about

I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.


I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

advice

alright sorry this is so long, i'll try to make it quick
so there's this guy i've liked for a while. he's a juinor and im a freshman. to top that he's got a child. anyway, i've been talking to him via text mess. then we both started doing the musical together. we talked quite a bit then too. well musical is now over and we still talk, more like flirt. badly, like he'll say something about me, like call me hotty or something like that, so i'll do it back, and we go back and fourth. but sometimes we do have deep convo's. well once he told me he likes this girl. we'll call the girl Amara. well Amara sits next to me in math, and we talk all the time. seriously were good friends. But it really surprised me, when he said he liked her, i didn't care. seriously fine go ahead, like her i could care less. well Amara told me she likes him, they text also. Her parents won't let her date him. but the boy went to florida for spring break. and before he left he told me that they kissed three times on the lips after school. WHY WOULD YOU TELL ME THAT? anyway i was kinda hurt after that. i havn't texted him because he's still in Florida, but i have a feeling when he get's back ill get a text. what do i do? im upset, hurt, sad, but i don't want him to know that. what do i do? or do you have any good rejection habbits? you know like chocolate and a chick flick? lol please some advice would be nice. thanks

If you like him, then tell him. Even if your friend likes him, and he likes her, he still deserves to know how you feel.

When he told you he liked her, did you tell him you didn't care? If so, he got the wrong idea & he thought you didn't like him, so he thought he could tell you things like that. Clear it up for him & tell him how you feel.

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i'm starting to get love handles, is there any way i could possibily get rid of them?

Drink 8 glasses of water, eat dairy, & drink milk. Exercise everyday for 30 minutes, but don't exercise or eat before bed. When you see results, don't stop or you'll gain it all back. Cut junk food, fast food, candies, desserts & sodas out. Eat veggies & fruits & meats. =)

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about how much are industrial piercings? i know it varies but whats the average?

It depends on where you go. Some places do it for about $35-40 and some do it for $50 & up. I would check the piercing shops where you live & ask the prices of that piercing, and then compare them & see which one has a better price that you can afford.

Also, if you go to get a piercing or a tattoo, and you go in the back & their needles are already out, walk out. Chances are, they're dirty & you can possibly get an infection from there. Always make sure that they open everything in front of you & explain what the procedure. Such as what they're gonna use, what they're gonna do, how to clean it & take care of it, etc. If they don't do that for you, then leave & go somewhere else. Even if it's more expensive, it'd be worth it.

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with the fridge handle frm our old fridge. its made out of metal. i really don't think she has the right to be doing that regardless of the things i do which are not that damn seriuous. i have no life. she calls me ugly, talks about my lips being big and makes me feel really bad. i graduate in june and i think i need to find the courage 2 tell her i want 2 go dwn south and go to school dwn there so i can live with my aunt in miami. it's just so hard. she tells me i need 2 get out and she's not responsible for me but she always contradicts her ownself. she still treats me like a child. i know if i was to really decide to leave she wouldn't let it be just that she's all talk...my aunt is now worried because she thinks she's going to hurt me (which she says...she threatens to kill me! often) what should i do?????
by the way my sister is eight and they are actually close. it's only me that this happens too....she rarely ever puts her hands on her. matter of fact when i was her age i got hit for the smallest things

Yeah, you are being treated wrong. Your mother verbally & physically abusing you. I suggest you call the cops on her & see what happens. You need to get out of that household immeadiately since it's a danger to your health. But if you do that, they might take your sister away too even if she is close with your mom, they're not gonna believe it. For the safety of everyone, you guys have to be removed from your mother's house.

If you won't do that, try & find a friend to stay with until you graduate. In the meantime, apply to some Southern colleges & see if you get accepted. If so, then move in with your aunt in the summer, & continue life normally. My mom used to go through this type of abuse too, and she hasn't spoken to her mother in years because of it.

