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Hey! First off, i'm going to start by saying I came here on this site to give people advice. Some people actually don't know the real meaning of advice. They think its the answers they want to hear. But i'm not here for that. I'll give you advice, and it might be something you don't want to hear. But deal with it! You may take my advice or not, its completely up to you and you are not gaurnteed a correct solution.

Ok so now that's clear, I'll talk to you more about myself. Hence the username... I play volleyball. It is my passion and basically my life since I've played for about 7 years. Most of my friends say i'm 50/50 tomboy and girly girl. I LOVE sports!! I play volleyball all year round, and then I go to the park during free times to play some soccer, football, hockey, basketball or baseball with my friends. But then again, I could be inside trying on my new Sephora makeup i'd just gotten, or reading the latest Seventeen magazine or even arranging my clothes for school tomorrow.

You can ask me just about anything and i'll be happy to answer it. You can count on a full and detailed answer.

Oh and another thing... I love getting feedback! Even if its a negative comment. It tells me what I need to work on or even what I did correct.

-Volleyball2150



BODY EXERCISES AND WORKOUTS! my way or the highway

advice

what are some basic fashion do-s and don't-s?

thanks in advance!!

Do's

meshed tops
belts
accessories
layered clothing
different styled shoes
sparkles

dont's

long socks
colored socks (green, pink, red etc.)
just tank tops
really see through tops (having your breasts or bra show)
different colored jeans (green jeans, pink jeans..etc)
hair scrunches without an elastic band

thats all i can think of.
Hope I helped!
-volleyball2150

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Well i've like a guy for about a year, and just recently i've found out hes a jerk. So i really need some tips or something to get over him.
Thanks!!!

hey,
ok i feel the same exact way, and this is how i've gotten over him.
I just think about another guy. Keep the things in your mind WHY he's a jerk. everytime you see yourself thinking about him, or just wanting to get him to notice you, just slap yourself (not literally) and keep reminding yourself why you don't like him anymore. Try to stay far away from him as possible, and just keep focus on somebody else.

I hope I helped!
-volleyball2150

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hey, i'm doing a paper on teenage stress
& i need to come up with a cute title
for example, a paper on peer pressure is called
'but everyone else is doing it!'

anyhelp? :]
please&thanks!

hey,

in health last year we saw a movie that was called
"what makes teens tick?" and it was all about teenage stress.

-volleyball2150

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Does anyone know any songs that say, "i want to get over you, but i can't," without saying that straight up?

stuck- Stacie Orrico (sp?)
you had me- Joss stone
too little too late- JoJo
infatuation- christina Aguilera
girl- Destiny's child


that's all i can think of
they're probably not the exact saying but close to it

-volleyball2150

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I used to be a bad girl.. now im good because my parents made me. but i want to be a bad girl aagain it was funner. what should i do!?!?!? WHAT SHOULD II DOO!

ok calm down!
Just because being bad was more fun, doesn't mean you should go back to being bad. You have to look at the consequences. If you go back to being bad right now, your parents are going to get really pissed and they'll punish you. You know... being good is also really fun. Just think to yourself, WHAT is so fun about being bad??? write them down. Then think to yourself, WHAT is so bad about being good??? Then write them down.

Your parents love you, and they wouldn't like to see yourself being somebody you're not. EVERYONE is good at heart. You just have to dig deep inside yourself and find where that person is. I know it's tempting to play pranks on people, and act bad. But you have to STOP! nobody likes bad people, because they will most likely die at a really really young age. Or turn out to become the world's notorious person. If you decide right now to become bad, you will get into the habit of being bad ALL THE TIME, and then you will do bad things when you grow up. You will probably get in jail, or become suicidal because you won't have any friends, or you won't like your life.
so trust me, being a bad girl isn't good... you'll get into A LOT of conflicts and troubles and one day there's not going to be anybody there to help you. Take what you have, and be done with it.

I really hope you make the right decision.

-volleyball2150

PS: any more problems drop one in my inbox.

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Everytime i wear eyeliner( i wear it in the inner lid) it always comes off from blinking or just not doing anything. it will like smudge and make my eye dark underneath. Is therre anything i can do to fix it form not running?

Yes,
try putting your eyeliner on your lash line. I used to put eyeliner on the inner rim of the lid, and it smudged away in less than a minute. I'm assuming that you pull down your lid to apply eyeliner. Well here's a tip, don't pull down too far because that will make the eyeliner go more inside the eyelid. Pull your lid down just a little bit to make it go on your lash line.

i hope I helped!
-volleyball2150

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Ok well Im 13 & I have never kissed a guy. I really want my first kiss because I just want to know what its like. I had my chance to kiss a guy before because when I was going out with my boyfriend(i dumped him a couple days ago) he asked me for a kiss but I said no because there were to many people around.

