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I like / cant stand her !
I've known my friend since third grade and we werent always close friends, but since 6th grade we became best friends. In seventh grade I stopped being her friend for few months and I felt relieved, but at the same time I saw that she seemed like a good person and someone who I could be friends with, so we became friends again. Toward the end of seventh she drove me nuts but at the same time I still liked her. Things have been the same ever since then. Sometimes I cant stand her and dont know why I'm her friend and then 5 minutes later we're okay and I know that she is a good person. Almost everyone who knows her can't stand her and sometimes I definitely understand why, but then again she can be a good person and also she kind of has a hard life. The person she turns to for advice and just to listen is me and I try to help her, but seeing how apart of me cant stand her I would feel bad not being her friend, because I'm basically her only friend. Then again, she can be a real BEEP sometimes. There are these girls who are mean to her and she always says she will say something to them, which she really needs to and she never does, so I try to give her advice and tell her to stick up for herself and she flips out on me and cusses me out. So then I flip out on her and say why are you cussing me out when you should be doing that to them, because I'm the one thats your friend, not them. Our friendship is crazy, because I dont like her, but it's like the other half of me does, but one side can take over so quickly and then go away even quicker. Should I be her friend or not ? And if I do be her friend, what should I say to her,because things have to change.
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gahh, come on.
people tell me i'm to nice (in person, not on here) but...
give her another chance. think about it -- has she really done something to get you so angry that you should stop being friends with her?
i mean, it doesn't sound like she has to me.
i know exactly how she feels. & this sounds like something that my "best friend" would say if she asked this question. she probably is a good person. people with hard lives don't need to have their friends walk out on them too along with everything else. that's not fair to them.
if she's being a real "BEEP" have you ever thought that maybe she's on her period then? & if it's on the computer, things always get screwed up on there & you can never tell if people mean things in a mean/rude way or in a nice/normal way.
just calmy talk to her. if she's like me, then she's pretty sensitive to things & is gonna be crying pretty easily. don't attack her about it; just calmy talk to her.
please don't stop being her friend -- please.
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oh, okay. what'd she do though?
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ok,
so just because she gets on your nerves sometimes, doesn't mean you should just stop being her friend.
what i'm saying is... talk to her and tell her your feelings. You can still be friends with her, but I suggest not going past the "i'll see you after school" stage. During school (or wherever you normally see her) talk to her in simple ways. Like "hi, how are you?"
You don't need to be her BEST friend... but at least say Hi to her and ask her how she's doing. You don't need to invite her over for dinner, or anything like that. just be a polite friend, but not a BEST friend.
get it??
I hope I helped!
-volleyball2150
PS: I have the same exact problem! But my advice is exactly what I did, and every things great now.
we see each other, but we don't hang out a lot.
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first have you told her that she has been getting on you nurves.sit down and talk to her and tell her what you fell about her and let her feelings about you and mabe that is what both of you need to change.
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I don't think you should be her friend. She seems like she has a few issues, and it's hard to deal with that. Unless you are really afraid to lose the good side of her, then I'd stop being her friend. I wouldn't want to deal with all of that either.
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