the symptoms. It could have actually been Alzheimer's, but it may have been a part of Parkinson's. I don't know for sure, and highly doubtfully ever will.
Don't be too hard on your folks on how they are dealing with this. It could be that they are trying to protect you by keeping you blindfolded. I admit that keeping you in the dark isn't the best way to help you understand, but that may be all they know to do.
Then again, it could be that they are still trying to come to terms with it and deal with it themselves. If they haven't figured out how to deal with it themselves, how are they going to help you deal? Remember that could be what's going on inside their heads.
Either way, don't come down hard on them. They're doing their best. This is hard on them, too.
You have a wealth of information at your fingertips. Search the internet for Alzheimer's Disease, especially symptoms, what to expect, how to cope. Those searches should bring up websites that may be helpful to you.
Hang in there, kid.
Anything more I can do to help, let me know.
ygs-30/f
How does a wedding work with a mute? I really want to get married.. with family and friends around but it makes me so unhappy that it probably won't even happen... I don't want to go to a courthouse to sign papers stating that I'm married.
Of course you can have a wedding. It's your day- do it how you and your groom want it. There are no set "rules" on how to go about it.
Some people say vows, but you don't have to. If you want to say vows, you can use sign language, or you can write your vows and have someone read them for you. (Maid of Honor, perhaps?)
When it comes to the "I Do" part, you can sign it, or even nod. Maybe the groom can do it that way, too, so you are both doing the same thing.
However you want it.
Shoot, you don't have to be vocal to have a voice in this life, and you certainly don't have to be vocal to have your wedding day.
No worries, ok?
ygs-30/f
Okay,
I take Lithium and Depoke. (Lithium being an anti-depressant) I often go on and off my medication. I was off my medication for a few months and I just recently started taking them again but the night I took my medication I was fine. However the following morning I woke up in a pool of sweat, dizzy, my heart was racing and I threw up five times. I started to take my medication on a low dose too. Does anyone know why I might have exsperienced these symptoms and why I was so sick?
Ok, so do you go off and on your meds because of your own choice, or because your doctor tells you to?
If you are doing it by your own choice ("Oh, I'm feeling fine lately. I don't think I need to take my meds right now...) that could be why you are having a reaction.
The best person to ask is the doctor who prescribe these mediations to you. I advise that you do just that.
ygs-30/f
okay so i had unprotected sex the 4 of june. my period started about 5 days before that and continued 3 days after. What i would like to know is if i really did get pregnant (on the 4th) would i still have had my period for the rest of those 3 days or would it have stopped??
please hellpppppp =]
My guess would be that it would stop, but that's just a guess. I don't really know.
Anything is possible.
Try not to freak out about it. If you're period ends up 2 weeks late, take a test. By that time, the results will be accurate.
Remember, there is a higher chance of false negatives than false positives on pregnancy tests. False negatives tend to come from testing too early or not following the directions properly.
ygs-30/f
I have a step brother that is 5 and we see him alot since incidentally we live next door to my dad and step mom (weird i no...) and every time he sees my mom pull in the drive way he shouts her name and only wants her and ignors me. same with if he is playing with my brother he only wants him. I dont know if he doesnt like me or what? What can i do so he will want me instead?
As for your mom, it could be a maternal thing. She's a mother and he knows it.
He'll most likely warm up to you if you just go play with the little guy. If you see him outside playing in the sandbox with Hot Wheels, jump in and play too. Not only is that fun for him, but I wager it would be fun for you, too. If you ask me, there's nothing like stepping back into childhood for a moment.
And it wouldn't be all about "playing," it would be a good way to bond with him.
ygs-30/f
13/f okay so i used to go to a pshychiatrist because i have problems with depression and cutting. every time i had to go i would dread it for days and when i would get in the building i would feel really sick. just picturing my psychiatrists face makes me want to throw up. i get so nervous when i get in there and i hate it how she asks quetions and i always lie to everything. i just hate going there it makes me even worse, she seriously doesn't help AT ALL. i tell my dad over and over that i hate her and i hate going to her but he wont listen to me. it's not her that i hate, because if i really had to think about it, she's nice, a just hate going to someone and being forced to talk. i hate talking about any of my problems and i hate it how people know about them. every time i go i get even more depressed any my anxiety gets worse and so does the cutting. i don't know what else to do because no one will listen and no one cares that i hate it, they all think its helping me and making me better. i get forced every week to go and when i get there for an hour straight the lady just sits there and stares at me, we barely even talk. all it's doing is wasting time and money. i don't know what to do or say to her or my dad, please help!
Well, in order for therapy to help you, you have to be honest. A good start would be opening up to her about how going to her makes you feel, how you hate being there, etc. Don't worry, her feelings won't be hurt.
Don't feel forced to say anything. She sits and looks at you waiting for you to be READY to say something. Therapy is about you, not the psychiatrist.
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