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ok...Im 15/f...freshman...
These past 2 days I have gone to haunted houses with my friends....one of them has a bro who I've liked since I first talked to him...which was this year....hes a sophmore..which doesnt bother me...one of my other friends likes him too....she was at the first haunted house that we went to and when she...or anybody else...would hold onto him he would yell get off of me...but when I held onto him he just like grabbed my arm and like held it....then at the second house..the one that likes him wasnt there...but again when his sister or the other girl we had with us held onto him he yelled but when I did he did nothing....we all got split up somehow and I was just walking with him and when I would get scared from someone being in my face..he would hold me at my waist and cover my face....on the hay ride there and back...he came and sat by me even though his friends were on the other side...with plenty of room....

does he like me....and what should I do about the whole friend likeing him thing??

HELP PLEASE!!!

It seems like he does like you.

However, before you decide if you should go for it or not, think about your friend's feelings. How much does she like him? If she's head over heels, neither of you should go for him so no one gets too hurt. But if she just has a tiny crush then you really should see if he's interested.

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13/F

I have a few friends who keep up with fasion, and guys. They think I'm interested... AS IF! I fucking hate fasion and guys, I don't trust 'em. They're all evil cuz they get to your heart, ask you to kiss, then, leave a bruse on your arm that lasts forever! ANYWAY, i keep telling them, stop guys. Well, one day, my friends backed me up against a wall and started saying, "You need blush and this and that!" Look ,I don't knwo the name of makeup so deal with it. Anyway, one pulls out a case of makeup. i screamed so loud, i pissed them off. They got mad at me and started to open the makeup case. I kind ruined their clothes trying to run away. I'm a tomboy, not a lez or a girly girl. i watch anime, horror films, porn and shit like that. can somebody tell me what to do? I CANNOT SOLVE THIS FUCKING PROBLEM!!!!!!!!!! Thanx

Explain to them CALMY that you guys are different people. You have different interests, and that you really get annoyed when they try to force you to put on makeup and stuff like that. If they don't understand that, then apperantly they aren't your real friends, and you shouldn't talk to them anymore.

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My best friend's a senior. She finally got a car so she's been driving around lately. I haven't seen her over the summer or anything. i also transferred to a different school .. so I haven't seen her since the last day of school. We plan to hang out later today.. she's going to drive us to the mall. But in our next message.. she said i could save your mom the trouble and do all the driving... blah blah she could give me gas money and I'll do all the work.


Does anyone else find that a bit wrong? I'm poor myself, my family can barely pay for gas.
She's the one that offered to hang out and stuff, then she's thinking my mom will pay for gas money.

Is she only asking because she's a new driver and she realizes how much gas is .. or what?

As you said, she's a new driver and is starting to realize gas is expensive. My brother got his liscence a few monthes ago, and he's the same way. He makes the majority of his friends pay for gas money.

Personally, I find it a tad bit wrong. However, she probably won't drive you anywhere if you refuse to pay for gas. Therefore, if you really can't pay, just don't go, or have your mom drive you.

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Hey,
my boyfriend went to this club a couple of months ago and he said they were "grinding" I just found out what grinding meant.. not that long ago and I was just wondering : DO you think it's wrong for my bf to grind with him friends (that are girls!) like should I have been upset?

It really depends on the circumstances.

If he was just joking around and having a good time, then it's fine.
However, if he was getting really into it and touching the girls in a sexual way, I would worry.

However, this was a couple of months ago. I doubt it means much now.

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how would i write this as a source in a bibliography?

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Taipei_101

since it's a wikipedia article and practically anyone can write things..i was kind of confused.
thanks♥

Most schools ban using Wikipedia in a bibliography because of the fact that anyone can write things. You should double check with your teacher on how to cite it, if it even is allowed.