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hi. today is my ex-boyfriend's birthday & we ended kinda rough cause we were good friends & he asked me out... but i was intimidated cause i really wanted a boyfriend & didn't actually like him, so i dumped him. & we promised each other we would be friends afterwards but... well i sorta started ignoring him cause he is really uncool & i didnt want people to find out we ever went out. should i send him a quick email saying happy birthday, or just let it go? in the hallways, i used to smile or something but now when i do, he looks the other way. he sent me several emails saying are you mad at me & he was just being so stupid & i got so mad at him cause he liked me for less than 24 hours before he asked me out.. when i liked him for like 3 months! (i liked him & stopped and then he liked me & asked me out). so should i send him an email saying happy birthday? or just let it go? thanks in advance!

You're probably gonna wanna curse me out, or try & get me into trouble & try to get them to ban me, but what I'm about to say is pure honesty, and MY OPINION.

Personally, I think you're a shallow girl. Just because he's not "cool" you don't wanna hang out with him. No matter what anyone thinks about themselves, no one is cool. No one is popular. And no one is better than anyone else. And if you think you're the three of those things, you might as well just fall over & stop breathing. "Cool" kids are the reasons why others have low self esteems, and why the freaking Columbine happened. So get over yourself. No one's cool, no matter what the hell they think.

Just be friends with him & let people know you went out. Even if they rag on you for it, who cares. They're all losers anyways so who cares what they think. What they say should mean NOTHING to you. What I say should since you asked for advice & you're getting it. But when people just state their opinion without being asked, then it shouldn't mean anything to you.

Email him saying happy birthday. Call him saying happy birthday. IM him if you've got to. And in the meantime get over yourself sweetie. You're not better than him, and he's not better than you. You're equal.

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I don't know why but I've recently became very sensitive to the slightest noise when I'm studying. Whenever I study, I want my environment to be purely quiet; to the point where I can hear crickets in my ear.

Everytime when I study, my ears will listen out for any little noise that's made. I'll keep anticipating any noise that I will hear and that's bad!! Can someone help me with this problem? I really can't live with this because I really have to get down to business and start concentrating on my work.

Pls don't tell me to use white noise or radio. I need psychological-type and not physical-type of advice, if you know what i mean.

I'd really appreciate any help, bcos I desperately need it.

When you hear something, don't concentrate on it. Just shrug your shoulders & go back to what you were doing, or get your Ipod out & listen to that. Music can be distracting to some people, but I use it & it helps me get my work done faster.

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Okay, well I have a boyfriend who i've been with for over 9 months.. and i love him with everything that i have. he doesn't have the best life, and he's such a happy goofy kid. i love him mentality because he's always so carefree, even though alot of things in his life suck. for example- no father, very sick [in the hospital for years] mother, loser brother, and lives with his uncle. yet he's such a cheerful and funny kid. but, i tend to get annoyed very easily, and whenever he does something dumb, i make him feel stupid about it by saying something mean or sarcastic. and i've finally recognized that i do it, i just don't know how to control it. there have been several occassions that he almost broke up with me because i treat him so crappily. and i can't stand it. but he loves me so much, so he can never bring himself to officially leave me. and i love him too. he's the sweetest boy in the world, and my first everthing [i'm still a virgin though] and i really am the luckiest girl in the whole entire universe to have him.. but i just wish i could be nicer to him! now, i too have an advice column.. and if someone asked me this question, i'd just say- 'well if you want to be nicer, just simply be nicer' but it's really not that easy. i try so hard but i'm just a spoiled bitch. and i dont get it because i do realize what i have- the most amazing boy anyone could ever have, but i just don't act like it. and i don't want to lose him because of my attitude.. can someone please help me??? =( ♥

When he does something dumb, and you know you're gonna say something mean or sarcastic, stop yourself. Or just remember that he's only acting this way because he wants to be happy about something. Like you said, he doesn't have the best life & you're the only thing that probably does make him happy. And I doubt he wants to hear those awful things come from you. Just try & be nicer. Don't get upset with him and try hard not to get annoyed.

