ok, so today when i was stepping out of the sidewalk from my house, i was listening to mp3 and suddenly this guy pulls up his car, i get really frightened, then he asked me "do you want to get a ride?" and i politely said no, thank you, then he gets out of the car and starts walking towards me, and i didn't want him to ...he asks me my # and name and what school i go to, so i was really horrified at the time and i couldn't think straight so i gave out my actual number and thinking back, i have nooo idea WHY i did that, then he told me he'll call me soon and walked away...
i have a feeling that he's been watching me ever since i was getting out of the house and really creeped out, he might be some stalker, what should i do?!?! any advice would be greatly appreciated, thank you! :)
This could be just some random weirdo but from what you said (and he was on his own) it might be something more than just some random guy - either way it's not worth taking the risk.
I suggest you let your parents know what happen and also get in touch with the local police. If the guy is a genuine weirdo someone may have already reported him in which case the police may already be looking for him so you will be doing them a big favour by letting them know anything you can. The way I see it, it's not worth taking the risk by just hoping it was a coincidence that he was there at that moment (worse still is that he may have seen where you live so letting the police know asap is a priority).
Also, don't be so hard on yourself about giving out your real number. The police will understand as I do. You were clearly scared and not thinking straight and panicked - it happens a lot to a lot of people so don't beat yourself up over it at all.
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i just found out that im pregnant. i told my boyfriend and he said he wants to be there for me but that we need to tell our parents. we've decided to tell them together. but this will break my mom and dads hearts and i don't know how to tell them. when i think about how much it will hurt them, i just feel like laying down and crying on my bed, but that would be a baby thing to do. and i can't be a baby because im about to have one. i would really like help on how to talk to my parents and i think youre really smart and thats why i came to you. please help me.
Hello.
Thank you for wanting to ask me,that is sweet. I just want to say there is nothing wrong with crying at all. It doesn't make you a baby so don't worry about that and if anyone tells you otherwise they have no idea what they are talkin about. There's nothing wrong at all with crying so don't feel ashamed about doing it.
As for being pregnant, it's a good thing that your boyfriend wants to be there for you and the baby since most guys would just run in the opposite direction. I think that although your parents may be shocked about the news (possibly dissapointed but I am not sure on this part because you know them better than I) I think they would appreciate that your boyfriend and yourself have taken responsibility and are handling the situation in a mature way by talking to your parents about it. Your boyfriend is right though, you both will need to talk to your parents about this because you'll both need your own parents' support (and it's better they know from yourselves than having to find out some other way).
I won't lie and say it will be easy to talk to them but you'll both need to. It might be agood idea to talk to your boyfriend and see how he wants to go about the whole thing of talking to them. You might find it easier to talk to your mom on her own first with your boyfriend (or even on your own if you prefer that) and then all of you can confront your dad with the news. I think the best thing to do either way is to do it at your house. Just sit them down and talk to them but don't just sit them down and suddenly tell them you're pregnant. That will shock them more than anything so just talk to them about your relationship and you could say that found out something recently that you need to tell them. They will probably guess what it is already anyway since moms can usually sense these things. You just need to remember that they do love you and although the news may hurt them because the whole thing was out the blue, I think in their place I would be proud that at least my kid/s were able to come to me and talk to me about something like this.
I hope I was some help. GOod luck in letting your parents know (let me know how it goes or if you need any more help) and good luck to you and your boyfriend as well. :]
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Okay, so my computer has the program "Sound Recorder". It's very standard and came with the computer. Is there any way to extend the amount of time it will let me record for because for now, an entire minute is the maximum.
I use a program called Internet Audio Mix for recording all my sounds as well as basic mixing and editing for sounds and music. It's a really good program and if you try googling it you should be able to locate it very easily. I don't remember if its developers do a trial version but if they do then you may want to get hold of that.
Alternatively if you try searching for something like sound recorder freeware/shareware that may bring up a good fair number of results for you to look through where you might be able to download a free program to do what you need to do. :]
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when someone knocks on a bathroom door and your inside, what are you supposed to say? haha i know its a stupid question but i dont know what to say.
