about

My name is Teza.. short for Tereza. I was born in Croatia and I speak more than one language. I'm 22 years old & I completed 2 college degrees in 3 years. My a bachelors is in Business Administration concentration in Human Resources and my Masters degree is also in HR.



I started this advice column about 9years ago and I was so young but it was something that I always loved to do. I am trying to get back to answering questions, at least a few per day. With that said, if you have questions about school, friends, make up, etc., feel free to ask.





Much love, Teza

advice

Im a 15 year old and Im dating an older guy and I feel no connection. Can you give me examples on how to break up with him? PLEASE! thanks

Tell him you dont feel any connection and that it would be better if we stayed friends. Dont lie to him .. just break it off easy. x0`

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I really really like this guy named Mitch and he's just the nicest guy I've ever met before. He used to be friends with my older sister. He's been telling me he likes me, and like on aim always makes those kissing faces. Problem is; he's 21! I'm only 15. I know it's a huge difference and it's illegal. I really don't know where to go from now. I tell him I like him back, but I really want to date him, I'm just really not sure of how to tell him that. Any suggestions?
* if you think me dating a 21 year old is bad, please tell me, i'd like to hear other perspectives, too! thanks. =)

I seriously think thats wrong! There isnt a problem with you its him. I mean he's 21. Not to be mean, but why would a 21 year old want a 15 year old. Thats just wrong! Even tho you like him I dont think you guys should date. He can defenetlly go to jail for that. x0`

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can u get pregnant from giving bloow jobs? swallowing sperm>? help.

Oh my gosh, Im sorry but .. just wow.. No you cant but I just cant belive you didnt know that.. How old are you? l0l! x0`

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how do i send my buddy list from aim to another person?? thanks!

Click on the persons screenname that you want to send it to. Then go to People on the top and click send buddy list. x0`

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My Bride's maids and I bought their dresses today. I fell in love with these dresses right when I saw them. I showed them to my father today and he said that he did not like them at all. I felt horrible once he told me because I like them so much. Now, I don't know whether to keep them or to get ones that my dad also likes. What do y'all think?

I saw the dress and it isnt that cute. Its your wedding and your friends will be wearing them. Since your dads opinion means a lot to you and if he doesnt really like the dresses, well it wont be that hard to pick other ones. There are a lot of other pretty dresses that your dad might like. But like I said it shouldnt matter to him because he wont be wearing it and its your wedding. X0`

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I've never gone to a dance before. I am going to a dance party next weekend but I don't know how to dance. Don't say "ask one of your close friends" Reply..I rate..thanks

When you`re dancing you just have to feel the beat. If you are slow dancing the guy will put his hands around your waist and you need to put your hands around his neck. Have fun! X0`

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Can someone explain the bases to me plz? I feel really stupid, but whatever.

1-Makeout
2-Handjob/Fingering
3-Blowjob/Head
4-Sex

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i just met this boy on-line and he is really nice my friend wants us 2 hook up and hes really cute too....I send him sum pix of me but i think if he would see me in real life he wouldent like me or something...i'm really scared to meethim in person? i think pplz are diff in person and on-line do u? what should i do?

Dont think that!! Im sure when he meets you he will think you are really pretty! I bet he likes your personality also but if he doesnt like the way you look hes just not right for you. But dont worry about it because he will like you! Have fun! X0`

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ok i feel really dumb asking this but what exactly is "feeling up"? could someone explain this to me plz? thanks a lot!

Its just like when a guy touches a girl goes up her shirt/pants.. stuff like that.X0`

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I'm the one who's boyfriend killed himself and it was basically my fault. Well, I've been getting help with that, I'm in counseling and I've been starting to go to school a little bit, but I only go like 2 days a week. I still go to his grave everyday and cry and just talk to him as if he was there. I also go to his house every wednesday and friday night to have dinner with his family, and we talk about things. Anyways..Last sunday on mothers day, my best friend killed herself. She had been suicidal and getting help for a while, and had tried to commit suicide 6 times before that..and I guess this time she succeeded. I really dont know what to do anymore. All this stuff is just wayy too much for me. I have no idea how I'm going to pass school, I just..dont know what to do... :(

Im really sorry for what happened. I wish nether of them would of commited suicide. You really cant let this bring you down again. Live as if it was normal. At least try to. If you let yourself down it wont help. If you dont think about it too much you will become stronger. You will always miss them and everything and crying is fine! One day it will be fine. Try to overcome the past and just think about the future and the good things in life. Dont do anything to harm yourself or even think about suicide. Be there for her family and also your boyfriends because now they really need you. They feel a lot worse so just be there for them. x0`

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My friend had sex on January 20th. Is it possible for her to be pregnant without any weight gain?

