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Me and my boyfriend have had sex twice so far and both times there was a lot of liquid. I understand that I get wet down there but there was a lot. the first time there was some on his bed. it was as if I peed. The second time there was a lot more. It got on his shirt but he laughed about it. I, on the other hand, was very embarrassed. What is it? I've had one partner before my boyfriend and we always used condoms but it's never happened to me before I got with my boyfriend. Another thing is with my first partner I never felt any pain. With my boyfriend, for the first few minutes it hurts really bad to the point where my eyes start to water. Is this all normal? (link)
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You are totally normal. It appears you may be a squirter. That is a turn on for most guys. So revel in that. The only thing that would be of any concern is if the liquid had an off smell to it, which could indicate an infection (easily treatable). But otherwise, relax, get it on and enjoy!
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I'm 16/f
okay so to begin with I'm NOT a virgin. I lost it to a close friend and he has nothing to say about this.
So I've Been masterbating since I was in 2-3rd grade not fingering myself but rubbing, anyway; taking a closer look u see that my labia is 'stretched out and a slightly darker color then it should be. I've noticed this before and went to a doctor for it. She said it was not harmful.
What I'm worried about is it appearence. What if a guy wants to eat me out and is digusted by it?? Quite frankly it makes me nervous. Any pointers??
Hugs&rockets --olie (link)
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Please hear me on this:
GUYS DON'T CARE ABOUT STUFF LIKE THAT! No guy has ever broken up with a girl for having what you term, "an ugly pussy." And is there any such thing as an ugly pussy? I've never seen one.
So relax, keep your pubic hair at least trimmed if you don't shave it so he doesn't get any hair in his mouth and you're good to go.
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I feel like I've been chasing this guy that I've liked off and on for years. He says he likes me, but he likes someone else, or he says he'll take me on a date and that he's not interested in having a relationship right now because he's preparing to go on a mission, but then I find out that he IS in a relationship. Not to mention that he's LIED to me all these years. When I found out about his relationship, I wanted to call him and yell at him and ask him so many questions to why he lied to me again.
I have been thinking about this a lot, and I've come to a decision that I have got to stop chasing him, and just let him come to me if he has a problem. Am I doing the right thing? Thanks! (link)
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Let's look at the totals here:
1. You still want him even though he has already proven that he is a liar and a cheater.
2. You want to rank him out about this stuff, but that's a waste of time since you shouldn't be giving someone with no integrity any time at all.
3. You pine after a guy who isn't available to you.
4. Your competitiveness with another girl for his affections is making you irrational and desperate.
5. There are probably other guys who would be good for you and who want you buy who you ignore because you have put all your eggs in that guy's basket.
So seeing all that, don't you think you had better do a re-evaluation of yourself and your relationship with men? Is your father as unavailable physically or emotionally to you as that guy is? Because women often repeat their relationship with their fathers in who they choose as partners. If I have hit the nail on the head about this, you can either get counseling for this or just be more wary of guys like the one you are angry with right now.
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I'm 12 years old, turning 13 in December. a couple weeks ago I asked my mom if I could get a second piercing and she said yes but I had to pay for them myself. It took me a while since I'm broke but finally I made all the money, but yesterday she told me that she had changed her mind and I couldn't get it, after I had taken the time to earn all that money. Is there any way I can get her to change her mind? I really want to get it before school starts! (link)
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Piercings don't make you look more attractive. So fretting about her forbidding it is a waste of time. Never sweat small issues.
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I want to lose my virginity to my boyfriend. I know all about precautions and such, but my main worry is about how painful it will be.
Is there any way to make it less painful? I don't want to start crying when he's half way in. :O
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The way to make it less painful is to engage in long, slow and loving foreplay, especially him giving you oral. This will help you lubricate more and aid your body in preparing for penetration. A small glass of wine before you start getting hot and heavy might also be a good idea.
When it comes time for the feature act, don't focus on it. Take a deep breath and then make your body go completely limp so that the muscles around the vagina don't tighten up when he is trying to insert it inside you while you make your mind go blank. Breathe normally. You will still feel some pain, but it should be duller if you are truly relaxed. When the pain subsides, and hopefully it will, then you can kind of turn yourself on again and focus on the sensations you are experiencing.
I would also suggest that your boyfriend masturbate an hour before you guys do it. He will last a little longer when he has sex with you if he does that.
