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I'm not perfect. But the heartbeats add up. As well as the life challenges. And I'm only 25. So I'm here. To help those I can. Try and make a difference in someones life.to better somes life by being someone that's there when they have no one.
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ok so i just got invited to my friends birthday party. its a pool party and then we are all going out to a formal dinner. anyway, this friend is popular. i however am not so popular. i am no ta loser either. its kind of hard to describe myself in terms of popularity cuz i can go from chillin with the "freakoids" to hangin with the popular girls. i will really hang out with whoever. i dont just stick with one group cuz i have many interests. some of which seem odd to alot of people causing me not to fit in as well as some. i want to be considered cool at this party. i dont want the girls to whisper things about me when my back is turned because they think i act wierd. i just want to know how to socialize and act around populars. what kind of makeup should i wear? what kind of clothes? should i act sweet or normal or mean? should i be loud or stay quiet? what kinds of things should i talk about? p.s. dont tell me 2 be myself and act how i usually do cux this is just for one nite. i need 2 make a good impression. (link)
Okay i know this isn't what you want to hear sweety. But here it is. In 5 years it won't matter who was popular who wasn't who was a geek or who had the biggest rack.

But here are some suggestions.. Because it is a pool party you will probably be getting wet soo make don't wear eye liner,. it will smuge and look very bad.. if you want go natural with natural makeup tones like tan, mild golden for eye shadow,. use mascara That is WATERPROOF! That way you won't have the black lines and look goth.

If it is warm wear shorts swim suit or a nice sun dress. Do not act mean! Act normal with a bit of sweet but not too much sweet and not mean. You should be not loud but not quiet.

I will say this. I know highschool can be very difficult. A first impression is you being your self. Don't worry so much about what they think but just have fun. accept that some might not like you just because you are you.. and if they don't accept you for u.... So not worth it!

Hope This helps:)
~Jasmine*


hello I just wanted to ask you question.
I have met a guy in london while i was travelling and we had soem conversation we got on so well.
But because i live in birmingham we can not meet so often but we still communicate after i left london and he said to me he defenetly want to see me again and get to know you better.
One day he came to birmingham to see me.
We had dinner together (he baught ) and he kissed me on the lips more than twice i just wondered wheather he likes me or not ? (link)
It seems very obvious to me that this guy does like you. after all.
He did travel to see you.
Bought u supper on a date!
and kissed you more then once.
Yup i'd say he does:)

Hope this helps:)
~Jasmine*


theres this guyat my school and i really like him. apparently so does one of my really good friends. i was going to tell her that i liked him but then she told me that she liked him before i had the chance to talk. she knew i thought he was cute and called dibbs on him. i dont know who he likes...but if he likes me..what would i tell him? that i cant like you my friend called dibbs? i dont want to hurt our friendship..any ideas on what i should do?
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Hey,. If you ever read the book 'Evermore' It might help in this situation. Now although she called dibbs. You can not controll who you like. Fact is you both like him,. If he were to like one of you,. One would get hurt,. or you both might get hurt.

Now if he were to like you instead of her,. First thing is i would NOT say oh i can't like you because my friend called dibbs. That is honestly the lamest thing in the world. You deserve to be happy just as much as she does.

If that's the case,. Then i would talk to your friend and be like,. i'm really sorry i know you called dibbs,. but i like him and he likes me. It's not that i mean to hurt you or am doing this on purpose but you can't help who you like.

You don't want to throw away someone who could potentionly be your 'soul mate' just because of a dibbs.

On the other hand. You don't want to lose a friend over it either. As one tree hill brook davis once said 'Hoes over Bros'.
Just make sure to talk to your friend and maybe it might be best not to go for himm. because of the fact she likes him.

No one can tell you what to exactly do. I'm just putting out helpful hints and things to think about before making a snap decision.