If she hasnt gotten her period then yes. But if you are pregnant you will start gaining weight and throw up. X0`

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My mom won't let my peirce my belly, and i have wanted it for two years now. I have tryed to convince her that i want it done but she still says no! Any ideas? Please help asap!!!!!

Dont bug your mom about it too much. That makes her even more mad and she will keep saying no. Show her that you are responsible and dont make a big deal out of it. Dont be in a hurry about it but save your money and when you get older she will let you! X0`

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Ok I hav wavy, thick, brown hair that is past my shoulders right above my boobs. any ideas for my hair??

Do you need a hair type idea or what? I think that you should get it in layers. All
different lenghts. You could get some highlights in your hair and straighten it! X0`

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Well, I have this HUGE problem. I started to be friends with 4 girls, named; Jess, Rachael, Chelsey, & Mary. Well, ever since I started hanging out with them, everyone's changed, and started to hate Mary, (supposebly they've hated her for a while, but they just never told her) Mary always cuts people down for no reason, at all! It really makes me mad, she'll pick on homosexuals and people who aren't PERFECT. But she isn't either. She'll say that all these popular guys like her, when she's not popular at all, and they wouldn't pay attention to her. Well, we got into a fight the other day because I was "ignoring" her all day. I seriously don't know what to do! When I'm around her it's always like I'm not paying enough attention to her. I'm her only friend, and it makes me mad, because I feel like I'm losing my 3 best friends, and I don't want that to happen. I don't want to be Mary's friend, but I just don't know how to break it off with her. Help? Please.

You should tell Mary how shes acting. She needs to change because later on she wont have any friends because of her attitude!! If you dont want to be her friend tell her! Simply break it off with her.. tell her if she doesnt change that you to wont be friends. She needs to get that! Just do whatever it takes not to loose your other 3 best friends because of her. X0`

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How bad is it that I hate my husband's parents and they hate me? Will this ruin my marriage?

It is bad that you guys hate each other but I dont think it will ruin your marriage. If you both love each other it wont. Dont let it bother you but I think that you should try to work things out with his parents and find out why they dont like you! X0`

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omg i got a big pimple right below my lip and this is the week i tell the boy i like how i feel about him.... What is a great little easy way to get it to go away in like three days??? Anything dont matter little things you can do at home whatever works


I hate when that happens! l0l! But try toothpaste! I do it all the time and it really works! Trust me.. it sounds weird but yea! Also wash your face with clean and clear and dont use a lot of foundation on your face. You could cover it up with make up but keep your skin healthy! X0`

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hey ok well i have this friend shes one of my BFF's and we always talk and we neer have fought but she has truend a little idk what you call it she keeps smokin and gtein high and drinkin and when she was over my mom notced idk how and my mom found out form one of my other best firneds mom and now my damn ducker mom wont let me hang out with her and i dont know what to do i love her to death and i mean yes its bad taht she does that but idc i want to be her firned to matter what and my mom wont let me

I know that you think getting high and smoking is bad.. and it is but every teenager is going to try it at least once. I dont know if your mom understands that tho. Everyone always wants to try it and see what its like. I kind of understand why your mom is being like that. Dont think that she is being mean or anything because she isnt. The only thing she is doing right now is trying to protect you. She thinks if you hang out with her that you will do those things and turn into her. So.. your mom is just trying to watch out for you nothing more. Have a talk with your mom and your friend. Your friend really needs to apologize to your mom or something. When you talk to your mom tell her shes your best friends and its really not fair that she wont let you see or hang out with her anymore. How would she feel if she wasnt allowed to see you. Also tell her that your best friend isnt always like that but she only tried it once and that every teenager trys it once. X0`

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I was thinking... When is avrage age to have your first kiss and how far should u be in a relationship... This is my first relationship, and i love him and we've been gong out for 6 months,,, When should you? I have no clue!!! I havent had my first kiss but lately I've been thinking about it...
I want to kiss him... but somthing doesnt seem right,,,and i was talking to my mom and she asked me if i would tell her if my boyfriend kissed me,,, should I tell her?



13/f

There isnt an avrage age. I think that you should kiss when ever you feel that you are ready. And you will know when that is. What exacly do you mean how far should you be in a relationship? I think its good that your boyfriend isnt rushing you into things and it seems like you 2 will have a good relationship. Just take things slow and things will happen when ever you both want. You should tell him that you are ready to take it to the first step. Maybe he isnt making the first move because he thinks you dont want to. Kissings isnt bad at all and it isnt something you should be imbaresed about so you could tell your mom. So yea tell her! X0`

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hey i have a 8 inch dick and i think the girls only go out wit me for sex wat do i do??

Aw! Niiiice! l0L well uhm... dont you like sex? Maybe you shouldnt tell the girls that you have that big of dick l0l! I dont know but I thought that you would like that. X0`

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hehe isnt edvin a dork? . i know hes gonna read this question and get mad at me hehe,

Yea he is l0l! Whos this tho?

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