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Friends, or not?
Well, I have this HUGE problem. I started to be friends with 4 girls, named; Jess, Rachael, Chelsey, & Mary. Well, ever since I started hanging out with them, everyone's changed, and started to hate Mary, (supposebly they've hated her for a while, but they just never told her) Mary always cuts people down for no reason, at all! It really makes me mad, she'll pick on homosexuals and people who aren't PERFECT. But she isn't either. She'll say that all these popular guys like her, when she's not popular at all, and they wouldn't pay attention to her. Well, we got into a fight the other day because I was "ignoring" her all day. I seriously don't know what to do! When I'm around her it's always like I'm not paying enough attention to her. I'm her only friend, and it makes me mad, because I feel like I'm losing my 3 best friends, and I don't want that to happen. I don't want to be Mary's friend, but I just don't know how to break it off with her. Help? Please.
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You should tell Mary how shes acting. She needs to change because later on she wont have any friends because of her attitude!! If you dont want to be her friend tell her! Simply break it off with her.. tell her if she doesnt change that you to wont be friends. She needs to get that! Just do whatever it takes not to loose your other 3 best friends because of her. X0`
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if mary doesnt respect you then she isn't a good friend and you should talk to her about that and if she continues being mean then she doesnt have to be your friend. you still have the three other girls!! see what they think about the situatoin
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well first I think you should confront her about the problems you have with her but in a nice way dont yell at her or anything just tell her that the whole attention thing that you have other friends too and also you do pay attention to her even if she doesnt think u do and if she still continues to act like she does she really isnt a good friend because she isnt respecting ur feelings.. hope i could help
Sammy
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If she really is your friend then she can handle the truth. When she talks junk about other people, just tell her that it makes you uncomfortable, you can still try to be her friend, but just tell her what you don't like to hear what she has to say. Tell her to keep it to herself. If she doesn't change then she will slowly drift off. Trust me. I've hung around with people that talk and act mean towards other people and I am now free of their stupidity. lol.
Hope I helped!
~Linda
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You may be Mary's friend but i dont think she considers you the same way for example the way im with my best friend is totally different i dont have to pretend to her or make her think all these popular guys like me.. nd Mary seems to be a little fake with you and if she makes fun of peoples who arent perfect then homegirl hasnt really stepped into the reall world cus i mean no one's perfect. So mama all i can tell you is that you shouldnt stop being her friend but back off a little because who you hang out with is how others are going to consider you. So talk to her and if she doesnt change then keep a distance. i mean u do got what 3 other best friends who people actually like.
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This is a lot similar to a problem I had back in sixth grade! My best friend was friends with another girl. She was so mean putting other people down thinking everyone likes her. Now that we're both in eighth grade she and I are like enemies. She even said that I was jealous of her because she went out with a guy I used to like but it wasn't true and a lot of people new that. I suggest that you stop being friends with her. As long as your the nice one there's no need to worry. Don't worry about other people hating you because like you said people hate her as well. In order to break it to her, I think since your already ignoring her,you should probably keep ignoring her. If she asks you why then say " I'm tired of you putting other people down just because their not you, in fact your not perfect either. If you can't be true to others and not lie then you obviously can't accept who you are, instead of putting down oters just to make yourself feel better". At least thats what I would say. E-mail me at noriko_keyboard_goddess@yahoo.com and tell me how it goes. ok
FOREVER,
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