Well, when that happens to me I usually ask them what they want, lol. Generally when someone does knock its to see who's in there and ask how long I'll be in there becuase their desperate to get in there, hehe.
Just because you're in the bathroom you don't have to feel awkward about calling out when someone knocks - don't worry about it. :]
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ok so im 13/f
im a pretty social person, i mean im not like that popular girl who says hi to everyone and joins every after school activity, but im reasonable, ya know?
well i took an online test to see if i was addicted to the internet and i got an 80/100. And im ALWAYS online. i dream about being online and sometimes i will be walking around and ill say like LOL or TTYL out loud. and its not just instant messenger its myspace, online games like runescape, email, etc. i think i need help. I've tried to stop myself from going online but its not working. My grades are dropping because im always online! Do i need to talk to my parents? if so, how do i bring up that subject??
If you feel you are getting addicted to the internet (I'm always online too as well as on runescape - its only recently I've slowed down on runescape coz it's getting harder to lvl up and such) then the best way to cut back and get it under control is to talk to your parents.
Just have a chat to them and say you think you need to cut down on how long your on the net and if they can make sure you stay off it by setting you a time limit on how long you can be online, at least until your holidays or something (or the weekends). That way you can concentrate more on school work and your grades and not about being online all the time.
Hope that helps a little.
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ok so i cant get limewire to work anymore. i click on connect and it only connects 1 bar. when i try to search a song it says "limewire is currently connecting to the network. your search may return more results when you are fully connected", but it wont connect any more than that no matter how long i wait and doesnt give me ANY results. ive tried disconnecting & reconnecting several times but its the same thing all over again. it just started doing this. is anyone else having this problem?
Mine seems to be connecting fine but it has been taking longer to connect for some reason. It might just be the network is really busy.
you could try restarting your computer and then trying. You will need to completely restart the computer though - not just disconnect the internet and then reconnect it. See if that fixes the problem but if it doesn't the only other thing I can suggest is uninstalling the software and then reinstalling it. If there's a problem with your program that should fix it hopefully.
Hope that helps a little but if none of that works it may just be down to the network being busy or your ISP (especially if you're in the UK) have squeezed your bandwidth down to a crawl or blocked the program from connecting properly - it seems to be something a lot of ISP's seem to be doing - from what I have heard from online forums.
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Ok well my house is less then half a block form my school and everyone's really nice so they dont' litter on my lawn or anything but recently these kids in my brother's class has been littering on our lawn on PURPOSE! THey wlak together in a group but only one litters.
He rips his snakcs and stuff and liek uses our door as an aiming target or something and keeps whipping sutff. I told him to fuck off but he won't! Did I mention he was in grade 5?
I need this to stop because I am sick of tired of picking everything up (so ant's don't come because I'm scared of ants) and my dad is like a grandpa now and I odn't want him to liek strain himself picking them up all the time and hurt his feelings (he's really senstive). I also don't want him to know because he'll probably go to our school and yell at the boy but loose cuz the boy will probably make fun of him and stuff.
I was thinking of phoning his house but do you think it's a good idea? The police already went to his house 5 times but his parents don't care so I don't want to be being yelled at them on the phone if I'm telling them and thye dont' care.
I could tell my brother to yell at him but their friends so..I don't even know if their even friends! They always like fight but mostly he always hit my brother so I'm not sure if my brother knows what the word FRIEND means or if it's a guy thing cuz guys fights sometimes but they're not really fighting.
Please help..I really want it to stop! My finger are like shaking to go beat him up but I'm known as a kind and nice girl in my school and I want to be a doctor when i grow up so i don't want anything to ruin my perfect records if they have one.
This guy really doesn't sound like much of a friend to your brother at all. :/
I think to start with you should ask your brother if the guy really is his friend and if he would even listen to your brother. If he will then by all means it might be an idea to ask your brother to tell him to stop littering your lawn. If that doesn't work then I think the best thing you can do is file another complaint with the police and keep doing so until they take note and do something about it. If you have to by all means get evidence that it's him who's littering your lawn. Eventually the police will also have to take action.
