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First off that's my special man friend with me way back from high school, and been dating now for almost four years now. Yeah he's pretty spectacular, and I love him to pieces, and that's all I have to say about that. I'm a full time college student and working on my gen ed, but I would like to get my bachelor's in gerontology and eventually get my nursing license. In fact I work at a nursing home now as a CNA and I love it so much. Anyways ask questions if you want. I'll try to help you out anyway I can. I love helping people after all. :)

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Hello. I was just wondering if any of you knew how many seasons there are altogether of Beavis and Butthead. I'm buying the second season tomorrow from Best Buy because it's on sale. I already have the first. If anyone can please let me know! I tried searching on the Best Buy site, but all it came up with was the Beavis and Butthead Do America movie. I'm stupid for asking a question about Beavis and Butthead, but I think their funny as hell! Don't make fun of me! ;-)

I asked jeves. There are seven. Beavis and Butthead rock. Peace out

well last night we went out because it was my friend's birthday and i met pitbull (i live in miami). there was this guy there and he didn't have his camera with him so i threw the picture of him. he had this friend thats super cute. the boy i threw the picture of calls me this morning for the pic and to tell me his friend likes me and thinks im cute. i got his myspace... but i kinda want him to add me... auno... i dont wanna look desperate and + my mom is super into like everything i do and she says not to add him, to wait for him to add me. i just wanna get in contact with him.. but kind of in a way where i was part of it, but kinda not... im sure most girls noe what i mean. ideas? thank you

I know how you feel. I have had past problems of being too clingy. Thank god I'm learning from it now. Anyway, go ahead and add him too your myspace. It's just the internet. You won't look desperate at all. Trust me. I'd let him drop the first comment though. Another thing about myspace is you get in touch with anyone around the world with that. The point of myspace is to have friends on their. On my myspace, I have friends from Germany on there. I've never met these people in my life but it's fun. Also your probaly familiar with the fact that when you add someone as a friend they have to approve it. If he doesn't, then you can say to hell with him and move on.

so i've been reading thru these questions and answring here and there, but then i finally realized that i need advice myself. ill rate you pretty high if you even read this twisted story...

me and my ex boyfriend had been going out for almost 3 months when he suddenly broke things off with me. pWe were good friends before we actually were going out...] When we were going out we were compeely comfortable with eachother, and when we first started going out there was no "comfort stage" as some people call it where we were awkward like new lovers. We live thru the woods from eachother so it was the perfect set up, whenever we needed eachother we could just meet halfway and we'd be together [weboth hate the phone].

however, the friday before he broke up with me, he told me hed call me[this was in school] and wed hang out with "the crew" [all of our mutal friends] he never called me that whole weekend and monday morning he broke up with me in a completely awkward and un like him self way. He hooked up with a friend of mine, and now he goes out with another friend of mine.

Heres the problem...i feel like i am over him, but i still find myself thinkin about him quite often. It doesnt help that i'm still sort of friends with our "mutal friends" who have drifted ever since we broke up, but my friend goesout with him!. i'm okay with that, or at least i think i am, but every once and a while ill have some outrageous dream that we get back together in the end and nothing changed, he loved me all along and the whole break up was stupid.

somebody please help i dont know what to do about my mixed feelings...as much as i want him back, i honestly dont want the dirtbag. i've had a hook up since them...with antoher dirtbag who is also my friend...it didnt mean much, i was smashed...and now i might have feelings for that guys older brother...but i still dont kno what to do about my ex....

This guy sounds like a total jerk off. I know exactly what your going through. My ex is going out with my best friend right now. It sucks but I got over him. I don't even talk to him anymore. That's how I got over him. Seriously though, what kind of guy would go out with one of your friends? I think that's pretty low. A guy that would do that sort of thing. That's why I don't even talk to my ex anymore. This guy sounds like a total ass. I know that you think that it's the end of the world, but there's plenty more guys out there. And ones that will treat you right. I would still hold off dating untill I was totally over him though. It would just seem like a rebound then.

i have only had sex once in my life and my bf came over yesterday and he fingered me and i woke up with this bump on my vagina what dose this mean.

It's probaly nothing. I've never heard of getting and STD from getting fingered. He may have done it to hard or something. I would give it a few days. If it's still there I'd get it checked out, just to be 100% positive. It's probaly nothing to worry about, but it's good that you care enough about your body.

im having revival at my church all this week. i forgot to ask off from work, and im the type of person that hates to inconvenience people. i got someone to work for me monday. my only two days are today and friday. today, im supost to be training a new girl(about the 5th one theyve had me train),so, their definetely gonig to be inconvenienced. plus, tomorrow,i have a family graduation party to go to. i just feel bad asking for the whole week off, and inconveniencing them. any ideas on what i can say?