Im not say that im ugly or a geek or something, because I have had plenty of boyfriends, we just have never been at the right place at the right time ya know?

But anyway is it weird that im 13 & I havent had my first kiss yet?

0MG NO!!
its totally normal not to have your first kiss when you're 13. I'm 14 and i've never been kissed either! if it helps, i've never gone out with anybody before. I've heard of people who haven't gotten their first kiss until they were 18! so hun, you have plenty of time!
a lot of people this century are thinking you have to already have your first kiss, first boyfriend by the time you're 13, but that's not right. You have PLENTY of time before you get your first kiss.
trust me!
just wait until the perfect time with the perfect guy. don't rush into it because all you're doing is cheating on yourself. its way more exciting/passionate if you wait. trust me

-volleyball2150

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i turned 13 a couple of weeks ago and from my mums friend i got some mascara and eye liner, i really really want to wear them but iv'e always kinda been a 'mummy's girl' and never worn make up. she caught me out once when i had abit of eye shadow on and didnt really approve.
so my question is how can i wear make up and get my mum to understand that im a little more grown up now ?!?

hey there!

i used to be just like you!
my friends got me some make-up for my 12th birthday and so i politely asked my mom if i could wear it. she said no. well then i started to buy some make up that was very neutral like a brown eye-shadow, mascara and some lip gloss. my mom didn't even notice!!
so then one day i told her, oh my gosh mom! can't you tell i'm wearing make-up? and she said she couldn't. So i told her that I was 12 and i asked her if I could wear make-up that was just neutral colors and that i would wash it off at the end of the day. she said ok. then each day i added a little more color and then by the time i was 13 she said that it was ok i could wear make-up!

sooo yeah i hope you can learn from my lesson and i hope all goes well.

-volleyball2150

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so heres the deal, other people think that im like well pretty, im always getting asked out by guys and that but the thing is..when ever it comes to taking a picture on a camera, of my self, i look TERRIBLE!!!! and it takes me like FOREVER to get a good one. has any1 got any ideas?!?! (i have this new friend on msn and i need a pic for him)

grateful for any replies
xxxxxx

have someone take the picture for you.
Dont have your family take one of you, because they think you're perfect all the time, and they'll probably take a crappy picture of you.

Bring a friend over and have her take a picture of you. That way she'll be honest about how you look and they'll help.

I hope I helped!
-volleyball2150

PS: what also helps is if you find the perfect lighting. don't go somewhere really bright, you'll look pale. but don't go somewhere where the lighting is low, you'll look Gothic type and maybe possessed like. hehe
wear bright colors to show off your body, not your face that much. Wear make-up and do your hair!

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Ok, this is pretty wierd, but whatever. I am a HUGE HUGE HUGE fan of Britney. My room is covered with pics and stuff of her. But, here latley I been wanting to take my stuff down, because my room is keeping me from having certain friends over because i'm afraid of what they'll think. I always do what i want and i never care what people think, but this is one thing i can't do that with. i have these big boxes that i keep under my bed, and i was thinking i could put some of my stuff down there, so i would still have my stuff for memories and things like that. but the only problem is that some of my stuff is way to big for the huge boxes under my bed. for example, these limited edition gold cd things that are in a frame. they would deffinitly break if they were under my bed. another example is these life size pepsi britney spears cut-out things. those don't fit in the boxes. and one more thing is these big really pretty drawings of britney. i don't know what to do with all of the big expensive things (my parents also helped buy some of these, so i don't think they would be to happy with me, yeah, i haven't told them about all of this). and i forgot to say that even though my room wouldn't show it, i would still be a HUGE HUGE fan of britney. i'm sooooo confused. i don't know if i should sell some of it on ebay, and i also don't know how to tell my parents. i'm in desperate need of help!!! thank ppl!!!

why do you care what your friends are going to think???

the same conflict is happening with my friends

I watch Disney channel.. SO WHAT?
i'm not afraid to admit it. My friends are always talking about M-TV, that 70's show, and all of these "grown-up shows". I'm not saying that I don't watch them... i do! but i'm not afraid to tell my friends that i watch disney channel, yeah so what if they think i'm weird. but you know what.... if your friends are truly good friends, they won't care!

My advice to you, is to leave it! its soo complicated if you take everything out. You have to tell your parents, hid everything from your friends, trying to keep everything a secret. It's such a hassle... when all you can do is come out clean with the truth and just tell your friends that you like britney spears. Trust me, if they were your friends they wouldn't care and they wouldn't make a big deal out of it.

