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Step Bro
I have a step brother that is 5 and we see him alot since incidentally we live next door to my dad and step mom (weird i no...) and every time he sees my mom pull in the drive way he shouts her name and only wants her and ignors me. same with if he is playing with my brother he only wants him. I dont know if he doesnt like me or what? What can i do so he will want me instead?
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Your step brother is seeking a mother figure, and for some reason sees it in your mom rather than in his mom. You can't compete with that and shouldn't try to. On the other hand, you can be a sister to him, as long as you know your place in his life. Be his sister, not his mother. He is lucky to have a step-sister who loves him enough to post this question.
Dr. Chad
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Wants you instead--- that bothers me. It isn't about him wanting you more or less, it's not about competition, it's about compatibility and compassion. He is only 5 years old and he is most likely uncomfortable with you or needs to get to know you a little better so encourage that and make it happen. Spend some time with him. Take him to the park, play with him, read books to him. At his age, it's important to enocurage and promote family (even as strange as it seems to live next door to each other) - make it a positive situation instead of a weird one. Buy him a toy, candy, chips, something that 5 years olds like and talk to him. When he yells for your mom, speak to him or go over and talk to him, try to hold his hand, ask him what he likes so you can find out his interest and take it from there.
Make sure you're not going through any type of jealousy thing because if you are, I am sure he picks up on it b/c it displays as negative and he is too young to understand that and so he may be thinking you don't like him so check that, and change that.
Good Luck and remember it is important to always be a role model!
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As for your mom, it could be a maternal thing. She's a mother and he knows it.
He'll most likely warm up to you if you just go play with the little guy. If you see him outside playing in the sandbox with Hot Wheels, jump in and play too. Not only is that fun for him, but I wager it would be fun for you, too. If you ask me, there's nothing like stepping back into childhood for a moment.
And it wouldn't be all about "playing," it would be a good way to bond with him.
ygs-30/f
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doesn't he talk to you? I'm sure he just wants to play with your other family members too. but all you have to do is show him alot of love and whenever you see him give him snacks.
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