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theres this guy l like...i really like him
but i dont know how to get close with him!
hes very cute and kinda popular...
we ride the same school bus and live in the same apartment so i thought itd be easy to close with him..
we talk to on myspace but we barely talk in reallife..
when i textmessage him he text me back but writes it really really....short..
i dont think hes interested in girls..
cuz he only hangs out with guys..
i know i should try to talk to him more but im too shy to do it..

so how can i get close with him??
thanks

If you've text messaged and talked online, why are you shy to talk in person? Do it! He won't bite! If you talk to him, chances are you'll get closer and closer. When you do talk, be yourself! Don't be a fake, no guys...or nobody for that matter...like fakes. Discuss things you both like & have in common. Just pretend that he's one of your best friends. (It works every time!)

Just be careful about being too clingy :)

Hope I helped!

-Jam

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ok there is this boy talon and i still like him but i dumped him because he lied about dancing with 2 girls it was 4 and he never asked his own gf to dance but they asked him and they he lied about flirting he flirted with 2 girls and he talks to them more them me but he loves me alot and i love him but he keeps on saying sorry for everything he does what should i do ask him back out or stay single

STAY SINGLE!

If he hurt you once, what makes you think he isn't going to hurt you again?

He's a con artist. If he loved you in the first place, why would he have danced/flirted with these girls?

So yes, I'd stay single.

You'll find someone else...someone who doesn't lie or cheat on you :]

-Jam

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It's my 17th birthday coming up on 20th Jan, and i'm not sure what to do to "celebrate" it. Last year I had a limo party but that was because it was my "sweet sixteen", and i've had house parties, cinema parties and bowling parties before in the past, so i've kinda run out of ideas.
My friends say I should just go cinema again but there's nothing really on that I want to see.
And my boyfriend says that he'll take me out somewhere but he wants me to choose where and again I have no idea.
Please help, I need all the suggestions I can get and i'm running out of time :-|

Hey, Happy almost birthday!

I think you should have it at a hotel!
Decorate it as a Hawaiian theme, that's always fun.
Have everyone wear grass skirts, flip flops, etc.
Everyone can swim at a hotel, then you and your friends could spend the night!

Hope I helped! Good Luck, and again,
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!
-Jam

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I've never gone to a gynecologist before. What is it like? What do they do to you and what's going through your mind? I'm really nervous and having someone other than my boyfriend touch me down there, is weird.

Hey,

http://www.pamf.org/teen/health/femalehealth/gynecologist.html

You'll find all the info you need!

-Jam

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Ok so im a 14/f and im going out w/ a 16/m. He doesnt go to my school. Its really hard for me. He says he loves me alot that he'd do anything for me. Well he always thinks im cheating on him cause i have a lot of guy friends. but i tell him i would never do anything like that to him. He means everything to me. He doesnt like any of my guy friends and he doesnt wanna lose me to anyone. He doesnt wanna share me with anyone. What am i supppose to do??
Is he controlling me? Or is it just how much he loves me?? Advice plz!!!

Hey,

Well, it's pretty obvious that your boyfriend is insecure. I don't blame him, I probably would be too if my boyfriend was at a different school and had a bunch of girl friends, you know?

You said that you told him you'd "never do anything like that to him".

Make sure you repeat that every time he brings up the subject. Assure him by inviting him to come to your school at any time. Let him look through your phone calls if he wants. Prove to him that you have nothing to hide.

Tell him that he means everything to you, and that you'd be lost without him!

Also tell him that you prefer guy friends over girl friends, but you'd never do anything with these guys.

Don't avoid the subject if he brings it up-just talk about it, because he might think you're trying to cover something up if you avoid it, you know?

I don't think he's controlling, but I definitely think he loves you!

Hope I helped.
Hope everything goes well!

-Jam

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i know there are websites where you can type in a person and it gives you their number, but is there a website where you type in the phone number and it gives you the person?

www.anywho.com

www.yellowpages.com


Either of them should work :)

-Jam

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ok i have a guy friend and well me and him have a pretty good relationship i tell him everything and he tells me everything we trust each other but just right now he tried telling me sumthing that was bothering him and just because i jokingly said "here we go again" he got mad at me and said "wow u think im some one whos got problems" and got really pist off i tried saying sorrry a million times and i even said i would make it up to him but he still wont budg in..how do i learn to deal with his temper tantrums? or better how do i get him to forgive me?

Hey,

I'm sorry to hear that.

You have to give it some time.

If that doesn't do the trick, then, unfortunately, it doesn't look like you guys are going to be friends at least for a while...

Well, hey, he must be a sensitive kid!
(and I don't know about you, but I'm not so keen on having super sensitive friends like he).

However, he does have a right to be mad.

Wellll. Hope I helped. Good Luck

-Jam

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What is douched?

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=douche

:)Hope I helped.

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What should I tell my parents that I have so many cuts in my school? Im in the 10th grade. My parents got a letter showing all the absences. What should I do?

Honesty is the best policy. Tell your parents the truth, and assure them that you'll stop.

No, you definitely shouldn't have your friend change it. If your parents ever find out, then I'm sure they'll be even angrier than if you told the truth.

Hope I helped,
And Hope that everything goes well.

-Jam

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Has anyone used Playtex Beyond Tampons? With the flushable cardboard applicator?
1. Are the wrappers flushable?
2. How is the leak protection?
3. Do you know of any other rounded tip applicator tampons that are flushable that work well?

Any other comments will do fine.

P.S. 13/F... going on a two night trip for school and I'm sure I'll have my period during the trip so I need great tampons.

