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oaky i have a RLY bad sweating problem! At school i sweat like heck and i cant help it! by the end of the day i have HUGE oit stains! Ive tried many different deoderants....first i started out with avon and then i tried secret (( the strong and invisable kind)) and now im using avon sport...none of them will work!!! please help me! what is a very strong deoderant???

Hey ♥
Certain Dri works really really good. You put that on at night, though. During the day, I think you should get a deoderent called, "Arrid Extra Extra Dry" You can get it at any pharmacy, and works like magic, trust me.
♥♥ naimee

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ok ive never been kissed before and im nervous that when i do get kissed that i wont know what im doin and ill be bad. any advice, thoughts, or tips about this?

Hey ♥
Kissing does come naturally. As much as you'd love tips & lessons on how to learn how to do it and stuff, you can't. & that sucks. But! The number one tip I can give you, is before you actually kiss someone try not to be all shakey & scared n crap. Haha, that happened to me and I started laughing in the middle of a make out kiss, and then like I blew into his mouth because of course I was like laughing & his mouth like filled up with my air and then like his cheeks were all puffy and he looked at me like while our lips were still connected and we just both started BURSTING out laughing. I felt so stupid afterwards but it was definitely a rememberable first kiss! =P
♥♥ naimee

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i was just wondering how old you were when you had your first kiss....im 14 and i still havent had mine so i kinda feel like a loser but plz put real age...ty

Hey! ♥
You're only 14, so don't worry about getting your first kiss yet. There's plenty of people in your boat & your time will definitely come! =P
For my first cheek kiss: 10
For my first peck kiss: 13
For my first make out kiss: 15
♥♥ naimee

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Ok so my bff is like my sister and i love her to death! So know she is bffs with my x and now she is turning into a brat saying yea I hate your hair like she cant keep her rude comments to her slef i wanna know is this normal or should i br conserned??

You should definitely be concerned. Like the person said below you should not be treated badly especially by your best friend, that's just crap. You need to tell her how what she's saying about you is really hurting you. If she keeps it up after you tell her just don't be her friend. She isn't worth anything.
♥ naimee

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ok i have this friend...she's 17 years old and she was in this religion where you can only wear skirts and you cant cut your hair and all that kind of stuff and she got pregnant so now she's no longer in this "religion" but i found out last weekend she's pregnant by a guy that i use 2 be so inlove with...i want to still be friends with her because we grew up together and she's like my sister and she has had a rough life but then i dont want to get a bad name for being friends with her!! What should i do? And should i forgive her for messing with my ex boyfriend because we promised each other we would never date another ones ex or anything because thats wrong...what do i do...HELP
15 female

You shouldn't be her friend again. You would get a bad name, my friend was in your position before & luckily she got out of it before it was too late. People always talked crap about her as well as her friend who was pregnant saying that they both were whores & probably go out and have sex with each other to earn money. It was pretty stupid seen as my friend was still a virgin.

But, she ALSO gets pregnant by your ex-love?? That's stupid!! She's a fool. You should definitely NOT be her friend again. =P You'll probably be better off without her!
♥ naimee

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i had two dreams of me getting raped. i it wat does it mean and wat should i do help me plez.

Hey. Usually dreams about rape may represent insecurity with sexuality; phobias and masochistic fantasies.
♥ naimee

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On AIM, what does the world "meh" mean?

It can mean, me.
Or, it could mean that it was really dull.

Like.

You love meh. [Some people think it's cool to put an h on the end of me, just like (yah)]

Or.

My day was meh. [Like, eh - just dull nothing important.]

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Does anyone know of a website where i can copy and paste my essay and the site will show me grammer errors or rate me on my writing or will anyone do that for me? lol sorry if that doesn't make sence. WILL RATE THOUGH!

Oh my gosh, sure.

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How can you usually tell if your in love?

Well it`s different for everyone. But I`ll tell you how I would think I`m in love.