I hope I helped!
-volleyball2150

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Ok here's the deal, I have this bestfriend were real tight 'n stuff, but like a year ago i started likeing her boyfriend and wen they went on a "break" I hooked up with him. When they went back out I still liked him and it bothered me bad because she treats him like shit and he deserves better. WELL like 3 months ago they broke up again and they stopped seein each other and I didn't see him or talk to him because I had no way of talking to him (he didn't have a phone or whatever) so I didn't see him until last week when they started seeing each other again (but not dating just talking) and i realized i still have feelings for him and I might even love him. I can't stop thinking about him and I don't know what im going to do. I feel like I would do whatever it takes to be with him and i kno this might sound bad but even if it hurts my bestfriend. I feel like we belong together cause we are so much alike and we have fun together and idk what to do!.. PLEASE HELP.

thanks.

well if this friend of yours, is a true friend... she would understand.
It sound like your bestfriend and her boyfriend have been going out and then breaking-up for a while now... and that's obviously not good.
when 2 people are going out and are always breaking up and making up.... that means they're not good for each other. Now, i'm not saying you should hook her up with some other guy, and then steal him.
Just get to know him, and ask your friend if she can introduce you to him, that way she'll know that you both are going to be friends. Just keep in touch with him and eventually your friend will focus on another guy and then you can start moving along.

I hope I helped!!!
-volleyball2150

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theres this kid in my math class who is a COMPLETE JERK. i mean he's really rude to everyone in the class and the teacher and he does whatever he can to try to keep people from learning. like he'll sit there and bang on his desk forever and the teacher tells him to stop but he won't. and i was going to sit in a chair and he saw me, he just pulled it away from me and sat in it himself. he's also failing that class really bad because he doesn't even try to listen or do homework, or anything. (i don't really care about that it's his decision) but are the any ways to teach him a lesson and show him how much of a jerk he is so he'll just stop? also, please don't tell me to go to guidance or talk to a teacher because i already did and they talked to him but he didn't change. thanks!

OK well I have the same problem... theres a guy and he's like a Class Clown, who will do whatever it takes to get in trouble. Honestly, there just weirdos because they want attention.

I know you said this, that you already talked to a teacher. But here's what you should do...

talk to a teacher and give ideas to the teacher. Have the teacher call this guys house and leave a message, or bring up his rudeness in one of his parent/teacher conference. If he doesn't stop, complain to the teacher that you can't concentrate because of his rudeness. If you must... go to your school's principle and politely say that he's being a bother. Hopefully, they'll do something about this.

If they don't do anything about it, just ignore him! He's purposly doing this to get attention, and the last thing you want to do is actually GIVE him attention. So ignore him as if he was a wall.

I hope I helped!

-volleyball2150

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ok this is like totally weird but i lost my ipod IN MY OWN HOUSE!!! i tried retracing my steps but i can't find it. and i know i had it like 2 hours ago and i never left the house. i have no idea where i put it. does anyone have any ideas how to find it. this is really akward but i always loose my things

HEEELPPP!!!!

just think to yourself... when was the last time I saw my ipod? Where was I? What time was it? then once you've found out the location of the last time you saw it, start going back and retracing every step you took ever since you realized it was gone.

eventually it'll show up. Just ask your parents and your family to help you look, and if they say no... just make sure that they are aware that you have lost your ipod

I hope I helped!
-volleyball2150

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WHEN I TRY TO IM SOMEONE, IT WON'T LET ME!
What is wrong!?!?! i tried shutting off my computer, & coming back on, but it still won't work. Whats goinig on?

i'm not sure this would work.. but maybe try uninstalling your IM system, then re-installing it.
or you could possibly have a virus?

-volleyball2150

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Hey,

OK. I'll cut straight to the chase. I used to have a MySpace about 2 years ago. My parents were totally fine with it, until there were a bunch of rapings in our state. At first, they only made me delete the pictures off there so that nobody knew what I looked like. Then, they made me get off the site all together. (My friends deleted theirs as well.) However, my brother (2 years older than me) has been allowed to stay on the site.

After two years, I've visited the site through my friend's account and have noticed that many of my friends have made new ones. This has left me to the decision on whether or not I should make one.

Keep in mind that my parents haven't really talked about it, and my brother still has one (no pictures of him). Since I'm in High School now, don't you think I should be allowed on this site?

I've asked my mom during the summer and she said "definitely not."

What would you do? What are your thoughts on this?

Well, i was like you

I thought Myspace was "in" so I got one...
my parents said Ok but be careful, then they made me delete it about 2 weeks after.

To tell you the truth, your parents are right!
they are only trying to protect you. They don't want to end up loosing you. I think the reason why your parents are letting your brother keep his, is because he's a guy and so that means he's strong and won't do anything bad.

Myspace isn't the only way to communicate!
use a different communication like AIM, MSN, yahoo etc.
it's safer.
I know that it's not "cool" but you have to think of the consequences.

Would you rather be alive, and still be able to talk to your friends... but yet not have a myspace?

