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Hey i am 13 and i live in australia. So when me and my boyfriend talk, he always looks at my lips and mouth...its kinda weird..i dont reli care about it but its just..weird...>
I think he wants to kiss you ; and you should go for it!! =) Hope I helped!!
Love,
MELii
school is starting in a lil bit, and i wanted new hairstyles and outfits and stuff. last year, i wore my hair up every single day. for the whole year! I want a new hairstyle that everyone will love! I have really thick hair and whenever i brush it, it gets REALLY poofy. thats why i wore my hair up all the time. and when i get it wet, it dries and poofs. same if i use a hairdryer! help me please. will rate 5 for any answers!
My hair used to be the same way.. it'd always poof and stuff. But now I just bought a hair straightner and it works really good. My hair isn't poofy or anything anymore. But if you don't wnat it like pin straight, then just straighten it a little so then it seems a little fuller which is a cute style. Or just pull your hair half-way back or do your hair in a cute little bun thing whenever you decide to pull it up. And whenever you use a hair-dryer, if you have it on fast heat, then the air's blowing on your hair so hard, it's poofing out, so try using a gentle but hard wind so it still drys it good, but it's not messing your hair up. I hope I helped!!
Love,
MELii
Hey my name's christina and im 14. This is one of those "cant-get-over-my-ex" type of questions. well me and this guy were going out for a year and 2 months. we had a really good relationship most of the time. He always told me he truly loved me and i think i might have really been in love with him. well, 10 months into the relation we had sex. Then 2 months ago we broke up. When we first broke up we'd still talk on the fone and see eachother everyday and sometimes we still had sex even tho we weren't going out. then i heard he was using me for sex and so i stopped talking to him. well we are talking again and he claims he still loves me. i love him alot and i dont know what to do? should i believe other people that say hes using me or should i believe him that hes not and still loves me? Thanks!!!
Well if you really love him alot ; then maybe you should give him another chance. But if you do, I would suggest just seeing his reactions and what he does around you. If like.. two days after you're going out and he suggests sex, then you can tell that he's just using you and you should dump him. But if he just wants sex whenever you two are both comfortable and etc., then he's probably not using you at all, and he does care. So just see if he acts like that at all. And if you guys do break up again/ or just not go out at all again.. I might wanna suggest not really talking to him anymore, cause then all your emotions will come back, and then the whole thing will just repeat itself =/ but if you think you can talk to him without having feelings come back ; then I don't see why you couldn't. I hope I helped! IM me if you want to talk some more!!
MELii x MARiiE
-my screename...
Love,
MELii
So, today, at the camp I work at, I handed out business cards to some moms and one called me to babysit for a 9 yer old girl, 7 year old girl, and 6 year old boy. I have accepted the job at 8 dollars per hour for 4 hours. How can I keep the kids busy. I don't want to color or watch TV, and since the boy is there, I don't know what to do...
Heres some stuff that you could do:
- Make crafts. That's always fun for all kids, boys and girls, and it helps them be creative and stuff. But try doing something that doesn't make a huge mess.
-Try reading a book to them. Have them each pick out on they like so there's no arguments if one kid doesn't like the same book as the otherrs.
- Play board games/regular games. Maybe if it's nice out play IT-TAG, or play with a ball or something. Or if it's inside, then play HIDE-N-SEEK or just play with toys or something like that. And if the children don't like playing toys together, just play with them back and forth, have the boy near you, but play with the girls, and then switch, so neither is getting ignored.
-If it's really nice out take them swimming or to the zoo or something. Or maybe take them outside for a walk. Or maybe for lunch/dinner or something have a nice little outdoor eating like a picnic. Or take them to the park ( eat and play there )
.. I hope I helped!!
Love,
MELii
i left my fav shirt at my friends house and the next time i came over i saw it and i asked where she found it.....she said that her grandma bought it for her for her bday....which was a huge lie...they dont sell that model anymore its old.....i want it back but i dont want to hurt her feeling what should i do???
signed concerned girl
i rate high
Well this might not seem like a good idea to you, but something maybe I might do is just whenever she's not in the room, take it bag, put it in a bag you brought over here house or something. But if you don't wanna do that, then I would just sit there and be like," Well I think that might be my shirt, because I left mine over here." And then see the shirt size too for proof because if you guys aren't the same shirt size, then you'll be able to show her it's yours. IM me some more if you want to talk!!
