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i'm a bitch... =\
Okay, well I have a boyfriend who i've been with for over 9 months.. and i love him with everything that i have. he doesn't have the best life, and he's such a happy goofy kid. i love him mentality because he's always so carefree, even though alot of things in his life suck. for example- no father, very sick [in the hospital for years] mother, loser brother, and lives with his uncle. yet he's such a cheerful and funny kid. but, i tend to get annoyed very easily, and whenever he does something dumb, i make him feel stupid about it by saying something mean or sarcastic. and i've finally recognized that i do it, i just don't know how to control it. there have been several occassions that he almost broke up with me because i treat him so crappily. and i can't stand it. but he loves me so much, so he can never bring himself to officially leave me. and i love him too. he's the sweetest boy in the world, and my first everthing [i'm still a virgin though] and i really am the luckiest girl in the whole entire universe to have him.. but i just wish i could be nicer to him! now, i too have an advice column.. and if someone asked me this question, i'd just say- 'well if you want to be nicer, just simply be nicer' but it's really not that easy. i try so hard but i'm just a spoiled bitch. and i dont get it because i do realize what i have- the most amazing boy anyone could ever have, but i just don't act like it. and i don't want to lose him because of my attitude.. can someone please help me??? =( ♥
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dude you gotta change for the one you love.The way you act is not only going to make you lose him but will make you lose all the people around you that love you and have been coping with your attitude for too long.It will be your loss in the end if you dont change.Put yourself in his position,if you had the suckiest life ever and your boyfreind was treating you like shit how would YOU feel?Would you honestly be able to cope with it all?You need to change before you lose this guy,your suppoesd to be making it better for him not worse!Its all about will power,put your mind to it and you will change you have to.Be a sweet,loving,caring girlfreind be the girl of his dreams man.Dont let the way you act ruin your life.Hope you change to the better.
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Let him know how you feel about him. Tell him how much you love him and how his personality makes you feel. Maybe you feel that his life is to happy, and that makes you upset. You see how happy he is, and you wnat to be that happy too. After he does something that you think is "dumb" don't say anything at all, just laugh and see how that goes.Hope I helped! Happy Spring!
-Brina
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Hun, I know how you feel. Im in a very similar situation. I understand how hard it is to change such a terriable habit. Just think before you speak it can be hard if you have that habit but you will learn. It's all part of growing up, you're probably still trying to figure out who you are and what you wanna do with your life. It's hard with a boyfriend around as well, you might get mad or stressed out and him being all happy and goofy will annoy you. Just when you're in moods like that stay away from him or when you're together/talking on the phone tell him your in a bad mood and he will hopefully understand. But then again maybe it's not your mood you could just be absoulutly annoyed by him at times. That's alright as well, just think before you speak/act and you should be fine.
Hope I Helped
Good Luck Hun
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i think you should talk to him about your sarcasm. ask him really if it bothers him and tell him that you're only joking. maybe before you say anything sarcastic when he does something dumb, think about what YOU would want to hear if you were in his situation.
if its something small like tripping(not in a public place), its perfectly appropriate to say something like "have a nice trip? see you next fall!" (okay that was really cheezy but you get where im going with this). i mean he knows that you're joking about that and its just playful fun.
but if its something bigger like if he spills something on himself and you say "good job, spaz" you probably would not want to hear that. maybe something encouraging next time.
basically, just watch what you say and don't forget to see things from his perspective.
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When he does something dumb, and you know you're gonna say something mean or sarcastic, stop yourself. Or just remember that he's only acting this way because he wants to be happy about something. Like you said, he doesn't have the best life & you're the only thing that probably does make him happy. And I doubt he wants to hear those awful things come from you. Just try & be nicer. Don't get upset with him and try hard not to get annoyed.
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