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break-up =(
my boyfriend and i broke up a few days ago but i really like him still. the other night, he said he really liked me too and he wanted to go back out. then his computer froze or something and he signed off. this morning he immed me and said he took back everything he said. since then i've been really depressed & i've been getting headaches and stomaches allllll day. i can't get him off my mind. is there something i could do to move on or get him back? pleae don't suggest finding a new boyfriend because i don't think i'm ready for that.
thanks xo
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I'd have to agree with what Mel said below. You can't force him to take you back by forcing him to love you or like you. It just doesn't work that way and it was wrong of him tosay all that stuff to you only to later say he takes it all back. I'm guessing it was one of those times he was having difficulties with the breakup too and was saying what he said more out of desperation perhaps than anything else. Then the next day he obviously felt better and made it clear he never meant any of it.
Moving on is never easy and I don't think you can really force yourself to move on either. You just have to give yourself time. In the meantime though do things with friends. Go out and hang out with your friends as it'll helpyou focus on other things. I found it was always at night when I had started thinking too much about my ex and I started to read a lot as it really helped me focus on other things - it might be something you can try as well.
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Ok basically, you can't make someone have feelings for you. you just cant. make the best out of everything and at least figure out what went wrong. i promise you that youll move on, just take some time and try going out with your friends and having fun often. do stuff that gets your mind off of him.
do NOT give in if he says anything like: "if u have sex then ill like you" or anything like that. it wont work out.
I don't suggest getting a new boyfriend so soon. But I do suggest to try and go have fun with friends and remind yourself that whats meant to be WILL find its way, everything happens for a reason, and there will be other guys; even if it doesnt seem like you could ever be with anyone again. You will.
-Mel
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