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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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Ok, so my cousin has this boy friend, and he is in 8th grade, she is in 9th, they have been going out for over a month now and she thinks they are all good but today me and my friends found out her boyfriend has been cheating on her with a guy who is in 10th grade, its gross and we dont know how to break it to her, she will be ruined but its better to hear it from her cousin and friends than someone random calling her boyfriend a queer if it gets around, but we are not telling anyone

I wouldn't tell her about it. Although she deserves to know, she needs to hear it from him.

whats the best plant for use in a house without much sunlight?

The fake ones.

ummm i have a thing for chubby older men (late 20's-30) with the facial hair.... Ummm is that weird?
i think some of them are soooo hot :-) lol
Is it weird?

im 19

No, it's normal. That's just the type of men you like. More power to you for speaking your mind!

Can anyone please tell me why Ginger Spice left the Spice Girls?

Thanks so much!

She probably got sick of it. Groups like that have the tendency to only have one good singer who gets more attention, so there's a lot of jealousy involved.

But, you could always use google!

I have been having the No Sugar red bulls....it says one drink is only 10 cal and there is no sugar,carbs or anything eles in the drink....will this drink make me gain weight or is it a smart drink if i need energy and i need to cut back on my weight a bit?

If you drink enough of them, it could.

i am a competitive swimmer....i swim for 2 hours every morning , and mon,wed,friday nites for 2 hours and do weights for an hour following that.
Yesterday my coach wrote all our names in the board...well not everyones only the people he thinks are fit....i was not one of them....i am looking to lose at least 6 pounds but im not sure how to go about doing it!!
i have a huge appitite and dont know how to controll it...i am firneds with the fottball players at my school and i can probably out eat all of them! i also eat at the dinning commons which is not the best food!
I am desperate to lose weight cuz my coach will not leave me alone about how i am not fit...currenlty i am 139 and i want to get down to 126 by june...

DO's
- Eat healthy. Fruits, veggies & meats are essential.
- Drink 8 glasses of milk a day and eat yogurt [preferably Yoplait Light & Fit]. If you're lactose intolerant like me, then eat dairy sparingly so you don't get sick.
- Drink 4 glasses of water a day.
- Cut junk food out. No more desserts, no more munchies, no more candy, no more soda & no more fast food. If you're gonna eat it, make sure you eat only a small portion & make sure you don't go completely overboard with it.
- Run alot. I'm not saying to run a mile in a day, but work your way up to it. Once you can run a mile, trying going for 2, then when you conquer 2, try 3 and so on. Don't run fast though, because you'll get tired & give up. Pace yourself.
- Join a gym. They have machines that target certain areas of the body, and if you ask a trainer, they should be able to help you out. [And if you don't wanna go alone, invite a friend along, or bring your ipod & listen to music. It'll make the time go by faster.]

DONT's
- Don't eat or exercise before bed. If you eat before bed, it's gonna be really hard to digest while sleeping since basically your whole body shuts down, and you'll just gain weight. And if you exercise before bed, your muscles won't be relaxed, so you'll be antsy & it'll be hard to fall asleep.
- When you see results, DO NOT STOP. Keep going because if you stop right then, you'll just gain all your weight back. So once this healthy lifestyle starts to suit you, don't give it up at all. For the rest of your life, because if you do everything you've worked for will just have been a big waste of time.
- Don't be discouraged if you gain weight. Muscle weighs more than fat. =)

Good luck!

whats a name for an animal that has 1 eye,wings,and has the body of a teddy bear??????

oh and it has to be a made up name

thnx

Pssh, Shaka Laka is my fave!

14/m
my penis is really dry like it is dry skin why is it dry it has never been dry before

It could be the soap you're using. Either switch soaps, or use lotion.

WetSeal has a tube top I want. I searched the site over a billion times, and can't find it.

http://wetseal.com/images/rotating/07_tops.jpg

Thats the model wearing it.

Does anyone know the link to it?
Thanks.

You know, it'd be a whole lot easier to go to the store & buy it.