It does seem, after 5 police visits already, that his parents just don't care. So it might be pointless in trying to call them to try resolve this that way but it is always worth a try and by all means something that may well be worth doing. I will say though don't be afraid to go out there and tell him to stop if you actually CATCH him in the act. If I caught someone doing that you can bet I would say something about it.
I will say though, don't beat him up. It would only work against you if he goes to the police afterwards. So don't get into a physical confrontation (unless you're having to defend yourself in which case you should notify the police asap). I can't really suggest anything else other than this for now. If you can tell me where you're from I can look more into it (UK or USA) because I think in the UK littering is an offence and if parents don't take an active role to prevent their kids littering they are the ones who can be fined/charged, but this is something I need to look into.
Just don't let this little annoying jerk get to you k. You're better than that. Also, I hold in high regard anyone who wants to go into medicine where they can help people. I wish you the best of luck in that. :]
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my boyfriend and i broke up a few days ago but i really like him still. the other night, he said he really liked me too and he wanted to go back out. then his computer froze or something and he signed off. this morning he immed me and said he took back everything he said. since then i've been really depressed & i've been getting headaches and stomaches allllll day. i can't get him off my mind. is there something i could do to move on or get him back? pleae don't suggest finding a new boyfriend because i don't think i'm ready for that.
thanks xo
I'd have to agree with what Mel said below. You can't force him to take you back by forcing him to love you or like you. It just doesn't work that way and it was wrong of him tosay all that stuff to you only to later say he takes it all back. I'm guessing it was one of those times he was having difficulties with the breakup too and was saying what he said more out of desperation perhaps than anything else. Then the next day he obviously felt better and made it clear he never meant any of it.
Moving on is never easy and I don't think you can really force yourself to move on either. You just have to give yourself time. In the meantime though do things with friends. Go out and hang out with your friends as it'll helpyou focus on other things. I found it was always at night when I had started thinking too much about my ex and I started to read a lot as it really helped me focus on other things - it might be something you can try as well.
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In December I was best friends with this guy. We're both 16, I'm a girl. Well we were really good friends, hung out everyday even if for 5 minutes, and called eachother everyday etc. He told me in January he liked me but decided he just wanted to be friends. Then he stopped talking to me. I was confused and hurt, after being with him everyday and talking to him, not talking/seeing to him at all was a total shock. Eventually I talked to him about it, and he said he still wanted to be friends/have a friendship. To me, it didn't seem like he was trying, and it still doesn't right now. I tell him exactly, directly, up front what I expect of him, which isn't much, and he never follows through. He calls maybe once every week, and only to ask if he's missed the bus. We hang out once a week, sometimes not at all. I guess I just really miss our old friendship and we've talked about it numerous times, I promise. And it seems while we're talking that he gets it, and the next day usually everything's so much better. But then he starts with his old habits again, and I don't know what to do! I guess I'm just asking did he give up trying to be my friend because he doesn't like me anymore? That's what it seems like to me, but I really need some thoughts here. It's been awhile since January, and I'm still confused why he seems to not be making an effort at this friendship. I'm really hurt, and just need help please.
Hello.
Firstly I'm sorry it took a while to reply to you, I had been really caught up with some stuff over here. :[
Your problem sounds very much like one of my problems I had with a really close female friend. We were the best of mates and always hung out together and joked around and stuff and at one point she knew I liked her but she didn't feel the same and it was okay (even I had gotten over it) but then when she got a new bf things just changed (he didn't lke her hanging out with any of her male friends) and even after they broke up it's been the same - she would never call or txt or want to hang out anymore. In the end I just stopped calling her and such.
