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Q: so i've been dating this guy for 5 months but 2 days before our 5 month he broke up with me saying "his feelings changed"
but know hes saying everytime he sees me smile he thinks he made the wrong choice and wants to date again just not anytime soon
i have no idea what i should about him cuz i still really like him....but i cant tell if hes playing me of not?

Well it is difficult to tell if he is playing you or not because I really don't know him personally, but from experience it could go either way. He really could have just been scared about commitement and therefore ran from it. His feelings really could have changed and he just needed time to work things out in his head and now he realizes he really cares about you. He could still kind of like you but not really reallt like you anymore, but doesn't want any other boy to have you. Boys do that sometimes.

Truthfully this is something that you are going to have to judge yourself it is very hard to give accurate advice on something like this when you don't really know the guy. I don't want to tell you something and it not be true and you mess up your chances with a guy who really cared, but I also don't want to tell you that he isn't playing you and that end up being wrong and you get hurt.Follow your gut it knows what its talking about, don't second guess yourself. Deep down you know what you want and what is right.

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Q: i've only been going out with this guy for a month and a few weeks. well the other night when were messing around (not sex, which we haven't had) he told me he loved me. well i didn't say anything back cause i don't love him, just like him. well after he left he texted me and said that he meant what he said and i told him i like being with him but i dont love him. he said that's good enough for him. well this all happened sunday night and that's the last time we hung out. he's called me and always asks how my day is going but it seems like he's always making up excuses to not hang out now.
it's spring break and he is always at baseball but tomorrow he has the whole day off and i don't have to work so perfect chance to hang out right? well, no he's going to be with his friends. which is totally fine but don't you think he could take out like an hour of the day to at least like eat or something with his girlfriend?? are these signs to a break up? i sound pathetic.

It sounds like he is kind of embarrassed about the whole situation, he may feel rejected and hurt by it. It is very hard to open up to someone and tell them how you feel about them and if they reject you then it hurts and you feel embarrased. Talk to him about it and let him know that you do care about him and may even grow to love him. Tell him that you just aren't ready to be in love with him at this point but you still want to have a relationship and try to make this work.

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Q: i have a boyfriend who i love soo much and he says he loves me too. he told me he was in love with me but i dont think hes mature enough to be in a serious relationship because he never makes time for me. i told him im moving though and it seems like we have been having problems since then. i guess he could possibly be distancing himself? idk but he has the wrong ideas about how to have a relationship anyway.

ok so my question is he keeps letting me down becauase i keep saying i want to talk and work this out and this has been going on since Saturday! and he hasnt made time. he keeps saying tom we will, tom. but nothing is happening. i was going to just break up with him but first off i dont know what i would do without him-he has been my best friend for 2 years and my bf for 3 months. but my mom says to wait another weakto see what he does and that i should just be casual and not keep getting upset and just act like everything is ok and find out who he really is and what he going to do about everything. i keep waiting for him to show me he cares like he said he would but he isnt. should i wait another weak and not get mad at him (my mom thinks being upset at him probably makes him not want to talk to him-i dont yell at him or anything but my mom says im a lot of drama) the thing is idk if i could go another weak because watching him let me down over and over is just tearing me up. my heart is breaking because i put so much into the relationship that he apparently doesnt. and he doesnt want to change things so he has more time for me because i know he has time but he says he gives me all the time he can. he always calls and then is like i have to go do hw after talking for a while. sometimes 15 minutes sometimes an hour. but he gets home and doesnt do hw until after dinner or does hw but watches tv first and during his hw. i mkae time for him but he doesnt for me. i love him and we had such a great relationship. i put so much of me into that and gave him my heart. now im afraid hes breaking it and dont know what to do.

