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Hey! First off, i'm going to start by saying I came here on this site to give people advice. Some people actually don't know the real meaning of advice. They think its the answers they want to hear. But i'm not here for that. I'll give you advice, and it might be something you don't want to hear. But deal with it! You may take my advice or not, its completely up to you and you are not gaurnteed a correct solution.

Ok so now that's clear, I'll talk to you more about myself. Hence the username... I play volleyball. It is my passion and basically my life since I've played for about 7 years. Most of my friends say i'm 50/50 tomboy and girly girl. I LOVE sports!! I play volleyball all year round, and then I go to the park during free times to play some soccer, football, hockey, basketball or baseball with my friends. But then again, I could be inside trying on my new Sephora makeup i'd just gotten, or reading the latest Seventeen magazine or even arranging my clothes for school tomorrow.

You can ask me just about anything and i'll be happy to answer it. You can count on a full and detailed answer.

Oh and another thing... I love getting feedback! Even if its a negative comment. It tells me what I need to work on or even what I did correct.

-Volleyball2150



BODY EXERCISES AND WORKOUTS! my way or the highway

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ok well im not fat but i have little stomache that i cant get rid of and well i want a really faint 6-pack....
do you know any exercises i can do to get the six pack??!?!!?!?!

Thanks in Advance.

i just answered a question like this.. so i'll c/p
my answer on here too.

well I'm pretty strong and I have a 4 pack (or 6 pack?) but here's how i make my abs stronger

do situps. Do about 25 and then repeat 5x.
http://www.nocheatabs.com/images/exercises/series1.jpg

then once you've done those... try doing the same thing except have your legs up in the air.
http://www.gimme20.com/files/images/crunches_legs_up.preview.jpg

then you could rock the boat.. which is kinda hard but it works really well!!
for this one the only thing touching the floor is your tailbone (upper butt bone) and your legs and arms are up in the air, so your stomach is scrunched. sorry if its hard to explain.

then the last exercise is like the boat thing, but instead you have a ball that weighs like 6 pounds or so, and then you touch the ball on each side of you (right side, then switch and touch the ball to the left side)

do about 25 of all of those and repeat 5x and do them for about 2 weeks and you should get strong abs

I hope I helped!
-volleyball2150

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Okay, well.. I really want to do highschool cheerleading next year, but I am not flexible AT ALL , and I can't do a kartwheel. lol, I'm pretty sad I know, and then I don't exactly have a cheerleading body i guess? I'm extremely small in height , I'm about 5 feet, and then my legs are muscular .. but then my stomach, ughh. I'm not sure what it's called lol , but I call it a potbelly [: , but i think its really a beer belly? I want to get rid of that SO much by summer, so I would like exercises for that .. and then could you help me to get a six pack maybe , and then ways to do a toe-touch and a kartwheel and round off. thank you sooo much [: .. i know its asking for a lot!

y there

well I'm pretty strong and I have a 4 pack (or 6 pack?) but here's how i make my abs stronger

do situps. Do about 25 and then repeat 5x.
http://www.nocheatabs.com/images/exercises/series1.jpg

then once you've done those... try doing the same thing except have your legs up in the air.
http://www.gimme20.com/files/images/crunches_legs_up.preview.jpg

then you could rock the boat.. which is kinda hard but it works really well!!
for this one the only thing touching the floor is your tailbone (upper butt bone) and your legs and arms are up in the air, so your stomach is scrunched. sorry if its hard to explain.

then the last exercise is like the boat thing, but instead you have a ball that weighs like 6 pounds or so, and then you touch the ball on each side of you (right side, then switch and touch the ball to the left side)

do about 25 of all of those and repeat 5x and do them for about 2 weeks and you should get strong abs


as for the cartwheel and roundoff-

its really not that hard
but i can't explain it
so heres a website that can


http://wehow.ehow.com/how_2000146_perform-cartwheel.html

http://cheerleading.about.com/od/gymnasticsandtumbling/l/bl_cartwheel.htm

http://www.wikihow.com/Do-a-Cartwheel


and a roundoff is just like a cartwheel except instead of landing on 2 feet, when you are up in the air and are about to fall down, you push yourself up and land on 2 feet. kinda hard to explain. so sorry

I hope I helped and make sure you do this where there's somebody watching you or where there is soft landing equipment.