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okay well our school's having the homecoming dance on friday ocotbber 19th and im a freshman so im new at it. that day is also my birthday, so what i was going to do was go to the football game, then homecoming dance and then go out to eat with a bunch of my friends. does this sound like a good idea? what are some ideas i could do for my birthday?

what do you usually wear to homecoming ? is it all fancy? or is it just something casual? since it's my birthday im going to be either wearing a crown, or maybe a pin that says birthday girl or something because i want to celebrate my birthday too!


THANKS SO MUCH FOR YOUR HELP IN ADVANCE! =]

Yes, your idea sounds fun for your birthday. You could maybe also have a sleepover after and watch teen movies dealing with school dances and stuff.

As for what you should wear, ask someone at your school. Most homecomings are semi-formal and you wear short dresses and guys wear nice pants and a nice shirt. However, some are casual, so as I said, ask around.

I advise not wearing a crown to homecoming. A senior girl is crowned Homecoming Queen at homecoming, and she gets to wear a crown. She will probably be annoyed with a random freshmen wearing a crown because it's supposed to be her special night, sort of. Wearing the birthday girl pin will be a much nicer idea. :]

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I know this question probably has been asked millions of times beforee....but honestly, without a boyfriend, I feel 100% incomplete and lonely. Even friends don't help with this horrible lonely feeling.

15/f I've never had a boyfriend. And this is a bit strange, because when I'm at school...I have no problem talking to guys at all! But when I see younger people than me with boyfriends...well, it just kind of makes me feel sad and unwanted in a way...I mean, I'm not ugly...I get good grades...I'm not overweight or anything...Do boyfriends necessarily have to come from a group of friends or something?

o_o. Thank you so much in advance.

Well, I'm almost certain hearing that the last user was 12 when she had her first boyfriend didn't make you feel better. But that's aside the point.

Everyone finds love at a different age. Some people are much older than you before they get their first boyfriend. Yes, some are younger too. However, you can't go looking for a relationship. You have to let it find you.

As corny as that sounds, lately, I believe it's true. The less you think about finding a man, the more likely it is he will pop out of the blue. Just make sure you have confidence in yourself, and a guy will be sure to notice. Guys love it when a girl loves who she is!

And no, boyfriends don't have to come from a group of friends. Join new clubs, meet all kinds of new people, and eventually you'll find a guy that you're attracted to.

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I'm looking for.. let's say sexual songs
any style but country lol

thank youu :]

Wow, I Can Get Sexual Too - Say Anything
Foxtrot Uniform Charlie Kilo - Bloodhound Gang (come to think of it...basically anything by the bloodhound gang)
I Want to Bring Out the Freak in You - (I forget who it's by)
Amusement Park - 50 Cent

The majority of rap songs are about sex too.

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Do you think it's possible to "Fully" trust someone again after they have lost your trust?!?!?


Thanks

Not fully.

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what is LOVE?

Love is when you stop asking questions on advicenators like this. You just know.

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heyyyy ok that crank dat song by soulja boy or something haha. well please help, on myspace there was this song i heard that had the same melody n everything, just it was some guy screaming the words and the part that was like 'oooo' sounded like barney growling haha. so please give me the name of the song or artist please.

Crank that Calvary Boy by I Set My Friends on Fire.

http://youtube.com/watch?v=fqjnA6VXLFI
Some random kids dancing to it.

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Advice Givers-

what are your favorite quotes?

"No one can make you feel inferior without your premission" -Elanor Rosevelt.

"We accept the love we think we deserve." -The Perks of Being a Wallflower

"Do what you love and fuck the rest." -Little Miss Sunshine

"In catholic school
As vicious as roman rule
I got my knuckles bruised
By a lady in black
And I held my tongue
As she told me "Son,
Fear is the heart of love"
So I never went back" -I'll Follow You Into the Dark by Death Cab for Cutie

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is it ok for a girl to ask a guy to homecoming?

Yes, it is perfectly fine!

It's the 21st centuary, there's nothing wrong with asking the guy =].

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a few days ago i was hanging out with this guy i like. we were at a roller rink (lol) but anyways he hugged me tight a couple times, and
the thing is is that I put padding in my bra. i feel really embaressed becuase when he hugged me tight idk if he could tell that there was padding (its not like bumpy or anything, i dont use kleenex haha) but im REALLLLY worried! Do you think he could tell???

