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pessimist
well i have finally come to terms that im a pessimist, and i hate it. but i really can not help it.
1)i REALLY dislike where i live and everyone who lives in it. even my friends. theyre definately the best here for me, but im usually unhappy when i am with themm.
2)i either bring everyone else down or bottle my problems up and become really moody. i am a moody person in general i guess. every little thing bothers me.
3)i have some things from my past that i cant let go of. i dont know how.
so i guess my question is :
with all of these problems that i can not avoid or change, how do i become a happier person? i am trying really hard to let go of my problems from my past. i am trying really hard to enjoy when im with my friends. i tried asking my parents to move. nothings working. what can i do? i just want to live happily.
welll id really like for this to be answered by:
someone who understands where im coming from.
someone who has had this problem and has been able to change.
someone who knows you cant always change yourself to make your life better.
someone who is realistic.
stories, tips, advice would be great. thanks
PS. sorry for the length
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What you need is the serenity prayer. It is not HOLY it is just called that. It is what helped me. I taped it onto my mirror and I read it every day, and finally I began to live it. It really works. What do you have to loose.
God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.
You see, you may not be able to change your surroundings NOW, but you will some day. Some day you will be in charge of your life. You will be the person deciding what direction you will go in. Will you be happy, or will you still be thinking about all the things you don't like that you cannot change? YOu see you cannot change things about your friends, but you can change how you react to them. You can accept them for who they are. Do they need changing? Probably they do, but they are the only ones who can make that decision. Like you are the only one that can make it for you.
You can change your life for the better by accepting yourself as an important person who has value, and who just now is young, and you are not in the drivers seat, but......are you prepared for when you will be? Or will you then, still blame, parents, friends, the outside world, and where you live.....on all your problems?
Happy people are the ones who decide what they think they like then set goals to reach it. Then reach it.
I know it sounds corny now, but you'll feel the same way when you are older. Question is, will you have regrets then, that you didn't take the steps to grant yourself a better future? Or will you still just be pessimistic?
If you really hate where you live...what plans do you have to get out of there when you are an adult? Sure you might find some guy willing to take you away, but what if he tires of you and dumps you. What are you going to do. Go back? Or work as a waitress in a diner? THen start to hate that place. An education is the only way to get out of where you are on your terms. Employable skills will make you valuable, then you can choose to work where ever you want. Set your sights on college and then you will control your destiny. Really.
It can happen.
Michele
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During many points in my life, I have totally dreaded going to school and seeing people who I disliked, which was basically the whole student population...It took me a while to realize that I can't change others as much as I can change my outlook. Once I had a brighter perspective on things, I realized that yea...some people are annoying, but they mean well.
The only way to rid yourself of negative thoughts is to stop giving them a voice. The less you speak of them, the less you'll think them.
You don't have to let go of your past, but you should locate some positivity. Think about how the event could teach you something vital.
Just stay true to yourself and tell yourself that you deserve to be happy. Don't limit yourself!
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