-volleyball2150

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i have internet explorer and when i hit the drop down thing it shows the websites i typed in to view. what do you press to delete these websites because i saw my friend do it once but she does not remember how to do this anymore
please answer soon!

ok so go to the tools tab
then on the way bottom there is Internet Options
then there's a little section called history
and theres a button called Clear History. Click that and then exit. It should work

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hey... well i'd like to spend more time with him but thing is... we're 10 hours away now. i just moved. I let him go to this so he could have a life, know what i mean? should i work through it or just give it up..?

Hmm..
well long distance relationships are hard.
I honestly can't tell you the answer to this one.
You have to figure it out.
do you REALLY like him? enough to drive out 10 hours just to see him? is he really that worth it?
its your decision. If you love him... like really really love him and its worth 10 hours away. Then go ahead and keep him.
however, if you think that he's not that important to you... and that you don't think its worth 10 hours away,
just tell him that you think you both should see other people.

I hope I helped and all goes well!

-volleyball2150

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I need some help with being more social and outgoing around people.I used to be incredibly funny,nice,outgoing,and I knew how to make myself and other people around me have a good time...now just out of nowhere I'm none of these things.The weird thing is,I really want people to talk to and be around,but when I have the opportunity I turn it down because I'm scared.It's almost like I've become frightened of people in general.When I am in a social setting and not alone,I tend to just sort of sit there and do my own thing without making any kind of conversation(because I don't know how to make conversation).I was very spontaneous,and I think that the reason why I'm not anymore is because I'm afraid of looking like an idiot.

Anyway,how can I get myself back on track?I want to have friends,I want to be comfortable around people,and I want to be outgoing.

well,
try talking to 1 person (maybe someone close, like in your family?)

then gradually talk to 2 people (maybe neighbors)

and then 3 people (kids from school, teachers)
and you know.... just gradually talk to more people.

sorry if I wasn't much help.

-volleyball2150

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Is one kiss considered "cheating"?

yeah... for me it is

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he sounded truely sorry last night... like they werent gonna tell me but he just like had to and he told me right after and swears not to do it again... right now were just texting cuz i dont want my parents to know im fighting with him, know what I mean? I'm not usually the one to take people back when they hurt me or break my trust... its not a self esteem issue either but forgiveness is in my nature i guess and i dont know if he deserves another chance... (sorry if i'm annoying the hell outta you with all the questions..)

hey,

it's alright.. i really don't mind.
I love to help people.

anyways,
I would forgive him. Just make sure that this doesn't happen again.
If he sounded really sorry, then just tell him that you forgive him and you don't want this to happen again.

Just spend more time with him, and if he says that he's going somewhere with another girl... make sure that you know who the girl is, and ask him "when you come back from the party, you're going to tell me what happened... right???"
and see if he looks straight into your eyes and says yes.

If he kinda looks around or you can sense that somethings going to happen, then tell him it's over.

-volleyball2150

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i really want to get boobs because all my friends have big ones what do i do!!!!!

ok you need to stop thinking about that stuff. Every girl develops different sizes and you should not be caring about what size boobs they have!
You get big boobs when you start going through puberty and you start maturing.
It just comes natural so there's absolutely no way to get bigger boobs. all of those creams and powders are fake, and are only trying to get your money.

-volleyball2150

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He admited it but now tells me it was all a big mistake and that it won't happen again...
this girl wants me to break up with him and she's tried to break up his relationships in the past...
hes like i guess its over and all this stuff so he knows what he did was wrong...

alright...
so you kinda have to listen to the tone of his voice.