Bottom line: should i stay with him for another week and act nice and see if he reaches my expectations or break up with him so i wont keep getting hurt more and more.

also how do you tell yourself to stop caring because my mom said nxt week to just say idc if he calls or not w/e then hes not for me. but i cant not take offense to him not calling or not showing me he cares. and im moving in 2 months!! i just wanted our relationship to go until then! he still wants to date but im done i cant do this anymore. please help me im desperate. and i will rate for your help

This is a very difficult situation and most teenage girls find themselves in this situation sooner or later. What you have to do is decide is he really worth it and do you want to be with him? You also need to think about it from his point of view. I mean he may really love you, he could just be scared about you moving. Maybe he doesn't want to get hurt so he is pulling away from to avoid getting attached and then getting hurt. Talk to him and let him know that you care about him and love. Tell him that you want to try and make it work, but for it to work that he has to give a little bit. You really just have to communicate with him, without it your relationship will never work out.

About telling yourself not to care, that is something that is reall hard to do. You don't tell yourself not to care but you just have to kind of push away from it and put it out of your mind. It is going to be very hard to get over him especially if you love him and this is your first love. If things don't work out then maybe try and be friends, having that connection may help, but it also may hurt more. In the end you just have to decide whats best for you and then go for it, with no regrets.

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Q: I love this guy who broke up with me last year. i think he has moved on but i havent at all. we are still friends and i sometimes go to hhis house to hang and stuff but i...love him and i dont think he understands. all my friends are getting their "true love" but i am to scared to tell him how i feel because im scared he doesnt even like me..:( please help

This is always hard to decide what you want to do, the best advice I can give you is to follow your heart. Let him know how you feel about him but don't pressure him to like you back. Tell him that you really really care about him and want to be with him, but you understand if he doesn't like you that way. It will be hard but you will feel better about it in the long run.

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Q: okay im 14/f and my bf spent the night at my house, we made out big time. i sat on his lap facing him, and he went hard, i think he might have spermed but he doesn't know, i was wearing sweat pants and so was he so is their a posibility that im pregnat?

There is a very very very small chance, if any, that you are pregnant. The sperm would have had to make it through his underwear, both your sweats, and your underwear, so it is highly unlikely.

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Q: I guess you could say I have a sex partner and alot of the times I'm with him or in a group of people with him I always think about us having sex[but obviously I dont act like it] and even when he's not around im always thinking about it.
We've been doing it for maybe a year now and I know that friends with benefits and that stuff isnt good but im wondering do you think he thinks about as much as i do? Because I don't want to be the only one with those thoughts..

Well of course he thinks about it, he is a boy, but whether he thinks about it in the way like he wants to be more I don't know. Maybe you should ask him about it. Let him know you think about it and if you maybe like him and want to become more let him know that too. Talking is always a good option.

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Q: hello,
i am really bored after school, and i am 12. i have babysat before but for the people i know. i dont really babysit for them anymore and i dont know how to get people to be interested enough to give me a call.what i am saying is what are ways to get buisness?

I babysat a few summers back and all I really did to get business was ask around. Let everyone know that you are interested in babysitting. Let them know that you have babysat before, they may be a little wary considering your age, but you may get some hits. Also you can make flyers and post them around your town at places like grocery stores, gas stations, post offices, etc. Just make sure you don't take on more than you can handle. Good Luck =]

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Q: so dont laugh at me, im 14, i dont know much about guys (all girls school lol!)

i was sitting in this guys lap today
and then later on he started complainin
and he said that his testicles hurt and that he knew why

haha what? who wants to explain?

This is usually known as blue balls. This happens when a boy gets turned on and doesn't get to get off. It is perfectly okay for you not to know about this, you are young you still have your whole life ahead of you.

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Q: i need help.. im 14/f and i love this guy he is amazing! A little while ago he said he liked me but i just found out he got a girlfriend like a week ago but i still like him and he's telling mme to move on. i cant seem to do that please help me thanks in advance

Well if he is telling you to move on the you probably just need to. I know it's hard to get over somone, especially when you really like them, but just try to forget about him. Keep yourself busy, go out with friends, get a hobby. Just stay busy. Hopefully you will found someone new.