My best friend is a guy. I like him as a little more than a friend...but I value our friendship far too much to make it awkward by telling him. Anyway I think he has a clue, and I think he likes me sometimes. (He's a huge flirt - it's hard to tell.)

Thing is - I called him up Friday night to come over and watch a movie. We watched the Davinci Code - a long one. We were both pretty tired, and of course we talked throughout it and weren't like, on top of eachother or anything. :-P

Anyway, during the movie in the middle somewhere, my guy friend joked, "watch us just fall asleep and not get up til morning, haha :)".
And...I was really tired and wanted to rest my eyes, so I shut them and sort of leaned on him a little, but I'm pretty sure he didn't mind, cause he was kinda close to me the whole time. Eventually I was sort of half-asleep but just enjoying the moment. A lot ...because even though I'm only 13, it seemed romantic to me ;D haha...and I'm all about wanting romance =P.

So my question is this - afterwards he didn't seem mad, but just sort of calm about it, and woke me up. But I knew I was leaning on him, I was just sort of half-sleeping. -
Did that make him feel weird? Because he's been acting a bit strange at school, like he isn't talking to me much. And as if he's annoyed with me or something.

I really hope I didn't do anything to mess things up - we've known eachother about a year but went through alot, including my father's death, and I feel so close to him. I hope he didn't mind my leaning on him.

It's just weird seeing him at school, because he doesn't seem to want to be around me. It's like I'm some annoying pest or boring person, when I'm not even doing anything...that I know of.

Any ideas why he may be acting this way?

sorry so long:( but I really want to save this friendship. Thanks sooo much if you took the time to read this. :-)

Do you have his screenname or his phone number? If so, call him/IM him and talk to him about it. Ask him why he's been acting weird around you lately, and ask if you did something wrong.

If he tells you nothing's wrong, & you still think there is, leave it alone anyways. If you try to get something out of him, he'll really get annoyed & won't wanna talk to you at all.

Or just give him time. He should come around eventually. =)

How long after you eat can you excercise? And how long do you wait after you finished eating to excerxise? Because I eat after I excercise and my stomache hurts. And I excercise 30mins after I eat and get a stomache ache

If you exercise 30 minutes after you eat & get a stomachache, try an hour.

Does anyone know any really good salso, samba, tango, and other hot latino music? Doesn't have to be latino but mainly hot salsa and dance music are latino. I just love those songs! Songs that dancers would dance really hot in salsa or something. thanks!

Google it.

http://www.pandora.com/?tc=b-003495-0035-1192

Or use that.

Ok well I'm 5'8, need a 36'-37' inseam. I can't find jeans or pants anywhere that are long enough! I'm NOT willing to spend over or even near $100. PLEASE HELP!!!

Try Abercrombie & Fitch, or American Eagle. Or you can get skinny jeans. They're kinda long.

well i have an assmigent due soon and im doing it on drugs and i chose ice (methaphetamine)
and i need help with 2 questions please

1) Describe the consequences of the selected dryg on the individual and the comuinty

2) Your bestfriend is considering use the dru that you have researched.What advice would you give your bestfriend to ensure they make the bes possible decision

Thx muxh =]

[1] Use google. You're doing the project, not us.
[2] Tell them if they'd like to die of addiction, then to go for it.

so there was a little chance that i could be pregant. a veyr little cahnce. so i took plan b within 24 hrs. they say your suppose to get side effects like headaches and stuff. but i didnt get any of the side effects. just a a tiny tiny little headache. i tok the pills as directed. is there any strange reason why i didnt get the side effects they warn about?

You probably got lucky.

can i be with someone thats under age

If you're 18 & over, no. It'd be illegal to do anything sexual with them. So no, you can't be with someone who is under 18 if you're 18 and over.

ok so at my school i am the one with big boobs nad yea it sux so i was wondering if u can do ne thing besiudes surgery/reduction surgery tht can make them smaller?

Love it. Other girls are jealous of you, and guys love it.

