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How bad is it that I hate my husband's parents and they hate me? Will this ruin my marriage?
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It is bad that you guys hate each other but I dont think it will ruin your marriage. If you both love each other it wont. Dont let it bother you but I think that you should try to work things out with his parents and find out why they dont like you! X0`
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I dont think it will.. if you and your husband love each other very much then you wont let anyone ruin it for you. And if you hate them then just try your very best to get along with them. That will show them how much love your husband and that youll do anything for him... then they might start liking you!
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*ballerina09becca
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I'm not married yet....heck i can't even drive!! but my parents are going thru the same thing. every little thing that happens, my dad's parents blame my mom. it hasn't affected my parents relationship because my mom doesn't do anything that will suggest that she's upset that my grandparents hate her. she acts completely normal and is really nice to them so they have no reason to hate her. you and your husband's relationship shouldn't be changed...it's the relationship between you and your husbands paernts that will be affected. i guess what i'm trying to say is- be nice to them and respect them even though it will be really hard because u hate them. then they'll have no logical reason to hate you! you have to be the bigger person....also remember that these people are your husbands parents and he loves them!
good luck!
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~De1NdOnLii~
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Nope it should do. Lost of familys hate the other side. I hate my aunties boyfriend hes a jerk but it hasnt affect anything to do with my family even though he comes on holiday with us. Its your choice who you choose if you love him and he loves you thats all that matters.
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um duh...bu only if you let it
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Well, your husband should be on your side, that is if your parents are disrespectful to you, and try to come between you, then he should defend you. If they are hateful and mean, he should defend you. At the same time, you should not try to come between them. He should be allowed to see them on occasion, without you if need be, so that no one can point the finger at you as being an trouble maker. You must make sure that it is they who have the problem and not you. Don't bait them, and don't take the bait if the try to cause trouble. Just consider them ill informed and ill mannered, and go on with your lives. If you are required to listen to them, and take follow their advice in order to gain their approval, well too bad. If they think you are beneath their son, and he could have done better, while I know that an hurt, it is your husbands love that matters. Not their opinion. And please try to understand that your husband is caught between a rock and a hard place. No matter which way he turns, he makes an important woman in his life very unhappy. Please do not put any pressure on him. Let him make the decisions. If he tries to make both of you happy to some extent, try to be understanding. If he just spends a little time with them on occasions, but does not expect you too, or expect you to agree with them, or compromise your beliefs to make them happy then let him have his occasional visit, and be happy that you don't have to see them.
This is about all can say with as little info as you gave me. I hope it helps
Michele
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ever seen everybody loves raymond? that's just about exactly the same situation, unless you're husband's father is also against you. but reguardless, it is not very bad, and no it won't ruin your marriage unless you let it. if you handle the situation maturely and try to accept the fact that they're your family now and you're going to have to tolerate them. if you're in love you can most definitely overcome your problems with the in-laws. and if not, you can always opt for a sitcom. hope i helped! (sans the sarcasm) <3
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I guess that depends on how often you will forced to see them. If it is an occassional holiday thing then you can tolerate each other. If you have to see them every week it will be a little harder. I think so long as YOU at least try to be civil when you see each other things will go okay. Just remember that they are his parents and he loves them...even if you can't stand them. I don't think it has to ruin your marriage. :)
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you're not expected to like everyone, you should try and give them a chance though, go out on a weekend trip with them, do something to get to know them if your husband doesn't know you should try and tell him because if he finds out later or almost to late then he will be mad at youu because you never told him the truth
*good luck*
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A lot of people have trouble with their in-laws. just dont make your views to prominent in the marriage and it will be ok. dont try to use your husband against them, it will only make matters worse. good luck and take care. <3
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