Aas for what's going on with your friend I really can't say what might be the problem. At first glance my answer would be that he probably just lost interest because you probably just wanted to be friends but it seems HE was the one who kept saying to you he only wants you both to be friends. :/ I'm not really certain what it might be. It could be that he lied about wanting to just be friends becuase he knew it was all you wanted or it might be as you said, that when he decided/realised he just wanted to be friends with you he's lost interest. It would seem the obvious reason he is acting the way he is. You said you've already spoken to him as well and there's only so many times you can talk to a person - and I think he's pretty much proved people just don't change very easily. :[
I know it's really hard - it was for me too when my friend I mentioned above just suddenly vanished for no reason at all. Friendships work the same way as relationships - there's give and take on both sides. I was the one who put all the effort into keeping in touch with her and trying to stay friends and she just never seemed to bother so I deleted her number from my phone and not tried to contact her since or heard anything from her. I moved on basicly and have new friends who I hang out with and such. None are like what I used to have with her as a friend but then I doubt anyone can really replace someone else, all we can do is just move on. I think maybe talking to him one more time about it might be a good idea. Like asking him what's going on because he seems so different from before (bare in mind people do change a lot especially in their teens so it might just be he's going through changes which is why he's suddnly just being so different). The least you can do is try one more time to try get your friend back, if it doesn't work then I think at least you tried your best. After that all you can really do is move on and hope he willrealise what he is throwing away.
I'm sorry I can't really be more positive but at the end of the day it's like I said, it's all about give and take on both sides. If you're the only one who puts the effort into it and he does nothing it will just not get anywhere, he needs to put some effort into the friendship as well. Write back should you need to talk again and I'm sorry once again if my reply upsets you. :[
Take care.
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okay this is urgent because i am getting more and
more depressed as time goes on.
heres my problem:
it started out as me becoming obsessed with the way i look and always wanting to look in mirrors.
then i thought i was so pretty and had a nice body.
i questioned myself "is this really me?" "do i look this good?"
now its at the point where i believe i am super obesse but when i look in the mirror i see a nice body.
i think that g-d gave me a gift of having the perspective of a nice bodied girl
like feeling / experiencing what she does.
i don't know what to do.
i feel like crap.
i am too embarassed to tell anyone.
please help.
i know this is really weird.
:(
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Hi. In reply to what you had said in your comment, I think anti depressants may work to help you but the only way you would be prescribed those are through a professional who determines you will need them (such as your doctor). I know you find it very hard to talk but you will need to open up to them to tell them what's wrong if you want them to be able to help you. I suppose one way to put it would be that it's hard for the doctor to cure you when you can't tell the doctor where it hurts. What were these other problems you had that you had mentioned, in the past?
Please reply to my inbox as it will be easier for me to be able to reply to you that way. :]
Hello.
That is a little strange and I think I know what you mean from what you had said. At least I hope I do.
I'm not really sure what I should tell you though, I could tell you that no one is really ugly - it's all about each persons perspectives on each other and their own preferences (I mean I've been out with some very attractive girls and I've been wondering why are they with someone who looks like me all the time).
I think you just need reassurances that you look alright hence whenever you look in the mirror you seem okay but when you're not lookin in the mirror you seem to be not so good looking and such. Either way though it does seem you have a deep down issue that may need more thorough looking into than anyone on here can provide so maybe you might want to try talking to a councillor at your school (every school generally have one). If you're not sure who or where they are all you should need to do is ask a teacher you trust when you have them on their own and say you need to talk to the school councillor about a few things and if they can let you know how you go about doing that. You'll actually find they will be very helpful and you certainly wouldn't need to feel embaressed about it at all - they've heard it all before and more to the point they can help you to discover what really is the problem and to overcome it.
BEing obsessed about how you look all the time can be an unhealthy obsession too. I mean everyone wants to look good (me included) but if you let it consume you then you will forget how to enjoy life and how to have fun. That's certainly something you don't want to do - take it from someone who knows.
Seriously try arrange to see your school councillor though as they will be able to help you and just for the record I'll say I have no doubt that you probably look absolutely fine how you are. :]
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my girlfriend always has bruises all over her arms, collar, bone ribs, chest and her face is sometimes black and blue like she just got punched. i always ask her about it but she just says its nothing and dont worry about it. i know her parents dont abuse her for a fact. but i dont know where shes getting these bruises from.and i dont want it to look like i abuse her. but she wont tell me where shes getting this bruises from. what should i do?
Hi.
If she's not getting these from her parents then could it be from school or perhaps 'friends' she hangs out with? You may need to try get her to open up a little to find out what's going on because it doesn't sound good.
