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my crush might have herpes.
hi. i'm a freshman. and i kinda like this junior. it's possible he has herpes. what do i do?
do i have a chance with him even though hes a junior.. and if he has herpes.. what happens then?
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You deffinatly have a chance with a junior guys will usually date younger. (every guy i've ever dated has.)
ahh, Herpes, that's complicated. Theres medicines for that kind of thing. You have to just think about it. Does he mean that much to you that you would risk getting herpes and having to live with it your entire life and be willing to tell your husband "I've got herpes, I got it from a guy when I was 14, a freshman in highschool." and you have to consider how he got herpes... from a steady girlfriend that he had for a really long time, from some girl... he doesn't know which one because he's done alot of stuff with ALOT of girls, or because he cheated on a girlfriend with some slut who had herpes? That can tell you alot about him, BE CAREFUL not only with your body but with your heart :)
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thats disgusting.
but you do have a chance with him
i did when i was a freshman with this dude.. but i shrugged him off even though i liked him but i was young.
BUT you shouldn't mess with him because you'll have to live with Herpesss
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I'm not entirely sure if you're asking about oral herpes or genital herpes so I will explain both a bit for you.
Cold sores and fever blisters (which are all herpes simplex 1, commonly referred to as oral herpes though they can be transferred genitally) are common names for Herpes Simplex Virus 1. That I am aware of, Herpes Simplex Virus 2, or genital herpes, doesn't have many popular common slang names.
If you share a drink (or eating utensils, anything that touches lips) with the guy and he has oral herpes you could get it. Kissing is usually the most effective way to contract oral herpes.
The person does not need to currently be having an outbreak to transfer it to you either. It is a fact that you don't have to have an active, open sore to be able to pass the virus on to other people or other parts of your body. The virus often sheds in skin cells and from the mucous membranes when there is no sign of a sore at all. This means you can catch it from him even when it looks like he doesn't have anything at all.
If you have sexual relations with the guy you can contract herpes. If he has oral herpes and gives you oral sex then you can then develop genital herpes. If he has genital herpes and you give him oral sex then you can have oral herpes. If he has genital herpes and you two have intercourse (anally or vaginally) you can have genital herpes as well.
Herpes is very, very common now:
"...one in six adults have genital herpes. It is estimated that over 80 million Americans have herpes of one form or another. This means that 8 in 10 Americans are or will become infected."
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...which would mean about 80% of the American population has herpes! Now, that's scary.
I also want to note that most people have regular outbreaks but it is possible to go years in between them. Most people also show signs of contracting HSV-1/2 about 10 to 14 days after but there are occasions where some do not have outbreaks for years.
There is no cure for herpes so it is a life-long thing people live with. There are treatments to make the outbreak shortened as well as medication that suppresses outbreaks. The medications sound very scary as they can cause seizures and even death.
Different people have different outbreaks. The outbreak could be small and just have one bump, or it could spread and become large and very bumpy. Here is a photo of oral herpes:
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Here are photos of genital herpes (mostly of males; must click links to view the photos so they won't just pop up on you):
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For oral herpes:
Usually the outbreak begins with a very slight tingling. It may increase to itching before a painful bump appears. The sore usually lasts 5 - 7 days and is commonly located on one of the sides of the upper lip (though it can be anywhere really). Though those are the common side-effects, some people do not experience any tingling, itching, or pain.
For genital herpes:
Most people infected with HSV-2 are not aware of their infection. They mistaken it with insect bites sometimes, especially if the outbreak is not severe. However, if signs and symptoms occur they can be quite pronounced. Sores typically heal within two to four weeks. Signs and symptoms during the outbreak may include a crop of painful and itchy sores, flu-like symptoms, fever, and swollen glands.
Genital herpes can lead to potentially fatal infections in babies so it's important to not contract it for future childbirth. It is also said that HSV-2 helps to spread HIV/AIDs since there are open wounds on the genitals.
Though, I'd also like to note that if the guy did not say he has herpes then he may not have it. You should definately not listen to rumors and ask him about what you've been hearing. Any way it is, he should know about the rumors going around the school about him. Plus, it's hard to diagnose herpes as you must currently be having an outbreak to show positive for it most of the time.
If he does have herpes then it's your call on what to do next. You should really evaluate the situation. Can you live with such outbreaks? Can you refrain from having sexual relations with other people for your entire life to lessen the risk of spreading the infection? Do you really want to put your health and the health of future children at risk?
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You probably need to do your research before you make any assumtions. This could just be a rumor, but it could be more serious and true. If you so you really don't want to get herpes and if he has them then you have to be very very careful. Herpes can be very serious so just make sure you know what you are getting into.
Hope I Helped.
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You're not sure, it could be just a rumor. But not uncommon. Herpes comes from having sex, and if he is sexually active, then he could very well have herpes. ONce you get it, you get it for life. So maybe you should find a new boyfriend. Let me put it this way, if you find out that he does have herpes, and he is still looking to have sex with you or with anyone, it shows how irresponsible he is. I mean he could be on medication, if he went to the doctor, and acyclovir works well, that would be the responsible and caring thing to do. If he doesn't care who he infects. Then I would stay away from him. By the way, herpes is much more painful in women than in men. So he could have it, and not have any reason to treat it, and not care who he gives it too. So be careful, and never have unprotected sex. But remember, you can get herpes from oral sex.
Michele
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