Love,
MELii
Me and my exboyfriend just broke up and I moved on very quickly - but he didn't. He keeps calling me, sometimes more than 15 times a day! And when I get on the computer, he's sure to be there IMing me. I have a new boyfriend now and I'm afraid he's gonna mess things up because him and my new boyfriend already don't get along. I don't want to be the reason that my new relationship falls apart. PLEASE HELP.
Hmm.. that's a sticky situation..I would just maybe talk to him about it. Just explain to him ( in the nicest way possible of course ) how you have a new boyfriend and you have moved on, but you'd still like to talk to him. Just don't call you 15 times a day, because you are afraid that that'll ruin your current relationship. ( or something like that ) if you want, you can IM me so we can talk more about this! I hope I helped!!
Love,
MELii
hey my name is tom and my gf and i havent been togeather not that long and she likes to get real close to me and hug and stuff. is this normal 4 a gf 2 act that way??
thanx
Yeah I think that that is normal for a girlfriend to act that way. It's just she's probably happy that you are her boyfriend and she wants to show it by hugging you alot, etc. If you wanan talk to me more, just IM me! Hope I helped!!
Love,
MELii
okay well im 13 and i recently and i have been getting urges to sleep with my father ..this is reallly weird i know! hes fat to so i dont even see how im attracted to him! what would you do ? i need advise - please give me advise
I don't really know how to explain that one.. that just might be some weird phase you're going through like with your hormones and stuff, like with some people they start to want to experiment with the same sex and such... so just try ignoring the situation, kinda ( not obviously ) veer away from your father and just keep your distance.. then if that doesn't do anything, then I'd just try REALLY hard to forget about it. Just ignore the urges.. hope I helped!!
Love,
MELii
my friends house is realy dirty > and ii hate going over her house ... there are alays bugs and dust and just dirt all over ... i hate it but ii dont know what to do should i tell her or wat should i do ... like we always have sleep overs at her house and go over but i realy dont want to go over there but she is one of my good friends ... so PLEASE HELP ME !! i dont know what to do >o and should i tell her about ? help please ! thankx always .::* marie [ 14 female ]
Okay well something you could do, is just suggest her sleeping over your house more. Just be like," Look you ALWAYS have me sleep over yours, and now it's my time to do the same =)." but if not that.. then I just might wanna tell her how you feel, because I don't see any other way. Just sit down with her and in the nicest way possible be like," Look.. I'm sorry.. I don't know how to say this but.. your house is a little dirty. Like there's bugs and stuff.. so do you think we could please sleep over at my house for now?" ( something like that ) or another idea is to just help her clean the house, or at least the area you're going to sit at and stuff ( that's what I do sometimes at my one friends, she'll have like a dirty glass, so I go and relcean it like over and over again in the sink and stuff.. well of course I am, I ain't drinking outta a dirty glass! lmao! ) anyways, those are the only things I can think of! IM me if you need to talk about it more! Hope I helped!!
Love,
MELii
okay well im 16 and female. i just recently told my family and friends that im a lesbian. They just told me " Think over what you just told me,consider changing your mind". I'm pretty sure that they aren't going to accept it, but i simply cannot help my feeling! Please tell me what you would do, or give me any advise you can. thank you
Love You,
Distressed Dyke
Well what I would do, is try talking to your family about it. I would just be like," Look, just because I'm lesbian ; doesn't mean I'm still not your daughter, and I respect you guys whenever you decide something ; so you respect my decision. I can't help my feelings. I'm still your daughter no matter." ( something like that ) Because they're your family. They should love you no matter what you decide. I hope I helped and I hope everything works out with you and your family!!
Love,
MELii
I'm 13 years old. I recently became pen pals with a guy my age who lives in England, I live in the US. I really like him, but I don't know how to tell him, or if I even should. If he doesn't feel the same way, I don't want to chance our friendship. What do I do?
Well I mean, what are the chances of you guys having a real relationship whenever you guys are a COUNTRY away? I mean people think that they can't trust eachother whenever they are 30 minutes away, but a whole nother country? I think it'd be best just to stay friends for now, but then talk about possibly visiting eachother some time over the summer ( and soon cause it's almost over! =( ..) and then if you guys feel like you like eachother, maybe talk about visiting eachother more and stuff and let him know how you feel. I know, nobody can deny a british man. They're too sexy.. =) ( *cough* Tom Felton who plays Draco Malfoy in Harry Potter *cough* lol ) =) now HE'S hawt. lol I hope I helped!!