Hope this helps:)
~Jasmine*


So I liked this guy a few months back. And so did my best friend. But a few weeks later after I had told my friend I had a crush on him I find out that he likes her. I was hurt like any other girl would be but now I got my own boyfriend and deep down I still like the other guy who is still with my best friend. Any advice on how to get over him? Please and Thank You :) (link)
First of all.. congrats on finding someone else that is the first step,. But you wanna make sure your not just using this other guy as a sort of rebound slash get over other dude,,.

if you are still really stuck up on ur girls bf then maybe your not ready to be actually dating yet. It would be unfair to be with someone when your heart is not fully set on actually being with them.

I am truly sorry that he likes her instead of you,. I have been in that situation before and it's nothing to do with you,. it's just one of those situations that aren't meant to be.

Only time can help you get over someone,. time and allowing your heart to be fully healed before rushing onto the next guy who comes along.

Hope this helps:)
~Jasmine*


me and my boyfriend are going strong and its almost 4 months [i know its not that long, i dont need you to tell me that]. i want us to get promise rings. this may be a dumb question but oh well. will boys wear promise rings?
f/17 (link)
It all depends on the guy and the type of relationship. Some guys will,. But others might not as they might think it's too attached after such a short amount of time,.

The best thing to do is to talk to your boy,. Tell him your idea and see what he says,. Whether he is for or against the idea.

If he is against the idea it's probably nothing against you it's just guys have a huge 'must look manly infront of friends' and some may think its not too manly.

Hope this helps:)
~Jasmine*


i went too the beach today and i came home and realized that i have a couple of really dry spots on the inside of my arm and they are pretty white compared to the the rest of my skin. does anyone know how to get rid of them? (link)
Everone has different body types so it could be the simple issue of Dry skin. You could try Moisturizing your body every day,. That's what i do and it seems to help,. If this option doesn't seem to make the problem disappear and your really concerned,. Maybe try talking you your Family doctor?

Hope this helps:)
~Jasmine*


well i started cutting myself my 8th grade year [im now a senior] and ive been clean of cuts for about a year. inever did deep cuts right across my wrist, ionly did slight ones throughout my arms. lately ihave had alot going on and im trying my hardest not to but icant help but to think about starting back cutting. HELP? any substitutions for cutting? (link)
First of all hurting yourself is not the answer and because that's how you delt with your problems and going ons before it is only natural for you to think of turning back to that.

First thing i suggest doing is if things are really starting to feel that bad,. Please do talk to someone,. and iknow this might sound like oh that won't work what so ever,. I'll tell you it depends on the person. Some theropists(yes i didn't spell it right Lawl! ) Don't help,. some help a little, and then there are those others that actually do make a difference,.
I've seen 3 or 4 different ones and only one of them actually made a difference and helped.

If that seems a bit much,. or your not ready to talk to some one,. try having a tight elastic band on your wrist and pulling the elastic away from your wrist and letting it snap on your wrist,. I'm not sure how this is supposed to help,. But that is one way to help it that i have heard about.

Hope this helps:)
~Jasmine*


My name is B.
18/F

I met this guy when I was doing some volunteer work. He is 3 years older than I am, and absolutely perfect because he has major respect and we have all the same values. I feel this could go somewhere. I constantly get scared when it comes to opening up in a new relationship because of past relationships. How can i prevent myself from getting so scared and ruining everything? We have the same wants in life, and we want the same career even though he will get it much sooner than I will. We both are on our way to becoming Police Officers, and I find that a plus because we both know a lot, him more, but I find great potential in this and I just don't want to be scared. HELP! (link)
I know what it's like to be scared to open up,. to be scared to try something new,. but you just have to remember that you deserve this! You deserve to be happy! Just take things one step at a time. Don't Rush into anything,. He seems like he is a really good match for you and seems like things are going well.

Hope this helps:)
Don't be afraid to take a chance on love:)
~Jasmine*


Does alcohol increase the effects of other drugs? It is dangerous to mix the two? (link)
First of all,. Mixing Drugs and Alcohol is definetly a bad idea. Sure some drugs aren't that bad but do you really want to take the risk of Hurting your self,. or putting yourself in a bad situation,. Just be very careful.