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my boyfriend and i have been going out for 3 months today and i was wanting to know what should i get him for our 3 month anniversary and i wanted to do something really special for him but the problem is that i don't have any money what should i do?

p.s.
If it would help to know how old we are i am 18 and he's 16.

Although 3 months isn't that long of a relationship, I still think it's nice you're doing something for your boyfriend.

If you don't have any money, see if your mom or whatever can loan you some money so you can rent movies. Sounds sorta corny, but just cuddling all night on the couch & watching movies is romantic, and I wouldn't care if I had a guy/girl do that for me. I'd love it. Personally, I don't need anything fancy for a date. Sitting at home watching movies is fine with me.

You could always make him dinner. Try to make him like spaghetti or something. Anything like that. Since I don't like cooking meals that take long like spaghetti [since you have to wait for everything, the meat, the sauce, the noodles & the bread] I'd probably just get some easy mac & ice cream. Haha.

If you don't wanna cook him dinner, make him a CD of all the songs that remind you of him. He'd love it because for one, it's coming from the heart & it's love songs! Haha.

Or you could just make a scrapbook thingy of all the pictures of you two. I'm sure he'd love it. =)

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is there anything i can download where i can download music for free and put it directly onto my ipod. thank you

I doubt it. I mean you can, but it's stealing & since the people who make Ipod have your ISP number [when you set the accounts & whatever up on your computer], they can just easily track you down & put a lawsuit on you.

But everyone does it, so it'd be too much of a hassle to get anyone into trouble. I use Limewire to download all of my music. I don't have an Ipod so I don't know if it'll work for you, but you could always try it.

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Well. Me and my boyfriend of (9 months.) have a serious jealousy problem. No big. It's just that he doesn't go to my school, and he doesn't want me talking to guys, and it's okay cause I don't want him talking to girls. He wants me to prove it to him that I don't talk to guys. He wont believe any of my girl friends, cause he doesn't like any of them. Oh well. I don't hang out with them anyways. But, anyways. He wont believe if people tell him I don't. I just need a way to prove it to him. I'm sorry this doesn't make any sense. I know it doesn't, but I need advice. I need for him to trust/believe me! Help please. :]

Personally, I'm not for the jealous type of guy. It kinda makes me mad and feel like I can't breathe. That's why I dumped my boyfriend about a month ago. His jealousy drove me insane. Most of my friends are guys because girls are just too much drama & too backstabbing. Guys are more fun, laidback & they're not bitches about anything, so I like hanging out with them more. Anyways, I had a picture of me and my guy friend on my MySpace, and he flipped out. I ended it about a week or two later.

While jealousy is healthy for the relationship, it also can cause tension, discomfort, and stress between the two of you. If there's too much jealousy, you need to get some help & work on those issues. In MY opinion, I think there's too much jealousy into your relationship. You can't hang out with who you wanna, and neither can he. Relationships are supposed to be trusting, and loving. I know you don't want other girls all over him, and he doesn't want guys all over you, but there is such a thing as being "just friends" with other people while in a relationship. My belief is that if I can't hang out with whoever I want while in a relationship, then the guy I'm with can't accept me since he can't accept who I'm friends with.

But, I don't think you should have to prove it to him. Just tell him straight out you don't talk to other guys, and that if he doesn't believe you, then that's his problem, but it's the truth. He might get mad since that's the way you'd have to put it, but it's the truth, and he needs to hear it. Same way you need to hear it. If you guys can't trust each other to have friends of the opposite sex, then you really don't have a relationship at all. Relationships are trust, love, honesty & good communication. You can have 3 of those, but without the other, your relationship just does not work.

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Ok, so I'm in a wierd situation. I havn't really dated a lot in high school and most of the boys in my class I'm just friends with. The other day I met this guy and I want to get to know him better, but he goes to a different school, and I'm not sure if he'd ever be interested in me. How should I approach this situation?

When and if you see him again, just say hi & introduce yourself. And then get to talking and slip in "We should talk again sometime." and then ask for his number, or maybe his sn. Talk to him some more when you have those, and then suggest you guys hang out. And see how it goes from there.