OR

get a myspace and be considered "cool" and yet end up getting seriously hurt and possibly have a fatal incident?

I can't really make the choice for you, it's your decision.

I hope you make the right decision.

-volleyball2150

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ok so i use gmail.com for my email. i wanted to know if there was anyway to see if my sent messeges have been read yet. i know you can do it on some other email sites.
any and all help appreciated!

thanks!

sorry, but it doesn't exist on gmail
my dad has used gmail for about 3 years and he said he's never heard about it and that he doesn't think it exists
sorry

-volleyball2150

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I've got flu, which is really annoying cos we just broke up from school and now I'm ill. It's christmas in 4 days and before that I wanna do stuff. I wanna go out with my friends and have a good time, y'know? I've got a really bad headache, sore throat, cold, cough, tummy ache and I've got no energy.
Do you know anything I can do to get better as quickly as possible? I really don't want to be ill for christmas.

alright,
so make sure you get plenty of rest, take naps and try to sleep about 10-12 hours of sleep. I know, you want to do things with your friends, but in order for you to do that, you need at least 1 day of resting, so you cant go outside... just lay down the entire day. Sleep, nap, lay down and watch movies. Drink LOTS of fluids. You should go to the bathroom at least 10 times a day. seriously, i know that sounds gross, but that's true. Drink fluids that are warm, not cold. Like tea, or hot milk. Go to your doctor if you still feel sick after 2 days. They'll give you medicine to heal you.

Headache- ask someone to take a soothing cream and massage your head, while you lay down and relax.

Sore throat- take a scarf and wrap it around your neck, leave it there and try not to talk. take medicine.

Cough- ok this may sound very gross, but it works. When you cough, try to get that slimy gross stuff out. So if you cough and you feel some slimy stuff in your throat, try to cough it up and spit it out in the sink.

Stomachache- don't eat things such as chocolate, sugary foods, or fast foods. Eat things like fruits, vegetables, vitamins, minerals.
** most importantly for stomachaches- drink TEA!! it'll make you have to go to the bathroom and will clean out your intestines. Eat toasted bread with butter a lot, that will also make you go to the bathroom and will clean out your intestines.

The reason why you've got no energy is because you probably don't have enough sleep or food in your stomach. like I said, try to get at least 10-12 hours of sleep, and try to eat a lot. Not a lot that you'll feel like you have to throw up, just until you are satisfied. Healthy foods will give you energy.

I hope I helped and that you'll feel better!!!
-volleyball2150

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Okay, so I'm a cheerleader. For practice one day, I let one of my friends whos in a grade lower than me, borrow one of my shirts. My favorite american eagle shirt. She wore it to cheerleading, then brought it home to wash it. She didn't bring it in until like a week later and she put it in her locker. Something spilled in her locker and got all over my shirt. So she had to bring it home and wash it again. Then today, she wore it to school! I was so mad. I've mentioned to her a few times that I'd like the shirt back, but I haven't gotten it.

Should I be mad at her? How else can I hint to her that I want it back?

Thanks!!!

Yes of course you should be mad! You paid for the shirt, and now she comes and takes it away from you? Just like the other person said, take something of hers and don't give it back until she gives your shirt back. Or what you can also do is, if you remember where you got it, go to the store and see if they still have it on sale, then go to her and tell her that the shirt is still in the store, and she can buy it.

I hope this helps!

-volleyball2150

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No guys like me.
I'm not fat, but im like the furthest thing from skinny.
Blonde hair and blue eyes.
Ive had the occasional liking me for a day thing, a long time ago.
Now, it seems as though all the guys that used to be my friends ..hate me!Or they dont talk to me like they used to , they would just say something kinda mean .
I know your gonna say, wait and the right guy will come along but if a guy does come along, he just leaves!
Theres one guy that likes me ,but i dont really like him.
please help!!!

OK, well any of those guys are totally not nice at all!
Just leave them alone because they are so not you're type. Blonde hair and blue eyes makes such a beautiful person, and you said yourself that you're not skinny, but not fat. Well, don't try to change yourself just to get someone to like you. Trust me, i've done it and it just turns out to get even worse, because they'll start to like you, but then you'll start to act like your normal self, and then they'll just leave. So hun, what i'm saying is you're try too hard! I know you said that you don't want to hear "just wait for the right guy" but honestly it's true.

You know what? Why don't you try an activity, like a sport, and try to lose a few pounds, and then maybe try another activity like a club and try to meet a guy there. Just be yourself, and don't change who you truly are.

-volleyball2150

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hey guys..know any good, fast, updos styles for shoulder-length hair?

If you go on www.geocities.com/mka_wonderland
and go on the right section where it says Hair, theres a BUNCH of really nice hair styles.

I hope I helped!

-volleyball2150

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