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Hey guys, I've been feeling really weird lately. For the past 2 weeks ive pretty much felt nauseous. And i almost never am hungry, like i havent eaten barely anything in the past week. I mainly just drink stuff because im extremely thirstyand i know physically my body is hungry but im just really not hungry and it makes me more nauseous to even think about food. Im using nauseous loosely because i havent even been near close enough to puking. Well except twice. I find taking a deep breath every now and then relieves it for a few seconds but then its back. Im not pregnant. There isnt even the slightest chance that i am. But i had a headache yesterday and i took 6 Ibeauprofeun throught the day and they barely touched it. It was the kind of headache where even if i stood up slow my eyes would black out for a few seconds. I dont know if this could be dangerous or something and i know this wont be a legit diagnosis but i just wanted some i deas because i dont want to goto the doctor and it be no big deal or just randomly stop before i go. And i dont know if it would help but my father does have diabetes the worst kind. Ive also had hypoglycemia for a few years now. Which is the complete oposite of diabetes but also a step or two from developing into diabetes. Not that i think i have diabetes . Sorry its long and THANKS. (link)
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Pain killers like Ibuprofen can do a lot of damage to your liver and kidneys if overused. So never take more than the label directs. The same goes for Tylenol.
You may be diabetic. See a doctor as soon as you can. The fact that your dad has it is a real warning sign. It runs in my family, too, so I know what I'm talking about. Good luck.
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So I liked this guy a few months back. And so did my best friend. But a few weeks later after I had told my friend I had a crush on him I find out that he likes her. I was hurt like any other girl would be but now I got my own boyfriend and deep down I still like the other guy who is still with my best friend. Any advice on how to get over him? Please and Thank You :) (link)
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First, your friend's relationship with him is unlikely to last any significant amount of time. The emotional immaturity of junior high schoolers will assure that. So just hang with your current guy and see how things develop. Don't think about things you can't control or can't have because it is completely counterproductive and a waste of time and energy. Keep your life as simple and drama free as possible.
I feel sorry for your boyfriend in that you aren't completely committed to him, but that relationship won't last that long anyway and you two got some relationship practice in. Just another stepping stone on the road of life.
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I'm an 18 year old bisexual girl, and I'm a virgin. It's something that's always in the back of my mind and it does worry me - for years I have wanted to lose it. I wanted to be able to be promiscuous and not make a big deal of sex, but I just don't have it in me. I am not a naturally promiscuous person - I've tried, but I'm just not comfortable being that intimate with someone unless I am very, very close to them.
Now, here are some points I want to make. Firstly, I'm not someone who can't get laid. Not to sound big-headed, but I am considered attractive by most and get a lot of male attention (although I'm bisexual, I'm not out yet and don't tend to get attention from females). Secondly, I don't think there's anything wrong with being a virgin at my age. People should be able to have as little or as much sex as they want without being judged. However, I won't say I don't feel the pressures - I do, a lot. No one knows I'm a virgin apart from closer friends I've known since I was 13 or younger, I hide it from everyone else.
So, really, I know I should just be comfortable with it and wait till I find someone I am comfortable enough to have sex with. But here's the thing: I really want to have sex. I have such a high sex drive and it's something I constantly think and fantasise about. I want to start experimenting and having sex be a part of my life. I don't want to have to wait for someone I really, really like and who I'm really close to, because knowing me, that could take years.
But of course, the problem is, I know I'll find it difficult to have sex with someone I'm not close to (even if I'm attracted to them) and to tell them that I'm a virgin beforehand (I couldn't do it without telling them, because they'd either find out I was a virgin anyway, or just think I wasn't that good in bed.)
I guess my question is: what's worth it? Is it worth waiting and just being consumed by lust but not being able to have sex, until I find someone I'm really comfortable with? (And like I said, this could take years, I rarely fall for people seriously.) On the other hand, is it worth just getting it over with through an experience I might not enjoy, so I can start experimenting and having a sex life? And if you'd recommend the latter, how do I go about it?
I do have a lot of problems with physical intimacy which gets in the way of this, so if anything knows how I could sort this out, it would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you x (link)
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You are way overthinking this. Always try to keep things simple and you will be a lot happier.
First, find someone who you would like to have as a partner. Relax, get to know them well, form a strong bond.
Second, get it on.
Pretty simple, huh?
Until you find someone, though, you can just masturbate to deal with that high sex drive. Nothing wrong with it. Yeah, it's not like being with somebody, but it's pretty damned nice.
It is human nature to want instant gratification, but one has to just accept that it is often not possible. It's just life.