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just wanted to know some peoples favorite songs. no screamo please. haha (:



thanks
xoxo

Song on the left, band on the right. =)

Sweet Talk 101 - Cute Is What We Aim For.
Moan - Cute Is What We Aim For.
There's A Class For This - Cute Is What We Aim For.
The Curse of Curves - Cute Is What We Aim For.
Sick Or Sane - Senses Fail.
The Priest & The Matador - Senses Fail.
Siren On The 101 - Over It.
Breakdown - Plain White T's.
It's Not Your Fault - New Found Glory.
My Friends Over You - New Found Glory.
Voices - Saosin.
Say This Sooner - The Almost.
I Mostly Like To Copy Other People - The Almost.
Papercut Skin - The Matches.
Waiting - The Red Jumpsuit Apparatus.
False Pretense - The Red Jumpsuit Apparatus.
Not Good Enough For Truth Or Cliche - Escape The Fate.
Holiday - Boys Like Girls.
Hero/Heroine - Boys Like Girls.
Five Minutes To Midnight - Boys Like Girls.
Heels Over Head - Boys Like Girls.
The Quiet Things That No One Ever Knows - Brand New.
Thnks Fr Th Mmrs - Fall Out Boy.
Monster - Meg & Dia.

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I'm 14 and wear I 34A...I will consider it small for my age, but I'm curious, am I done growing? What can I do to see that I am done? Someone said you rub them and see if they are around? Thanks!

You're not done growing. You're 14 years old. You're not gonna be done growing for about 5-6 more years hun.

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f/15/5' 6"/ 124 lbs

i eat a lot of junk foods haha.
if i were to eat:

breakfast: cereal and low fat milk
lunch: an apple, water, and fat free yogurt
snack: water and a grapefruit
dinner: lean meat, broccoli, water

and run for 30 minutes a day

would i see a difference in my body within a couple of months as in losing a small amount of weight and toning my legs?

i want to do it as healthfully as possible


thanks!

I think what you're doing is basically amazing, so here are some more tips. =)

DO's
- Eat healthy. Fruits, veggies & meats are essential.
- Drink 8 glasses of milk a day and eat yogurt [preferably Yoplait Light & Fit]. If you're lactose intolerant like me, then eat dairy sparingly so you don't get sick.
- Drink 4 glasses of water a day.
- Cut junk food out. No more desserts, no more munchies, no more candy, no more soda & no more fast food. If you're gonna eat it, make sure you eat only a small portion & make sure you don't go completely overboard with it.
- Run alot. I'm not saying to run a mile in a day, but work your way up to it. Once you can run a mile, trying going for 2, then when you conquer 2, try 3 and so on. Don't run fast though, because you'll get tired & give up. Pace yourself.
- Join a gym. They have machines that target certain areas of the body, and if you ask a trainer, they should be able to help you out. [And if you don't wanna go alone, invite a friend along, or bring your ipod & listen to music. It'll make the time go by faster.]

DONT's
- Don't eat or exercise before bed. If you eat before bed, it's gonna be really hard to digest while sleeping since basically your whole body shuts down, and you'll just gain weight. And if you exercise before bed, your muscles won't be relaxed, so you'll be antsy & it'll be hard to fall asleep.
- When you see results, DO NOT STOP. Keep going because if you stop right then, you'll just gain all your weight back. So once this healthy lifestyle starts to suit you, don't give it up at all. For the rest of your life, because if you do everything you've worked for will just have been a big waste of time.
- Don't be discouraged if you gain weight. Muscle weighs more than fat. =)

Good luck!

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my thighs and stomach are a little chubby. can someone give me a workout plan that will make them get toned/better in about a month?

Try this out.