1. Are the wrappers flushable?
-No. only the applicator is-I flushed it accidentally and clogged a toilet at school. Don't do it!! lol

2. How is the leak protection?
-Veryyyy Good! :) way better than a pad.

3. Do you know of any other rounded tip applicator tampons that are flushable that work well?
-Try googling it!.. (I would for you, but I'm on my cousin's computer and I'm pretty sure they'd be creeped out if I was looking up about tampons)

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Are piercings in or out right now? If so, what kinds? (Cartlidge, nose, lip, eyebrown, belly button, etc.)

Hey,

I agree with partygurl24, it all depends on your preference.

A lot of people are getting their cartilage, bellybutton, nose, and industrial pierced.

I like bellybutton, and I really want it badly. lol.


PICTURES:

http://www.silverflake.com/images/bellybuttonring1.jpg [bellybutton]

http://www.robotpiercing.com/assets/nose.jpg [nose]

http://z.about.com/d/tattoo/1/0/9/C/hbear.jpg [cartilage]

http://www.pleasure-bodystyle.de/media/doorway/33.jpg
[industrial]

IT IS HIGHLY RECOMMENDED YOU GET THESE DONE BY A PROFESSIONAL IF YOU ARE THINKING OF GETTING THEM DONE. ALL OF THEM ARE EASILY INFECTED!

....Hope I helped!
-Jam

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ok deos anyone know any good diet pills that work that you can buy at like walgreens or walmart or a drugstore?????

Well, I doubt anything like this works.

You really should exercise and eat right.

Buuuut. If this is the way you want to do it,

http://www.walgreens.com/store/product.jsp?CATID=302136&navAction=jump&navCount=0&id=prod2651681

I have no idea if it works though :(

Hope I helped,
Jam

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How do you make layers?meat first or cheese or pasta? I just need the layering thats it thxs in advance.

Hey!

:) I'm Italian. So I can answer this really easily.

You put the lasagna noodles,
the RICOTTA (aka cheese)

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I have no idea what to do for my 16th birthday.. any ideas?

Hey, here's some pretty cool ideas. :)

"Grease"-ers
Perfect for a co-ed birthday party, have a '50s style sock-hop. Ask if you can rent out your local high-school's gym or your apartment's rec room for this old-time rock and roll party. Ask kids to dress the part, play songs from the soundtrack as well as other classic '50s tunes, and serve diner-style burgers and milk shakes for food. Hand out sunglasses or hair combs as favors.

Hawaiian Luau
This is a party theme that can be carried out inexpensively, and is lots of fun. Go to your library and get CDs of old-fashioned Hawaiin music. Decorate the space with streamers and fresh flowers. Serve fruits like pineapples and oranges with sweet dipping sauces, and make a huge bowl of fruity punch. Give each teenager a lei and have them compete in limbo contests and ring toss. Allow them to float away in a tropical dreamland.

Cinderella's Ball
In a quinceanera-style celebration, celebrate your girl's sweet 16 in a fairy wonderland. If it's possible, ask guests to wear formal attire, and drink sparkling grape juice out of plastic champagne flutes. Serve playful "grown-up" foods like petit fours and finger sandwiches.


...Go to the beach? {if it's warm enough, of course}
...Go to a hotel with a jacuzzi?
...A pizza place?

That's all I can think of.

If you want more, go to

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19/F

I had a (male) friend over today, and we were watching movies and drinking together. Just innocent fun.

I ended up getting more tipsy than I usually do, and we ended up starting to have sex. I sobered up pretty quickly and made him stop before we actually did, and sent him home.

Here's the thing: I have a boyfriend who I love dearly. We're talking about moving in together when our leases expire, and we've discussed marriage.

He's the one I really want, and I feel sick having cheated on him. I know I could never do it ever again. I hate what I did.

So my question is, what do I do? Do I tell him? Will that hurt him more than if he doesn't know? Should it be on a "don't ask, don't tell" basis?

Keep in mind that my boyfriend is the man I want to be with for the rest of my life, and that this friend was equally as intoxicated as myself.

Thank you! I'm tearing myself to pieces because of this.

Aww,

Well, the thing is, you were intoxicated. You had no idea what you were doing.

You should DEFINITELY tell him. Honesty is the best policy..it really is.

If you tell him, he'll probably come to trust you more, than if you didn't tell him (he might find out later on.) He'll be hurt at first, but will realize that you didn't mean to do it.

Make sure that that you tell him that you were drunk.

Don't have any guy friends over...it'll probably be the best thing to do.

Hope all goes well!

-Jam

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Where can I get a wide variety of real tones, but not have to register for an account?

myxertones.com

(the actual ringtones are free, but you have to pay for text message charges.)

hope i helped :)

-Jam

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My ear on the right is blocked from me hearing from it. I can probably assume water, wax, and soap is trapped in it. I am not getting any pain from it, because I have been using antibiotic and ear wax removal drops for the past few days, but it's still not helping with me hearing from it!

does anyone have any at-home methods I can try to get rid of this? I have already tried tilting my head for hours, including overnight. So any ideas?

I know I might need to see a Doctor but before doing so I would like to try some new ideas to see if that will work before I consider going to one.

Thanks in advance!

Hey,

Ouch! You might have an ear infection.

A home remedy that always works for me when I get ear infections (which is quite often, mind you), I get a facecloth, wet it, and then put it in the microwave for about 15-17 seconds. [Sounds weird, I know, but it sooths you!]

Hope I helped & Hope you feel better!

-Jam

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