Are the bruses there on a regular basis? Or has this only been on one occasion where you've noticed them? If they are regular then I'd have to ask are you TOTALLY certain it's not her parents?
I think the best you can do is just talk to her and express your concerns (like whoever it is may just go a little more over the top next time and cause some serious injury) and make sure she knows you're there for her to talk to when she's ready and that you don't want to seem like your forcing her but you are just very concerned. That really is all you can do I'm afriad at this point because forcing her to try to tell you may just end up pushing her away from you further and her clamming up on you completely.
If the abuse/bruises start to get a lot worse and you do start fearing the worst then it might be time to say to her you need to know what's going on because it's getting a little out of hand. But before then it may be better to try let her open up to you herself in her own time.
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what would me more convenient to do while im in canada ( for saving) to pay with american dollars or canadian dollars?? if im from mexico and here 11 pesos are equal to 1 american dollar??
The following is what I was able to check for you...
US $1 = 11 Pesos
CA $1 = 10 Pesos
These are rounded off and as you know, although the rates are always changing they do remain constant to a certain degree.
It seems that you using Canadian Dollars would work out cheaper for you because you will get more Canadian Dollars for your Pesos.
I.e. If you had 1000 Pesos to convert for them you would get $93 US Dollars. But if you had got them in Canadian Dollars you would get $101 instead. :]
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ok, so i created a banner using bannercreator (http://www.bannercreator.nu/banner-maker.html) i saved it to my computer and everything but i dont know how to add a link to it so i can post it in forums and stuff? thnks in advance!
To add a web site link to the banner (so that when it's clicked it will take the person to the link assigned to the banner) you just need to use this code:
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Using the above code should do the trick. :) where it says 'yourlinkhere' you should add the link where you want people who click your banner to go. Where it says 'bannerlocation' you need to add the location of where your banner image is located. This on a local server in which case it would be something like 'images/mybanner.jpg' or it can be a web address such as 'www.mysite.com/mybanner.jpg' (don't forget to add the http:// part to the beginning).
Where it says target='_blank' this just means that when the person clicks on the banner the new site will open up in a new window. If you don't want this to happen then just remove this part and the link will open in the same windowas where the banner is located.
Hope this helped.
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F/14 -Him- M/14
Srry It Is To Long.
So there is this boy. if you read my last Question then you should know alot.
okey well that thing is im not sure if i like him. see one min im like i love this kid and then the next im like ahh go way kid.
but i dont know how do you know if you like someone?
yeah i know that i like how he is soo sweet and funny and all that but how do i know how i feel about him?
Please Oh Please Give me some advice!!
cause im going crazy anything will help at this pont.
-- So Over It.
Hi.
To be honest I've always found that if you really like someone (like as in want to be with them and such) then you just know it because you can feel that deep down.
The reason you may feel about him like you do could be that there's only things partially that you like about him. I mean if all you feel about him is that he's sweet and funny but that's all maybe you are just trying to force yourself to feel something more about him when it's not there? I mean you can find someone really sweet and funny yet not feel in love with them or anything like that so maybe that's what it is?
I can't really say to be honest but for me personally, when I like someone there has to be that feeling that they make me comfortable being around them so I can be myself, funny, sweet, kind, have a sense of humor and be able to take a joke an obviously that physical and mental attraction to want to be with them because I like them.
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I am in love with this boy. Lets call him A. He is the most amazing person I have ever met in my life. When I see him I just want to wrap him up and keep him safe and make sure no one can ever harm him. That sounds strange, I know, but its how I feel. He means more to me than anyone whos ever meant anything to me.
When I met him, it felt like we had this really strong connection. Chemistry, you could call it. He felt it too, I could tell. We would make eye contact when no one else was looking, it was as if we had this secret understanding.
I was happy all the time, because for once in my life, it seemed like someone liked me back. And I just wanted to get to know A and take it slow, cause I really thought we might end up together. It was the best feeling I'd ever had.
But then he got a girlfriend. He said he was in love with her. Loving something you can't have; story of my life.