If you think his tone was like he was truly sorry, then you can forgive him.
but if you think his tone was more on the side of "aww honey! I swear this will never happen again!" and he kinda shouts it or talks fast... then just dump him.

If this girl wants to break up his relationships, then she must REALLY like him. Talk to her and tell her that if she does this.. it's going to get on his nerves and there's no way he's going to like her.

Be strong and don't give up! **love is a battlefield** I got that from the movie 13 going on 30.
don't give up, if you truly love him, and you think he truly loves you, then forgive him and give him another chance.

If he does this again, or she breaks up his relationships.... he's totally not worth it. and you should just keep looking for the perfect guy, who won't do this to you.

-volleyball2150

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i have my period and i didnt tell my mom what should i do ?

Well how long have you had it?
When I got my period, my mom was traveling. So I was totally freaked out when I got it.
Trust me, you have to tell her at some point.
I know its hard, but it's hard for everyone.
You just have to hold your head up high and be confident.
Take your mom somewhere where there's no distractions, no people and calmly tell her " I need to tell you something"
She'll probably get nervous, or scared. But that's how they all are.
Just come right out clean and tell her "I got my period"

If you feel uncomfortable telling her this (which some girls are) you don't even have to actually say it. You can give her hints like "mom, i'm a woman now."
or "what is at the end of a sentence?... a period." and then just stare at her and be silent.
hun, she's been through this... i've been through this... every single girl in the world as been through this, and if they can do it, so can you!
she'll get the picture about what you're telling her and she'll tell you the next step on what to do.

Any more questions or problems, drop one in my inbox.
I hope I helped and just remember to stay strong.
-volleyball2150

PS: some other ways of hinting are emails, notes, whispering in her ear, leaving a voice message.
but honestly i prefer telling her in person, that way only she will know, and someone else won't hear about it.

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does anyone have an idea of what kind of "monster" i could put into a story like i thought of a flying, human-eating monkey. but i want something that will get people laughing.

please help xxxx

how about a flying pig that has red eyes, and has fangs... and it makes these really creepy yet funny sounds and it will snort at you if you are a bad person.... I don't know... but just be creative.
take 1 animal (example... an elephant) and then take a characteristic (example... flying, or jumping) and then make the monster do funny things that wouldn't match his appearance.

I hope I helped!
-volleyball2150

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Should I kiss on the first date?

probably not...
but honestly its how you two feel about each other.
if you think that you guys are moving at a fast pace (you already know a lot about him/her) then I suggest holding hands, or your arm around him/her.
something really simple.
Your first kiss should probably be on the second or third date.
but everybody's different. that's just how I would prefer it.

-volleyball2150

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Well i talked to the girl then he confirmed that yes he did kiss her... yes he did say he liked her... and not i don't know what to do. he was man enough to call and tell me what he did tho... any advice?

dump him. If he confessed that he kissed her, and he likes her... dump him!
a guy who actually calls his girlfriend, told her that he kissed a girl and he likes her is a big idiotic jerk.

If i had a boyfriend who did that, i'd just tell him that he's a big loser and that he doesn't deserve a girl like me.

You sound really nice and very trustworthy, because you let him go to that dance with that girl.
You don't deserve a man like him.