Love,
MELii
alright..i dont know whats wrong.. i mean after last summer my life been going downhill. my parents are fighting alot and they are blameing me, then my sister gets me in trouble and now im starting to cut..but my parents or family members dont know.. whenever i get upset and rly depressed i head for the razor.. i cut 3 times already but only 2 scared.. alot of my friends understand why i cut but i dont know, alot of them keep tryin to help me stop but i cant.. and im having problems with my love life.. am i going crazy.. please help me.. ='(
Well what I think you should do is instead of cutting yourself to relive the pain ; talk to your friends. Have them be the substitute for the razor ; because that's not healthy at all! You could die! =/ So I would just talk to your friends ; let out everything you are feeling and just talk to them about everything that's going on. And about your love life ; if you're not getting a boyfriend or anything it's okay. Because I've only had like one ( and it was a short period of time too ). I don't know what to do about your parents ; my parents used to fight all the time ( and then they ended up in divorce ) maybe try just ignoring them ( and your sister too especially if she's trying to get you into trouble ) just try anything but cutting.. but even if you talk to your friends, and you still have the urge to cut, I would try and get some help. Try this site:
http://kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/mental_health/cutting.html
Maybe talk to the school counseler...IM me please to talk more!! I hope I helped you and I hope everything gets better for you!!
Love,
MELii
i dont know if my catagory was correct but thats ok. ok well i'm really confused on thing =/. ok it's weird for me even to write this because i'm scared of what your going to think and you dont even know me! ok i dont know how long it's been, but i think some of my friends [ who are girls ] are turning me on.i'll catch myself stareing at them[if you know what i mean lol] and if we go shopping and i have to judge outfits on them sometimes i'm like blown away. i always thought girls were pretty and i always judged them, but i never thought i might acttually be atracted to them. And i'm curiouse because i saw on real world to girls making out and i thought it was hot .. and i'm deffinatly not a guy! and i want to try making out with a girl, but what am i going to say to some one "oh well i think i might be attracked to girls .. can i make out with you for a few seconds?" but the thing is i have a boyfriend and i'm deffiantly turned on by him allll the time. so i know i can't be a lesbian. and if i am, my friends would totally hate me and feel so awkward around me =\ so i couldn't tell them! and they always joke around and pretend flirt but i don't think im pretending anymore. i dont know what to do i'm so confused!!
............ is there something wrong with me?!?!!?
- straight girl gone insane
Its ok ; you don't have to be scared of what I think.. whatever anyone has to tell me I'm not gonna judge them or anything.. they're here for advice, so that's what I'll give. =) Okay..
Well first of all ; no, nothing is wrong with you =) This all could be a phase that some people just go through ; they want to experiment and such.. and try to experiment maybe and see if you feelings have changed at all. If you still are attracted to girls and wanna make out with them,etc..then I would say that you are bi-sexual. If you don't know what that is, bi-sexual is whenever you are attracted to both sexes. But if you don't think you are pretending anymore when you are flirting with them and such and you are blown away by them.. then I would probably say that you are bi-sexual. Hope I helped!!
Love,
MELii
my friend is giving me a really hard time, because i didn't go somewhere with her, she makes fun of me and my myspace http://www.myspace.com/x333333
and she makes fun of me because she really doesn't know me... like she makes fun of that i don't have a bf at the moment, she acts like my time keeper, she schedules things for me, she hurts me, and she gets me in trouble, ALOT.. so how can i make her calm down and stay the way we were or not? help mee!!
o and yeah, she really REALLY needs some help, i didnt go somewhere with her and she is like "you know what? im never talking to you, dont call me, dont im me anymore, and dont even think about me, or visit my myspace, or even look at my things, i sware to god, if you do, you won't be alive by the next day" so she really needs help, badlyy, MENTLE PROBLEMS? maybey?
x0o PLEASE HELP MEEE PLEASE!!!
form - - being bullied
Okay she's really rude! I wouldn't really consider her a friend, because friends DO NOT make fun of eachother and stuff and hurt eachother... and if she's getting you into trouble ALOT, I don't think you should be hanging out with her then, cause you might get into some SERIOUS trouble. But this girl sounds like she needs to change her attitude.. yeah I definetly wouldn't hang out with her AT ALL. I would just focus on finding some new friends...just do as she says. Don't IM her ; don't call her ; don't look at her myspace... just leave her alone and stuff, and then everything will be fine, cause it sounds to me like you shouldn't bug this girl =/ I mean if she is telling you that if you even look at her myspace then you won't be alive the next day? This girl sounds like she has a problem... I might wanna talk to your parents about this and see what they think of the situation. Hope I helped!!