DO's
- Eat healthy. Fruits, veggies & meats are essential.
- Drink 8 glasses of milk a day and eat yogurt [preferably Yoplait Light & Fit]. If you're lactose intolerant like me, then eat dairy sparingly so you don't get sick.
- Drink 4 glasses of water a day.
- Cut junk food out. No more desserts, no more munchies, no more candy, no more soda & no more fast food. If you're gonna eat it, make sure you eat only a small portion & make sure you don't go completely overboard with it.
- Run alot. I'm not saying to run a mile in a day, but work your way up to it. Once you can run a mile, trying going for 2, then when you conquer 2, try 3 and so on. Don't run fast though, because you'll get tired & give up. Pace yourself.
- Join a gym. They have machines that target certain areas of the body, and if you ask a trainer, they should be able to help you out. [And if you don't wanna go alone, invite a friend along, or bring your ipod & listen to music. It'll make the time go by faster.]

DONT's
- Don't eat or exercise before bed. If you eat before bed, it's gonna be really hard to digest while sleeping since basically your whole body shuts down, and you'll just gain weight. And if you exercise before bed, your muscles won't be relaxed, so you'll be antsy & it'll be hard to fall asleep.
- When you see results, DO NOT STOP. Keep going because if you stop right then, you'll just gain all your weight back. So once this healthy lifestyle starts to suit you, don't give it up at all. For the rest of your life, because if you do everything you've worked for will just have been a big waste of time.
- Don't be discouraged if you gain weight. Muscle weighs more than fat. =)

Good luck!

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ok i weigh about 141 im overweight i know how can i lose some weight without running everyday and lately i have been stretching more often like twice a day but do u know any other ways please help thanx in advance

Okay, you won't lose weight without running, so basically it's a must.

DO's
- Eat healthy. Fruits, veggies & meats are essential.
- Drink 8 glasses of milk a day and eat yogurt [preferably Yoplait Light & Fit]. If you're lactose intolerant like me, then eat dairy sparingly so you don't get sick.
- Drink 4 glasses of water a day.
- Cut junk food out. No more desserts, no more munchies, no more candy, no more soda & no more fast food. If you're gonna eat it, make sure you eat only a small portion & make sure you don't go completely overboard with it.
- Run alot. I'm not saying to run a mile in a day, but work your way up to it. Once you can run a mile, trying going for 2, then when you conquer 2, try 3 and so on. Don't run fast though, because you'll get tired & give up. Pace yourself.
- Join a gym. They have machines that target certain areas of the body, and if you ask a trainer, they should be able to help you out. [And if you don't wanna go alone, invite a friend along, or bring your ipod & listen to music. It'll make the time go by faster.]

DONT's
- Don't eat or exercise before bed. If you eat before bed, it's gonna be really hard to digest while sleeping since basically your whole body shuts down, and you'll just gain weight. And if you exercise before bed, your muscles won't be relaxed, so you'll be antsy & it'll be hard to fall asleep.
- When you see results, DO NOT STOP. Keep going because if you stop right then, you'll just gain all your weight back. So once this healthy lifestyle starts to suit you, don't give it up at all. For the rest of your life, because if you do everything you've worked for will just have been a big waste of time.
- Don't be discouraged if you gain weight. Muscle weighs more than fat. =)

Good luck!

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me and my boyfriend had sex but it was my 1st time, and it was for like a min. but he didnt cum or have a condom on. i gave head to him before than about 30 mins ago. but even though he had a sex with me after, is there still any chance im pregant?

Yeah. There's always precum.

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alright so i'm a 17 year old guy and i've always wondered if i'm small or normal size or what, its 4 and a half inches soft

Average is about 5-6 inches.

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quite a few people have told me that when a chick has sex it releases some chemical that makes you think that you're in love. so i was wondering does it?

Some girls consider sex like 'omg he loves me" but that's not always the case.

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so recently my boy and i have been getting more serious. It's my first serious realationship. We haven't had sex, but he like fingers me and stuff. my onnly question is i don't know if i've been having an orgasm or not. Everytime i feel myself building up and stuff, i tell him to stop because i can't handle the feelings anymore. When this happens, my body sorta jolts a little. people say i'll know when i'm having an orgasm 'cause it'll feel great, i feel great afterwards, like relieved, but through this energy build up, it's a different feeling.

If you wanna orgasm, let him finish.

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