inbox me if you have any more problems.
-volleyball2150

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15/f, freshman. i'm shy, like pretty shy and in school, i'm quiet. in my classes i'm not the one who's raising their hand for every question and i'm not like extremely talkative in class. with new people, i find it hard to talk to them and open up. i've never had a real boyfriend, never kissed or anything. it hasn't started bothering me until recently. i know that i have to change. not only do i want a boyfriend but i want friends, guy friends or girl friends. i have some friends but i can't always depend on them and get bored easily. so now, it seems like there's not only pressure from myself to have a boyfriend/friends, but from my family. lately whenever my family gets together, we get into the topic of people we like. my 18 year old cousin always brings her boyfriend along, and my 11 year old brother, who is more outgoing than me is always asked about his "girlfriends". yeah, he somehow talks to a lot more girls than i do boys. it's annoying. because it's come to the point where they don't even ask ME about my love life or whatever. not that i care, b/c i'd just get embarressed. i'm like scared they think i'm a lesbian lol but i'm definitely not. i like boys. and then my brother had to say that infront of my cousin and her boyfriend. so i was like greattt. but im not. im just shy! i really want a boyfriend. i've come to the point where i don't care who he is. but like no one understands..i'm shy and it's sooooo hard for me to go up to people and just start talking. idk i know i can do it, i just choose not to. what can i do?!?!?! thanks soo much. sorry it was so long.

exactly... don't rush into it.
just wait until the perfect guy and perfect friends come along.
go to a club or join an activity and hopefully there will be some people who share the same interest as you.

don't go to the people... let the people come to you.
remember to always smile, and you can even start off slow and simple.. like saying Hi to people, or complimenting them. or asking them a question.

trust me, the right people will come to you.
i'm exactly like you. I'm shy and don't have a boyfriend. but who cares! you have the rest of your life to find a guy who loves you.
Who ever said that a boyfriend/girlfriend made your life happier???

you can still live even without a boyfriend. Just be who you are the right guy will come along.
I hope I helped!
-volleyball2150

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18/F

Okay, basically, the subject says it all.
About 2 weeks ago, after going to the toilet [poo!] I noticed bits of blood on the paper. Didn't really worry me too much, cos that's quite common.
It happened every time until 3 days ago when there was alot more blood [small drips in the toilet bowl] I grew more worried, but again thought it could just be one of those things. 3 days later I needed to go again and yes, it happens again. Not so much this time. Well, not enough to drip into the water O.O
I need advice as to what the hell this could be.
I know I need to tell someone and get it sorted, but today is sunday and that's quite a big problem for me seeing as I will not see parents until tomorrow. Tomorrow I most probably will tell them to put my mind at ease.
Anyway, I'm kinda scaring myself here because yes, this is a symptom of bowel cancer. I know I shouldn't be thinking the worst, but lets face it, everyone does. I need more information on this - like what it could be. ALL information is welcome. I cannot stress that enough! Like if it's happened to you or someone you know...
I really need help with this. I would surf the net myself, however, I'm on a local computer and I don't really feel comfortable with searching for this type of thing with public around =\
I'll check back in a couple hours. Thankyou to ANYONE who answers this question.

http://www.cancerbackup.org.uk/Cancertype/Bowelcolonrectum
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Colorectal_cancer
http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/diseases/facts/bowelcancer.htm

i'm really sorry, and if these website don't explain everything, i suggest going to the doctor about this.

-volleyball2150

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I've known my friend since third grade and we werent always close friends, but since 6th grade we became best friends. In seventh grade I stopped being her friend for few months and I felt relieved, but at the same time I saw that she seemed like a good person and someone who I could be friends with, so we became friends again. Toward the end of seventh she drove me nuts but at the same time I still liked her. Things have been the same ever since then. Sometimes I cant stand her and dont know why I'm her friend and then 5 minutes later we're okay and I know that she is a good person. Almost everyone who knows her can't stand her and sometimes I definitely understand why, but then again she can be a good person and also she kind of has a hard life. The person she turns to for advice and just to listen is me and I try to help her, but seeing how apart of me cant stand her I would feel bad not being her friend, because I'm basically her only friend. Then again, she can be a real BEEP sometimes. There are these girls who are mean to her and she always says she will say something to them, which she really needs to and she never does, so I try to give her advice and tell her to stick up for herself and she flips out on me and cusses me out. So then I flip out on her and say why are you cussing me out when you should be doing that to them, because I'm the one thats your friend, not them. Our friendship is crazy, because I dont like her, but it's like the other half of me does, but one side can take over so quickly and then go away even quicker. Should I be her friend or not ? And if I do be her friend, what should I say to her,because things have to change.

ok,

so just because she gets on your nerves sometimes, doesn't mean you should just stop being her friend.
what i'm saying is... talk to her and tell her your feelings. You can still be friends with her, but I suggest not going past the "i'll see you after school" stage. During school (or wherever you normally see her) talk to her in simple ways. Like "hi, how are you?"