Love,
MELii
I really enjoy swimming so I don't want to have to not go just because I'm on my period. I know that pads don't work, but I usually use tampons when I'm swimming and I find them uncomfortable. Has anyone got any other suggestions? Do i even need to wear anything because I heard somewhere that you don't bleed when you're in water? Thanx
Well whenever I go swimming/shower, I've never bled, so I think it is true, cause my mom also told me that..and mother knows best lol =) anyways, whenever I DO go swimming I just wear a pad incase cause whenever you aren't in the water you don't want to bleed on your suit and stuff do you?... so I just wear one anyways.. and then incase blood ever IS in the water or runnin' down your leg or anything just tell them your cut opened and it's bleeding again from earlier that day whenever you...fell or something. I hope I helped!!
Love,
MELii
-"Graduation ( Friends Forever )"-Vitamin C
we both know that song...and i was thinking of putting in there. now i know i should...thx
No problem!! =)
I know this is long but its pretty simple i think? i am not sure though....all i need is a song to go along with this problem..i know its sounds stupid, but plz just hear me out here plz...
Ok, my best friend and I have been best friends since 1st grade, which is almost 8 years (were 15 and goin into 10th grade)...we have been havin problems and stuff, she was taken out of public school and now goes to a private school now and i am still stuck in a public school. she lives 2 blocks away and i haven't seen her since january..we are suppose to meet next week or so, to talk, she sent a letter saying she wants to talk to me..and so.. i was thinking if we are thinking if we get that chance to get our friendship back that something should be made to prove a great summer gettin a friendship back together. i was thinking of taking my digital camera everywhere we went and take pictures of all the stuff we did...like the place we sat to talk and stuff like that and (if the friendship gets better and we have fun and stuff) to the magizines and stuff like that ..n the messes we made in the bedrooms and cookin n stuff... then go load the pictures onto a disk and make a dvd out of that all..or a slide show..and give it to her in september when school starts...and i was thinking, whats a great song to go along with the situation. please give me some suggestions. thx
Okay, first of all I think that is so sweet!! =) I wish a friend did that for me!! =P Well here are some songs I thought might be good:
-"Best Friends" by S Club 7
-"Graduation ( Friends Forever )"-Vitamin C
-"Lean On Me"-Fat Joe ft. J Lo
-"You'll Be In My Heart"- Phil Collins
.. I hope I helped!!
Love,
MELii
ok, every time i sit in front of the AC, im cold. but i step 2 steps away from it, im automatically hot. can i make it so im just fine? its 114 degrees in here. what do i do?
That happens to me sometimes too. What I do is:
-turn off the vents, and have a fan near me, and if I start getting REALLY cold, I have a light blanket around me.
-turn the vent in the opposite direction, so they'll cool the room, but not directly at you.
.. hope I helped!!
Love,
MELii
ii have a seriously bad habit of biting my nails ii would love 2 have some long nails by the time school starts, does ne1 know of some really good tips and/or products or something that would get me 2 stop? -[(nail polishes? medicines?)]- any good answers get 5!! thanx loads!
If you go the makeup section of a store, in the nail area there should be some nailpolish that will make your nails grow faster.. I think theres one kinda called," Sally Hassen Nail Growth".. just look for the words NAIL GROWTH on the bottle! And then somewhere near all that stuff there should be stuff I've heard that you put on your fingers and whenever you get the urge to bite and you try to, it tastes really bad. Hope I helped!!
Love,
MELii
Okay so theres this boy and i was in love with him and maybe still am but he cheated on me..and we did a lot of stuff together..but now we are just friends..do yuo think if he were to wanna hook back up with me..should i?
Well I would think about this alot before you decide anything because theres the thought that he CHEATED on you, what wouldn't make him do it again? =/ but you might think you love him, just kinda sit there for a moment and think: do you feel like you're in love with him? and that you love him so much that he deserves another shot? because maybe you should...( because sometimes people do deserve a second chance ) but if you do, I would suggest keeping a good eye on him...in my opinion ; I wouldn't. But you gotta listen to your heart =) hope I helped!!
Love,
MELii