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Is there any way to make losing your virginity less painful?
I want to lose my virginity to my boyfriend. I know all about precautions and such, but my main worry is about how painful it will be.
Is there any way to make it less painful? I don't want to start crying when he's half way in. :O
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The way to make it less painful is to engage in long, slow and loving foreplay, especially him giving you oral. This will help you lubricate more and aid your body in preparing for penetration. A small glass of wine before you start getting hot and heavy might also be a good idea.
When it comes time for the feature act, don't focus on it. Take a deep breath and then make your body go completely limp so that the muscles around the vagina don't tighten up when he is trying to insert it inside you while you make your mind go blank. Breathe normally. You will still feel some pain, but it should be duller if you are truly relaxed. When the pain subsides, and hopefully it will, then you can kind of turn yourself on again and focus on the sensations you are experiencing.
I would also suggest that your boyfriend masturbate an hour before you guys do it. He will last a little longer when he has sex with you if he does that.
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Hey there :)
Okay let me reassure you a little. It is not a given that loosing your virginity will hurt. Its different for everyone. A lot of people over exaggerate.
It is more uncomfortable. It depends really on you and your body.
For me it didn't hurt one bit I guess I was one of the lucky ones! Ignore the last answer as long as you relax and tell him to be gentle and slow you won't start crying :)
Fingering does a lot actually! In fact that used to be quite uncomfortable and painful for me. I used to bleed a little and I think that's how my hymen broke. So it can help to make sex less painful it did for me anyway. When you are about to do it you need to be at ease and not worrying because then you will tense your muscles and it be to focused on it hurting that it will.
Take time to touch and kiss each other before hand don't just get straight to sex and you should be fine honestly all these horror stories about loosing your virginity are silly! you could have already broke your hymen and it might not hurt anyway.
Good luck and be safe. :)
Much <3
Jess 17/f
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no ! the only thing to do is have him finger you first but that wont necessarily do much.
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