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happy birthday!

take it off before you shower. the necklace could deteriorate over time and get nasty looking. plus, they're real!!!! dont risk it; just take them off. x33 K

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i have homecoming this saturdayy.. and i have no clue how to do my make up.. i have dirty blondish..hair andd a light blue and dark blue glirtty dress.. and i have green eyes.. and how should i do my hair! any tips! plz plz ill rate ya ;]

for makeup- a light blue or white sparkly eyeshadow, a little blush, mascara, and clear lipgloss

hair- if you can get an appointment, get it done at the salon. if not, look up hairdos on line, or just blowdry really pretty and put it half up.

i hope you have fun!!! send me a message if you need anything else or just want to talk. x33 Kris

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ok well its only the third week of school ive missed 7 days so far and we can only miss 9 in a semester or quarter something like that but im sick so i cant help it. anyways i have FS in ALL my classes! jus because im missin 2 things its crazy. im in highschool and its really hard for me. english class is the hardest becuz i can never think of anything to write on essays or anything. and math is hard because i dont understand divison everything else it ok. my mom said if i keep my grades up i get a cell ( im in 10th ). she knows how much i want a cell so she uses that to make me get good grades. lately ive been really stressed because my ex boyfriend is always emailing me saying i have no life and im a bitch. then my bestfriend keeps sayin that im going to fail because ive missed so many days and ect. and all she does it put her problems on me and make them my problems. everyones just making it worst for me and making me worry. what do i do? how do i keep my grades up? thanks.

first off, if you're so sick, go see a doctor. secondly, you have to find a way to do your work. high schools will have programs for kids who need some help with things. make an appointment with your guidance counselor and get information. good luck. send me something if you need more help or just want to talk. best wishes! x33 Kristen

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My boyfriend told me he didn't love me but he likes me alot. He doesn't know that I love him and he keeps trying to get me to tell him but I wont, I think he's guessed. I just want to cry, I knew he didn't love me but when he told me it just made everything 10 times worse. I really love him, what shall I do?

love is a very strong word. he seems not to want to make that huge jump yet. i had a boyfriend who told me he loved me, and it made it so much worse when we broke up. i would accept the "likes alot" for now. get to know each other a lot more, and hopefully he will someday reciprocate. best wishes!! send me a message if you need to talk more, i'm here for you. Love, K

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After I take a shower my hair is alwyas knotty. After I comb all the knots out it gets knotty again. Then my hair get really frizzy when it dries. Do you have any ideas on how to get the knots out and how to get my hair frizz-less.

make sure you use a good conditioner for your hair type. a leave in helps, and so does simple detangler. get a good frizz serum to put before you let it dry.

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My cat has a bad habbit of tearing up the toilet paper rolls. I have tried putting the rolls on backwards so the paper won't roll off when she plays with it, but she is still tearing it up good. I end up thowing away 1/4 of the roll when I go into the bathroom. What can I do to prevent my cat from doing this?

close the dooor

or squirt him with a squirt gun whenever she does it. this will teach her that something bad will happen if she tears up the toilet paper.

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hey, i used to kinda know one of my 2nd cousins. He and i were extremely close, but we havent talked or seen eachother. If we lived closer we coulda hung out soo much more, but.. idk. What would you do in this situation, especially when the relationship seemed wierd now, i might see him at a party this year, so what do i do there

hey! just go up to him and ask him how's he doing. don't be afraid to talk to him. maybe he feels the same way you do. good luck! send me something if you need more help or just want to talk. love K

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SORRY IT'S LONG
It it normal to get vaginal discharge even before you have your period?
Like I'm gunna be 14 in a few months, and I've been having discharge, and I've NEVER had my period.
So my questions are, is it normal that I don't have my period?
and is it normal that I'm getting discharge?

What should I do, we don't have any pads around the house, and I'm not a fan of tampons, also I find it really akward to talk to my mom about that kind of thing, so I don't want to like go out and get pads or anything until I actually have my period
What should I do?

both are completely normal. everyone gets their periods at different times, and discharge is something that happens. ask your mom, even if you feel uncomfortable. your mom was probably uncomofrtable about the same things, but she went through them. send me something if you want to talk. K

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ok im 12 and i have a 36c cup and my breasts hang down real low(not like an old ladies though) and sumtimes i have lumps that r felt from the inside...do i have breast cancer???? and is the hanging a sign????? im so scared....help!

try getting a bra that supports you better

ask your mother. she's older and probably has a lot of knowledge about this type of stuff.

