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SCARED to fall too fast
In past relationships I have been sexually abused, and hurt by them. I have met someone new and i have been single for 8 months and I feel that I am ready. I know for a fact he isn't going to hurt me because I want to be a police officer in the near future, and he graduates from the academy in november. He tells me I am beautiful, and cute, and smart. How do I keep myself from getting so caught up in the situation and falling too fast because I don't want to ruin this because of how i feel!
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Me lady, Drew Peterson was a cop. Just becomes someone wears a badge doesn't automatically mean that they will be a good partner for you. In fact, cops often get protection from their buddies when they do abuse their girlfriends/spouses (there was a particularly notorious case of this up where I live). So you aren't only dating a cop, but the big blue wall, too.
Look, you might feel that because he is a cop he might protect you. I would urge you to get therapy for the abuse you suffered to help ensure that you aren't going to put yourself back in a position where you might get abused again.
Oh, and if your gut tells you at some point something isn't right, it ain't right. Listen to that instinct. It is usually right on the money.
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Just let him know that you are a fragile but strong woman and you want to take things slow. Go on some dates spend time watching movies. I dont know where you are from but I live in the south and we go to the river alot my husband and I like to go floating with out our kids once in a while its relaxing and romantic.
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Well at least you're one of the girls who won't jump in too fast and fall too hard.
Well, because of your past, you're always going to have some trust issues. Remember that, and make sure he knows that you don't want to move too fast because it will most likely just ruin the relationship.
Just guard yourself, but not too much to where you're just scared to trust him at all or anything. Don't let yourself fall too hard, just watch what you do and take this whole thing slowly.
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Because of past experiences, I suggest that you should take things slow with him, and explain to him why. Start out by holding hands and hugging. Get to know him really well because then you will know if he is who he says he is. Give it some time, and you will feel comfortable with him. Good luck!
-Kaylie
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