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Q: I like this one guy and he told me he loved me and i believed him i loved him to he had a girlfriend at the time but when they broke up he stopped liking me now that hes unavailable and he still talks to her but i think he flirted with me today what should i do?
Not to break your heart or anything, but I think you should just let him go. I think maybe he did that to trigger your emotions. Sure, you can still be friends, but don't flirt back, just do something else that could possibly get him off of your mind. (I've been in the same position.)


xox
Good Luck

Q: what kinds of food help make you fell full longer. I'm tryin to loose weight????
Proteins(pretty much meats), fruits vegatables, and water also helps not only your weight, but your system.

Good Luck! (and don't forget to exercise :)




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Q: Hey! Well, I am getting my cartilage (upper ear) pierced on my ears, and I was wondering if it hurt of if I should look out for anything or something like that. Thanks.
It will sting a little afterwards, and it will be sore. I can assure you of that. But, however, you need to clean it at least two times a day, twist it around a whole time at least once a day, and that's pretty much about it. Enjoy!


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Q: 14/f.. I had sex with my boyfreind about 3 or 4 weeks ago and the condom broke!! I took 3 pregnency tests without my parents knowing and they were all positve!! so i think i'm pregent how could i tell my parents? HELP
I'll rate 5
God you're only 14. I hate people like this. Anyways, for your advice:
-talk to your parents; just sit down with them whenever you're ready (but not too late); if you don't feel comfortable...

-talk to someone you trust such as your physician.

That's really all you can do for now.
Good Luck

And no matter what you do, do NOT have an abortion.


xox

Q: whats the name of the song that goes "never had a dream come true, till the that i met you" i know it but i cant remember it...i rate 5's ♥
Never had a dream come true
SCLUB 7


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Q: i need to know how to get pass internet blocks so i can log on to facebook?
I have that at my school too. The only way I think you can do that is to log off and onto the teacher's, and in order to be able to do that, you have to have his/her password.


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Q: etopic pregnancy...? just curiuos i mean i kno its a dumb question but im just wondering...
What Are the Signs and Symptoms?
Ectopic pregnancy can be difficult to diagnose because symptoms often mirror those of a normal early pregnancy. These can include missed periods, breast tenderness, nausea, vomiting, or frequent urination.

Pain is usually the first red flag. You might feel pain in your pelvis, abdomen, or, in extreme cases, even your shoulder or neck (if blood from a ruptured ectopic pregnancy builds up and irritates certain nerves). Most women describe the pain as sharp and stabbing. It may concentrate on one side of the pelvis, and it may come and go or vary in intensity.

Any of the following additional symptoms can suggest an ectopic pregnancy:


vaginal spotting or bleeding
dizziness or fainting (caused by blood loss)
low blood pressure (also caused by blood loss)
lower back pain


♥xox

Q: ok i want to know how to get a heart like on aim. I know you do alt then some numbers or something and you get that copyright sign or...but what are the numbers and what do you do after that?
make the & sign:
&
type hearts
&hearts
then put ;



All together now :)


xox

Q: Ok, so this is really gross but I've had diarreah (sp?) for a week and about 2 days now. And also, on Friday I've had really bad nausea (sp?) and I don't know. Bad nausea and diarreah.. what is this? I'm really worried about it though. Please answer.
It sounds like you have the stomach flu.

http://www.webmd.com/content/Article/116/112371.htm?pagenumber=2

Click to the bottom of the page and you'll see a chart that may help.


xox

Feel better :)




Q: I was recently asked to attend a party a friend of mine is hosting. I would love to go hang out with my friend and meet new people. But there are a couple problems with this. I wont know anyone at all and Im not exactly a social butterfuly, my friend lives really far away, the party will be at night and Im not the best driver at night, and Im afraid since no one knows me I will be left out of conversations.

How can I politely say no? I want my friend to keep inviting me to do other things, but not this particular event.