All the hope and happiness I had felt just disappeared, I couldn't believe that it was happening to me again to be honest. I thought, is this what life is going to be like for me? Is this how it's meant to be? Always falling in love and not being able to be with that person. It'd happened before.
And now, it's been a little over a month since he got a girlfriend, and I still feel like we have a connection. Every day I fall for him even more, and I know it's going to happen again. I am going to get depressed. I can feel it, talking to people seems like too much of an effort, I can't concentrate on anything because he's the only thing on my mind, life seems pointless at the moment. I just feel this overwhelming sense of dispair. And I don't know what to do.
I'm pretty sure he still likes me, but he doesn't love me, like he loves his girlfriend, and I know that there is definitely no chance of me being with him unless they split up. He wont ditch her for me. I know that.
It probably seems like I havn't asked you any questions here, well, I havn't, so this is what I'd really like you to answer:
* How can I stop myself from getting depressed?
* What should I do concerning A? I can't just give up on him. Should I just wait until him and his girlfriend have split up?
*Does anyone else have this problem? Is anyone else always falling into this trap of loving something you cant have? If you are then please talk to me about it. I'd really appreciate knowing I'm not the only one who always seems to have this problem.
Sorry it was long, thanks in advance, xxx
Happens to us all and it's happen to me a lot of times, it really does suck. :[
To stop yourself getting depressed you need to start focusing on other things. At the moment, from reading that, you seem to be borderlining on infatuation which can't be very healthy for you. As I said it's happen to me before too but all you can really do is just accent things and move on and not let it take over you becuase that's really not going you any favour.
As for what to do about him, as I said above you DO need to move on because it's unfair on you to hang about waiting on something that may never happen. Also, if at some point he does break up with her there's no guarantee that he will just immediately want you, things just don't work that way I'm afraid. Also, if he did want you straight away then I'd be cautious as to whether it's because he feels the same or if it's a rebound. You can't change how you feel about him and I won't ask you to because that just doesn't happen, no one can change how they feel about someone. But you do need to move on and get on with your life too. I know it may not seem like it but trust me there are alot of guys out there and although many are jerks there are a good load of decent guys out there. However, if you keep your back on them waiting for A you'll miss your chance with them too.
I've had this problem a good number of times usually because I like someone and I think they may like me but I don't do anything right away in fear of messing things up or me being wrong. The one time a little while back I did admit it to someone (being quite drunk at the time too, lol) I thought afterwards it may have been a mistake because she didn't feel the same way even though I felt sure she may feel atleast something. I dunno, relationships and love and such is all just complicated - it never goes as you want it to. Only thing you can do though is just hang in there and keep going forward. :]
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okay so i have this motorolla cell fone from U.S cellular. i also have a MP3 player. i just out today that i can put music on my fone from my computer by using the USB cord. well i pluged it in my fone & everything & it i tried installing it onto my computer. but it says the necassary software can't be found on my computer. is there anyone who can help me with this . Or is there any software or programs i can download that will help me with this or will let me get music onto my cell phone. ahh please. k thanks
answer asap.
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You should have a CD with your phone and the USB cable titles Motorola Phone Tools. You will need to install this and then plug your phone in. After this, and after it detects your phone and sets it up for you, you should be able to copy music onto your phone as well as anything else you want to copy onto it (pictures, videos etc).
I also have a motorola phone and have to warn you it took me a LONG time to get my phone working correctly with the software (mind you I have an old phone) so you will need to be patient. If you don't have the CD with your phone then I think the best thing to do will be to download it from the Motorola web site at www.motorola.com (remember to use the link to go to your correct country) then try see if they have the software on there. I had a CD with my phone so I didn't need to download it. Either way once you installed it remmber to update the software as many times as you can until it tells you there are no more updates left. The software sometimes needs multiple updates before it will detect your phone and work correctly with it, depending on what phone you have.
Hope that helps.