Hope This helps:)
~Jasmine*


Ok, so I'm 13... I weigh 125 lbs... and I'm 5'3... I think I'm overweight.... my thighs are 31 inches around at the biggest part..... I have a very low self confidence because of my weight... so, what I want to know is.. by the time I'm 16 do you think I would look skinnier because I would grow into myself?? And is it possible that if I grow into myself.. would I lose inches off of my thighs?? I have really big hips and thighs.... I hate it!!! I just dont want to look like this my whole life... also... I have hair all over my stomache!! It is the Darkest around my bellyWbutton though... I have askd my mom if I could bleAch it but she says no all the time,and tells me to just shave it... but every time I shaVe it.. there is little black dots from where I couldn't get down far enough to shave the hair that is starting to grow back in undernEath.. any ideas on tht too?? Oh, and please dont try to comfort me and say stuff like "god made you for who you Are and just accept it" thanks!! (link)
As you grow older your body will change,. But not necessarily Grow into it's self,. You are still very very young,.
But I know exactly how you feel when i was younger i Was a chubby kid,. Even as i went into high school I was a chubby teenager,. But if you try watching what you weigh when you get a bit older,. you can work out to tone your body if you like,. But I will tell you this. I have not met you,. I don't know what you look like or anything about you, You are a very beautiful person.

By the way,. DO NOT SHAVE YOUR STOMACH. If you shave it it will become Thicker and more noticable kind of like a beard. Try Plucking the noticable Hairs with tweezers. It might hurt but it will get rid of them. And when you are a little bit older you can have your stomach waxed. This will get rid of the entire hair root instead of trimming it and leaving some of it in your skin. Which is the noticable black dots.

Hope this helps:)
~Jasmine*


hello, i have recent found out i am a pagan and i am able to do some of the things they do pretty quick my mate says it takes upto 6 month to pick it up but it took me 2 months, anyway i would like help on where i can information from about it and my friend is out of reach at the min for me to ask him (link)
Try google or ask.com


I have a camera, and I want a tripod, but I want it to be tall. Not one of those tripods that you can adjust them around something and make them hang on. Just one that I put the camera on it and it can see me. Also it has to be cheap! But it doesn't matter now which type it is. Just one that is cheap. My camera is a FINEPIX FujiFilm camera and its orange. Bye! (link)
Here is a website that shows various styles and pricings on Tripods,. Also shows stores in which to find them.

http://www.shopbot.ca/camera-tripods/camcorders-and-cameras/canada/992

Hope this helps:)
~Jasmine*


i want to use the camera of nokia 6220 classic as webcam (link)
I googled it and found some sites but not any concrete steps something about the Data transfer cord,. But if you try googleing it or Reading the manual that might help more.

Hope this helps:)
~Jasmine*


This is probably going to be long, and I'm probably going to sound clingy and pathetic, please bear with me.

A little less than 2 months ago, I met the man of my dreams. It sounds bizarre that I'm so sure of myself because it's only been 2 months, but I'm completely confident that I'm in this for the long run. He feels the same way. I spend literally every possible minute with this man. Here are a few problems.

He's going back to college for his sophomore year at SUNY Albany, which is a little over 2 hours away from my house. I'm going to our local community college.
Problem 2: He's a Marine. He's most likely getting deployed for 7 months in December. The thought of going more than a day without him upsets me. Thinking about 7 months without him makes me literally nauseous.

I've become so attached so quickly, which is so unlike me. I've been in love before, but I've never been so in love with anyone in my life. How can I cope with the thought of him not being in my life as often as I'd like him to be? I'm terrified of how much it's inevitably going to hurt. (link)
First of all you have to realize it's only been two months. BUT I know how you feel. two hours is not that far away. If you truly love each other you will both learn to deal with the distance by talking on the phone,. texting and webchatting.

As far as the marine thing goes,. It will be very hard not seeing him. Maybe see if you can write letters to eachother? Not sure if this will work or not. But this is how they did it back in the 50's. When people were in the war. And their love faced the long challenges and they Got through it.

So as my best friend says,. If it's meant to be it will be,. Don't try forcing anything into something it's not.

