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I need to hook up
So it's been approximately four months since I've gone passed first base with anyone and needless to say, I'm extremely sexually frustrated. I'm not looking for a relationship or anything (though one would be nice). Just some good natured fun. How do I go about getting guys? I'm not really attractive so I don't have that going for me. Any advice would be appreciated.
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What's the difference between desperate and sexy?
Confidence.
Since you seem to not have enough of your own, here's some from the outside. Men are easy. You're more than smart enough to attract one of us, we're kind of wired to respond to the right signals. Well, signal.
That signal, in blunt terms, is a woman who knows we would have fun having sex with her and wants us to know it too.
From that perspective, perhaps he isn't interested in the moment, or perhaps he's just already gotten interested in someone else before you got there. What can you do? Sometimes the timing is off.
If it's not, a smile and some friendly flirting and making your intentions to take him home if he's interested in going generally gets a positive response from guys who are possibly out looking for the same.
For once, clubs aren't a bad idea. Just carry a condom in your purse because you don't want him to not or to carry it in his wallet or something.
Last, directly compliment men. We don't expect it. If a woman likes you she'll generally take a well phrased "nice ass" comment quite well. Guys are no different. If you think a guy is sexy, make eye contact and tell him.
Don't chase. Hit and run. The flirting game can be alot of fun and excitement on both sides, when you make it clear you're there to play people generally respond.
Being attractive is way more about attitude than appearance. So long as you're neat and put together guys will only give your looks a passing nod when you've got our eyes locked on yours and smile that "I'd like to devour you" smile.
We like that smile. Alot.
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You're worrying about four months? There are guys your age who have never been laid, period. So you aren't THAT unattractive.
You could always just go up to a guy and say, "hey, let's fuck." Most guys aren't going to turn that down unless your face looks like it was run through a meat grinder.
Just relax, put yourself out there, keep your eyes open for good opportunities and enjoy.
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dress up for going out (you can look at makeup videos on youtube). find a party. there's 239472934 house parties every weekend. don't be shy and awkward. be nice, look happy, and flirt. drink so you open up, but don't get wasted and out of control. at least one of the guys there will definitely be interested.
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