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what do i do about my parents?
okk, i am indian and i am a teenager, and i am 14 years old. My parents are lyk really strick, now its summer holidays and my friend is having a party today,so i asked them if i could go and they said no! IT always lyk this they dont let me hang out with my friends, and i am a teenager and i want to hang out with my frinds. THey believe that having friends is a bad thing and they are going to ruin my life or something. And they dont even know my frinds they are really nice and stuff. But i tried explaining to them and they said no u have to follow our indian culture and blah blah. and i was lyk how i culture realated to hanging out with my friends. I feel trapped they dont let me see my frinds or even go to the movies with them. So what do i do to let them go a little easy on me? plz help
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I couldn't go out when I was 14, either. It wasn't due to cultural reasons, but because I was only 14.
If your parents don't know your friends, have you ever tried to have your friends over for them to meet? Perhaps if your parents got to know your friends, they may be less strict about letting you hang out with them.
I can understand your parents wanting you to follow your Indian culture. However, if you don't live there, you do have to learn to adapt to the culture that you DO live in, also.
There's nothing wrong with following your culture, but it's easier to be able to blend it in with American culture (I don't know if that's where you live- I'm just using it because that's where I live.) It will surely make it easier to get along in your life.
Just try to have patience with them, and try to find a way to have them get to know your friends. Remember they are only doing what they feel is best for you- they aren't strict to be mean.
ygs-30/f
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My parents are not as strict as yours, but I can already know how you're feeling. I'm not allowed out with friends unless there's 3 or more. I'm not allowed to go out with guys either.
What I would do (and have done), is to get them together, sit down, and have a long talk. Don't worry about expressing your true feelings, it sometimes helps.
Tell them that you are a teenager, and they should be more aware of what you want, and that you are aware of the dangers and risks of going out without parents (make sure you do!). Stuff like that will make parents believe that you are independent, and you want a change.
Try inviting your friends around to your house, surely your parents wouldn't mind because it is their house and they can keep an eye on you to see if you're safe. Introduce your friends to your parents, and soon you're parents will learn to trust your friends.
I hope this will help you =]
Kkytha - 14/f
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