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Q: 13/F

ok.... so i yesterday i could see it in my friends eyes that she was keeping something from me. So I calmly talked to her about and she told me that her boyfriend (my x'friend) made fun of her two best friends. He said that I was fat and he said that Melonhead was a lesbian and had bad hair. He was already a jerk but I just couldn't take this anymore. I was going to talk to him about it but I cant because Katie promised him she wouldn't tell that he made fun of us. So now, pease dont judge me but i told her that she had to choose... would she rather have a friend or a boyfriend. That sounds rude but I am just offended that my best friend would go out with a creep that makes fun of me. I am sorry that this is so long but please help me.
thank you

I know it's hard for a friendship to prosper when one of you gets a boyfriend especially when the two of you don't get along, tell your friend that you don't appreciate him doing it and that if she was really your best friend she would stand up for you. Just understand that she likes this boy but don't make her choose she may make the wrong on and you could end up ruining a perfectly good friendship. Then you can try talking to the boyfriend let him know that you do not have a problem with him adn that you want your friend to be happy and she is with him, but let him know that you do not appreciate him talking about you. He may just be jealous of the relationship you and your friend have and is therefor trying to break it up. Remain friends with your friend and if all else fails just don't hang around her when he is around.

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Q: I got drunk one night over spring break and spent the night with a guy other than my boyfriend(we did NOT have sex, just messed around a little). Well, now my boyfriend doesn't want me seeing ANY of my friends that were at that party. I could understand not seeing the guy I spent the night with, but not all my friends... What should I do?

He is probably just scared that if you get around that group of friends then you will do it again and because they didn't try to stop he probably feels angry with them. Just talk to him about it and let him know how you feel about the situation.

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Q: hi. i'm a freshman. and i kinda like this junior. it's possible he has herpes. what do i do?
do i have a chance with him even though hes a junior.. and if he has herpes.. what happens then?

You probably need to do your research before you make any assumtions. This could just be a rumor, but it could be more serious and true. If you so you really don't want to get herpes and if he has them then you have to be very very careful. Herpes can be very serious so just make sure you know what you are getting into.

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Q: my bf and i love each other but we are having a lot of problems because i feel like im not a priority because he never has time to talk to me. well right now his phone is broken too but he doesnt email and occasionally IMs. its just we used to talk so much and now we dont. we is super busy with school because its getting really tough and i know he wants to talk but he just doesnt have time!! what should we do because i keep getting hurt when he says he will call me and then doesnt. dont say understand him because this is serious. i am getting so upset and feel like their should be a way he can make time for me. and he cant do anything on fridays and a lot of times i cant on sat. or sun. and we cant on school nights. we go to different schools and im moving in 2 months so i want to spend every second possible with him. he does too and i know he wants to but he just cant seem to make time. i want to come up with a solution and stuff and i just want him to make me feel like he truly does love me and cares about me. if we cant solve this in a week (he asked me to give him a week to prove himself) then we are going to take a break(or breakup depending). he didnt want to call me today (like he promised!! he promised he was going to fix everything and make it all right and that it would OK and that he would call) but he didnt because he said it feels like i am upset with him (i AM...but i still love him) and he doesnt like going and talking to me when i am upset with him and unhappy with our relationship (he said). PLEEEASE what should i do? i dont even have a way of contacting him on a phone because his cell isnt working and hes getting a new one soon but idk when and he doesnt have a home phone. i have his dads # cause he has been calling on his dads cell when he had time to talk so should i call his dads phone?? thank you SO much...you dont know what this means.

i am so upset and sad and scared because i love him but i cant keep getting hurt. please help and i will rate thank you!!

Things always get more difficult as relationships proceed and as you get older. When you love someone you have to put up with alot of things and things really aren't going to get easier. You will both just have to try and make it easier on you. Let him know that you are upset about it, tell him that you don't feel like a priority. You are going to have to come up with a solution that works out for the both of you, i know its difficult I am going through the same thing. My boyfriend and I are both very very busy, I play sports and am in school, he works and is in school. We both have to put a lot of extra effort into our relationship to make it work, but it is and we are both happy with one another.