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my ex boyfriend calls me and told me he has feelings for me. he said he cant stop thinking about me and he wishes he meets someone like me. what should i do? i dont like him no more and i never did. i have feelings for someone elus and she is my best friend and she is a women! i told her how i felt. she was shocked and she is fine with it but she doesnt feel the same because she is not sure what gender she likes yet and she isnt ready for a realtionship right now. i dont want to tell my ex that i like someone elus and its a women! he knows her cause they are friends too. i dont want to break his heart again . he is a friend to me and i dont know what to say to him when he said he likes me but he lives in a diffenret state. he is trying to get over me but he cant.
what do i do?
what do i say?
Hello.
I think you should just tell him the truth, to a certain degree. You are probably right in not wanting to tell him about liking his other friend who's a woman as it may just upset him more but you do need to tell him you don't feel the same anymore about him.
The thing is that if you don't tell him now then it will just get harder for you to tell him and the harder it may become for him to accept and get over it. The best thing you can do is reassure him he will find someone else and let him know that you managed to get over him and now only see him as a friend so he just needs to hang in there and he will be able to do the same as well. Just don't let yourself be backed into a corner into having to admit you have feelings that aren't there for him - would just cause countless problems in the long run.
Good luck and good luck also with this other woman. :]
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I heard this story a while ago and I still can't quite understand it. I'll call the people involved Rick and Jenna. So, the two of them dated for a couple of months, but soon Jenna got pregnant. She was 19 at the time. She wanted to have an abortion (I don't know her, so I don't know why - I can just guess that she had her reasons.) However, Rick was strongly opposed to it - he said that if she didn't want to keep the baby, she should give her/him up for adoption. She still wanted to have the abortion, so Rick broke up with her.
What confuses me here is that Rick is pro-choice and even feminist! He tells things like 'women should have control over their bodies', or 'if men got pregnant abortion would be a sacrament'. I would have thought that he changed his beliefs, but he still resents his ex-girlfriend and blames her that she 'probably didn't want to get fat'. What's the deal here?! (Btw I don't think he was looking forward to fatherhood, he suggested adoption if Jenna didn't want to be a mother, but he didn't suggest she have the baby and then leave it with him, for example)
In a way I am very similar to Rick in this story. I am pro-choice to the point where everyone has the right to do whatever they want when it comes to their own body but I also don't think abortion should be misused. It's justified when rape is involved or if there's a health risk/danger to the mother but other than that I think there is no need for it especially since it is abused and used as a last resort for birth control. It's what condoms and such is for - if you're going to have sex then think ahead. This said I don't judge anyone by their choice because at the end of the day it is after all their choice, I just don't think the option of being able to have an abortion should be abused.
I think another thing that may have been an issue here is the fact that although Rick had no intention of being a father or looking after the kid himself he still knew deep down that it was his baby as well. Something like that, and knowing that someone killed it, could have quite an impact on him hence he decided to break up with her for her choice.
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whats your favorite band?
My fave band? Umm, I don't know actually, lol. I've grown up in a family that's very music orientated so music has always been around me in one form or another.
I like all kinds of music to be honest so don't really have a particular band that I like. :/ If you ever saw my playlists you'll see what I mean. A few bands that I have come to really like though are Marilyn Manson, Inkubus Sukkubus, Bon Jovi, Guns N Roses, Prodigy... I'm sure you get the idea though. :D
I'm afraid I have no single band which I like. I'll either like the music or I won't in which case I'd probably never listen to it again - regardless as to what band it's by. :]
Sorry I couldn't give a more definitive answer but thank you very much for asking me. :]
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hi :]
i'm in high school & we got our yearbooks yesterday. & i told my boyfriend that i would write something in his on Monday & i wrote my name on a page, b/c i want to fill up a WHOLE page. but now i'm like, what do i write?? i've written him letters before, but since this is his Yearbook and he probably kept it for a long time & other people will read it, so i don't want it to be TOO personal. any ideas on what i should write?
thx. ♥
I'm sure it's no secret that you are his girlfriend so everyone who reads it more than likely know that as well as it being something really nice to look back on further in the relationship. :D So... I'll start by saying it's now how much you say but more what you say that counts. :D Try a short poem, just something short and which says how you feel about him but, as you said, not making it too personal since other people will read it. Or just write how you feel and how that years been since you've known him... something maybe along those lines. :]
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