I'm only 15. I don't work. I'm sorry

It is pretty much impossible for me to empathize/understand people who believe in God and religion. I am fully against both of them, for a long list of reasons that I don't need to go in to. The deal is, people tell me I'm being sacreligous/a heretic/going to hell, but I can't understand where they're coming from AT ALL. To me evangelists and deeply religous people just seem like pitiful, misguided puppets of a nonexistent power. It tends to screw up my relationships with people.... Any advice?

I understand exactly. People will get into a discussion with me about god only because they know I don't believe in god. I can't stand people who try to push you into believing something you don't believe in. Hell, Bush claims he's a Christian and he'd be the one to burn in hell before anyone else. If god were real, he wouldn't want other people to push their religon down on other people. I think that the Tooth Fairy is easier to believe in then god. I mean seriously, why would you believe in going up to heaven. Most people have this vision that when we die, we turn into like angels and spend all of eternity up in "heaven" in a make believe kind of fairy palace. I guess people did this because there so afraid to die they made up this sort of idea that there's an old long gray bearded man in "heaven" who keeps track of everyone on like a huge score board. Anyway I'll quit taking up your thime and give you advice on how to deal with these jerks. Just tell them to leave you alone and they can't force you to believe in something you don't want to. Tell them it's a free country and to stay out of your face. Or to make it easier, just ignore them. My whole family is very religous, including both my parents. They always try to make me go to church with them and I can't stand it. Eventually they got the idea when I told them no 100 billion times.

Hi, i am 15 nearly 16 and my teenage years which i should be enjoying are being ruined. ever since i was young i have had an obsession with babies and at one point i almost slept with someone i had only just met, to get pregnant. luckily i couldn't go through with it and after a while and a great deal of thinking i managed to bottle these feelings up and get on with my life and hopefully get a degree to become a high school teacher. Since i have entered year 10 i have been taking child development which is 90% about babies, also a girl in the year below me is pregnant and is really excited and I'm just so jealous! everyone i have talked to said "it just my hormones" or "its just a faze" but its not, its more than that. it is making me depressed and my GCSE's are suffering because i cant tell the teachers why i am always so down and moody so they just assume i am being immature, then cocky when i say that I'm not being immature. I'm not a big clubbing fan so if i did get pregnant that wouldn't bother me and my best mate had a child at 16 (she is now 19) and she says its great and she hasn't missed out anything she wouldn't sacrifice anyway. please help me, i just don't no what to do!

Theres nothing wrong with you first of all. Get that out of the way. I've felt this way numberous times. I just wanted a real live being that I could take care of. Someone that depended sorely on me and no one else. My sister ended up getting pregnant at 15 and had to give the baby up. Even after all this occured she got pregnant again at 17. She got emancipated. Now we never talk to her. Next time you think about wanting a baby, think about all the things that could happen as a result of having that baby. A baby is not some sort of ragdoll that you care about one minute and the next you don't. A baby is a living breathing human being. That person won't be a baby forever. Keep that in mind too. Think about everything you will have to put up with later down the road. Like puberty and all that junk. And it's really hard to raise a baby on your own. Believe me, I've seen what my sisters had to go through. Getting on welfare and whatnot. Just trying to help. Hope I did.

I worry about EVERYTHING. The smallest thing gets my mind going and I won't stop worrying about things until someone assures me of the situation. Even if it's something like my girlfriend not contacting me for just two days, I start to go crazy! My mind keeps thinking "what if? what if? what if?!" Are there certain techniques I can use to keep myself from doing this? Or anybody else who might have problems like this who could help me?

Thank you!

I have the same exact problem. Hope you don't mind getting advice from a girl. You may have OCD. I do and it sounds like you may have it as well. People with OCD tend to obsess, in other words over-worry about small things. Hell, I used to obsess over cleaning the house, and my boyfriend not caliing me for 2 days either. You may have this, and you may not. I'm just trying to help. The next best thing you can do is talk to someone your really close to who won't blab out everything you tell them. They could probaly give you really good advice. Or I would tald to a health proffesional. Like maybe a shrink (psychiatrist) who you can talk your problems over with.

Alright i`ve been taniing at the tanning bed..&& my little sister well isn`t old enough to go so she asked if i`d lay out at my grandma`s with her && i said yes.. Well my mom said i shouldn`t do that because my aunt did that && got burnt real bad && had scapes all on her chest.. So i want to know if this is a good or bad idea.. I mean my sister looks up to me && i said i`d do it.. But i don`t want to do anything dangerous.. But my mom might be makin it up i couldn`t tell if she was serious so please tell me ladies!!

