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pressure to have a boyfriend?
15/f, freshman. i'm shy, like pretty shy and in school, i'm quiet. in my classes i'm not the one who's raising their hand for every question and i'm not like extremely talkative in class. with new people, i find it hard to talk to them and open up. i've never had a real boyfriend, never kissed or anything. it hasn't started bothering me until recently. i know that i have to change. not only do i want a boyfriend but i want friends, guy friends or girl friends. i have some friends but i can't always depend on them and get bored easily. so now, it seems like there's not only pressure from myself to have a boyfriend/friends, but from my family. lately whenever my family gets together, we get into the topic of people we like. my 18 year old cousin always brings her boyfriend along, and my 11 year old brother, who is more outgoing than me is always asked about his "girlfriends". yeah, he somehow talks to a lot more girls than i do boys. it's annoying. because it's come to the point where they don't even ask ME about my love life or whatever. not that i care, b/c i'd just get embarressed. i'm like scared they think i'm a lesbian lol but i'm definitely not. i like boys. and then my brother had to say that infront of my cousin and her boyfriend. so i was like greattt. but im not. im just shy! i really want a boyfriend. i've come to the point where i don't care who he is. but like no one understands..i'm shy and it's sooooo hard for me to go up to people and just start talking. idk i know i can do it, i just choose not to. what can i do?!?!?! thanks soo much. sorry it was so long.
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Honestly, you shouldn't rush anything. I`m shy too, but, try joining groups or something, and then you`ll meet people that way.
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exactly... don't rush into it.
just wait until the perfect guy and perfect friends come along.
go to a club or join an activity and hopefully there will be some people who share the same interest as you.
don't go to the people... let the people come to you.
remember to always smile, and you can even start off slow and simple.. like saying Hi to people, or complimenting them. or asking them a question.
trust me, the right people will come to you.
i'm exactly like you. I'm shy and don't have a boyfriend. but who cares! you have the rest of your life to find a guy who loves you.
Who ever said that a boyfriend/girlfriend made your life happier???
you can still live even without a boyfriend. Just be who you are the right guy will come along.
I hope I helped!
-volleyball2150
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You said not to tell you to be yourself, but other than that, there's nothing else to do. Give it more time though. The right person & the right friends will come around eventually. You've got 4 more years of high school to make friends. You've got the rest of your life to find a companion to share love with. Don't be in such a desperate rush.
♥T!NA
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please help..and don't give me answers like just go up to them, be yourself. it's soo hard to do that. i really want to prove to my family that like i can do this..i want to be able to bring along my boyfriend to family gatherings like my cousin does..even she said it would be so cute if we did that.. pleaseee helpp thank youu
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