· When you want to be around that person point blank all the time.
· When they meet everything you want in a person, looks - personality - sense of humor.
· When you`re around them, you feel all funny inside, and you just want to scream because you`re so happy that you`re with them.
· You`re not afraid to tell this person your deepest darkest secrets.
· When you can make a complete ass out of yourself in front of them without getting all red-faced.
· You can`t help but overobsess and think about them all the time. They just won`t ever leave your mind.

=] Plus, you`ll just KNOW.

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what is a good way to start talking to someone who you like and you think that person likes you too. im sometimes really shy.

Well, just to start conversations in general with anybody. Compliment them! I was new at school this year, and the way I made some friends was by saying.. "I really like your shoes" Then she said, "thanks!" Then I just said.. "I had a pair of those in blue & white before, except someone stole them.." Then we just kept talking, and became really good friends! But, seriously - the best way to make friends is to compliment them & be nice. Good luck.

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If im about 5'2 and 13 1/2 years old and weigh 115 pound am I fat or overwight?

Your BMI [Body Mass Index] is: 21.

Which basically means, that your weight is normal for your height. Don't worry about it =P

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Me and my friend Paul are practically brother and sister! We've always been tight but over the summer it seemed as if we were getting feelings for eachother that werent normal 'friendly' feelings. He invited me everywhere with him. We went to the beach to watch fireworks, i joined him for dinner, and almost every weekend we hung out at his house watching the stars and talking. i never feel uncomfortable around him and i can tell him anyhing. Were both strong christians and believe that God will lead us in the direction we need to go. But I just dont know ...
is this Love? :-\

Hey! That`s how it always was, with my best friend & I. Except we didn`t tell each other that we liked each other, I worried that he wouldn`t think of me like that, and he thought the exact same thing. I actually just moved 26 hours away from him & told him how I`ve felt about him & him - me. But, now it`s too late. I regret it so much because for 10 years of being best friends, we could`ve been more. But, yes I think it is love, and you should tell him right away. =]

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okay im 14 and im a girl. lately i have been wanting a boy friend more than anything! i know im pretty and i like a few people but i dont know if they like me i really want a boyfriend and i wanna do stuff with them what is wrong with me how can i get one faster? and no dumb people and no oh your too young or time will come

Hey! =] My advice to you, is not to rush yourself into anything too fast. I`ve never had a serious boyfriend my whole life and I`m 15. I actually just had my 2nd date last night! Although, I wanted a boyfriend for the longest time, I`m so glad that I met the boy I did & waited for him to come around! Don`t just date someone for dating sake, that`s all I'm saying. You`re lucky, you already have a headstart, you are pretty. But, sometimes boys don`t just judge girls by their looks. If you like a certain boy, talk to him & try and find out what he`s interested in. So, you can talk to him about stuff that he likes! There`s absolutely nothing wrong with you, so don`t worry about that.

Good luck, hun!

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there is this girl that i've liked since 2nd grade and i like her even more.i am now in 9th grade and i think she is the one but i am afraid to ask her out because i am afraid she will say no. so what should i do?i am a male.

Hiii!
You definitely should tell her and give it a try! for sure. I really liked my best friend [whos a boy ima girl] from 2nd grade until like right now! When I finally told him last year, freshmen year that I liked him i found out he liked me back, but I unfortunetly moved 26 hours away from him. So, we never got a chance to have a relationship because I didn't open my mouth when I should have. You definitely should! She could totally love you, and you'd never know.
Give it a try =P

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hi my name is jake, i'm 16 sophmore in high school. over the years i watch my friends go through relationships and stuff, n i never had one. n its not bc i'm antisocial or anything; i think i'm pretty popular, lots of friends and stuff. just thinks never seem to happen or get to the point of relationships; is this weird? should i try to put more an effort to startin a relationship? or should i just kinda be passive about it like i've been. i do want to find someone, to have fun with.