Hope this helps:)
~Jasmine*


I've been singing pretty much since I could talk. Maybe even before that. I believe I'm good, but my mom constantly cuts me down and says I'm not. I think she's just a bad sport. So many people have told me I'm good.. to go on American Idol and all that jazz. Here's the thing. I'm good.. but great is better. I've been looking to maybe improve my quality and increase my range but it's not that easy without lessons or training. I have no transportation anywhere, and apparently, taking private singing lessons is too expensive. What I'm wondering is if there are lessons of any sort that I can take online for free? I know nothing is free these days, but I'm sure there has to be SOMETHING. Or, if not, does anyone have any tips or anything they can share with me? Maybe? If it helps at all, I'm 15 years old. I started out as an alto umm.. around two years ago, and I'm a mezzo soprano now. I just want to improve.. well, everything about my voice. :) (link)
Try Making some videos of you singing and put them on youtube that is how People like
'Christina Grimmie' and 'Sam Tsui' Started out and now they have albums and Christina is going on tour. It starts with little points in the right direction and getting your foot in the door,. and alot of people are discovered on youtube these days. Keep your hope up and keep reaching for the stars,. Try looking those two up as well they are a very good inspiration:)
Hope this helps
~Jasmine*


So i got a cell phone from verizon and i want to unlock it. if i do, what services will take me with my verizon unlocked phone? thanks! (link)
I got my phone unlocked at fido for $44. An unlocked phone means it will be able to Connect to any Cell phone Server you choose whether it be sasktel,. Rogers,. Fido,. Verizon mobile or something else.

I would talk to One of your local Cell Stores,. You might have to go to Verizon Mobile to unlock it for a flat rate.

Hope this helps:)
~Jasmine*


My hotmail account has been hijacked. How do I get to it to cancel the account and recover my info.? (link)
Heya,.
I found a website on how you can recover your password,. It has steps in it.

http://email.about.com/od/hotmailtips/qt/et_passwordlost.htm

Hope it helps:)
~Jasmine*


is Connor gay? (link)
Google Says:

yes with marcus taylor .



16/f
Hey guys, I've been feeling really weird lately. For the past 2 weeks ive pretty much felt nauseous. And i almost never am hungry, like i havent eaten barely anything in the past week. I mainly just drink stuff because im extremely thirstyand i know physically my body is hungry but im just really not hungry and it makes me more nauseous to even think about food. Im using nauseous loosely because i havent even been near close enough to puking. Well except twice. I find taking a deep breath every now and then relieves it for a few seconds but then its back. Im not pregnant. There isnt even the slightest chance that i am. But i had a headache yesterday and i took 6 Ibeauprofeun throught the day and they barely touched it. It was the kind of headache where even if i stood up slow my eyes would black out for a few seconds. I dont know if this could be dangerous or something and i know this wont be a legit diagnosis but i just wanted some i deas because i dont want to goto the doctor and it be no big deal or just randomly stop before i go. And i dont know if it would help but my father does have diabetes the worst kind. Ive also had hypoglycemia for a few years now. Which is the complete oposite of diabetes but also a step or two from developing into diabetes. Not that i think i have diabetes . Sorry its long and THANKS. (link)
First of all hon,. This is serious,. You could be low on your vitamins or iron or something. It could be 'Migranes'.. Try Advil? I find Advil works better than Tylenol or Ibprofen. But do becarefull on how much you take. I would be talking to your parents about this,. because there is a chance that it could get more serious. It could be that your just not getting what your body needs,.

Hope this helps:)
|~Jasmine*


I don't prefer to put my name so long story shirt I don't know if I am a lesbian but that's not my topic , I have a close friend I guess I like and I feel something in my heart when I am with her but the thing is I think she is straight but the thing is she treats me differrently she hugs me and let me out my hands around her but I don't know if she takes it friendly or she is a lesbian but she likes a guy who she faught with and stopes talking the thing is aim never jealous of her loving a guy and sometime I feel gross of the concept being a lesbian so am I or no and does my fringe likes me and scared to tellnme or what ? (link)
Your at a younger stage that your very curious about everything,. but there is three common types,.
Straigt,. Lesbian/Gay or bi-sexual.
Now because you feel gross on the concept of being a lesbian shows a straight side,. It is probably that you are just curious about all that jazzz.

Hope this helps:)
*Jasmine~!




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