"The worst thing any guy could tell you when you tell them how you feel is that they're gay, taken or that they don't like you back."

hey thanx. above is what you wrote. ok well its a very long story. first we were ok friends and i started liking him. i told him of this after maybe a week. he said he had commitment problems. so then their was this field trip. i thought it was the best day of my life. a lot happened that day he put his arm around me and flirted with me. he spent his whole day concentrating on me. but then on the monday after there was a big shocker. he found out that i thought he liked me and told me that it wasnt tru. and so after that we were just really good friends. he still always flirted with me which confused me a lot. finally one day i was crying about him and my friend josh called him and told him i was in tears. imediately my crush called and explained that it was all his fault and that he felt really bad about the whole thing. so i decided that i should get over him. and i did too. then a friend who hangs out with us started liking him. he doesnt like her, im sure about it. and when she asked me if i still liked him i told her that i didnt. i promised i didnt. anyone that asked i told them i didnt like him, even he found out that i didnt.

so after that we started becoming closer. hes my best guy friend. and so im not sure exactly when it happened but i started liking him again. but i didnt want to get hurt again like i did last time so i havent told him how i feel. everyone still thinks i dont like him.

ever since hes been really flirty and friendly. i guess it mite just be that we are both so comfortable around eachother. but he puts his arm around me and tells me he loves me in public. its not really made into a big deal because everyone knows we are just friends.

so all this time i knew something was up that he wasnt telling me about. until a few days ago when he told me that he WAS gay but is now convinced that he is strait. so that explains why he felt so bad about turning me down and why he flirted with me. he was trying to prove to himself and to others that he wasnt gay. no one knows about this excapt for me and another friend. but right after he told me that he wasnt gay he told me that he loves me soo much. i mean he always says it but now he says it more than usual. i mean he says it ALOT. and he could be flirting with other girls but he only flirts with me in front of other girls that like him. and so i have come to the conclusion that he likes me. but i am not sure entirely. i really trust him and he trusted me with his secret. so i think we are just bound to end up together. i mean the other day it seemed like he was about to kiss me. he didnt though cuz i pushed him it was a joke thing. but then i realized this could have been my first kiss and got mad at myself haha. and so i want to kiss him. i really do but i am not sure how to. it doent have to be a long kiss at all. it doesnt even have to be on the lips. its just to let him know i am interested. so wat is your take on all of this? im sorry i made you read this its really long i know. and thank you so much for listening to my problems. i know that even if i kiss him and he doesnt feel the same it wont mess up our friendship because it would have already so im not to worried about that. just please help. thanx ur an angel =)

Haha, aww thank you. And don't worry about it being long. My answers can be long too, so it's nothing to be sorry for. =)

Anyways, I think he likes you. He flirts with you, puts his arm around you & tells you he loves you. He even went to kiss you until you pushed him away, haha. I would think he likes you a lot. As I said before, tell him how you feel. If he likes you, then you guys can go out. If he doesn't, it's not the end of the world. There's a lot of other amazing guys out there, and you'd be missing out just concentrating on one person.

Tell him how you feel, and see what happens. And try & hang out some more. And if he tries to kiss you, don't push him away. Let him kiss you, because then you know he definitely likes you, and then you can be with him. =) Good luck!

so theres this guy who sits next to me
i know he notices me cause we talk, but he has an impression of me as a freshman that laughs a lot.

Any cute ideas to make him notice me more?
not anything too extreme like bring flowers but
anything else is fine :]

and he doesnt care if i touch him either haha
so is theyre anywhere i touch to make him like feel that nervous "feeling"?

Thanks.

Try to show him your serious side too. If someone is too giggly, it could be a turn off because then people think you don't know when to be serious. There's a time & place for laughter, but also a time & place for seriousness too.

my boyfriend and i have been together for what seems like forever. i want to move forward more, physically & emotionally with him but i don't know if he will. how to get him to do this, and commit? thanks for all the help!

Tell him that you're serious about this relationship, and you love him a lot. Tell him that you'd like to move forward with the relationshnip. He shouldn't mind it much.

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