Lol, you're definitely not weird. It's not weird that you haven't had a relationship either. A lot of my guy friends are the same as you. & most of my girl friends. You definitely need to put more effort into trying to find a girlfriend though, because if you keep doing what you're doing, then you're going to have to wait until a girl comes to you. Which might be really difficult in the long run, because if you're not open with girls then they won't know what to say or how to act around you! But, maybe being passive like you are now might help. You might meet a girl whose in a similiar situation. It's not going to be easy especially finding your first girlfriend, so don't rush into anything! besides, I think it's cute that you haven't had a girlfriend yet, and some girls would too! =P goodluckk.

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out of the blue 2 guys like me at the same time. i chose the one that i knew the most. we have been going out for a day and hes saying he loves me and i just feel confused and i want to tell him that. but then this other guy is so sweet and says he would never cheat on me and stuff because the guy im going with is what you would call a rebel. i really dont know what to do please help me

You definitely should stay with the kid you're dating right now. Even though you might be second guessing yourself, you made a decision, and you made it because you knew him longer. Maybe that'll help in the long run? I think you should seriously wait a few more days before you start regretting choosing this guy over the other, because it might be a big mistake. I'd be confused if I were you, too! That's weird that he says that he loves you, but that's how most people are. Maybe he's liked you for a really long time, but he was just afraid to tell you for some unknown reason. Maybe he does have strong enough feelings to love you? But anyways, if I were you I'd definitely wait it out atleast a week before you break up with the kid you're currently dating, just to see if you think you do like the other one more!

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I am not fat one bit. I am actually really skinny. My hair isn't the prettiest but it's ok. I look pretty hott. But there are shorter skinnier girls in my grade that just get in my way and take all the boys. I'm not a big flirt at all. But the girl in my grade that all the boys love is such a BIGG FLIRT! I think that shes not that pretty but shes a nice girl and shes my friend. I really want the boys to notice me and like me. What should I do???

You are full of yourself.
That's your answer. Maybe you should change the ways you think about yourself and then people will like you more.

Fat girls can still get boyfriends, so I don't know why you put down overweight people. Stupidass.

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There is this boy and he sits behind me in home and careers, reading and writing and he sits across from me in math and social studies.

He annoys me so much and I'm not allowd to change seats.

What should I do??

He curses me out all the time I just want to strangle him or my self.

Your teacher HAS to move you, there's absolutely no way she can't move you. Have your mom/dad write her a letter explaining why you need to move because it's disrupting your classwork & you get annoyed by him annoying you. She WILL move you & if she doesn't then refuse to do any work & explain that there's no point you attempting to listen over the boy sitting next to you. She'll have no choice but to move you.

With the boy, just tell him to shut up & he's just stupid. Boys are ridiculous especially when they only do it for attention. He might have a crush on you ;) eww.

Anyways, if this continues just go to your school counselor & explain what's going on. =D

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What does the gold star by a columists name mean? ♥ thanks

It means that they have a paid account!! =D
You can find info about it here: http://www.advicenators.com/paidaccounts.php

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Ok so I pierced my ear last Saturday...it swelled up so I took it out on Monday of last week and they said it would be ok to re-do it on Friday...So I go in on friday and they recommended to give it another day. I go back on Saturday (yesterday), and she re-pierces it getting just my cartilage. It swelled up the first time cause they got the very edge of the nerve. So right now, its really red and it looks like its gonna swell up as bad as it did last week. I've been cleaning it as the instructions say, havent been sleeping on it, and it hurts like hell when I put the antiseptic on it. Am I doing something wrong or should I continue and ignore the swelling and pain?? This is the first time i've ever done this so I have no friggin idea what to do so help me out please

Hey!
I definitely agree with Howyoudooin, you shouldn't have taken it out. You only had it for 2 days, so I don't know why you would've? Your ear just wasn't used to the cartilidge piercing being in your ear, that's why it got all swollen & irritated. The same thing happened to me, and I waited a week after it swelling, and it eventually went away.

This time I think you should deal with the pain & swelling, because it WILL go away. Make sure you check that the back isn't TOO tight, because that could be why, or the earring you have in your ear your allergic to? Or maybe not. That's what happened to me the first time I had my cartilidge pierced.

Wait ATLEAST a month. If it still bothers you, you should take it out & wait a couple months, or get your other cartilidge pierced.

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