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Hi, my friend and I want to start a babysitting business and we need some tips on how to convince our parents that we're old enough to become babysitters. We also could use some ideas for a name, price(we are planing on becoming certified babysitters).
Help would be greatly appreciated.
I am 12 and my friend is 11. (link)
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Man, judging by the responses below, times have really changed. Back in my old neighborhood in the 1970's we had 12 year olds babysitting quite a lot. The only question is how mature is the 12 year old? If she can handle it then great. If she is too immature than you don't hire her.
One of the problems is that people have allowed local news to so instill a state of fear in them that they are almost afraid of their own shadows. Stop falling for the fear people!
Now there is one issue: how late you can babysit until. Minors aren't allowed to work past 10 p.m. and that may prevent some parents from hiring you.
But barring that, you can also explain to prospective clients that your mom will be home while you are babysitting and if needed you can have her intervene (if that is the case).
The 11 year old, though, is going to have a tougher row to hoe with parents. Yeah, it's only a year apart, but a world of difference in mental development compared with a 12 year old.
Good luck. If you are serious about this, you really need to find out everything you can about child rearing. Show the parents you have the knowledge and the maturity.
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Well, I'm 14 and I'm not really sure how to go about this so please bear with me. My mom is thinking about getting an abortion. For awhile she was really sick so we went to the hospital and found out that she's pregnant with twin. I was SHOCKED but happy nonetheless. I already love those two as much as I love my little brother (he's one). I honestly thought my mom was happy too but I guess not because she dropped the bomb today that she was thinking about abortion. Now, my mom has A LOT of medical issues going on, most of which I don't even really know. However I do know that she has fibromyalgia (a type of arthiritis) and she had to have surgery on her stomach more than once :\ Both of her pregnancies (mine and my brother's) were high risk, but we came out pretty healthy (despite our asthma). She's no longer with the man that gave birth to my brother. But she's got me, and the rest of our family for emotional support. So, I guess what I'm trying to ask is: how can I get her to say no to abortion? Thanks :) (link)
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Listen, this is none of your business. You have no idea how much it costs to raise a kid and oh my God, a mother with fibromyalgia adding two more to the household? That is asking a hell of a lot of her. Moreover, the physical toll it will take on your mom, nevermind what condition the twins might be born in, will be immense.
Love your mother first and be supportive of whatever she decides. This is an agonizing decision for her. Don't add to the agony by guilt tripping her over this. Sometimes people gotta do what they gotta do. When you grow up you will understand this better.
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Ok, so there is this guy that I had a crush on but then I lost interest. He is moving to Canada in two days, I think I like him but I'm not sure. I thought he liked me back but now I don't think he does anymore. I think about him all the time and I imagine him telling me he likes me and that he'll miss me, but my heart doesn't skip a beat when I see him like it used to. Do I like him, should I tell him? Fast answers would be appreciated as he is leaving in a day.
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Ah, the fickle heart of a teenager.
Listen, he's moving away. Don't complicate things for him. Tell him it was nice knowing him and good luck and leave it at that.
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what and how is a easy way to die quick without pain if u wont tell me sumbody else will (link)
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Dying in your sleep when your 82. So you have quite a few years to go before that. Enjoy them.
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I'm not racist by any means, but the area we live in is very much a white place. My daughter, 18, has begun to see a young man who I believe is in his early 20's. He seem's nice enough, he works and treats her well but he is an immigrant from the Caribbean, and we all have heard the stories about these types of men, I don't mind her being friends with him but I think she should not be seeing him on an intimate level, how can I tell her to not be with him without her resenting me? I am currently the only person she has told within the family about their relationship and if others find out I'm afraid they will disown her. (link)
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You're a xenophobe who is more concerned with what the neighbors will say than a person's content.
If he treats your daughter well and has a regular job (and by the way, Caribbean folks are famous for their work ethic) then you need to butt out. If this relationship turns out to be a mistake then don't pull the "I told you so" thing, just listen to what she has to say and then ask her what she learned from the experience. Don't get into any headbutting over her being in the relationship. She needs to cut the cord with mommy anyway, so she is just going to have to make her own way since she is an adult now.
So relax and give them both a chance.
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Hi,
I am a 17 year old girl.
I am entering college in the fall, where I will be commuting because due to my ocd, I am unable to live on a college campus.
However, I am therefore, stuck living with my abusive, single parent father.
I have no other family or connections in the state.
I already have to pay for college on my own, and I don't know how I can afford to live on my own with that other huge expense.
It is truly my dream to escape my verbally abusive and neglectful father.
However, I don't want to end up in a shelter or foster care.
I feel like a failure.
I can't make it on my own.
