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Is he controling me??
Ok...im 14/f...
Me && my boyfriend have been going out for 4 monthes... I've been told that it sounds like he is controling me or whatever...
I really like/love him...but could it be he is...
When ever we get in a fight and I tell one of my friends (because i need someone to help me before i end up hurtin myself or something) well he gets mad and yells at me... Or my friend will say something to him and then he tells me to tell them to stop talking to him...
it makes me feel (excuse my language) shitty!!!
he makes me feel like it is always my fault we get in fights! And he bugs me by sayin boys names he thinks i like... i could do the same to him but i dont because we would end up fighting more...
What do I do?? (I want to be with him...)
Please help me!!
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i dont think he's worth your time. especially if he yells at you for no reason. there's always guys out there that will treat you right.
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no offense but this guy is a real jerk.....i had a boyfreind that acted like that and then he hit me......yeah by brother beat the crap out of him but anyway i think you should get out of the realtioship before it get s worse....trust me it might be worse than you think he definalty sounds like he is controlling especially when he makes you feel like it's your fault. most guy who are controlling start out by yelling at you and blaming you for all the fights or conflicts you have and as for piontin out the guys he thinks you like i elieve he is try to make you feel like he doesn't trust you and he might soon start tellin you you can't hang out with other guys. sionce i have a little experience with guiys like this it sounds like it is heading in the wrong direction and i know you might think you ean to be with him and it might be hard to let go but in this case i think you have to.
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Yes, it definitely sounds like he's starting to become controlling. You're probably not going to want to hear this, but I think you should get out of the relationship.
Why? Number one, he makes you feel bad. He makes you feel guilty for talking to your friends and by accusing you of liking other guys. He always tries to make you seem like the bad guy when you get in fights, and that can't be fun, either.
This is just the beginning. This is how a lot of abusive relationships start. If a guy thinks that he can control you mentally, there's a possibility that he can try to harm you physically. You probably can't see it, since you like this guy so much.
You might think that you can change him. Believe me, I've seen girls try to change guys, and it doesn't work. No one will change unless they're willing to. People were given free will for a reason.
You deserve to be in a relationship with a secure guy who won't make you feel guilty for things you didn't even do. I don't care how great this guy may be otherwise; He doesn't have the right to treat you this way.
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders
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now sit down and talk to him .say baby i love you but can we talk ive been worried that you were going to hurt me so tell me the things that i need to change and i willand i will tell you what you need to do and say promice not hurt me anymore.
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I don't get why you would want to be with this kid. He yells at you for trying to get some comfort for a friend, & he names random guys who he THINKS you like when in reality it's him that you like. Honestly, I'd dump him. I would never want to be with him in my life. He sounds a complete jackass. And you shouldn't always feel at blame for the fights you guys get into.
Dump him. Seriously.
♥T!NA
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I am this exact way with my boyfriend, but I've changed. He tells me I am controlling, and I know I was. It's really hard to have a relationship if one of the people think they like other people. You really can't do anything in this situation if you're not the one who is controlling, sorry. Just stay away from any of the boys he names, assure him that everything is okay. I hope it all works out.
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