I rate.
Simple as this:

You don't have to offer an excuse if you don't care to. Simply say that you regret you cannot attend.


xox

Q: I'm making banana bread. I calls for 1/2 cup of Buttermilk. what is that?
A cultured sour milk made by adding certain microorganisms to sweet milk.


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Q: does anyone here has some good tips how to get over a guy you really really love but just cant take this anymore???????? i really dont know what to do how can i get over him??? PLEASE HELP!!! i'll rate high for good advice
Getting over a relationship is an experience most of us have to go through at some point in life.




Steps:
1. Allow yourself to grieve over the loss. Grieving includes going through feelings such as sadness, anger, shock and acceptance.

2. Take any pressure or expectations off yourself to get over it quickly. Depending on the length of the relationship or how important it was to you, you may need weeks, months or longer to get over it.

3. Take care of yourself. Get adequate rest, eat right and get some exercise.

4. Nurture yourself. Give yourself permission to relax, take it easy, and do whatever makes you feel better - such as taking walks, baths or naps; listening to music; reading; or watching movies.

5. Plan pleasurable activities with friends or family ahead of time (especially on weekends) to keep you busy and get your mind off the loss.

6. Consider joining a support group to be with others dealing with similar feelings. Ask your doctor for a referral.

7. Talk to your doctor about possibly taking medication if you're having trouble sleeping, or if you're experiencing anxiety or depression. Or discuss the options of herbal supplements such as St. John's wort (for depression) or kava kava (for anxiety).

8. Get a journal and write down what you have learned from the relationship about yourself, relationships and life.


Tips:
If the relationship was very significant for you, you may never get over it in the sense of having no residual feelings about it. Over time, the feelings will become less intense and you will be able to think about the relationship without it being so painful.


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Whether you're the one doing the dumping or the one getting dumped, breaking up is always hard to do. Although you might feel as if you'll never get over this, you will.




Steps:
1. Call all of your friends - even the ones you may have ignored during your recent relationship - and make plans immediately. Now is not a good time to be alone.

2. Vent when the need arises. Good friends will let you take out the photo album (again) and cry (again) and rant (again) - and they'll still love you.

3. Allow yourself time to grieve. If you don't let yourself wallow in self-pity for a while and mourn the good times lost, your heart may harden to future relationships and love.

4. Realize that this sadness will pass.

5. Distract yourself with fun once you're tired of mourning. Movies, group sports, classes or a favorite CD can help get your mind off your loss.

6. Indulge yourself when you're feeling lonely. Try a massage, a weekend trip away with a best friend, a great new outfit - whatever helps you feel good about yourself.

7. Begin dating again when you're ready. Have friends set you up, and go to all those parties you might otherwise skip.

8. Analyze what went wrong in the relationship only after you have rebuilt your self-esteem. If you attempt to do this too soon, you're headed for another downward spiral.

9. Remember the good aspects of the relationship (there must have been some), and then get excited about the new direction your life is suddenly taking. Change can be awesome!


Tips:
Keep in mind that clean breaks are generally better than those minibreaks or sort-of breakups that are a bit easier to deal with at the time. Upon breaking up, attempt to resolve lingering issues, then take some time away from each other, even if you intend to remain friends.


Warnings:
Never sleep with an ex unless you like to torture yourself.

While you're upset, don't do anything you'll regret later. The transition back into single life is a highly vulnerable time. Get support from your friends.




Good luck

xox

Q: ok so im f/17 ive never had sex before but ive become ill.weak,cough,flem ect and im scared because my friend keeps talking about aids and im scared.Ive been to the hospital as i felt ill can they tell if i have it from checking me over?or from an x-ray?also my vagina feels weird i can't explain.The doctor asked me if i have discharge my mum was sitting there and i was scared to say yes.I get white stuff is it normal?Im really scared someone help me please and an ocassional liquid.They asked when my last period was i said 2 weeks ago but i think it was last month!!!!!hurry with answers please also im waiting for the blood test results and urine.
1) Calm down
Dear lord.