His abuse is really getting to me.
It has made me depressed, anxious and it has even made me contemplate suicide numerous times.
I don't know if I should report him to CPS because I don't want to get him in trouble.
I just don't know how I can put up with this life any longer..
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Part of your OCD (maybe all of it) is no doubt due to the abuse, which often creates a kind of perfectionism in people. So I hear where you're coming from.
If you do anything rash your dad will have won the battle. He is a loser and losers love to take people down with them. So stay strong.
The only thing you can do is just act bored by his act. When he starts going off, just go, "yeah yeah yeah dad, I know, i suck. Anything else? Because I have studying to do." If he starts accusing you of anything, just answer, "look dad, say what you want, but I really have more important things to do than listen to your ravings."
You also have to realize that your father is mentally ill and not take anything he says to heart. In other words, consider the source.
If he strikes you, though, he needs to go to prison.
Anyway, I worked my way through college. Yeah, it took longer than usual, but it can be done. So get a job, find a roommate, take however many classes you can ably handle at a time and get on with your life. Good luck. It sucks you have to put up with such dire circumstances. You didn't deserve it.
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A few of my close friends have started drinking and hooking up with random people at parties & they're only 16, yet i'm totally against it because i have my own morals and i have made pledges to myself for certain reasons. But now they exclude me by not inviting me to things and such because i"m ultimately not "cool" enough because i don't drink and stuff. my best friend has ditched me for another one of my friends because she is in to drinking and thought she got pregnant. I've never dissed them for what they do, i just don't do it and they respect that. but it doesn't mean they have exclude me from everything? Please help, i don't know what to do ??? (link)
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Well, the choice they have made is that the partying is more important than you. Now if you have any dignity, you will recognize that and find new friends.
Btw, losers love nothing more than to drag other people down with them.
Remember, that you only get one shot at this life and you are the only one who can live it. So do what is right for you and if friends want to go by the wayside in the bargain well, that's their choice. If you don't stand strong, you will be allowing yourself to possibly be sabotaged and you will never forgive yourself for it. So it is time to move on!
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So when I go to college on the 24th, my bf was planning on coming down to help out with the move in and help me set up my internet considering I can't deal with that techy stuff haha. So my dad was said I need to find someone who can help me with that, and I said oh (bf name)is really techy he's going to help me. And my dad immediately said NO. he refuses to let him come down to help me move in. And I'm stuck on what to do. I ask why and he says its bc he made the decision that's no. I don't know how to even begin to tell my bf, and it breaks my heart that my dad is controlling who is there for me on move in day. But he's so adamant about it. What would you do? What should I do? I'm so pissed at him and its just ridiculous. He tells me he plans on making at least 3 surprise visits a year and he "will" find out if my bf comes to visit and he's not picking me up for me to see my friends. Its because he doesn't want me to have "any distractions" but he's the biggest control freak. I try to talk to him about it but we just fight; even if the convo starts civilly it never ends well.help? Sorry this is so long. For extra info: my bf and I have been dating for almost 7 months and are pretty serious. And I'm almost 19f. He's the same age and going to college too but commuting. My college is about 1 hour away from my family and his. (link)
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Your dad is an idiot. You're an adult. TIME TO CUT THE CORD DAD!
If you're paying for your own education I would tell dad to piss off. If he's paying then you're kinda stuck. I think you're boyfriend will understand if you tell him your dad will pitch a fit like a bitch.
The only blessing in this is that you aren't going to be around dad now on a daily basis. That will make you a mentally healthier human being. You need to look into getting a job to pay your own bills so you don't need his support if you want to be fully independent, though. That will make your studies a harder slog, unfortunately.
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my boyfriend and I are in a relationship for 1yr.& 5 mos..were ok..i know that he loves me but sometimes i felt so unsecured coz he has no plans for us, He always said that we dont know what the future will bring us,i dont even know his parents or his friends or his home..im 27 & his 26..sometimes i want to breakup with him but i just cant coz i love him so much & i know that he loves me too..what can i do? (link)
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What you want is for him to propose to you, do I have that about right?
Well, he isn't interested in that or he would have done it. Rather, he is happy with the way things are now and would like to keep your relationship on the footing it is at present.
So now your choice is:
1) Accept it
2) Break up with him since it isn't moving fast enough for you and you are concerned that you may be wasting your time.
3) Give him an ultimatum.
4) Propose to him yourself.
Now these all carry risks with them. Personally, if you did number three I would tell you to hit the road because I don't do ultimatums. And I would say no to four because I don't do marriage, either and probably then break up with you for reasons I'm not going to go into here.
Your choice toots. Do what's right for your value system and goals in life.