You don't need to be her BEST friend... but at least say Hi to her and ask her how she's doing. You don't need to invite her over for dinner, or anything like that. just be a polite friend, but not a BEST friend.
get it??

I hope I helped!
-volleyball2150

PS: I have the same exact problem! But my advice is exactly what I did, and every things great now.
we see each other, but we don't hang out a lot.

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I have a boyfriend who I love very much & we are long distance now. One of his ex's invited him to a dance which was last night. I let him to because I want him to have a life too & I was fine with them going as just friends. Well, after the dance, he calls me & complains about what a bad date she was & how when we went it was a lot better & told the girl to never speak to him again. Then he tells me they kissed on the cheek... I was ok with that, it's not like there was any passion in a cheek kiss. Well a few minutes later he calls & tells me that she kissed him... on the lips & that it "just happened". I don't know what to do... he came forward & told me (I wouldn't have found out any other way) & he swore it wouldn't happen again. He stayed up all night & apologized sincerely.(the tears & all.) I want to forgive & forget but how do I make sure that he knows he won't get away with this again? thanks for reading, thanks for answering.

kenidean said it all!!
if he apologized all night long, then I would forgive him. And just like kenidean said... if it happened again I would just dump him. when you added additional info: that you just talked to the girl, and apparently he kissed her.
well you know how they are... she's just lying!
I bet you that she's lying, trying to get you mad at him and then you dump him. You're just giving her what she wants, you to dump him so she can have him.
Now, i'm not saying thats exactly what she's thinking, but somewhere along the lines, she likes him.

Just forget about what happend, and tell your boyfriend that if you find out that this happens again, you'll just break up with him.

I hope I helped!
-volleyball2150

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i want you to look at "step 2"


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IyIhoWOcfng


see wat she used for the top lashes? the eyeliner and the bruch? where can i get that kinda brush for my top lashes for lining? and also the gel besides mac? cheap ones please thanks

well for the brush...
you can get a kit that has a lot of brushes and one of them includes a eyeliner brush.
http://www.walgreens.com/store/product.jsp?CATID=100290&navAction=jump&navCount=0&id=prod1464226
its about 2$

and the eyeliner gel... well i've searched on Walmart, target, and walgreens and I didn't come up with anything. but you can just search your local stores and see if they have anything.

I hope I helped!
-volleyball2150

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Is there any program I can download for free that would allow me to edit videos? Like, cut certain parts out of a video that I don't want to be seen? I'd appriciate any help. =)

i've heard of windows movie maker.
http://www.microsoft.com/windowsxp/downloads/updates/moviemaker2.mspx

Hope I helped!
-volleyball2150

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i have an e-spin the bottle account and i can't upload any of my pics this is what it says when i try to:
Error: The file that you are trying to upload is not valid. Please make sure it is the correct format, the photo needs to be a jpeg with a .jpg extention and the filename does not contain blank spaces.
-end-
also, right when i press upload the photo thing dissapears and then it goes to the next page saying that. and yes. it is a .jpg extension.

hmm... maybe the picture is too small or too big. Try using Paint or photobucket to make the image smaller/bigger.
if thats not the reason, try renaming it.
and if thats not the reason, try to upload a different picture and see if that works.
maybe you can try doing this:
example- mypicture.jpeg
I think thats what it means by .jpg extention???
i have no clue, but if any of my advice don't work, I suggest going on that site and emailing the "head" person. Or whoever made the site, and complain about it.

I hope I helped!
-volleyball2150

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