2) Relax. Don't lie. If you lie, then well...it's just not good.

3) There's nothing wrong. Why? may you ask? Well, you're still a virgin, and that's okay. Yea- you could have AIDS, but it's really, really, really doubtful. So, just wait for the tests to come back. I'm almost positive that the tests will come back normal. But don't freak out. Fellow advicenators may not appreciate it.

Good luck

xox

Q: For my hair type, I wash my hair every two days. But, by the time the day comes my hair kind of smells. So I use a lot of shampoo to make it smell good longer. I straighten my hair everyday. How can I make my hair smell good for awhile? I use Suave shampoo and conditioner.
Really lavish your hair, to start. Make sure you're doing that. Second, straightening your hair is fine and dandy (I do it too): BUT, if you do straighten it too much, your hair will smell, and it will break the ends of your hair, and give you split ends. So...the solution:
...not straightening your hair as much and [really do lavish your hair].


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Q: Aside from flowers poems letters notes what are good ways to win a girls heart. I mean really melt her heart. We broke up but I still love her. I dont want to lose her. Any ideas. I ran out of ideas. Something(s) a girl cant resist. Im not good with what women desire or what melts there heart. Your advice tips etc will be highly appreciated and I will rate you high.
Um...try talking to her. Duh. That is really the best thing you can do. But, as for being a "woman" myself, if you really screwed up, I'm not sure I'd like making up with you; but, beyond the point, if you really did get the words from your heart out, (it wouldn't be corny) I'd make up. So yeah, I mean, just try that.


xox

Q: What is the thematic relationship between the story told in "To Kill a Mockingbird" and the books title? Discuss at least 3 characters that might be discribed as "mockingbirds".

i have no clue what in the world im suposed to write about. can someone please give me an idea what exactly its asking?? 5's
thanks
I have never read the book, I will admit, but I do really believe that the answer is logical. Just think back and forth about both. It's hard to describe, and I don't want to give you the wrong answer.

www.sparknotes.com
may help you.

But again, just think about reasonably.


xox

Q: Heyy Its just me again with another dumb question...



Whats the diffrence between a diary and a journal???

please tell me:-p
I rate 5 for anwers

love always,
me.
I'm not sure if there's even a difference; I mean, yeah, like sweetie4eva said, you write "Dear Diary", but that's it. You write personal things in both, so really, there isn't.


Q: ok so im 14 and all my friends use tampons, i wanna start but I dont kno how to use one! and its just too weird to ask my mom. can someone help tell me how to use one or help me find a site where it has info like that on it? please!

tampax.com


Q:
Hi. I'm female (obviously) and I'm 16 years old.

I think I might have a yeast infection, but what are the symptonms, and could it possibly be something else?

Thanks.
-Vaginal itching that is often severe.
-Vaginal discharge that is usually white, curdlike, and odorless.
-Red, irritated skin around the opening to the vagina (labia).
-Pain while urinating when urine touches irritated skin.
-Pain in the vagina during sexual intercourse.

Jess♥

Q: Most people say once you have sex it means your not a virgin anymore..and some people say once you had been fingered and not had sex means your not a virgin either is that true?
Yea...so...once you and a guy have had sexual intercourse (or in other words, until he enters you), you are still a virgin.


Jess

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Heyyyy, I'm jess. I love to help other people, no matter what. I've been through enough bs to know when to just stop and walk away. I don't judge; feel free to ask me anything. I have quite the temper. But, what makes me a good advice-giver is that for the most part, I'm genuinely empathetic and willing to help.
(:

I've had a lot of experiences with piercings, bullying, family problems, and even sexual issues (no std's)- but with the emotional part of it. I love music, so I give good, basic advice about that, too. Also, I deal with severe anxiety and depression, and have been in treatment numerous times. On top of that, I have OCD (Obsessive Complulsive Disorder), and because I've been around people addicted to drugs, or cutting, I can help! Just give me the chance.

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