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Q: so many people has told me i love you and i want to be with you forever your the one my only one well 5 guys already said that to me a promised and i got hurt everytime and today my boyfriend has told me that im his true love he never felt this way before about anybody else and he said true love never dies and he wrote me a poem how he feels about me and he said he wants to be with me forever and he promised and he said he never breaks promises and he wrote me letters like 10 of them i kept them and he asked me to marry him and i said yes and i just dont want to get hurt again im sooo scared and do you think we will be together forever because he said that and he knows it and his feelings will never change but i know that we wont there is like a 1 percent chance because not everybody stays together forever

Being in love is the greatest joy in the world but there is really no for sure way to know if it will last. But you can't be scared of it, you have to just push through it and know that you really really want to be with this person. Yes, it's scary giving someone everything in you and trusting them enough not to break it, but sometimes they do and thats hard, but it happens. He may think that now you are but things might change, but you can't go around thinking it's not going to happen with him and anyone for that matter, because if you do then you will never be truly happy and you will always be scared. And it's not worth being scared for the rest of your life. It is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all.

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Q: would you rather love a loser or lose a lover and why?

I would definatley rather love a loser.
Who cares if they are a loser if you love them then that really doesn't matter.

On the other hand losing a lover is the worst pain in the world, and the pain lasts a while most of the time.

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Q: about the whole jill && bob situation ... thanks for your feedback. i am not making excuses as to what i am doing like everyone seems to say. things are going great. i am really starting to care about him && he says he feels the same. he wants me to move in with him ... good idea or bad? jill is gone ... out of the picture.

Well you are in pretty deep now and I think that if you really care about him and he about you then why not. It could be a good idea because it will be a better situation for everyone and Jill is out of the picture so you don't have to worry about that anymore.

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Q: okay. i'll make this as short as i can. 16/f. i want to break up with my boyfriend of 3 months. he has no respect for me, he cheated on me and all he ever wants to do is makeout. he's also really pushy on sex. the only inhibition that is keeping me away from breaking up with him..is the fact that i'll feel really crappy after i do so. i've broken up with him before and i've taken him back. i can't take the crappy feeling of jealousy and heartache after breaking up with him..i don't think i can. what can i do? he's my agee

I totally understand where you are coming from and have been there myself. It is really hard to break up with someone, even if you want to, because you always think about hurting them. But you have to think about you for a second. The guy cheated on you, pushy, and disrespectful and you deserve better than that. Before you decide to break-up with him you really need to decide if that is really what you want and think about what is best for you. Yes, it will be hard and it might hurt a little bit but you will both get over it and move on and probably be a lot happier.

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Q: heyy. so like .. i was hanging out with my guy friend, who i guess you could say is like a wanna be player. and we were sitting in his car & he kissed me. we talked after that and he told me he wanted to hook up and i realized that i wanted to also.. so about a week later, we hung out again and we hooked up. i wasn't sure about it before but now i feel like i like him. i wouldn't want to go out with him though because hes a player/ he can be pushy. we talked the day after we hooked up & things seemed to be chill between us but its been a few days and we havent talked. i texted him and he didnt respond .. i'm just in a state of confusion and i dont think i should like him but right now, i can't really help it. what should i do ?

Well you are right you can't help it if you like him, but you want to make sure that you stay smart with it. If you know the guy is a player then it may not be a safe relationship for you, emotionally wise, but if you really feel like you want to give the guy a chance then let him know you like him and want to try it. Just be careful about it, though he is your guy 'friend' he is still a guy, and a known to be player, so watch out for it and be ready for anything.

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Q: well she did say in the email that she was jealous. i can understand it as a friend thing but she said she was jealous of my last two boyfriends. it is both as i also want my frinds to be safe but i dont get jealous of the guy. but i do still like her but i dont know she did deny saying she was jealous...

She is probably confused about her feelings as well. It is very difficult sometimes for friendships when you are so used to it just being the two of you then one of you gets a boyfriend and everything cahnges. Try talking to her about get her feelings, and opinions on the situation, then go from there. Tell her honestly how you feel and what you think about it too.

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Q: 15/f

okay i thought i was over my ex but im not. he cheated on me and lied to me and somehow i still want him back! he only wants me to do stuff with me...what should i do?

I know this is hard to accept but you deserve much better than this. This guys used you, cheated on you, and lied, you need someone who will respect you and love you for you. I know its hard when you love someone and want to be with them but if they aren't good to you then you gotta move on man =].

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