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hello ive tried for months to get my nails to grow and they just wont tehy are rely short and i hate them i heard of this stuff called "Nail Envy" but i dun now how well it werks. Duz ne no about ANY nail growth stuff that ACTUALLY WORKS?! Like nail enamel or anything iono what to use. I dont care bout da price i jus wan my nails 2 gro! Helpz!! hey thanks.

maybe nutranail.

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This isnt an advise question, but i might as well ask any way... where do u live... IM me on AIM: SinfulPrincessMe

Love,
Alexis

that really isn't any of your business... sorry.. send me something if you need more help.

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Hey, at lunch my friend always eats really junky foods, i mean tons, and i think shes gonna gain tons of wait quite soon. Should i tell her???
luv,
Rachel

you should bring healthier things to school, and offer something to her. maybe she'll get the hint. good luck. K

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Lately I have been hanging around a new group of people and these people do drugs and they got me started on them too. and to tell ya the truth i love them. I like the feeling i get and i relly like it but i'm loseing a lot of friends because of it. I know my friends wanna help but i like the feeling. How can i not lose my friends but still do what i wanna do ?

your friends want the best for you, and doing drugs isn't the best. you need to get help. drugs aren't good for you. the good feeling won't last when something horrible happens. please talk to me if you need more help. x3 K

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that birth control makes you gain weight?

you would probably have to ask your doctor about the side effects of the kind you are/will be taking. good luck and send me something if you need anything else. xo

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All my "friends" are ganging up on me. They are making me choose them or the guy i love... what do i do? please i really need help

you shouldn't have to choose. your friends should be able to understand that you aren't going to ditch them. reassure them of this. tell them you have to spend time with your boyfriend, but it is true: guys don't last forever

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CAN YOU PLEASE TELL ME HOW MANY CALORIES WE HUMANS SHOULD EAT A DAY

no i couldn't... but if you tell me who you are or something i could keep looking and send it to you.

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Is there any way to change the ratings other people have given you? Is there someone I can ask? Some of my ratings are SO unfair, ex:
- A person asked if Dickies would still be in style by the middle of the year. I said yes and also gave them a link for a new style of Dickies dresses. Turns out it was a guy, but how was I supposed to know?
- Instead of giving someone a long list of picture websites, I gave them my one favorite.
- Someone put "my head hurts!", don't know how THAT didn't get deleted but anyways, I made a joke about it and they rated me 1. Wish I could rate them back.

Thanks for reading my dumb question. :) Has this happened to anyone? It really annoys me and wrecks my feedback.

you cannot change your ratings. this is just how people think your advice is. and ratings aren't important anyway. so you just have to deal with it. drop one in my inbox if you need anything else

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ok, i am so sure that my mom is convinced that i am having sex with guy. but i am not, adn she is conviced i am kissing all over him, but im not! and she gets annoyed and things and i know for sure that she thinks i am sleeping with him. but it took me like 2 years to get him to poen up enough to hold my hand and things like that, so uh, yeah, even if i did wanna have sex with him, it would take a long time before i could. but how can i convince my mom that we are not sleeping together?

tell her that you are not having sex with anyone. say you don't want to do that yet, and she should believe you. invite your boyfriend over so everyone can just talk. drop one in my inbox if you need anything else! x3

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hey guys! does anyone have any really cute unique babie names for (both boy and girl) that you like/kno of?! i need help thinkin of some very cute ones for my sister-in-law! i'm going to be a aunt! please answer quick.. ill rate high! :)

girl--> anneliese, becka, belle, bethany, madeleine,

boy--> benjamin, mark, andrew, orlando, james

try going to babynames.com..

congratulations on becoming an aunt!!! let me know what they name the baby! x3 Kristen

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i start school in a little over a week on the 30th of this month and i got gym and i heard we have to take showers in front of everyone and i dont want to...what can i do to get out of it and make it look like i took a shower? and do people talk about your body parts to other people that are in that class? helppppp!

it might not be true, since you only heard it. but in case you have to, just chill out. nobody wants to look at you. they just want to shower and get out. people aren't gonna stare and tell people stuff. if they do, talk to your teacher about it and tell her what's happening. drop one in my inbox if you need anything else! x3

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