He probably didn't. He couldn't tell from just feeling it. However, if you jumped he may know because your boobs wouldn't of moved with you. Therefore, stuffing isn't a great idea.

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alrite everyone i need some major help .. i know this is weird but im 19 years old and ive never had sex.. and im a female just to get that straight.. i have a boyfriend and we've been dating for about 2 months now. and he wants to have sex. i knew he had sex with his ex girlfriend all the time so when we first started dating i told him i just wanted to wait awhile to have sex with him. now that its been awhile our relationship is kida crummy bc we dont have sex i suppose. but i dont know what to do because i want to have sex. but im scared to death of getting pregnant. he told me that precum has no sperm whatsoever. how effective is it to have sex, use a condom and pull it out before he goes? does precum have any sperm in it? do you think that i should get on birth control first and does birth control make you gain weight? plessseee help:(

Precum does have sperm in it. Your boyfriend is wrong. However, using a condom would be very effective. You should also get on birth control even though it will make you gain weight.

Nevertheless, not having sex doesn't make a relationship crummy. Sex will not make your relationship magically better. Communication does that. If your boyfriend isn't enjoying your relationship just because there isn't sex, you may want to rethink your staying with him.

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Does anyone know exactly what time period Pirates of the Carribean was supposed to take place in? I'm thinking the 1700's? I don't know, I'm just curious lol.

Yes, you are right, it does take place in the 1700s.

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okay, so i've somehow developed this fear of eating in front of people i dont know. its the weirdest thing. i dont eat lunch any more at schoool and i dont exactly eat much breakfast either. i eat some when i get home, and then ofcourse dinner. but thats it. do you think that its okay?

No, it's not OK. My friend has this problem too (and I have a feeling this is her..sorry if it's not). You cannot skip meals. This goes for breakfast, espically since it's the most important meal of the day.

You should really get over this fear. It's good that you do eat when you get home, but living your life in fear of eating around other people is ridiculous. You'd miss out on a lot of fun activities that involve food. Start slowly when eating in front of others. Eat maybe just a piece of fruit or something. Then slowly build up. Soon, you won't feel uncomfortable at all.

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Ok, there is this guy, lets call him John, he is sixteen and I'm thirteen. We talk a lot and we've joked around about liking each other. Age isn't really an issue, but he lives in North Jersey and I live in South Jersey. He gets his permit in a month or so, and he said he'd visit me. I have an idea that he likes me as more as a friend, and I like him the same way. But I've had bad long distance relationships, and even though he's really sweet, and trustworthy, I'm just worried it won't work out or end badly and ruin our friendship. What do I do, go out with him or just stay friends?

Just stay friends. Long distance relationships do not work when you're 13. You even stated this already. Leave it as it is now and as you get older possibly you can have a relationship.

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14/f
k well me and my friend both like this guy in our class and i mean i really like him a lot but she doesn't know i do. and i don't wanna start a competition but he's the sweetest guy i've met and everything but then she sees the same i guess. we're not that close and now i don't know what to do!!!
help please!!

He's not worth it. He may be super sweet, but you are only 14. The relationship is not going to last. I can tell you right now, your friendship will be destroyed if you go out with him. If your friend stops having feelings for him, then you can go out with him, but until then NEITHER of you should go out with him. I mean seriously- why kill a friendship for a relationship that will last no longer that 2 monthes?

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Why do young girls come on here to ask about sex when they can't even spell right? I find this to be a very sad look at young girls in american society today. Do you agree?

I agree. The world is changing. It's now considered OK to sleep around at a young age and they seem to have no clue about STDs or how to use protection. It's disappointing. It would be nice if the school would better educate the students. My school educated us well on the risks and the like, however, many don't.

But what makes me more angry is the double standard. A girl is considered a "slut" for having sex at an early age while men get patted on the back for doing so.

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