It depends on like if you do it all the time or not. Make sure you put suntan lotion on before you do anything like this. Sun can actually be very good for your skin. But too much over exposure to anything can be bad for you. It sounds like you and your sister are very close. Just make sure if you do this with your sister, don't do it a really long time. Although, if your mom said no, I wouldn't do it. Try to find something else fun to do with your sister like, swimming, baseball, or even just chaing each other around and talking.

what does agnostic mean? truefully i sont know what in the world that means hehe

I don't know if I believe in god or not.

if you have your period and you have sex while your on it and you get pregnant will your period stop? thanks xoxox

Some of these people are cazy. Not you the person who answered this question before me. Yes, you can get pregnant if you have sex while your on your period. And no your period will not stop. Hope I cleared some confusion up for you.

i have to memorize this poem by shel silverstein. no matter how hard i try, i just cant memorize it. or ill memorize it for 2 minutes and then i'll forget it. I CANT STAND THIS!! help meee

Try reciting it to friends or family. Say it in front of your mirror over again. I have the same problem and this works for me. Hope it works for you too.

hey, this is kind of a gross question, but does anyone know how to treat a blister? Mine is from a burn. Its all filled with liquid. It doesn't hurt, I was just wondering. Some people have told me to pop it and bandage it, some people have told me to just leave it. I need to know how to treat it properly. Thanks. I will rate high for helpful answers.

The best thing to do is to wash it with soap and water and put a bandaid on it. Switch the bandaids on it everyday. Put neasporin on it so it don't get infected.

hey im 13/m and i was wonder for my girlfriend wut would make her really happy im taking to the movies and i ually pay fr everything cause i dont wnat her to waste her money i want her to use it for something eles....so wut can i do or give her?

That is SOOOO sweet. Get her flowers. Most girls like that.

I love green day... love them. i think about them but one little thing like trigger words like...love...rock...green day...green.... hot...sexy..boyfriend....holiday... these and more are tirgger words.. even things that have nothing to do with gereen day are triggering me to think about them... billie joe is so cute.. and i can't help myself about this problem.

Yeah your obsessed. So am I. He is so freakin hot. Get a boyfriend that looks like him or at least plays guitar. That's what I do.

ok so this boy right? we like each other but nothin has happend. we're cool and all. i never really told him how i REALLY felt like why i like him and stuff like that. after this school year he might move and i don't want him to forget me. soo.. should i tell him how i feel before the summer? my fear is that i dunno if he feels the same way. advice please lubb youzz!!

Yeah tell him. What have you got to lose. If he says no he ain't worth it then. Don't fret. Just move on.

can a sunburn on your face cause acne?

No. But it can irritate your face and give you blisters. THe blisters from the sunburn could give you acne though. From my expierence anyway. Different things irritate peoples differently. I still wouldn't go out without sunblock though. You could get skin cancer which is totally seperate from acne. You can't die from acne.

at a local music store, they display their saxophones on a wall. they have some sort of wall mount thing going on. i have searched google and ebay for saxophone wall mounts, but i can't find anything. i'm looking to hang up my two alto saxophones. my question is... have any of you ever seen a saxophone wall mount and where could i buy them?

Yeah they sell those. You could go on E-bay. You can get just about anything on e-bay and pretty cheap too. Or go to the closest music store near you. See what they got. If they don't have what you need, ask them to order it for you.

i was cutting before but i stoped. now i scratch myself with a needle. i know i need to stop but what should i do.

You may get sick of hearing it but you really should talk to a proffesional about it. I did the same thing, (the cutting part) and I'm so glad I did what I did. Just talk to someone you trust and tell them what's up. My guess is you do this because of stress. I know it helps, but do you really want a scar there the rest of your life. Think about it, don't you get more stressed later when you realize whaqt you did to yourself? Cutting or scratching yourself with a needle is not the way to go about doing it.

ok all i've asked a q b4 (have a look to see the background to theis q) i have a new b/f- yay go me! but we've only been together a month, i realy like him and i think he likes me back. i'm still scared of commitment and i still get scared when he touches me. and i pull away every time he makes a move. he thinks i don't like him back. how do i tell him bout my rape and what i feel like without making him run away?

I know wxactly what your going through. I was raped as well. It's your choice on whether or not you want to tell him or not. If you don't want to don't. I mean, I never told my boyfriends. But to feel more comfortable around him, you could hang around him and his family more often or double date. If you still feel you should tell him, I would take him somewhere where you would be alone with just him and explain it to him. Hope I came of some use.

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