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when i was in middle school i was in love with this guy who said he didnt feel the same way although secretly he did he it was a small school i knew everyone and he was popular me not so much because of who my friends were but i loved him for four years and maybe more i just finished 12th grade and i still think about him sometimes and i havent seen him or talked to him since 8th grade i dont know how to get him outta of my head im with an amazing guy for 2 years now and i feel guilty when i think about him then guy i loved was mean to me but i dont know how to forget and let go any ideas (link)
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First, you are too young to be tied down. Break up with your current boyfriend and go off to college. If you don't have that exploratory phase of your life where you date a lot of different men and just check out life you will regret it forever.
As for the other guy, you have projected on to him everything you want in a guy even though the day to day reality may be quite different. A lot of people do this with celebrities or with their partners in internet relationships. You need to stop this because it is not only inherently an insult to your current guy, but it is keeping you mentally back in junior high.
Just relax and enjoy what you have. Don't get greedy and don't overthink things.
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So i'm kind of with this guy and he always tells me he loves me. I've been in love before and i know the feeling and I know that I don't love him, therefore i refuse to say it back. When he says it I usually just say "you don't really love me don't say that" or "that makes me kinda uncomfortable" but he usually just says "im sorry i can't help the way i feel." I mean he's a nice guy and everything but I'm 100% sure I'm not in love with him, and he has liked me for 2 years and has been trying to be with me ever since. I just don't know what to do anymore, it freaks me out. (link)
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The guy is a pussy. He is so needy that he has glommed on to someone who has him on the friend list. You're just going to have to tell him that his neediness isn't attractive to you and that there is no chance the two of you will ever hook up. Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind.
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Hi I have recently stopped my ex husband having access to our son. I have never stopped it in the 6 years we have been seperated if anything I have tries my hardest to keep it going. A few months bk my son misbehaved and my ex smacked him around his face so hard he fell to the ground and had a handprint on his face! My son is 8 years old and loves his dad so I stupidly let him go with his dad again. From what my son has said this is a regular occurance if he is naughty! Last week I went to collect my child from my ex and we got into an argument, he then pushed me so I pushed him bk he then grabbed me by the throat n my 9year old daughter tried to pull him off me and he pushed her over causing her to hit her head! This was a wake up call for me and I have spoken to our son and and stopped access and my son agrees. My ex is now taking it to court what shall I do? I would hope that given all the facts the court would go in my favour but I fear for my son if it doesn't, but I also fear what my ex will do to me if it does go my way. (link)
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Well, you will have to wait for the legal process to play itself out. Until then, do not allow your son to visit his father.
I would also urge you to get counseling so you can determine why you chose to procreate with an abuser. Did you have an abusive father when you were younger? That wouldn't surprise me. Please try to break the chain of abuse now!
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Ok, so this is kind of a long story. My ex boyfriend and I broke up in may and we were together for a year and 7 months. Im now 19 and im so confused because he has come back and been sucha sweetheart but keeps trying to get back with me. We broke up because he started treating me horrible and had a drug problem with pills..hes been clean now and if he does relapse it will make my life easier because id be gone very fast. I really really care about this boy but I know that hes screwed me over a lot so its hard to gain trust back in him and to make it worse...my good friend told me today that hed never talk to me again if I ever got back with him because I could do better and blahblahblah. But the thing is I was kinda hoping that I could just wait and see wht happens in the future and maybe in a year me and him could work it out. And to make matters even worse, a kid I used to like when I was 14 has started talking to me everyday and is making it very obvious he doesnt jus wanna be friends. I like that kid but I still feel strongly towards my ex. Plus me abd my ex have been hooking up and its really confusing. I dont know what to do between the two boys and my friend and family hating my ex. I really really dont want to hurt anyone and was hoping this situation could be easier. I really love my ex but if I go with that and he screws me over noones gonna be there.to.help me get out of my depression. (link)
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There are all kinds of sirens going off here:
1. You want to fix this guy, which is why you are thinking about being with him again. This is called codependency and isn't healthy.
2. You like a guy who treated you like crap.
3. You are thinking about foregoing other and more healthy relationships for this loser.
Now look at that. What does that say about you? You need to bigtime check yourself or forever wallow in misery (of course, that will allow you to play the victim when you gripe about him to your girlfriends, which will get you lots of attention). The ball is in your court. Hopefully you won't allow him to take another shot.