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well im a guy and i really want to give a guy a great blowjob. the thing is I want it to be great for him. So can anybody give me any advice on how to give a great blowjob? (link)
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Just make sure you keep your teeth out of it. Otherwise, blow him like you would want to be.
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In past relationships I have been sexually abused, and hurt by them. I have met someone new and i have been single for 8 months and I feel that I am ready. I know for a fact he isn't going to hurt me because I want to be a police officer in the near future, and he graduates from the academy in november. He tells me I am beautiful, and cute, and smart. How do I keep myself from getting so caught up in the situation and falling too fast because I don't want to ruin this because of how i feel! (link)
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Me lady, Drew Peterson was a cop. Just becomes someone wears a badge doesn't automatically mean that they will be a good partner for you. In fact, cops often get protection from their buddies when they do abuse their girlfriends/spouses (there was a particularly notorious case of this up where I live). So you aren't only dating a cop, but the big blue wall, too.
Look, you might feel that because he is a cop he might protect you. I would urge you to get therapy for the abuse you suffered to help ensure that you aren't going to put yourself back in a position where you might get abused again.
Oh, and if your gut tells you at some point something isn't right, it ain't right. Listen to that instinct. It is usually right on the money.
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this guy at school i like asked me out. but i am not sure if he is kidding or not. should i say yes? (link)
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Why do you think he was kidding? You have that kind of low self esteem? I doubt he was joking. You don't say if you accepted or not. If you didn't or hesitated, he may not be too thrilled about that.
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ok im a sophomore this year and i dated this jerk in 7th grade and he was awful to me and dumped me repeatedly and cheated on me so much and i dumped him the last time and totally refuse to talk to him. i seriously hate him like everytime hes around or i hear about him i got instantly heated and angry. its been like 4 years and im still not over him even though i make it seem like i am. what can i do? (link)
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He cheated on you (when you were 12) so you feel humiliated. You also lost him to another girl and given how fiercely women are competitive with each other, you really resent coming out on the negative end of the score.
Look, you can't keep living in the past. Learn from your past experiences, but your continuing to be so angry about this four years on makes me afraid you might be a psycho. Learn to let go and move on. If you can't, you need to see a therapist.
I mean, my God, your contretempts with him happened in junior high. Have a sense of proportion.
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Hi I am a female, 17.
My boyfriend is 19.
We both work I work days and his schedule is all over the place. He works usually 7 to 1 or 7 to 5 but somedays he'll work 7 to 7. I work 7 to five.
I don't have a phone it has been broken for nearly a month. I text him on my breaks from my friends phone since she works at my work too. He replies maybe half the time. I ask him usually when I will see him again. Well he usually says he's tired from work and sometimes he's already busy. Well whenever I can't get a hold of him and I know he is off work I just go to his house and surprise him. He never seems to mind and we usually end up falling asleep. Well whenever I want to do something big I ask him at least a week in advanced. I asked him to go camping with our friends and I and he said he had work so I didn't mind. He told me we'd plan another trip but when I asked him about it he said we weren't going to. And every year my friends and I go to California during Christmas break for 5 days and I invited him. My best friend is dating his best friend so I thought it would be fun for us four to go. I asked him and he said he couldn't get work off when it's several months away. Well I told him I am tired of us sitting around at his house and never doing anything and how I want to go out every now and then. He said he is socially uncomfortable. I told him not to keep making up excuses and how I just want us to do exciting things now and then. Of course he never replied so I told him to think about it and that I adored him. He always complains about me not having a phone to talk to him but when I do text him he never replies, and he never ever replies when I ask to hang out. I told him I wanted him to meet my family and he refuses, and I told him we're not going to have sex again until he at least meets my nieces and nephews since they are only here for the summer and I won't see them again until next summer. When I told him that he said he wasn't even going to kiss me, and now when I sleepover he won't kiss me or even touch me unless I get really upset and roll to the other end of the bed. I just don't get him lately. When we first got together he always wanted to do things and hang out and he seemed very interested. I see him maybe 2 times a week. We've been dating three months.
Is this because of his schedule or me being upset with him. How do I get him to become more interested in me. (link)
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I hate to break it to you, but he is an introvert and you are a pain in the ass. I personally hate it when girlfriends try to either schedule play dates for me because she wants me to be as social as her or she wants her friends/relatives around all the time when I couldn't give two shits about them.
