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Gotta Get Over Him
So I liked this guy a few months back. And so did my best friend. But a few weeks later after I had told my friend I had a crush on him I find out that he likes her. I was hurt like any other girl would be but now I got my own boyfriend and deep down I still like the other guy who is still with my best friend. Any advice on how to get over him? Please and Thank You :)
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First, your friend's relationship with him is unlikely to last any significant amount of time. The emotional immaturity of junior high schoolers will assure that. So just hang with your current guy and see how things develop. Don't think about things you can't control or can't have because it is completely counterproductive and a waste of time and energy. Keep your life as simple and drama free as possible.
I feel sorry for your boyfriend in that you aren't completely committed to him, but that relationship won't last that long anyway and you two got some relationship practice in. Just another stepping stone on the road of life.
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Well for one change is never easy. We fight to hold on and we fight to let go. Sometimes you have to be selfish, but jumping into another relationship was not the right step. For one you either dating him to make the guy you still like jealous or your using him to get over the guy you still like. Trust me ive done the same thing you did. You have to go into relationships with the right intentions or you are going to get hurt. The only way to move on from the guy you still like is to cut him out of your life. That means no longer being friends on facebook(even if you want to continue to profile him on there to see whats going on with him) you have to cut out all contact. That means no texting or talking to him. Because lets face it hes chasing after your bestfriend and your chasing after him but whos chasing after you? not him. Dont think about all the good times you had all the things you did because your only hurting yourself more and setting yourself up for more let downs. You've got to come to realization you cant keep gazing back at that closed door because something great is going to come along and your going to miss out because your too busy gazing back at the past. Say goodbye to Mr. yesterday and work on Mr.today ok girl? I hope things work out for you :) your soulmate is out there and he just wasnt it. Dont give up hope!
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Wow.. im sorry that must suck.. the only thing I can say is.. you need time to heal like the other person said.. congradulations on the new boyfriend i'm glad everything is going good ,but listen to yourself... you still have feelings for him deep inside.. this new boyfriend? how do you feel with him? Do you think your ready even though you still have feelings for another guy? I would sit down and think. If you really like/love this guy your with then really put aside the other past guy.. if you cant.. well then dont cause this new boyfriend of yours to get hurt.. he might get hurt if you keep this up.. how do you think he would feel if he seen this? I suggest you sit down and think out what you really want. Im sorry that you got hurt.. please dont do the same to this guy you like.
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First of all.. congrats on finding someone else that is the first step,. But you wanna make sure your not just using this other guy as a sort of rebound slash get over other dude,,.
if you are still really stuck up on ur girls bf then maybe your not ready to be actually dating yet. It would be unfair to be with someone when your heart is not fully set on actually being with them.
I am truly sorry that he likes her instead of you,. I have been in that situation before and it's nothing to do with you,. it's just one of those situations that aren't meant to be.
Only time can help you get over someone,. time and allowing your heart to be fully healed before rushing onto the next guy who comes along.
Hope this helps:)
~Jasmine*
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