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I honestly feel like my step brother has hooked up a hidden camera in my room. His friends will come over and they have this name that they call me, and i'm pretty sure it involves what I do in the privacy of my room. I have looked up how to detect a hidden camera but I don't even know where to begin looking. Like the internet says they can be hidden in tvs and vcrs but how the heck are you supposed to open a vcr or tv to find a camera? I want to confront my mom about it but she'll just think im crazy, and she'll ask me why I think theres a hidden camera in my room and I really dont want to explain the meaning behind their joke.. What do I do? How do I know if theres a camera in my room? I mean, the internet also says "look for any red or green dots" well my tv has a red light on it but it came like that and so does my dvd player, and dvr. Please someone help. I am at a loss and I just want to get to the end of this and find out if there really is a camera in my room. Oh and how long does it take to even hook up a hidden camera? (link)
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Technically, your brother and his friends would be guilty of creating child porn, illegal wiretapping and criminal harassment. All are serious felonies. Confront your brother about this and give him a chance to either confess in front of your parents or you will call the police and fuck up everybody's life forever. And yes, their lives will be over since your brother and his friends will become level three sex offenders and have to register as such wherever they live in the future.
After he confesses to your parents, leave it up to them to handle it.
If you're wrong, though, you're not only going to look like a colossal jackass, but you're probably going to get your ass kicked between now and the end of high school. So your choice.
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what if you are having second thoughts about getting married. (link)
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Get divorced. Life is too short to allow yourself to stay in a bad relationship. So call it a day before kids come into the equation and then you would be REALLY screwed.
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Welp, I just moved to Columbus and there is a guy named spencer that i like. I think he has a girlfriend but not sure. I dont know him. Like at all. But i want to meet him and date.. What should i do. He is in 7th and i am in 8th. (link)
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Your middle name is obviously Drama.
How about you just kinda hang loose, scope things out and, if he becomes available then you can make a move. Until then, butt out. There are plenty of other guys who would be good for you who want to be with you.
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I met a guy back in October.. told him that I wasn't ready for a relationship. Then somehow by staying friends and hanging out.. we are now a couple. He tells me that his life would be bleak and crushed if I weren't in it. I don't feel the same. HE is 29 and I'm 32 years old.
The BIGGEST issue(among others)is I have no physical attraction to him, just void for me. Now when I do see him.. I am constantly getting sick to my stomach because I just can't handle being around him anymore.
To make matters worse.. he's a truck driver at the place I work.. so I'll see him at least twice a week no matter what.
What do I say to break it off without actually haven't to say that "I'm not attacted to you" or that the physical attraction is missing?? I know he's going to ask why.. plus how do I break up with him and still remain decent considering I will have to see him in my work week?
Thank you for your help from the bottom of my heart. -Christie (link)
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Just tell him that you've lost interest in having a relationship right now, which is vague and truthful. You don't have to personalize it and blame it on him.
Look kiddo, it is your life, You have to decide what would make you personally happy because you only get one shot at it. Don't let anyone else interfere with that. They can't be you and know what makes you happy. So take control and do what you have to do and don't feel guilty about it.
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I met this guy at work that I'm really attracted to. I first met him a few weeks ago when I was sent for a day to work at his area. He was showing me the ropes of how to do things. So I was working and he complimented on my work saying "nice job". Unfortunately I didn't get to stay with him the whole work day because I was needed somewhere else so I didn't get much of a chance to talk to him. But then the other day I saw him and he kept looking at me. I would look at him and we would share eye contact for a few seconds. i want to approach him and talk to him some more but I'm not sure if he's interested or not and I don't wanna come on too strong. Do you think he likes me what should I do? (link)
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Yeah, he is definitely interested. Make sure you are available to him as much as you can so he has a lot of chances to get to know you better. Or, better yet, you could just flat ask him out.
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i love my best friends boyfriend, i have no idea what to do. shes already caught us sexting an he says he loves me. i love him to. HELP!!!! (link)
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Some best friend you are. I hope she loses both the boyfriend and you.
Geez, some people have no sense of discretion or propriety.
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Is it better to go to a high school where no one knows you and start fresh , or to go to school where everyone knows you but you have a lot of bad history with them ?
I am a freshmen now but I really don't want to go to the school I am going to because I just have a lot of drama left behind me in . A lot of the friedns I had, I don't have anymore why because I had made bad choices . . . and mostly because I would hang out with the wrong people . I want to go to a diffrent school where no one knows me to start new where I can meet new people and kinda start over . . . but how do I convince my mom . ? (link)
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You didn't say if you were a private school student. If not, your mom may have no choice in what school she can send you to, depending on the laws of the state you live in. If you can do it, though, go for the fresh start.
When I entered high school, I totally hated it and would have dropped out at the first opportunity if I had stayed there. Fortunately, my parents moved and my new school was a perfect fit. So I ended up graduating and then went to college and got a degree after that.
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