Also, holding sex hostage with the terms that he has to be social with your nieces is beyond inane. To me, that is a deal breaker and I would boot you so fast your head would be swimming for the next week.
I also think that you tend to find his lack of real availability and his being so difficult oddly attractive, which provokes me to ask you about your relationship with your dad: was he also emotionally or physically unavailable when you were growing up? Women often tend to repeat their experience with their fathers in who they choose to date.
Look, either accept him for what he is or break up with him and find someone who is far more social than he is. But don't force march him at emotional and sexual gunpoint through your family and your friends.
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So it's been approximately four months since I've gone passed first base with anyone and needless to say, I'm extremely sexually frustrated. I'm not looking for a relationship or anything (though one would be nice). Just some good natured fun. How do I go about getting guys? I'm not really attractive so I don't have that going for me. Any advice would be appreciated. (link)
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You're worrying about four months? There are guys your age who have never been laid, period. So you aren't THAT unattractive.
You could always just go up to a guy and say, "hey, let's fuck." Most guys aren't going to turn that down unless your face looks like it was run through a meat grinder.
Just relax, put yourself out there, keep your eyes open for good opportunities and enjoy.
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I really want to give this guy a blowjob but something is just telling me not to. What should I do? (link)
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If you don't want to do something then don't do it. Remember, that your life is exclusively your own and you have to do what makes you personally happy. Don't let others interfere with your happiness or goals. They aren't you and only care about what you can do for them.
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20/F I have a friend that I met at a place we both used to work. Now that we don't work there anymore, we never see each other because we live like 3 towns over. When we do see each other, it's always a let down. I never have as much fun as I anticipate I will. We're just so different. He's extremely social and likes to hang out as a group, but I like to hang out with people exclusively. The sad thing is, even when it's just him and I, which I usually prefer in a friendship, I'm so bored...I feel like I'm getting nothing out of our friendship, he's a really nice person, but I feel like I'm wasting time and effort. Should I just avoid his phone calls? Just because he's nice doesn't mean I'm obligated to be his friend...Am I right? Opinions, please? (link)
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Here is how you need to think about this, dude, because it is dead true:
Friends have different uses (you may not like the way I put that, but it's a fact if you're honest with yourself) and the nature of your relationship can change over time depending on how the context of that friendship evolves. You obviously aren't in the same place as he is, which is fine, but you have to live your life according to what makes you personally happy and not be guilt tripped into being hindered by others.
So you need to just start blowing the guy off. He will stop coming around once he has been rebuffed enough. Your friendship ran its course. It happens. Don't overthink this.
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I am a 26yr old Female and my baby sister is 21yrs old and this is her second time living with me and i am fed up, she has no visible goals and i now have a 4month old son and my fiance' is ready to move in.She has been back and forth between my house n a friends house and recently got a job but quit after a week.....what do i do ,because when i try to talk to her she always accuses me of not caring about her or not being there for her. i dont want to hurt her so can u please tell me how to handle this???? (link)
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You gotta send her home. She is obviously totally disregarding how you feel and is using you as an object of convenience. And what she is saying to you about your observations of her behavior aren't credible answers, but empty guilt tripping. Don't fall for it. It could be that you sending her packing will be the wake up call she needs to get her life in order.
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I feel that to please a guy I am not tight enough, how can I tighten myself in a natural way? (link)
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You are definitely tight enough down there. Don't pick at yourself over bullshit like this. If your boyfriend needs something tighter tell him to piss off and buy himself a Fleshlight.
If you aren't satisfied with the way he fits in you, then you guys just may not be a match that way. It happens. It isn't anyone's fault. So maybe you need to find yourself another man if this is really a significant thing for you.
Otherwise, relax, don't overthink, love yourself and enjoy life!
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How long after sex till you see the signs? (link)
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If you're a girl you may see no signs. Things such as chlamydia often don't have obvious external indicators. If you have any doubts at the present moment, get checked ASAP. If this is just a general question, all you can do is get checked periodically (every six months if you are active with someone).
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How do you responde to someone who tell you they love you. I have had boyfriends that say I love you early in the relationship and i dont know what to say because i dont know if i do love him. What do i tell someone? How do i reply to him when he says i love you and im not sure what i feel? (link)
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Yeah, this is really awkward. The only way you can respond, if you want to be honest, is, "look, I'm glad you feel that way for me and I do like being with you, but I'm not emotionally at that point yet where I can say it back." You can then joke that "I've always been a little slow."
Good luck. This isn't easy.
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